Put Away The Measuring Stick!
āIf youā¦Lord, kept a record of sinsā¦who could stand?ā Ps 130:3 NIV We live in a results-oriented society where weāre rewarded for our performance in school, in sports, and on the job. But God doesnāt think like that. His thoughts and ways are far above ours (See Isa 55:8-9). Heās not impressed by āempty ritualsā¦He wants you to listen to him!ā (1Sa 15:22 TM). Feelings and emotions are powerful, but theyāre seldom objective. And when you base your worth as a Christian on your performance as a flawed human being, the Enemy has a field day. Satan is called āthe accuser of our brethrenā (Rev 12:10); he wants you to run a check-list of your failures and mistakes. That way he can torment you by reminding you of all the times you lose your temper, criticize, fail to speak up for whatās right, or let a misconception go unchecked to make yourself look better. David said if the āLord, kept a record of sinā¦who could stand?ā Even the most disciplined believer has areas where he or she struggles and fails. Itās why we need Godās grace and forgiveness 24/7. āHe knows how weak we areā (Ps 103:14 NLT), and Heās never surprised when despite our best intentions, we fall short. Reimar Schultze says: āGod doesnāt measure us by our performance, but by our love for Jesus. Indeed, in the Kingdom of God our love for Jesus is our performance. Everything else is secondary. [Our] desire to be with Him, to abide in Him, to keep in fellowship with Him, to please Him, is what our Master longs for.ā So put away your measuring stick and be glad Godās not grading you based on your performance, but on Christās performance.
Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life
āDo not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.ā Ro 12:2 NKJV Sometimes we try to excuse our negativity by saying, āIt was just a thought, it didnāt mean anything.ā But it does! A wrong thought left to roam around in your mind can take root and grow into what the Bible calls a āstrongholdā (See 2Co 10:4). And when a thought becomes that strong it begins to control your outlook, your attitude, and your actions. Thatās why the Bible says, āBe transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude]ā (Ro 12:2 AMP). Remember, where the mind goes, the man follows! We all face challenges and difficulties in life. You might allow yourself to think thoughts such as āI just canāt take any more,ā or āIf one more thing happens Iām going to go over the edge!ā or āIf things donāt change soonāIām giving up!ā That kind of thinking prepares you to be defeated before you even encounter a problem. There is nothing strong, powerful, enabling, or victorious in thinking you will āgo over the edgeā or in deciding to quit. Those are losing attitudes, not winning attitudes. Instead you should think, āIf the attack is this great, then the blessing that lies beyond it is greater.ā Or, āIf Satan is attacking me this hard, God must have something good in store for me!ā Become a person who is spiritually, emotionally, and mentally prepared for any challenge that crosses your path, and donāt allow yourself to be easily discouraged or defeated. And you do that by āthe renewing of your mindā with Godās Word.
You Owe It To Your Child (3)
āCorrect your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul.ā Pr 29:17 NKJV The third thing you owe your child is: Correction. Many parents make the mistake of always telling a child when he or she is wrong, rather than taking the time to tell them how to get right, and stay right. Biblical correction involves both. The number one extra-biblical Beatitude for all parents is: āBlessed are the balanced.ā When you police a child but never play with them, youāre out of balance. Note carefully what Solomon wrote: āCorrect your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul.ā The word correct means to chastise, to reprove, or to force back to the right way. Always remember that discipline is like a two-edged sword; itās not only to correct children when theyāre wrong, but to direct them to a way thatās right. And youāll get better results from positive reinforcement than you will from negative reinforcement. Understand this: Itās not your job to make your child happy; itās your job to nurture them into maturity. When you do that, their happiness is guaranteed! So you may as well quit trying to win a popularity contest with your child. They may always love you, but there are times when they definitely wonāt like you! Donāt be discouraged. āThis too shall pass.ā Just keep administering the right mixture of nurture and discipline, and eventually theyāll grow to like you again. More importantly, when they grow up, get married, and have children of their own, theyāll have a role model and a plan for success.
You Owe It To Your Child (1)
āIf you refuse to discipline your children, it proves you donāt love them.ā Pr 13:24 NLT (1996) As a parent, there are three things you owe your child. The first is: Affection. The Bible says if you love your child youāll discipline them. And youāll do it in love, and not anger. Donāt buy into the idea that good parents donāt discipline their children because they ālove them too much.ā The truth is, if you donāt discipline your child itās not because you love them too much, itās because you love yourself too much. A Gallup poll revealed that more than 90 percent of graduating high school seniors wished their parents and teachers had loved them enough to discipline them more and require more of them. Like water, we follow the path of least resistance. Itās much easier to let things slide, avoid confrontation, stick your head in the sand, and hope things will get better, than it is to suffer the pain of disciplining a child you love. Keep in mind, however, that the only person who ever got anywhere by letting something slide, was a trombone player. Seriously, the Bible says, āWhom the Lord loves He corrects, just as a father the son in whom he delightsā (Pr 3:12 NKJV). Let that sink in! The greatest and wisest father of all is God. He not only loves, He is love. Yet we read here that our loving God is one who disciplines. Any parent who refuses to discipline their child is really saying they are a better parent than God. Love always does what is best for the other person. And there are times when love demands discipline and training.
