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What makes people aphobic?
I first got to know about asexuality and that it exists many years ago when I still thought I was straight. And as I remember I had quite an aphobic outlook to it. Imagining asexuals as these bland people who don't get to like others. I thought there's no way that could be me.
This got me thinking about what does make people aphobic. Number one is obviously just having a lack of information and understanding or misinformation. Secondly, I think it's because sex and sexual things are such an integral part of today's world, that not being in an agreement with it makes you feel isolated from others.
Both of these were true to me. And it took an especially long time to get over that fear of "isolation".
I wonder what do you guys think? Have you been aphobic towards asexuality? What other things make people more prone to being aphobic?
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My therapist thinks I’m just repressed
My therapist had never heard about asexual people before I told her I was one. At first she told me it was not normal biologically speaking, but later on she tried to educate herself and she often asks me about how asexuality works, which I appreciate. Yet I still can tell she doesn’t accept the fact that I just don’t want to have sex, she always says that area of my life is underdeveloped because I was the one neglecting and repressing it, because I’m religious and too goal-oriented. I am indeed a religious person and I tend to value duty over anything else, but she treats me like I’ve never loved anyone my entire life just because I’ve never had a romantic relationship, while I would quite literally die for my closest friends and family. Also, she keeps saying that I will find love when I lower my barriers and I won’t need to “declare myself asexual” anymore because the reason I’m doing it now is that I’m just scared of losing control. The thing is I don’t feel like that at all. It is true that I overlooked some things in my life because I’ve always thought academic validation was more important, but I’m trying to work on that and getting some results. I still don’t think physical intimacy is one of those things, it’s just something I don’t enjoy the idea of (like, at all). Yet now I can’t help but wonder: what if she’s right and I’m not actually asexual, I just repressed myself so well I didn’t even notice? But at the same time why should I try so bad to want something when I just don’t? Is that actually what healing looks like or is my therapist really biased? I don’t know, what do you think?
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Slow (2023), a movie with an ace main character is finally available on streaming!
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Some people just make me feel so awful.
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ASEXUAL ICON
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I'm not gay I'm just Aromantic
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need:
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Asexual cake art by me!
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Asexual Problems:
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Asexual Problems:
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What do you do when you are aroused but don't want to relieve that feeling?
Normally about ones a month my libido goes go. Sometimes I'll deal with it by myself. Because sex is gross and I'm sex repulsed too.
But anyways sometimes I don't feel like relieving myself, is there anything that I can do? Also I guess my libido would actually be a lot higher if wasn't for one of the pills I take that one side effect is lowering the libido. Fun times when I forget to take it (sarcastic)
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My ace kitty pin
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Hitting up a ace will not go good lol
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This guy is a total idiot, right?
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"Slow" (2023), a movie with an ace main character is finally available on streaming!
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I'm very happy being asexual
It's funny because i grew up in a house very open to sex discussions. I've learned plenty of things. I like talking about sex, just not how it feels, but random things.Only last year i came to terms i don't find people attractive and can never imagine ME having sex, i mean, no one's attractive for me. And i'm perfectly happy with that
when people talk about attraction and sex it feels like such a huge urge and they even get in trouble for it, and i just don't get it. But let them do their thing, i'm happy the way i am. When they ask me about these things i'll just laugh and nod, unconcerned, let them thing i'm the odd one out if they may. And other times come out to the people i'm comfortable with.
I'm perfectly fine hearing about people's sex lives (as long as they don't go overboard) but i just accepted i'm not part of it. And i'm so glad i don't have to force myself to be a part of it, i'm already complete without it.
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Wholesome:
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This made me think of y’all
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My mom said that I am too young
Basically I told my mom I'm almost sure that I am asexual and she said "I bet a lot of people your age are" and thinks that I'm too young to identify (13M). I told her thats not how it works and that asexual means someone who doesn't experence sexual attraction at all (not all asexuals but the point is that it stays the same and doesn't change as you grow up). then I told her that if I said that I was sraight or gay or somthing that she would believe me and then she just brushed me off. Now my parents are like super pro LGBTQIA+ rights and are accepting and inclusive and stuff but the way that she responded to this hurt me way more than she even realized. please tell me what I need to say to her and also whether or not you think that I'm to young.
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Ace in real life
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Dating a woman (as a woman) for the first time
Well, long time coming but due to internalized homophobia/the environment I was raised in I am dating a woman for the first time. I have identified as asexual for about 8 years now. When I first learned what it was it completely resonated with me. I have finally been able to work through some stuff and now might be entering my first relationship with a woman.
I am sure there are many others that have experienced similar. I want to be a good, healthy, and happy partner. I just have no clue what that will look like. She’s amazing and so great and we talk very openly about everything. I am just hopping for any additional insight or support from someone who might understand where I am coming from. It’s a very confusing time. Thanks for reading!
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Saw this and immediately thought of this subreddit
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My mom yelled at me for being ace
A couple of years back my mom yellled at me for refusing to talk to her about sex and saying I would never have sex. This statement made her explode, she started yelling at me at the top of her lungs "sex is not bad!", "it's like brushing your teeth!", "you have to have sex when you get married to have a baby!", "yes it's gonna hurt a little at first but it's like cutting your finger! Don't be afraid!" And she was saying kinda over and over again how sex is not bad and how it was demonized by people, etc...
After this conversation I think I got addicted to porn because I was trying to see what sex's about (I know porn is a bad source of information but I was wondering what I was missing and refusing to participate in, I guess...) Anyway, I was severely traumatized by porn, got an eye disease from watching it for too long, and obviously have never had sex.
What do you guys think of this situation? If you were a parent of an adult child who refuses to have sex, what would you do?? I was 27 when this happened btw :/
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Asexual Problems:
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I don’t know if this applies to me but I think it does to some of thee
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Oh yeah, Aldi knows whats goin' on
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How do you know if you’re asexual?
I guess I never considered that I might be asexual in the past, especially since I don’t have much experience in relationships. But I’m currently talking to someone who has a high sex drive and it’s made me realize stuff and now I’m in a spiral.
It’s not that I don’t desire a sexual relationship, but the second it gets to that point with a person irl I don’t seem to feel that way towards them/I become sorta repulsed. I don’t think I would mind making a partner feel pleasure but the second where I would become exposed and vulnerable I guess I freak out and I no longer feel comfortable in that situation.
I just need to know if this falls in the category/is something else for my own peace of mind. Everyone I’ve seen explain asexuality explains it as they don’t feel sexual attraction, except I do but I don’t want to engage in it so I guess I’m just confused.
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But what if you miss your partner?
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Why do I keep finding these?!!
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