5 Essential Steps to Save Your Relationship
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When it feels like a partner is pulling away, can you repair the connection? Trying these steps can help you decide.
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Easiest Way To Start A Conversation
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Have you ever seen a girl at a party, on the sidewalk, at a store and wanted to talk to her but didn't know what to say?
Do you want to know exactly what to say to a girl you don't know yet to start a conversation with her?
Here are some of my best techniques and openers for starting a conversation with a girl.
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How To Talk To Girls On Snapchat
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This is an interview with "Snapchat King" Spencer Burnett.
He is going to share his most effective techniques for talking and flirting with girls on Snapchat.
When you know what to say to girls on Snapchat, they'll send you sexy pictures and eventually agree to meet up with you.
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How to Encourage Loved Ones to Simplify their Lives
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The struggle I hear most often from people trying to simplify their lives is that their spouse/partner/family/friends won’t simplify with them. How can you encourage loved ones to simplify their lives without being annoying? Because we can’t convince people to live more simply, eat a healthy diet, or do anything else they don’t want to do, …
8 Steps to Improving Your Self-Esteem
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You deserve to feel better about yourself. This is how to start.
Secrets to a Less Stressful Life
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No matter what it is that’s making each of us anxious, we can all arm ourselves with the tools to help us stay calm, centered, and feeling strong in the face of challenges.
Beginner Minimalist? This is a good place to start.
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If you are a beginner minimalist or curious about simplifying your life, this is a good place to start. I’m not a beginner minimalist but I used to be. Over the last few years, I made some big changes with my family. We sold and donated close to 90% of our stuff, paid off all of our debt …......
4 Ways to Stop Fearing Other People's Judgments
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If you find yourself holding back from being yourself, it's time for a change.
People go to self-defeating lengths to elude the possibility of being negatively judged by others. They avoid telling people what they want to tell them. They don’t speak up in class or at work meetings. They avoid telling their lover their true desires. They don’t ask for a raise. They won’t tell a new date where they’d like to go for dinner.
This fear of judgment is linked to the desire to be liked by all at all times. But because that is impossible, this is a losing game that keeps people from uninhibitedly experiencing and expressing their true selves.
Let’s face it, humans are always judging others—good/bad or like/dislike, with lots of nuance in between. And as new information comes in, the human mind reassesses: It is an ongoing process.
Instead of avoiding the issue by not saying anything about your preferences, and working overtime to try to shape the people in your life so they won’t judge you, you can work to accept this process instead.
Here are four ways to stop living in fear of judgment:
1. Nothing lasts forever.
The reality is that the human brain has limited data reserves. Although we may make judgments, they are not significant enough to earn a place in our memory banks for eternity. So when someone makes a judgment about you, chances are that moments or days later that judgment will have left their conscious awareness. We build up our understanding of people, not on the minor mistakes or setbacks we observe, but by creating a schema based on the big things they do and say, and the patterns of how they interact with us and make us feel over time.
2. Judgment is unavoidable.
Stop trying to control the judgments of others. It has become part of our zeitgeist to demand that others not judge us. Think about popular statements such as, “No judgments” and “This is a non-judgment zone.” None of this really helps: You can’t control what others think. Maybe they won’t express their judgment, but it doesn’t mean they can stop a physiological brain process. Instead, try to explain the context of what you are feeling so that those you are opening up to understand you and have compassion for you. Compassion is judgment’s kryptonite. When it is present, judgments have little weight because people can imagine themselves feeling the same way.
3. Let them judge!
It can be liberating in an intimate relationship to just allow judgments to be present. Instead of stopping yourself from being open or vulnerable or from sharing something negative but important about yourself, do it anyway.
4. Notice your own judgments.
There is no better way to care less about the judgments of others than to judge yourself and others less. Of course judgment is unavoidable, but watch the language you use in your own head about the people and events in your life. Change the focus of your judgments: Instead of “she sucks” or “he’s a loser,” ask yourself what effect the person has on you that you want to avoid or be aware of in the future. For example, “She never follows through with her commitments to me.” Or, “He tells me he’s trying but I always end up disappointed.” Move away from the good and bad character traits of those in your life to what is healthy and unhealthy for you.