Living In A Peaceful State Of Mind
āYou will keep in perfect peaceā¦all whose thoughts are fixed on you!ā Isa 26:3 NLT Who are you trusting to solve your problems, God or yourself? Before you answer, read this: āYou will keep in perfect peace all who trust in youā¦whose thoughts are fixed on you!ā¦for those who are righteous, the way is not steep and rough. You are a God who does what is right, and you smooth out the path ahead of themā (vv. 3, 7 NLT). What a great promise! If you want to maintain a peaceful state of mind, live by this principle: āDo your best, and trust God with the rest.ā Some of us grew up with the notion that itās wrong to enjoy ourselves when we have problems. Weāve been conditioned to think that if we canāt do anything elseāat least we can worry and be miserable. Paul addresses this: āDo not [for a moment] be frightenedā¦for such [constancy and fearlessness] will be a clear signā¦from Godā (Php 1:28 AMP). Satan doesnāt know what to do when he canāt get you upset; youāve taken a powerful weapon out of his hands. By trusting God completely, youāre no longer at the mercy of circumstances, other people, or your own emotions and limitations. Broadcaster Paul Harvey once quipped, āIn times like these, itās helpful to remember there have always been times like these!ā The question isnāt āWill trouble come?ā Itās āHow will you handle it?ā The Bible says, āWe which have believed do enter into restā (Heb 4:3). When things go wrongādonāt go wrong along with them. Follow Godās leading, stand on His Word, then rest in Him and trust Him to work on your behalf.
You Can Change
āPut offā¦your former conductā¦and be renewed in the spirit of your mind.ā Eph 4:22-23 NKJV Mind-sets are patterns whereby your mind automatically operates a certain way. That means you can set yourself up for misery by reacting to the same people and circumstances in the same way, and expecting different results. Maybe you are saying: āAfter all these years I thought heād changeā¦No matter how hard I try, my family doesnāt appreciate meā¦How come Iām the only one who makes an effort to stay in touch?ā Itās easy to blame your problems on othersāāLook what heās doing. Look how long Iāve waited. Why doesnāt she call?ā We think the answer lies in getting the other person to do what we want, but that kind of thinking is self-defeating; it gives control to others. Your happiness isnāt determined by other people, even though youāve convinced yourself it is. An experienced counselor writes: āIf you donāt like the same resultsā¦try pushing a different button. Look at your relationships. Is there a situation thatās going downhill despite your best efforts? Are you waiting for something to change, instead of doing something different? Stop pushing the same button, and ask God for clarity to see the situation honestly and to act with wisdom and responsibility.ā Youāre not a victim of circumstances; you donāt have to stay stuck or keep going round in circles. Paul says, āPut offā¦your former conduct ā¦and be renewed in the spirit of your mind.ā The word for you today is: You can change!
Biblical Interpretation: God Doesnāt Leave You in the Dark
āNo one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of GodāĀ (1 Corinthians 2:11b NIV).
Have you ever heard someone say, āWell, thatās just your interpretation of the Bibleā? Itās as if that little phrase disproves everything thatās been said. But it really doesnāt disprove anything.
There are right ways and wrong ways to interpret Scripture. Here are six principles of interpretation that are accepted just about everywhere.
You need faith and the Holy Spirit to interpret Scripture.Ā The Bible doesnāt make sense to non-believers. It is Godās love letter to believers. When an unbeliever reads the Word, he is reading someone elseās mail. The Bible is a spiritual book that must be understood by spiritual people. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 2:11,Ā āNo one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of GodāĀ (NIV).The Bible is its own best commentary.Ā Scripture interprets Scripture. Practice this principle by getting a Bible with cross-references in the margin. By looking up cross-references, youāll get a much bigger and clearer picture of what God has said in all of his Word, not just that one context.Read the Old Testament with the New Testament in mind, and read the New Testament with the Old Testament in mind.Ā The New Testament is hidden in the Old Testament. The Old Testament is revealed in the New Testament.Always interpret unclear passages in the light of clear passages.Ā Look at the full counsel of God in Scripture to get a clear understanding when you find a passage that seems contradictory or confusing. For example, 1 Corinthians 15:29 has a very obscure reference to baptism for the dead. Itās the only time the idea is mentioned in Scripture. Paul isnāt condoning this. Nothing in Scripture condones it. Let clear passages about salvation and baptism interpret this unclear one, not vice versa.Donāt form a doctrine based solely on a historical event.Ā Take historical passages of the Bible for what theyāre meant to be: good lessons. Donāt build your doctrine upon them. For example, in Mark 1:35, the Bible says Jesus got up very early, went to a place of solitude, and prayed. Does that mean you must get up every morning at 4 a.m., leave your house, and go somewhere and pray? Of course not! God may convince you that itās a good idea, but itās not a command. Use doctrinal passages to base doctrine on. Use narratives to teach lessons.Never interpret Scripture based on your own experiences.Ā The point of Bible study is not to shape Scripture to agree with your subjective opinions or your experiences. Feelings lie. Emotions lie. Instead, discover Godās timeless truth, and let it shape your life. Study the Bible with an open heart, and invite God to conform you to his will.
