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Petition to put something on top of the ace flag /j
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Am I asexual.
I identify as grey asexual currently however I'm thinking about myself in order to deduce a proper label for myself.
Check it
I don't really think I experience sequal attraction however I do have the arousal bit where beyond my brain doing the sexual thing my body does it instead. I don't hate sexual activities because I enjoy the sensual bits but I genuinely don't think my brain does sexual attraction.
I enjoy companionship and such and do and will do sex but my brains removed from it all. It's just a task to me.
maybe I'm just cooked.
I need help omfg.
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I just need some objective opinions on this.
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I'm very happy with this piece I did of my OC Rowan and now you have to deal with her too
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omg I used to feel like that too dw you’ll get over it!
you wouldn’t say that to a lesbian or a gay man. So what’s the difference, I get so mad when people just say I used to feel like that to.
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Something I designed to show some pride and confidence as an ace person
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Look at all the families...
I was at a volunteer event today taking pictures for the organization and, once my mind had time to wander, I noticed all the families surrounding me. It's not an everyday thing. It was just very apparent today, so I had to take some time and ponder my feelings.
For reasons, since I was young (child), I've always wanted my personal group, my people, my family, and I'm still trying to figure out how creating a family would work for me. What it would look like and who it would consist of. Whether I'll get to make it happen or have to accept a life without it.
I really want to accept the possibility that it WON'T happen just so that if it DOES, it'll be that much more special to me. But that's a work in progress, and moments like the one today are practice, I guess.
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The Religious Experience
So I was raised in a very strict religious environment. Mormon. If you must know. So I was brought up being taught sexual desire was sinful. Pornography was super sinful. Masturbation was next to murder. (Not an exaggeration)Etc. So I thought I was Extra Righteous™️ because I didn’t do any of that. And didn’t even have desire to. So this boosted my ego and let me think I was chosen because I was spared the evils that influenced everyone else.
I didn’t have premarital sex. Again, I wasn’t even tempted to. Extra Righteous ™️
So you get married and you get to your wedding night and then . . . The realization. Oh. Maybe I’m broken? Especially when you’re a man and you’re expected to want sex all the time. You get accused of being gay by your spouse. But you’re pretty sure you’re not gay.
Then decades later and two marriages later as well, you hear about what it means to be Ace. Then it all clicks. Anyways, rant over.
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“It’s meme time, it’s meme time, gather round everybody it’s meme time. It’s meme time, it’s meme time, the only cure for sadness” 🎶🎶🎵
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Been here too many times.
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How do I talk about my asexuality with my partner
I'm 32, I've never looked at anyone and been like "ooooo I wanna hit that etc". My current partner is very sexual and I just don't find my self into sex... like hardly ever unless I can feel that my body needs to say..blow some steam and even then I just want to get off and get back to what I have planed for the day. There have been times when I want to like, feel sexy look good whatever but usually, all I care about is finishing and I prefer to do it myself...
Am I asexual or just a boring person?
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That's Darn Cunning Of Them
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Anyone else?
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TFW you identify as a flaming asexual
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Everything is awful right now so please accept this meme
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Hate studying psychobiology
Ok I don’t hate it, but it’s annoying as fuck when the book keeps referring to sex as a need that’s equiparable to the need to eat. And I’m there reading that like. Well I guess I’m fucked up or whatever! Thanks science!
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I think this is a really good video
https://youtu.be/i6A7UAH5fcY?si=_x5yavp3BCyx3N27
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My last post this year.
BLESS ME WIT LUCK FELLOW ACES
Dude! Idk if this post should go here. It was Last year I realized that I was ace, but until I became more active on Reddit I was under the impression that aces are only handful. I am grateful I got to observe such vast preferences and also accept myself better.
So Trying to be a part of it, I figured I want to share this with this community which makes me feel AT HOME.
It's my last school year. I have to leave social media to focus on studying. As much I am sad, as much I am excited for a new "Adult Asexual"- chapter in my life. I am little nervous about if I'll meet the right group of people to be friends with. I hope I get in a good reputed college.
And also a good percentage to get admission in one!
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Why do people find certain parts of the body hot?
I don’t understand why the neck or hands or stomach are “hot” or “sexy”? It’s just skin
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I mentioned I was asexual or somewhat asexual to a couple friends. Somewhat strange responses.
Hey,
I came out as asexual or asexual spectrum to a couple friends recently. I got very different responses that I didn't expect.
One friend of mine who's very sexually normative and heteronormative was thought I should experience a relationship/sex before deciding. I can understand why some people think that especially if theyre unaware.
Another friend of mine is tbh a sex addict and always talks about his sexual stories with me for no reason. He was super supportive of me and accepting.
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Queer Collective on Instagram: "Affirmation: Being ace / aro isn’t something you should ever apologize for 🫶
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This podcast is proudly presented by @vizzyhardseltzerca 🌈
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#asexual #asexuality #aromantic #queerpodcast"
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What dumb things have allosexuals said to you?
I was explaining to someone that, as a pan ace person, I still desire romantic relationships (on some level anyway). I’m just not interested in anything sexual. They literally said to me “that’s just a friendship then”.
By that logic, people in sexual relationships are just friends with benefits!
What dumb things have you heard people say about asexuality?