7 Ways for You to Love without Fear
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“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun, like struggle.”
Love can be terrifying.
Love isn’t just hearts, rainbows, and soft pinks and reds. It’s more like fireworks –thrilling, aggressive, surprising, and frightening.
Love requires trust. It asks us to open ourselves up and become vulnerable. It necessitates giving up the control that makes us feel safe. And there is always the risk of heartbreak; when we successfully love, we have to accept the fact that we may end up getting hurt. And all that is scary.
We weren’t scared when we first learned to love a parent or childhood friend. Love is our natural state. It was only after rejection that it became tinged with fear.
Like fireworks, love is also beautiful, dazzling, and unforgettable. It is one of the greatest joys we can experience and worth the fumbles and falls along the way. The more we can give ourselves over to love without letting fear interfere, the more gloriously wondrous the fireworks display will be.
1. Just be yourself.
We want to be loved for who we truly are , so start out by being yourself from the very first moment (not by being what you think the other person wants).
2. Keep yourself open.
A huge part of the fear surrounding love is our uneasiness with being vulnerable; we worry we’ll look foolish or worse, get hurt. But it is only by being vulnerable that we make true connections to others. It is not only a risk worth taking – it’s crucial to forming deep bonds.
3. Talk it out.
We often keep quiet because we don’t want to rock the boat or offend a partner, but communication is vital to a healthy relationship. If something’s on your mind, find a neutral moment to talk about your feelings.
4. Welcome the imperfections.
Holding out for perfection is a direct path to unhappiness. It’s like waiting for a unicorn to show up in your backyard – it’s just not going to happen! Instead, try to appreciate the bumps, knowing that when you get through a rough patch together, you come out stronger on the other side.
5. Don’t be afraid of anger, but don’t act on it right away, either.
Too often we worry that expressing anger to a partner will only have negative consequences. But anger is a valid emotion – it tells us volumes about a situation and our reaction to it. The key is to examine our anger, find the root cause, and express it in a way that is neither antagonistic nor apologetic.
6. Take responsibility.
We are accountable for our own feelings and actions. Recognizing this restores our power and agency.
7. Love yourself first and foremost.
Self-love is the first step to creating any loving relationship with someone else, be it partner, child, or friend.
Self-love is the first step to creating any loving relationship.
For me there is no greater way to learn about myself than by being in an aligned, connected relationship with another. I see the bumps and falls and twists and turns as a gift that the Uni-verse has given me to get closer to love and farther from fear, and for that I am grateful.
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How to Get Your Parents Out of Your Head
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What Every Man Should Know About Talking Dirty To A Girl
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Girls like to be talked dirty to during sex because it gives them a better orgasmic experience in the bedroom.
So today, sex expert Laurel House and I are going to talk about the do's and don'ts of talking dirty to a girl.
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11 Signs You’ve Found Your Happily Ever After
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“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not who we’re pretending to…Continue Reading
Like a vine, which has produced grapes and looks for nothing more once it has produced its own fruit, like a horse which has run a race, a dog which has followed the scent, or a bee which has made its honey. A person who has done something good does not make a big fuss about it, but goes on to the next action, as a vine goes on to produce grapes again in season. So you should be one of those who do this without in a sense being aware of doing so.
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The Ultimate Guide For Picking Up Girls In Your 30’s
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Dating in your 30's isn't that much different than dating in your 20's. It just requires requires a few new mindsets.
If you're a single guy in your 30's and having challenges with meeting women, then this video is for you.
Even if you're younger or older, you will still find it useful because it contains a lot of great ideas for meeting more girls.
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4 Tips for Feeling More Secure in Your Relationship
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Is your partner needy and insecure, or is it you?
