Important Differences Between Men and Women
I had some thoughts on this based on my accumulated experiences. Both my personal ones, or through second hand accounts through family and friends. None of this is meant to scold women or say that they are somehow bad. Just my observations and I think understanding this will help any man.
\- A sense for romance (and honor) are male only feelings. Women don't have this. They can't and wont recognize or reciprocate this.
\- The main three pillars of what women operate on psychologically are sex, security and validation. Sex essentially means her partner gets her off. Security means the man provides protection from physical harm and also financial (resource) security. Validation can come from her partner, friends and/or nowadays, the internet.
\- Women don't love men. In a functioning world with functioning relationships, love flows down and respect flows up. God loves his creation (men, women, children), men love their wives and children, women love their children. This is reciprocated with respect. This dynamic fulfills both men's desire for romance, honor and sex, and women's desire for sex, security and validation.
\- Women give no quarter and don't negotiate. They fight for everything that's on the table, always. She wants everything for her and her kids. Mature men learn the advantages of compromise. Women don't.
\- Women are biologically hardwired for motherhood. Contrary to what I often read and see from men, some of the happiest women I know are mothers. Some of them even single mothers (sure this only works through daddy government but not getting into this here). Many men also want fatherhood, but for men it doesn't seem as much of a primary biological need as with women.
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Why is society so strictly against the public representation of male victims?
"for every one male victim, there are 1000 female victims" "ever seen women forcefully groping men, or making them feel uncomfortable?" "Women are being tortured for centuries but suddenly, everyone is sympathizing for male victims" These are the things we often hear when the topic is male victimization. People find it pretty hard to grasp that men can be victims of women, and even when they acknowledge it, they still think that it's such a rare case. Everyone talk about stats, stats saying that male victims are small minority, and sometimes, there aren't even any stats, so people just recite the common saying "for every men, there are 1000 women being tortured" I'm not saying they're wrong, but we can't also say if they're right.
To know a fair gap between male and female victimization, we need fair studies, researches and surveys on both the sides. Currently, there aren't enough surveys and studies for male victimization to compare it with female victimization, when some countries don't even measure male victims, then obviously gap between male and female victimization is gonna be huge, because one side is not even measured properly.
Now, people throw around stats saying "men=violent, women=victims" but what happens when researchers find something different.... Something complicated, something which don't follow the common narrative of "men=preparators, women=helpless victims"? They get public backlash and Harrassment, and death threats. There were a few researchers in past who made a research about similiar prevalence of female and male violence, and suggests that domestic violence isn't necessarily strictly gendered issue of male patriarchy. Those researchers were:
Erin Pizzey, an internationally recognized pioneer who established the world's first domestic violence shelter, Chiswick Women's Aid, in London in 1971. Through extensive intake surveys, she found that 62% of the women entering her shelter were "violence-prone" and equally or more violent than the men they left. She asserted that domestic abuse is relational and rooted in childhood trauma rather than a strictly gendered issue of male patriarchy. After publishing her findings in her 1982 book Prone to Violence and proposing shelters for abused men, she faced severe backlash from militant factions. This included massive protests, bomb threats, and death threats that required police to intercept her mail and escort her during book tours. The intense harassment ultimately forced her to leave the UK for her safety.
Dr. Murray Straus & Dr. Richard Gelles, highly influential American sociologists who co-founded the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire. In 1975 and 1985, they conducted the landmark National Family Violence Surveys. They utilized the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS) and discovered nearly equal rates of physical aggression initiated by men and women in intimate relationships, a concept known as gender symmetry in domestic violence. Their findings fiercely contradicted the prevailing political models of the era. Dr. Straus was subjected to systemic academic boycotts, shouted down at conferences, and received numerous death threats. Dr. Gelles also documented receiving death threats, bomb scares directed at his lecture halls, and coordinated campaigns demanding his termination from his academic post.