God doesnāt want to leave you in the dark when you study Scripture. Following these basic rules of Bible study can help to ensure you read the Word from Godās perspective.
Go By The Book
āDo not cast away your confidence, which has great reward.ā Heb 10:35 NKJV How long should you keep praying and believing God for the answer? Until He tells you differently. In other words, go by the book! āDo not cast away your confidence, which has great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promiseā (vv. 35-36 NKJV). Many of Godās promises have timelines, and you need long-distance faith to receive them. The word endurance pictures a runner determined to reach the finish line. You say, āBut Iām not sure what Godās will is.ā His will is revealed in His Word, and thatās what you must believe and speak over your situation. To say otherwise is to contradict God. Abraham stood on Godās promise that heād be the father of many nations when there wasnāt a shred of evidence to prove it. For twenty years he looked up into the night sky believing, āLord, You said my children would be as numerous as the stars. I donāt know how Youāre going to do it for Iām a hundred years old and my wife, Sarah, is ninety. But Iām going to believe You anyway.ā When you pray that way, you risk looking foolish in the eyes of others. But receiving the miraculous often involves looking ridiculous, like Jesus telling the disciples to fill wine pots with water or rubbing clay in a blind manās eyes. But the guests at the wedding in Cana drank the finest wine, and the blind man went home seeing. Why? Because they obeyed the word Jesus gave them. So the word for you today is: Go by the book.
God Will Make It Up To You
āI will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten.ā Joel 2:25 NIV Kristine Steakley writes: āLoss can make us feel forsaken and utterly destroyedā¦For many divorce meant leaving the house we grew up in, our neighborhood, our friends, our schoolā¦even our church because we were ashamed and heard condemnation from those who should have been concerned for our souls. To use Joelās metaphor, locusts ate our family; more locusts ate our friendshipsā¦and still more ate our churchā¦But God promised, āNever again will my people be shamedā (v. 26). I canāt tell you what restoration will look likeā¦or when itāll happen. Some of us will see relationships with parents and siblings mendedā¦others will build great marriages and loving familiesā¦and some may have to wait for heaven where all wrongs will be righted, all wounds healed, all tears wiped away.ā One Bible teacher says: āResist the temptation to despair or delve into disappointment. You may feel like youāve forfeited years, opportunities, finances, and a significant return on investment of self. But hear the fantastic promise of redemption: āI will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten.ā No one on earth can make anything up to you. No one can pay. No one can set things right or make things fair. Pressure and manipulation wonāt bring justice. So let it go and let God fill your life with new blessings. If youāre full of resentment and wrath He canāt find space for His gifts. God will make it up to you if you keep an expectant attitude of faith, and thank Him that His promises are yours.ā
Flattery Will Get You Nowhere
āNor will I flatter any man.ā Job 32:21 NIV When Stephen Spielberg was a skinny teenager, he became the target of a bully. Fed up with the constant harassment which he later described as āhell on earth,ā he decided to flatter the bully by telling him he looked like John Wayne and should consider playing the hero in an eight-millimeter movie about World War ll he was thinking of making. Once Spielberg outfitted him and cast him as a heroic squad leader, the bully became putty in his hands. However, unlike Spielbergās bully, emotionally healthy people only appreciate sincere praise they have earned. And they can detect a compliment given with an ulterior motive or to gain their favor. The paradox is that most people tend to look with disfavor on someone who compliments them, for no apparent reason. Elihuāthe patriarch Jobās friendāsaid, āI will show partiality to no one, nor will I flatter any man; for if I were skilled in flattery, my Maker would soon take me awayā (vv. 21-22 NIV). And the Psalmist tells us, āThe Lord shall cut off all flattering lipsā (Ps 12:3). So hereās the question: Is flattery worth being cut off from the blessing of God? When you engage in or become susceptible to flattery, itās clear evidence of your lack of faith in Godās ability to give you favor with other people. Favor is a fringe benefit of being in right standing with Him. āSurelyā¦Lord, you bless the righteous; you surround them with your favor as with a shieldā (Ps 5:12 NIV).
The Wonder Of Grace
āFor by grace you have been saved through faith.ā Eph 2:8 NRS Some of us live as if God has a big performance chart with our name on it, and at the end of each day He grades us to determine if He will love us more, or less, or at all. You say, āIf I were God, some days I wouldnāt love me.ā Then be glad youāre not God, and weāll all be twice as gladāor weād all be sunk! God does not save us by grace and then base how He feels about us on our spiritual performance. The Bible says, āGodā¦out of the great love with which he loved us even when we were dead through our trespasses, made us alive together with Christāby grace you have been savedā (vv. 4-5 NRS). The wonder of grace is that you are chosen, you are wanted, and God desires you for His family. By grace you have been made alive to God. You have strength to endure, power to serve, a reason to hope, and death has no hold over you. God took your indebtedness and guilt and nailed it to the cross. He erased the bill; He destroyed the I.O.U. and set you free. Unburdened. Cleansed. Today you can live with a heart as light as a featherāno matter what you did yesterday. The truth is that no one in heaven will ever boast, āLook what Jesus and I did.ā No, when Jesus cried from the cross, āIt is finishedā (Jn 19:30), God wrote āPaid in fullā over every sin you would commitāall the way from the cradle to the grave. This is the wonder of grace.