A common issue in couples’ therapy is one person assuming their partner needs too much while the other person feels insecure in the relationship. Let me introduce you to Breanna and Raymond, just such a couple.
Breanna and Raymond came in for therapy because Breanna was depressed. She saw no hope for the future of the marriage because Raymond was always either working or playing golf. During the first session, she described what precipitated her calling for an appointment. She had accidentally locked herself out of the house and called Raymond at work, hoping he would come home and let her in. Raymond told her that he had an important meeting to attend. In a rather irritable voice, he advised her to call a locksmith. Breanna felt betrayed by Raymond's refusal to help her and stunned to learn how low she ranked on his list of priorities.
In discussing this incident in the therapy session, Breanna focused on how Raymond had expressed no understanding or empathy for how she felt that day. She could understand it was impractical for him to rush to her rescue, but couldn't he at least have offered some moral support? Raymond, on the other hand, saw this situation as an example of how she relied too much on him. As the session progressed, he listed other evidence of Breanna's "overdependence": every Saturday morning as he prepared to play golf, she would ask if they could do something together later in the day—perhaps go out to dinner. Raymond then described how controlled he felt by his wife's "dependency." It seemed to him that she was trying to force him to give up his one day of relaxation. If only she had more friends or activities to keep her busy, he reasoned, he wouldn't have to feel guilty about wanting some time on his own.
Raymond's interpretation surprised Breanna. She said, “He’d drive me crazy if he was home all day on Saturday. There's no way I'd ask him to give up golf." I learned that Breanna had plenty of friends and activities to fill her time. She was involved in leading a charitable organization and was considering starting her own business. Breanna’s schedule was not the issue.
Although the situation presented by this couple was more complicated than I can condense in a blog post, this is the main point: Breanna's desire to spend some time with Raymond was not a sign of neediness or dependency, even though Raymond had come to interpret it in this light; Breanna simply enjoyed her husband's company. Rather than taking this as a compliment, Raymond told himself that if he didn't keep up his guard, he’d be engulfed by his wife’s needs. In effect, he filtered and perhaps distorted many of Breanna's requests through his belief that she was dependent and needy.
In the sessions that followed, I helped Raymond recognize the ways in which he contributed to the problem: The more he avoided making a commitment to spend time together, the more she pursued and pressured him. When he eventually made spending time with Breanna a priority, Raymond enjoyed his time alone more. He felt less guilty, and his life was more in balance. Similarly, he also enjoyed his time with Breanna more, because it felt like a choice, rather than an obligation.
So what can you learn from this?
1. Don’t make assumptions about your partner’s motivations or behaviors. You could be way off the mark.
2. Make time to talk about any issues as they arise, and don’t let them fester into a bigger problem.
3. Healthy couples enjoy time together, as well as individual activities and alone time.
4. Remember that a little communication and affection can go a long way. In the example above, Breanna wasn’t really asking for that much. She just wanted to know that Raymond cared about her.
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Video For Practicing Eye Contact
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Being able to hold eye contact with a girl is a sign of dominance and the first step to getting her attracted.
If you have a hard time keeping eye contact with a girl, she won't want to talk to you.
Use this video to get better at keeping eye contact with a girl.
Expand the video and close everything else until it feels like it's just you and her.
Hold eye contact with her the entire time until you feel comfortable looking any girl in the eyes.
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What You Can Do When Your BFF Turns Into Your Worst Enemy
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Have you ever been betrayed by a friend? This expert advice could help you deal with your new frenemy in a more mature way.
How To Improve Willpower: 7 Keys To Better Self Discipline
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Willpower. Self-control. Self discipline. These are many names that all mean the same thing: having the mental strength and attitude to consciously do the things you know you must do. Yes – even when you don’t emotionally want to.
When you learn how to improve your willpower, you learn how to strengthen a skill that helps across your live. Improved willpower is associated with being happier, scoring higher on standardized tests and earning more money. Willpower is also highly correlated with accomplishing personal goals.