Dr. Suzanne Steinmetz, an American sociologist who worked alongside Straus and Gelles. In 1977, she published a groundbreaking study explicitly titled "The Battered Husband Syndrome," bringing empirical attention to the hidden prevalence of severely abused men. Following the publication, Steinmetz faced severe personal and professional terrorization. Radical groups issued bomb threats to her university, threatened her children's lives, and successfully pressured organizations to revoke her research funding and speaking invitations.
All these people were bashed, harrassed and recieved death threats just because their findings claimed something
Plea for refuge for male victims of domestic violence
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c86n5eg705wo
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The government empowers women to look down at men
think I’d boil the current situation down to the title.
It’s almost comically one-sided. More welfare and support gets directed toward women, and if you point it out, the response is, “Men are oppressors.” Take those supports away, and somehow the response is still, “Men are oppressors.”
At this point, it feels like a rigged game where men are simultaneously blamed for the rules, the outcome, and the fact that anyone is playing.
And the irony is wild: a lot of the traits women criticize men for, entitlement, dependence, status-seeking, refusing accountability, have suddenly become normalized when women display them.
Then the moment anyone pushes back, out comes the “I’m a victim” card.
Say anything remotely negative involving women? “Misogyny.”
Point out how terrible modern dating can be? “Incel.”
Question the double standard? “You’re just threatened by women.”
Women are shooting themselves in the foot and blaming men for it. Sad
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Woman arrested over Covent Garden stabbings 'may not be fit enough to be charged'
https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/people-stabbed-covent-garden-woman-arrested-b1292464.html
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@manpill
example: the opposite of the statement "women are discriminated more in the workplace", is not "men are discriminated more". Because this excludes the cases where both are being discriminated.
And scientists are not doing their part. They are often not asking the right questions and they are also making logic assumptions through their lens that overfit their data, without ever considering all options. And the other ones who don't are not calling their colleagues out.
# So the solution is simple: Call out bullshit logic, wherever we see it.
Any research making comparison claims like.... "Women are more discriminated against men in..." should be dropped immediately. We do we even need to make this comparison? How is a research saying... "Women have more dandruff than men" than men helping men with dandruff?
Any person blanket statements for "men" or "women" like... "Men are responsible about their..." should be immediately shut down. How can we group "men" into something like that? Maybe some are so and so and the others are that and that.
Any blanket concepts that assume society is under the chokehold of a specific culture/narrative about.... "Feminism", "Therapy", "Rape Culture" etc... should be also dropped. There are so many variants of those. A "feminist" might be a person who is just ensuring that their daughter is not suffering owing to stereotypes. Or a person with an active hatred for "men", even unknowingly.
Otherwise, we are committing the same sin as the archetypical "feminazi". Simplifying society and yelling childish generalisations at the level of a primary schooler.
The only problem? In a time when divisive messages are capturing attention and are being promoted by algorithms, in a time when people have spent too much time in those discussions and are exhausted talking to chatbot-like counterparts, in a time when people have had multiple negative experiences in their lives... It's difficult to make this message of controlled composure sexy and attractive.
Your comments fellas are welcome!
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@manpill
Shocking stats show more people are waking to men's issues. Even women! Media is lying to you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8tVx6Yq4S0
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@manpill
Same Symptoms, Different responses
If a woman says she feels depressed, anxious, and alone, she is met with: ‘That’s completely valid.’ ‘You’re so brave for opening up.’ ‘You don’t have to carry this by yourself.’ ‘Let’s find you some support.’ ‘Your feelings matter.’ ‘There’s no shame in struggling.’ Yet, if a man reports the exact same symptoms to his wife or kids or colleagues, the same depression, the same anxiety, the same loneliness, he is met with: ‘Man up.’ ‘Quit complaining.’ ‘Toughen up.’ ‘Others have it worse.’ ‘No one wants to hear about it.’ ‘Stop feeling sorry for yourself.’ ‘Be a man about it.’
Same illness. Two entirely different responses. Sadly, this is why men suffer in silence until they can no longer endure it. Almost no one cares
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@manpill
Recently had a friend tell me that male loneliness and depression is essentially a less important issue because it's "self imposed" by men. I'm not even sure what that's supposed to imply.