Steps to Effective Bible Study (Part 1)Ā
āOpen my eyes, that I may behold wondrous things out of your lawā (Psalm 119:18 ESV).
Studying Godās Word will change your life if you put what you learn in practice ā but it all starts with your willingness to study his Word.
The Bible says, āOpen my eyes, that I may behold wondrous things out of your lawā (Psalm 119:18 ESV).
God has so much he wants to show us, but we must be willing to look into his Word with open eyes.
So how should we study Godās Word? Effective Bible study, no matter what Bible study method we use, has five parts. Iāll look at two today and three tomorrow.
Ask the right questions. Learning to study the Bible means learning to ask good questions from the text. Thereās no limit to how many questions you can ask of the Bible, because thereās no limit to its wisdom and insight. The deeper you dig, the more gold youāll find. Asking questions of the text youāre reading will help you look at the text through a whole new set of eyes. Suddenly, every time you pick up Godās Word to study it, new truths will jump out at you.
Write down your observations. Never study the Bible without pen and paper in hand (or a keyboard if you prefer). When you ask your questions and find your answers, write down what you learn. You can read the Bible without writing something down, but you canāt study it.
Dawson Trotman, who was the founder of the Navigators ministry, used to say, āThoughts disentangle themselves when they pass through the lips and the fingertips.ā In other words, if you canāt say it and you canāt write it, then you havenāt really thought about it. Even if you donāt see anything in the verse, write down that you donāt see anything. Just the act of writing that down will open up new thoughts.
You Must Go Through The Fire
āI have refined youā¦for My own sake.ā Isa 48:10,11 NKJV Undercover Boss is a popular TV show where company owners disguise themselves as regular staff members and work with everybody else. Some of the discoveries they make are real eye-openersāleading to changes that make the company more efficient, profitable, and enjoyable for everybody to work in. To āunderstandā people, you have to āstandā in their shoes. Ezekiel said, āThen I came to the captives at Tel Abibā¦and I sat where they sat, andā¦the word of the Lord came to meā (Eze 3:15-16 NKJV). In order to heal the pain, you must be able to feel the pain. The Bible says Jesus can be ātouched with the feelings of our infirmities,ā because He walked in our shoes (See Heb 4:15). He experienced family conflict, rejection, betrayal, loneliness, and hunger. He walked the path youāre on and He knows how you feel; thatās why you can turn to Him when youāre in trouble and get the help you need. āFor in that He Himself has suffered, being tempted, He is able to aid those who are temptedā (Heb 2:18 NKJV). When you offer advice, people want to know if you're speaking out of experience or just head knowledge. So God will permit you to go through experiences you donāt enjoy or understand, to equip you and make you effective in ministering to others. Job said, āWhen he hath tried me, I shall come forth as goldā (Job 23:10). If youāre in the refinerās fire today, itās because God has something He plans to do through you and for you.
Anger
āThey do not know what they are doing.ā Lk 23:34 NIV Max Lucado writes: āIt begins as a drop of waterā¦Someone gets your parking place, pulls in front of you on the freeway, a waitress is slow and youāre in a hurry, the toast burnsā¦Get enough of these seemingly innocent drops of anger and youāve got a bucket full of rageā¦We trust no oneā¦bare our teeth at anyone who gets nearā¦become walking time bombs that, given the right amount of tension and fear, could explodeā¦We canāt denyā¦anger exists. How do we harness it? Jesus said about the mob that killed him, āFather, forgive themā¦they do not know what they are doingā (Lk 23:34)ā¦He saw this bloodthirsty, death-hungry crowd not as murderers, but as victimsā¦He saw in their faces not hatred, but confusionā¦He regarded them not as a militant mob but ālike sheep without a shepherdā (Mk 6:34 NIV). āThey donāt know what they are doingāā¦Think about itā¦they hadnāt the faintest ideaā¦They were a stir-crazy mob, mad at something they couldnāt see so they took it out on, of all people, God. They didnāt know what they were doing, and for the most part neither do we. Much as we hate to admit it, weāre shepherdless sheepā¦born out of one eternity and frighteningly close to anotherā¦We canāt answer our own questions about love and hurtā¦canāt solve the riddle of agingā¦donāt know how to heal our own bodies or get along with our matesā¦My point is: Uncontrolled anger wonāt better our worldā¦sympathetic understanding will. Once we begin to operate not from a posture of anger but of compassionā¦we realize the lights are outā¦a lot of people are stumbling in the darknessā¦So we light candles.ā
Develop An Overcoming Attitude