What you may not know however, is that willpower is a resource that you can call upon – and at the same time, it is also a skill that you can improve.
I’ll show you seven scientific, research backed way you can improve your own personal self discipline today
#1: Remove Temptation
Willpower is a limited resource – so don’t waste it. Everytime you need to tell yourself “no” to a temptation in front of you, you slowly deplete your willpower – and it takes time to replenish. So whenever possible: remove the temptations from your life.
For example, if you know that you watch too much TV, and need to focus on a project for the next month – cancel your cable, or physically unplug your TV from the wall. As a personal example, I know I’ll eat junk food if it is in the house – so I never keep any in my home.
#2: Stabilize Blood Sugar
Low blood sugar is associated with diminished self discipline. Avoid eating sugary foods such as candy or high sugar drinks. Of course, it’s a bit of a catch 22 – it takes self discipline to avoid eating tasty, sugary foods to begin with!
#3: Sleep
Make sure you get enough of it. Research has shown that the ability to maintain focus on tasks suffers due to lack of sleep.
#4: Enjoy Life
Positive emotional experiences replenish your self discipline reserve. So throughout the day – take a few moments to enjoy your life
I love to take breaks and run, play guitar, hike and do other activities that inspire me – find what works for you.
#5: Avoid and Reduce Stress
Stress has shown to deplete self discipline. Reducing commitments, breathing exercises and yoga has personally helped me reduce stress in my life.
#6: Have a Plan
Research shows that when your willpower starts getting depleted, having a plan and a goal you are chasing can help mitigate the effects of lowered willpower.
In The Action Solution , I take you step by step through how to set a path for your life and a specific plan to achieve it. I use the same process in my own life – and I am sure it has resulted in maintaining a higher level of willpower and achievement in my own life
People with good plans still fail – it’s no guarantee you’ll succeed, but it definitely makes it more likely.
#7: Self Affirmations
Similar to positive emotional experiences, self affirmations have been shown to help replenish depleted willpower.
I like using my start pages . I built them specifically so I could focus on a single thought and purpose. My favorite at the moment is value your time.
#8: Bonus: Strengthen Your Willpower
Self discipline is a muscle – focus on small tasks that you can control, and your ability to stick to larger tasks will slowly increase.
Some examples of exercise include straightening your posture and using your non-dominant hand for tasks. For example, try brushing your teeth with your non-dominant hand. Try switching which hand you hold dishes in, and which hand you scrub dishes in.
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Hand Motions And Gestures To Keep A Girl Interested In A Conversation
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When you're talking to a girl, you can speak to her and move your hands in a way that captivates her and holds her attention longer.
It's called using a "pattern interrupt".
It comes from Nero Linguistic Programming and it means, to change a person's thinking and behavior by doing something unexpected.
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Avoid This Deadly Mistake When Texting Girls!
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There's one huge mistake that I constantly see guys making when texting a girl.
This mistake causes them to lose trust and attraction from the girl until she stops responding.
And without that trust and attraction, you won't be able to get her to meet up with you.
Learn what this mistake is, how to avoid this mistake and what to do if you already made it.
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»How to Get Over an Ex (and 2 Major Mistakes to Avoid)«
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Obsessing about someone, positively or negatively, will only prolong your grief.
One way we avoid having to deal with the difficult and painful emotions that accompany the loss of a romantic relationship is by obsessing about our previous partner. This usually takes one of two forms—vilifying or idealizing.
When we vilify an ex, we mentally replay everything negative they ever did to us.
We hyperfocus on their flaws, make interpretations about their motives and their mental health , think of them as warped, and perhaps even believe them to be immoral or psychopathic. This is upsetting, but vilifying an ex provides momentary relief from the heartache that comes with loss. It also takes the focus away from the role we may have played in the demise of the union.