Something about this just feels wrong to me and I don't know how to explain why. Thoughts?
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@manpill
Except what if I don't see through it?
What if I'm missing something? Lie down on the couch. Room spinning a little.
Think about being 34. Think about being single for three years.
Think about the years before that. The string of relationships that never worked.
Think about the common denominator. No, don't think about that. It's not me. It's them. It's always been them. They weren't good enough. They didn't meet my standards.
Close my eyes. See that guy's face? That annoying calm expression. What do you bring to the table? Everything. I bring everything, don't I? I must fall asleep because suddenly it's dark and my phone is ringing. It's Sarah. Answer groggy.
She asks if I'm okay. Tell her I'm fine. Just fell asleep on the couch.
She says she's worried about me. Ask her why.
She says I've seemed unhappy lately. I'm not unhappy. I'm perfectly happy. She's quiet for a second. Then she asks if I want to talk about what happened with that guy from running club.
Tell her he was an who thinks women should justify their worth to men.
She says that's not what she heard. Apparently, he's friends with her boyfriend. Apparently, he told a different version of the story. Ask what he said.
She hesitates. Then says he told her boyfriend that he really liked me, but I seemed more interested in what a man could do for me than in actually building something together. That's not true. That's completely unfair. She's quiet again. Then she asks gently, "Is it though? Feel tears starting and I don't even know why.
Tell her I have to go. She says she loves me and she's here if I want to talk. Hang up. Sit in the dark.
Cry a little, which is stupid. I don't cry over men. I don't need men. I have my career and my condo and my independence. I have everything I need. So why does it feel like something's missing?
No, nothing's missing. I'm complete on my own. That's what feminism taught me. That's what I believe.
Lie back down. Think about that question again. What do you bring to the table?
Try to answer it honestly this time. Not what I think I should say. Not what sounds good. What do I actually bring? I'm loyal except when someone doesn't meet my standards. I'm supportive except I've never actually had to support someone through something hard because I leave before things get hard. I'm independent, which is good, but maybe also I use it as a shield. I want equality, but I want a man who earns more than me and is more successful than me, but will also deprioritize his success for mine. I want someone fit, but I'm not as fit as I used to be. I want emotional intelligence, but I stopped going to therapy because it was uncomfortable. I want someone who does equal housework, but I've never actually shared a house with someone long enough to know if I'd hold up my end, sit up, feel sick, and it's not just the wine.
What if I'm the problem? What if I've been the problem all along?
What if my standards aren't high, they're just impossible?
What if I'm using feminism as an excuse to never be vulnerable?
What if I'm so afraid of ending up like my mother that I won't let anyone close enough to hurt me?
What if that guy was right, stand up too fast, room spins, go to the bathroom, and stare at myself in the mirror? 34 years old, successful, independent, alone, very, very alone. And whose fault is that? Want to say it's men's fault. Want to say it's society's fault. Want to say it's anyone's fault but mine. But standing here drunk and crying on a Friday night.
Maybe it's time to admit. Maybe, just maybe, I don't actually know what I bring to the table. And that's terrifying. Because if I don't know what I offer, then how can I demand so much in return?
Slide down to sit on the bathroom floor. This is rock bottom. Probably drunk on the bathroom floor. crying over a coffee date with a guy whose name I barely remember. Except I do remember his name. And I remember his face. And I remember the way he looked at me. Not with contempt, not with anger, just with this sad kind of clarity. Like he could see right through me. Like he knew I
Getting married increases your lifespan? Tell that to the 50% who get divorced
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/mortality/mortality_marital_status_10_17.htm
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@manpill
hear them mutter politely that 'Whatever God gives us is quite all right
https://www.dailyo.in/variety/meghalaya-khasi-women-st-status-khadc-social-bill-non-khasis-garo-jaintia-northeast-women-smart-matrilineal-society-25712
From a research paper on customary inheritance (IJCRT, 2024):
Khasi boys often abandon their education around Class V–VI, engaging in carefree activities with friends, indulging in alcohol and drugs, playing the guitar, and tragically succumbing to early deaths. \\[IJCRT\\\]([https://ijcrt.org/papers/IJCRT2403727.pdf\](https://ijcrt.org/papers/IJCRT2403727.pdf](https://ijcrt.org/papers/IJCRT2403727.pdf))
Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matrilineal_society_of_Meghalaya
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Male social disposability, inferiority, and the problem of false consciousness
Now, our reality is clear. Men, for centuries, have been seen as the disposable class. Women are born with their value. Men have to prove themselves worthy to society to even have a place, and even then, it can be taken away anytime. Men are the oppressed social class and this is NOT up for debate. Men as a whole suffer from false consciousness. False consciousness is the collective term for our brainwashing to see ourselves as wrong. We are complicit in our own manipulation and the ONLY way to get out of this situation is to criticize the system, instead of pandering to women, who will not give up their privilege.