āHe who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.ā 1Jn 4:4 NKJV The disappointments of life can cause you to see nothing but negativity in your future. You express hopelessness, belittle your own abilities, refuse to take any risk, say no to personal growth opportunities, complain about the unfairness of life, and say that nothing you do will make a difference in a particular circumstance. Do you recognize any of these attitudes in yourself? If so, thereās good news. Dr. Paul Meier, a Christian psychiatrist, said, āAttitudes are nothing more than habits of thought, and habits can be acquired. An action repeated becomes an attitude realized.ā That means with practice, you can develop an overcoming attitude. Hereās how: (1) Be honest about your quest to conquer pessimism. Give someone you respect the permission to point out when you are being negative. (2) Limit your exposure to negative input. Since you become like the company you keep, look for people who fortify your faith and not feed your fears. āHe that walketh with wise men shall be wiseā (Pr 13:20). (3) Volunteer to serve others who are less fortunate. Serving creates positive feelings and gives you a sense of value; itās also the right thing to do. (4) Look for the good in every situation and always express faith that itās there! President Harry Truman said, āA pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities, and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.ā When you face a difficulty today, see it as an opportunity because āHe who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.ā
Humble Yourself
āIā¦lifted my eyes to heaven, and my understanding returned to me.ā Da 4:34 NKJV God always responds in love to a humble heart, and He always rejects a proud one. One moment King Nebuchadnezzar was boasting about having built the worldās most advanced civilization. The next moment heād lost his mind and was crawling on all fours, eating grass like an animal. But when he repented, God restored him to his throne. He said: āI, Nebuchadnezzar, lifted my eyes to heaven, and my understanding returned to meā¦Now Iā¦praiseā¦the King of heaven, all of whose works are truth, and His ways justice. And those who walk in pride He is able to put downā (vv. 34, 37 NKJV). To fall is bad enough; but to fall and not cry out for help, or refuse to repent of your sin, is worse than the fall itself. Maybe youāre ashamed to let anyone know youāve fallen. Is your public image so important that youāre willing to continue on in your pitiful state? Are you so deceived that you refuse to acknowledge you need God? Stop being so proud! Isnāt that what caused you to fall in the first place? Pride is dangerous because it forces you to languish needlessly in a helpless state for daysāsometimes years. The truth is, if youād asked for help sooner you could have gotten up and gone on with your life. But the good news isāitās not too late to repent and acknowledge your need of God. When Nebuchadnezzar did that, his reason and understanding returned, and he was restored to his kingdom. And the same can happen for you.
Comfortable In Uncomfortable Places
āHe comforts us in all our troubles.ā 2Co 1:4 NLT God can make you comfortable in some of lifeās most uncomfortable places. He can bring you through situations you think you wonāt survive, or feel like youāll be stuck in forever. He can give you peace when youāre under pressure. Before your life is over, youāll experience loss. Indeed, losing some things will actually help you to appreciate the things you have. Itās the taste of failure that makes success so sweet. Youāll live not knowing what tomorrow holds, but knowing that God has all your tomorrows planned out. Your future isnāt in the hands of your boss, your banker, your spouse, or anybody else. Nor is it in your own hands to control. All your tomorrows are in Godās hands. And just because you donāt understand the path youāre on, doesnāt mean He isnāt leading you. He promises: āI will lead them in paths they have not known. I will make darkness light before them, and crooked places straight. These things I will do for them, and not forsake themā (Isa 42:16 NKJV). So get to know Godābecause youāll need Him. He will be there when everybody else has failed you, and He will be there for you in the dark places. The Psalmist writes, āWeeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morningā (Ps 30:5 NKJV). However long the night, morning will comeāand with it His joy. Looking back, youāll realize that His grace has protected you, provided for you, calmed you, comforted you, and brought you through. Times and seasons change, but not the Lord. Heās āthe same yesterday, today, and foreverā (Heb 13:8 NKJV).
You Owe It To Your Child (2)
āFoolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.ā Pr 22:15 NKJV The second thing you owe your child is: Direction. The Bible says, āFoolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.ā Now, itās not talking about your child having fun, or even making mistakes; thatās a normal part of childhood learning. The Bible is talking about āfoolishness.ā This word has several meanings, such as a lack of maturity, a lack of wisdom, or a tendency to rebel against rules. If you love your child, youāll teach him or her that life is built on rulesāif you obey them you succeed, and if you donāt you suffer. For example, when your child is caught speeding, the police wonāt let them get away with it. And when they fail to pay their mortgage, the bank wonāt let them keep living in the house. The Bible says these are the misconceptions you must ādriveā out of the heart of your child. Just as a car thatās out of alignment tends to drift and needs correction, your child is born āout of lineā and needs to be corrected by you. Solomon says, āA child left to himself brings shame to his motherā (Pr 29:15 NKJV). Whyās that? Because a child left to himself is left in the condition in which they were born. And he or she was born in a condition called āfoolishness.ā Therefore, children must be taught to respect authority and to obey rules; they must learn that for every action thereās always an equal and opposite reaction. You owe it to your child to explain that to them.