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Recalling the days when I was super friendly to people and I’m embarrassed.
I struggle with reading the room and understanding what’s meant between the lines, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. In high school, I was something of a social butterfly and overtly friendly, so naturally, I talked to a lot of people. However, I realized too late that some of the men I interacted with thought I was hitting on them—often. There was even a time when I was too buddy-buddy with my female demisexual friend, she developed feelings for me and confessed.
I used to contact and check up on people a lot, but it’s so much harder now that I realize my actions can be interpreted in a completely different way. Recently, I saw an old male classmate of mine, someone I used to do theater with, who was one of the people I’d been overly friendly to. He confessed back then that he thought I was very interested in him. The old me would’ve just reached out to him without hesitation, but now I feel hyper-conscious of every action I make, especially toward the opposite sex.
I even overheard a male friend talking about how a girl had been staring at him for a while, and his conclusion was that she must be interested in him. It never occurred to me that something as simple as staring could be seen in that way! And I did use to stare at people, knowing what staring can imply was the wake-up call I needed at the time. I’ve recently learnt how to pick up social cues more effectively and it’s doing great!
Fyi- I am demisexual and sex negative border lining prudish.
Edit- correction of typos
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How do you guys eat garlic bread?
I’ve just found out some people use garlic bread and regular bread interchangeably and use garlic bread when making sandwiches and I don’t know what to do with that information. I usually eat garlic bread by itself so now I’m wondering if that’s not the common way to eat it.
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Am I being unreasonable that this comment (slide 2) upset me?
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Today's my birthday , I'm 24
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"you'll have kids one day too" no, I won't
I'm so tired of parents or other relatives saying shit like "you'll understand some day" (referring to marriage, sex or having children), "now it's your turn", "jokingly" because one of my siblings had a kid and now they're waiting for me to give them more grandchildren but that's just not happening.
I hate that asexuality is treated like something that needs to be fixed, or some sort of a phase. And no, mother, not everyone does or even wants to fall in love to be happy. I'm not aromantic, but I don't see what's so bad about dying alone and all. We all do, anyway, but I digress.
Even if I did decide to have children, I would rather adopt. But I'd only do that once I could go no contact with my parents - that's a whole other story.
tl;dr: fed up with -phobic parents and others pushing their amatonormative, allonormative, heterosexist and religious narratives onto me, not respecting my choices or opinions on the matter
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Look what I've started
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Not interested in sex or starting on birth control but looking to date, advice?
I've (23F) never dated anyone since I've always been very focused on my studies, but I've always wanted to be in a loving relationship with someone. Because of that, I always considered myself straight until a few years ago I began to realize that I'm very repulsed by the idea of having sex with someone else.
I'm still not that sure where I fall sexuality-wise, but I just know that I don't want sex (at least until I am very comfortable with someone, e.g. several years married). I don't want any children and that's a non-negotiable for me. Maybe my repulsion with sex stems from my profound fear of getting pregnant, I honestly don't know. I feel like I might be more open to trying sex if my partner were to get a vasectomy, but I think that's too much to ask of someone when starting off dating and I wouldn't force anyone to get one or anything.
I really want to get into dating now that I've finished college, but I'm really worried I won't ever be able to find a guy who would just accept a girl that doesn't want to have sex with him. At one point, I was just trying to convince myself that I would just have to accept sex as a part of a relationship even if the idea repulsed me. I've thought about going on birth control for that purpose but I always hated the mindset framing that thought process: I would have to do something to my body for someone else's interests, not my own. I saw a reddit post a while ago that said something along the lines of if you want to date, you have to be on some sort of birth control if you don't want to get pregnant, and it really broke my heart.
Recently, I've decided to embrace my potential asexuality more. I do not want to go on birth control, especially hormonal birth control that can have terrifying side effects, just to please someone else. I also do not want to be sterilized; I'm a researcher and the hormonal effects of something like a hysterectomy on your risk for neurodegenerative diseases worry me. As I said, I don't want to alter my body for someone else, because I am fine with never having sex with anyone. I've been feeling a lot of doom with the recent US election results, and I've tried to come to peace with the idea that maybe I'll never find someone and that it will be okay.
But I don't want that to be my only option without trying. So I guess, where do I start with finding someone who would be a good fit for me? I'm open to trying dating apps but would love to hear other people's experiences with them. As I said, I feel like I'm still figuring myself out so not sure if I would label myself as asexual on apps yet, but I'd certainly be super excited if I saw someone else with that label on an app.
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Allos and their " you just haven't seen the right person"
Just a quick opinion, the more allos tell me that " you haven't found the right person" " it's too early to say that" (I'm 25F btw), and " is just a phase" just make me want to dig deeper into the asexual/aegosexual hole. (Sex averse too btw).
I know i don't have that much experience in relationships, being out of my first one worth 7 years, and Ive sadly blue balled my ex with not wanting to finish even oral sex lol.
But I've never been interested in any kind of sexual act other than kissing and fondling/ foreplay. Its so annoying too hear allos tell me that my asexuality is just a phase.
Ive seriously considered getting my tubes tied or getting a strong contraceptive because im that paranoid of getting pregnant, even with my asexual feuled celibacy (does that even make sense?) Both bc i don't like anything penetrative, and the shite-y state of the world rn.
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