False consciousness is embedded in young boys from childhood. We are taught to put women on a pedestal. We are taught to treat them a certain way. This is BRAINWASHING.
Furthermore, feminism is NOT a leftist ideology. It is a far-right ideology posturing as left-wing. Same playbook as the Nazis (they postured as Socialists). The foundations of feminism are rooted in racism. White women used their social power to get Black men lynched. And it has been going for decades.
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Should women who scream misogyny or sexism be mass deplatformed and socially shamed?
I say that whatever is good for the goose is good for the gander. There needs to be immediate accountability within one’s lifetime to social discrimination.
I think those women who suggest misogyny or sexism toward any slight questioning of gender dynamics or feminist ideology solo should be mass deplatformed or socially shamed using strong language. And it must be sustained. We need to give them the message that there are consequences for spouting off.
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Another Man brutally murdered by his fiancé
https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/siya-goyal-ketan-agarwal-flowers-hug-birthday-countdown-pune-womans-posts-before-killing-fiance-lohagad-fort-murder-fiance-murder-11679095
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different than the common societal narrative. And also the backlash wasn't necessarily because the findings were wrong or misleading, yeah methodology in some cases was criticised by some other researchers but another reason for such massive public backlash for these people was fear of shattering the common narrative and hence withdrawing attention and funding for female victims. Some radicalized feminist groups and their leaders sent direct threats and physical intimidation to these researchers, and the researchers were forced hide their findings from public. I get their fear of withdrawal of attention from female victims but it's still screwed up to literally send murder threats to someone who find high prevalence of male victimization because you see it as a threat to your own group 🤷🏻♀️.
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Russian women are being conscripted
https://www.reddit.com/r/UkraineWarVideoReport/comments/1vi95f7/russian_women_react_to_being_recruited_into_drone/?share_id=dvME9mp8X_zFJ1hlBeRGv&utm_content=1&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1
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Medical misogyny is a feminist fabrication
We have been hearing a lot lately about medical misogyny, but it seems to me that it is a fabrication pushed by feminists who want all women to see themselves as victims of men.
Firstly, to argue that the medical profession "hates women" (which is what misogyny actually means) is simply ridiculous.
Secondly, IF medical misogyny was real, you would expect that women would do worse than men on health OUTCOMES. Well, we have two simple measures to test this.
Physical outcomes can be tested simply by looking at life expectancy. Lo and behold, women are advantaged here.
Mental health outsomes can be tested simply by looking at suicide rates. Surprise, surprise, men are about FOUR TIMES as likely to suicide than women.
So, if we look at medical outcomes, we could argue that there is actually medical mysandry, not misogyny.
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Why do people especially women expect men to always hold positive views of women, no matter how much women could have affected him or have destroyed his life?
I’ve noticed that if a woman gets sexually assaulted or harassed, or even if she doesn’t it’s completely okay for her to automatically assume men as a negative monolith. Yet men can have their entire lives screwed up by women, whether through divorce courts, false accusations, sexual assault or rape, or even just brutally reject him his whole life, and if he complains even slightly how this has impacted his life or his world view of women he is shunned to hell and told he hates women, and is a misogynist. The double standard is absolutely toxic and insane that nobody cares about this and women can just destroy men’s lives with absolutely no care of what happens to him, yet what would affect him more in his life is his view of women, more than how that woman affected his entire life outcome.