Do Your Best To Resolve The Issue
āGo and be reconciledā¦Settle matters quickly.ā Mt 5:24-25 NIV Are your talents not being recognized and received? Do you have a particular talent, yet God doesnāt seem to be blessing you with success? This may be the key: āIf you are offering your gift at the altar andā¦remember that your brother has something against you, leave your giftā¦go and be reconciled to your brother, then come and offer your gift. Settle matters quicklyā (vv. 23-25 NIV). Donāt be led by your wounded ego; be led by Godās Word. You say, āThe person I had the issue with is no longer around, yet Iām still troubled about it.ā Read these two Scriptures: (1) āConfess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful resultsā (Jas 5:16 NLT). (2) āIf you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retainedā (Jn 20:23 NKJV). Share your feelings with someone worthy of your trust. Pray with them, openly confessing your wrongs and the guilt you feel. Prayer and the presence of an affirming friend can provide you with the peace of mind you seek. After David murdered Uriah, his loverās husband, his guilt was overwhelming and he sought Godās forgiveness. But Uriah wasnāt around to hear his confession; heād been dead almost a year. So David turned to Nathan the prophet and poured out his heart saying, āI have sinned.ā Nathan listened patiently and told him, āThe Lord has taken away your sinā (2Sa 12:13 NIV). Follow Davidās exampleāthen put the issue behind you and move on.
God Can Restore You
āAs the clay is in the potterās hand, so are you in My hand.ā Jer 18:6 NKJV The prophet Jeremiah writes: āI went down to the potterās house, and there he was, making something at the wheel. And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter; so he made it again into another vessel, as it seemed good to the potter to make. Then the word of the Lord came to me, saying:ā¦āCan I not do with you as this potter?ā says the Lord. āLook, as the clay is in the potterās hand, so are you in My handāā (vv. 3-6 NKJV). There are three important lessons in this story for you: (1) As long as you stay pliable and responsive to God, He will never throw you away. Instead, He will mold you into something He can use. (2) When others put you down, God will lift you up. A potter doesnāt press down on the clay, he continuously lifts it up and shapes it as it spins on the wheel. And God will do that for you too. David said, āHeā¦brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my stepsā (Ps 40:2 NKJV). (3) Notice whose foot is on the wheel. If he could, Satan would have thrown you off the wheel a long time ago, but he canāt. Look under the table and see whose foot is on the wheel: the Potterās! Nothing can separate you from Godās love (See Ro 8:39). The word for you today isāāāAs the clay is in the potterās hand, so are you in My hand.āā
Trust Requires Truth
āDonāt lie to each other.ā Col 3:9 NLT Deception in a relationship destroys trust and respect. One lie or one act of betrayal can cause a wound that takes years to heal, and in some cases is never healed at all. The person who hides something is basically selfish, protecting their own interests. They care little about the feelings of the other person. Thereās nothing shallower than empty words and lying clichĆ©s that have no real meaning. There are some people who coerce others into a sexual relationship by claiming they love them. Deception at this level is emotional rape! Itās a terrible feeling to be used by someone. The deceiver may continually promise that they will leave their spouse, and the victim holds on to hope. But it never seems to come true. The deceiver makes every kind of excuse possible for taking advantage. Because of the victimās vulnerability, they follow blindly along until the relationship has gone so far that the victim is trapped. As a sinner, you may have been excused for acting this way, but not as a redeemed child of God. āDonāt lie to each other.ā When someone has given you their trust, theyāve given you a priceless gift; donāt abuse it. And if your trust has been betrayed, confront it head-on. Though you may love the person, back off until they show clear signs of repentance and a willingness to make amends. And donāt give up hope. Sometimes good people make bad choices. If you work at it, and seek Godās help, itās possible to restore the trust youāve lost and maybe even end up with a better relationship.
Speak Well Of Them
āDo good to those who hate you.ā Lk 6:27 NKJV When General Robert E. Lee was asked by Confederate President Jefferson Davis to give his opinion about a certain officer, he gave a glowing report. One of the officers in attendance was amazed at his words and said to Lee, āGeneral, do you know that the man of whom you speak so highly to the president is one of your bitterest enemies, and never misses an opportunity to criticize you?ā Lee said, āYes, but the president asked my opinion of him. He didnāt ask for his opinion of me.ā It takes character, compassion and courage to speak well of a critic. But when you do, three good things happen: (1) You increase your own value. You show youāre able to rise above criticism by bestowing praise on another. (2) You defuse your enemyās criticism of you. When people hear your praise of a critic and their disdain for you, their respect for you rises and they see you in a different light. (3) People see you as fair-minded and generous. It takes very little effort to respond in kind to a critic, but it takes Christlike character to turn the other cheek and bless them. Jesus said: āDo good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you. To him who strikes you on the one cheek, offer the other alsoā¦And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewiseā (vv. 27-31 NKJV). You say, āThatās a high standard.ā Itās the one Jesus set, practiced throughout His life, and is calling you to live by today.
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Probe the Bible with These Questions
āHelp me to understand your laws, and I will meditate on your wonderful teachingsā (Psalm 119:27 TEV).
Christian meditation means thinking about Scripture. You meditate on Scripture in the same way a cow chews her cud: by chewing on it and chewing on it and chewing on it.