However, when we idealize an ex, we mentally replay every positive interaction and build the ex up to be something that perhaps they never were—perfect. We imagine ourselves as worthless without this perfect person. This too is painful, because each time the ex is put in a golden light, we cast a dark shadow on ourselves. Idealizing, just like vilifying, distracts us from our grief and the need to accept the loss as real. Idealizing an ex gives the mind a softer focus in a world that otherwise seems to promise nothing but pain and misery in the future.
If you notice yourself drifting into either of these two potential obsessions while you manage a breakup or divorce, consider that vilifying and idealizing actually prolong the grief process. Try to be aware of when you vilify or idealize your ex and redirect your attention to your own feelings about the loss. Remind yourself that vilifying and idealizing are distraction techniques that keep you mired in regret.
If you go to extremes about the character of your ex, consider doing a relationship autopsy in which you take a calculated, rational look at the facts of the relationship, both your role and your ex’s. (I describe how to conduct a thorough relationship autopsy in Breaking Up and Divorce 5 Steps: How to Heal and Be Comfortable Alone .)
The goal of an autopsy is to think about your relationship in a constructive and realistic manner. It’s natural to obsess as your brain comes to terms with a new reality; the obsessing is the first stage in the brain’s massive reboot as it eventually accepts the loss as real.
When you obsess, write down the facts of your role and your ex’s—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Write the story of what really happened so that you can grieve in a healthy manner and then move on.
Without taking a cold, hard look at the reality of your relationship—and not from an overly positive or negative perspective—and experiencing the feelings this process engenders, you will remain stuck in unproductive thinking about the partner. Only by examining the facts will you be liberated from your obsessive thoughts.
There is always a backstory to a relationship ending, and it usually says something about the responsibility both parties have in what transpired.
Write your relationship story. Then let yourself feel it. This will help you let go.
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Video For Practicing Eye Contact
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Being able to keep eye contact with a girl is a sign of confidence and the first step to getting her attracted.
If you have a hard time holding eye contact with a girl, she will feel that you are not ready to date her yet.
To get better at maintaining eye contact with a girl, use this video for practice.
Expand the video and close everything else until it feels like it's just you and the girl in the video.
Practice holding eye contact with her until you feel comfortable looking a girl in the eyes while you're talking to her.
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How To Seduce A Girl AFTER You Messed Up By Being "Needy"
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Have you ever been so needy for a girl that you screwed things up with her?
Were you so close but messed things up and want to know how to fix it?
There is something you can do to go back to seducing her.
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5 Silent Killers Of A Relationship
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“Sometimes we maintain silence to protect one Beautiful relationship, But too much silence creates a Distance in every Beautiful relationship.” – Unknown In a relationship, it is common for one or both partners to give the ‘silent treatment’ when they experience anger, disappointment, frustration, or any other kind of negative emotion directed towards the other.…Continue Reading
How To Release Emotional Attachments To Toxic Relationships
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“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot more forward.” – Steve Maraboli, Behavioral Scientist and author of Life, the Truth, and Being Free The truth is we all have an opinion on how best to handle…Continue Reading
Build Your Confidence in a Comfortable Environment
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Some would say confidence comes with experience, which I don’t doubt. But I think confidence comes with familiarity from a comfortable environment rather than the time you spend doing something. When I say comfortable, I mean an environment that you are very familiar with, hopefully with supportive people (ie. family and/or friends) who will be there for you. Once you find this comfortable environment, slowly but surely you will be able to start building your confidence and actually start making the improvements you want to see.
How Low Self-Confidence Will Cost You Thousands
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Every year we have the opportunity to start with a fresh slate. The New Year yawns before us, brimming with opportunity and new beginnings. Whether or not we consciously make resolutions for the coming year, most of us have a sense of what we want to achieve for the year. According to a 2012 Harris... Continue Reading
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How Girls Act When They Are Cheating On You!
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If you think the girl you're seeing, your girlfriend, or even your wife is cheating, then watch this video to learn the signs that she could be.
We'll cover the biggest signs that a girl could be cheating on you and how to communicate with her about it to find out for sure.
These signs come from my own experience and the experiences of other people I know who have been cheated on.
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