The āprobe-itā method of Bible study is a great way to do that. When you use this method, you probe the text with questions, almost like a jackhammer. To help you do that, Iāll share with you one of the strangest acrostics Iāve ever used: SPACEPETS. Each letter in the phrase is the first letter of a key word in a question you ask of Godās Word.
Is there a SIN to confess? Does Godās Word make you aware of something you need to make right with God?
Is there a PROMISE to claim? There are more than 7,000 promises in Godās Word. Ask yourself if the passage youāve read contains a universal promise. Ask whether youāve met all the conditions of the promise. Every promise has a premise!
Is there an ATTITUDE to change? Is there something about which you need to think differently? Do you need to work on a negative attitude, worry, guilt, fear, loneliness, bitterness, pride, apathy, or ego?
Is there a COMMAND to obey? Is there a command you need to obey, no matter how you feel?
Is there an EXAMPLE to follow? Are there positive examples to follow or negative examples to avoid?
Is there a PRAYER to pray? Paul, David, Solomon, Elijah, and Isaiah, among others, pray in the Bible. You can use their prayers and know that theyāll be answered because theyāre in the Bible and in Godās will.
Is there an ERROR to avoid? Itās wise to learn from experience, and itās even wiser to learn from the experience of others! We donāt have time to make all the mistakes ourselves. So what can you learn from the mistakes of those in Scripture?
Is there a TRUTH to believe? Often, weāll read something in Scripture that we canāt do anything about. We simply have to believe what it says about God the Father, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, the past, the future, Heaven, Hell, or other topics in the Bible.
Is there SOMETHING for which to praise God? You can always find something in a passage you can be grateful to God for, like something God has protected you from or something God has done.
Every question in this list has a verb in it; there is something you can do associated with them. Write them in your Bible or put them on a note card you keep with your Bible. Theyāll help you be a ādoer of the Wordā every time you meditate on the Bible
Steps to Effective Bible Study (Part 2)Ā
āJesus answered, āIt is written: āMan shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of Godāāā (Matthew 4:4 NIV).
God wants us to apply his Word and let it change our lives, but it starts with studying Godās Word. How do you do it? Yesterday I gave you two general principles for Bible study that apply to any Bible study method.
Ask the right questions.
Write down your observations.
Today, Iāll share three more.
Apply Godās Word. You move from the āwhatā to the āso whatā and do what the Bible says. The ultimate goal of all Bible study is application. In other words, how will this Scripture change my life? We never settle for understanding alone. We want to apply the biblical principles to our daily living. All of our Bible study efforts really donāt have any value if, in the final analysis, we donāt become more like Christ. In fact, you only believe the part of the Bible you apply. Do you believe in sharing Christ with others? Do you believe in tithing? Do you do those activities? If you donāt do them, then you donāt really believe what the Bible teaches about them. The problem that most of us have with the Bible isnāt what we donāt understand; itās applying what we do understand!
Study the Bible systematically. Donāt just study the Bible haphazardly. You can study it systematically by studying it verse-by-verse, book-by-book, topic-by-topic, or theme-by-theme. The opposite of that is the old dip-and-skip method, where you just open up the Bible and put a finger down where you want to study. That wonāt produce the kind of results God wants in your life.
Read the Bible over and over again. This simple tool will change your life. Itās amazing how much you can get out of a passage if you study the same passage over and over again and then come back to the same passage a few months later. The more you read a passage, the more youāll get out of it.
Thereās no better time than today to start studying the Bible for yourself. No matter how you choose to study, apply these five principles, and youāll get more out of whatever you study.
Unmoved By Any Circumstance
āThose who trust in the Lord areā¦unmoved by any circumstance.ā Ps 125:1 TLB By age twenty-nine, author Carson McCullers had suffered three strokes. Then while she was still crippled and partially paralyzed, her husband committed suicide. Despite her problems she forced herself to write every day, and as a result became a distinguished novelist. The English poet John Milton was blind. World-renowned violinist Itzhak Perlman had polio. Former Miss America Heather Whitestone is deaf. Stephen Hawking, physicist and lecturer at Cambridge University, has Lou Gehrigās disease. No wonder Thomas Edison said if we did all the things we were capable of doing, weād astound ourselves! So, whatās the secret to enduring and enjoying life? Itās this: āThose who trust in the Lord areā¦unmoved by any [did you get thatāany] circumstance.ā Despite how you feel today, your problems arenāt insurmountable. The Bible says, āGod can do what men canātā (Lk 18:27 TLB). And whatās more, He listens to āthe prayers of the destituteā¦he is never too busyā (Ps 102:17 TLB). Einstein said, āIn the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.ā The same God who guided Abraham when he didnāt have a clue where he was going, gave Sarah a child in her old age, rolled back the Red Sea, and raised Jesus from the dead, is alive and working in your life. So ābe strong in the Lord, and in the power of his mightā (Eph 6:10). Remember, His chariots of deliverance āareā¦thousands and thousands of thousandsā (Ps 68:17 NIV). Today take heart! āThe eternal God is your refuge, and his everlasting arms are under youā (Dt 33:27 NLT).
Be An Encourager
āAnxiety in the heartā¦causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.ā Pr 12:25 NKJV When Enrico took his first voice lesson at ten, the teacher said, āYou havenāt any voice at all.ā But Enricoās mother heard greatness in her sonās voice. She believed in his talent. And even though they were very poor she put her arms around him and said, āMy boy, Iām going to make every sacrifice to pay for your voice lessons.ā Her confidence in him and her constant encouragement paid off, because he became one of the most beloved and widely acclaimed singers of all time. His name? Enrico Caruso. When the world tries to tear us down, we need people who build us up, people who recognize our talent and help us make the most of it. Consider these ācommands for parents,ā written from a childās point of view: (1) My hands are small; please donāt expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture, or throw a ball. (2) My legs are short; slow down so that I can keep up with you. (3) My eyes have not seen the world as yours have; let me explore it safely, and donāt restrict me unnecessarily. (4) Housework will always be there; Iām only little for a short time. Take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly. (5) My feelings are tender; donāt nag me all day long. Treat me as you would like to be treated. (6) I am a special gift from God; treasure me as God intended you toāholding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by, and disciplining me in a loving manner. Today, be an encourager!
Be Proactive
āHow long will you neglect to go and possess the land?ā Jos 18:3 NKJV When it comes to building good relationships, you must be proactive. This calls for knowing who you are as a person, and what you want from the relationship. While it seems counterintuitive to focus on who you are individually versus who the two of you are as a couple, the whole is only as strong as the parts. Great relationships are based on each party being truthful and up-front about their real needs, desires, feelings, and values. While as a couple you must make decisions together, decisions about who you are as a person and what you want your life to be are yours alone to make. Allowing someone else to make those decisions for you is a mistake. When you let someone else decide who you are and what you want, you give away the power that God gave you. Understand this: (1) Doing nothing is not making a decision. (2) Sitting back and pretending not to see a situation for what it is, is not a decision. (3) Procrastinating until something happens where youāve no choice but to go one way or the other is not a decisionāitās passivityāand in the end it wonāt serve you well. Sometimes you have to accept unchangeable circumstances, but you can always choose how you want to act within them. This principle is taught clearly by what God told His people on the threshold of the Promised Land: āHow long will you neglect to go in and possess the land which the Lordā¦has given you?ā So, be proactive.
The Problem With Envy
āGod has givenā¦youā¦special abilitiesā¦use them to help each other.ā 1Pe 4:10 TLB One counselor notes: āWhen we climb on board the seesaw of envy, we sink straight down while the focus of our discontent rises far above us. In this out-of-balance comparison we always find ourselves wanting. Envy leads to self-pity and ingratitudeā¦ weāre so preoccupied with our dissatisfaction that itās impossible to enjoy what we have and what weāre doing. Envy leads to bitterness, resentment and hostility. Itās not surprising the word envy comes from the Latin word invidere, which means to look at with maliceā¦You are a unique creation with your own special capabilities, timetable, and destinyā¦it makes no sense to compare yourself. An honest, grateful look at your God-given assets will help you become satisfied with what you have and who you are.ā Donāt let envy steal another second of your happiness. When it motivates you to compare yourself with others, you always come up short. It makes you cynical. Nothing you do is satisfying. Envy makes you suspicious of other peopleās motives, even when they genuinely care about you. You have trouble accepting that their friendship is real so you distance yourself from them, and you end up with very few friends. Whatās the answer? Acceptance and gratitude is the antidote to the poison of envy. Itās about accepting that Godās in control, and learning to be thankful for the āmany kinds of blessingsā that surround you. Remember, āGod has givenā¦youā¦special abilitiesā¦use them to help each other.ā
Shalom
āMy Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.ā Ex 33:14 NIV The Hebrew word for peace is shalom. And apart from God it will always remain a pipe dream, a philosophical fantasy, or a tantalizing fish that is just beyond your bait and hook. Marriages go awry and fall apart because we look to an imperfect mate to give us the perfect peace weāre searching for, and we discover they canāt. The storyās told of a woman at a cocktail party who was trying her best to look happy. Noticing the gargantuan sparkling rock on her finger, a guest exclaimed, āWow! What a beautiful stone!ā She replied, āThank you. Itās the Callahan diamond.ā The onlooker said, āI wish I had one!ā The woman replied, āNo, you donāt.ā āWhy not?ā he asked. āBecause it comes with the Callahan curse,ā she replied. āThe Callahan curseāwhatās that?ā asked the questioner. She sighed and said, āMr. Callahan!ā Perfect peace can only come from a perfect peace-giver, and the only one who meets that qualification is God. Peace isnāt the absence of problems; itās the presence of God in the midst of your problems. Whatās more, nobody ever finds peace by looking for it. Peace isnāt something you find; it finds you when you surrender your life to the One who said, āMy Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.ā Note the words āMy Presence.ā Only Godās presence can bring peace. The assurance of Godās love, Godās help, and Godās presence is what takes the stress out of living. Are you longing for peace today? When you surrender your life to Christ, youāll āexperienceā¦peaceā¦far more wonderful than the human mind can understandā (Php 4:7 TLB).