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The ‘Manosphere’ Isn’t a Movement. It’s a Multibillion-Dollar Grievance Industry
https://www.wired.com/story/the-manosphere-isnt-a-movement-its-a-multibillion-dollar-grievance-industry/
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I am convinced, the enemy is not "feminism", it's the level of thinking that simplifies society - we should be able to call this out and reject it with passion, even in arguments that favour men.
TL:DR - Making simplifications is inherently discriminatory, no matter what the outcome is. Every equality activist should call-out statements that:
1. Group huge populations into a single thing. There is no average "man", "woman", "feminist", "father" (e.g. "men are ...")
2. Make comparisons about which gender suffers more (who cares)
3. Utilise generalized assumptions for society like Rape-Culture (they exclude people who don't belong there).
This is the enemy, not "feminism". And we don't fight the enemy by becoming exactly the same.
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In the root of so many erroneous beliefs stands simplifying society. And it is simplification that enables a discriminatory sentence. We keep listening to things like...
>men are responsible for their... [fill in blank\]
>men are more [fill in blank\] than women
>women are not... [fill in blank\]
>feminists want... [fill in blank\]
>boys must... [fill in blank\]
>women did not vote until... [fill in blank\]
>men in dating... [fill in blank\]
>women their whole lives are afraid of... [fill in blank\]"
>men are expected to.... [fill in blank\]"
>the rape culture does... [fill in blank\]
>Patriarchy has... [fill in blank\]
How on earth, can we make a generic statement about these things, when in today's time and age, we cannot even precisely define what is a man and a woman. And that is for a good cause: we do not anymore group people. We do not group people of colour, we do not group Jews, we do not group religious people. And the reason is that we understood, that nothing good come come out of that.
To make a more concrete example: Anyone who would say something like... "XX population are criminals" would be banished to be a societal Pariah. And rightfully so. Yes, statistic indicates higher % of said population of incarcerated people compared to free people, but that means nothing about "XX are criminals". It can mean a lot of things, that are created in a complicated language, so that accuracy is preserved. Maybe... within this population a higher percentage (say 30% more amounting to a whopping 3% instead of 2%) of people are criminals. Maybe this population is discriminated against by police and courts, maybe this population is exposed to worse circumstances, maybe all of it together.
But somehow, when we are talking about men and women... our thinking goes out of the window.
You know... It's possible that many phenomena are present.
Maybe the population of women is producing both victims and oppressors and perpetrators.
Maybe a single male experiences oppression and also oppresses someone else in the same day.
Maybe the healthcare system discriminates against males are discriminated against when it comes getting help for depression and against females when it comes to getting help for heart disease.
Maybe men live 4 years less on average, because they have a genetic predisposition AND because of societal reasons.
Maybe women exhibit higher averages of empathy and also manipulation.
Maybe a single employer discriminates both in favour of women (by making easier hires for entry level positions) and in favour of them (by making them less likely to be promoted).
And statistics is a bitch. Reducing a population to an average (and a median if one is talking to a cultured person) is saying almost nothing about this population:
To make an example, consider the statement... "the average woman has 0.8 kids." That means nothing... The population of women who are 60+ and had families with children has nothing in common with the average woman in her 20s who is a mother. A woman with two children has way more different life and needs than a woman who has 0 children and lives a "trying phase".
We see logic going out of the window even in cases where High-School knowledge is necessary. For
Psychological distress isolates men more than women, according to a 14-year study.
I find this research very important. On one hand it explains a lot of social phenomena we are seeing.
I find it however plagued from the typical BS that plagues other research. Despite the impressive number of subjects, it refers to NZ population, which is important, as the social structures come into play.
On the other hand, there are hard data (isolation + reported feelings) and then there are inferences that they don't analyse, that all stem from a statement they make:
"Because traditional gender roles position men as self-reliant and stoic, experiencing mental ill health is seen as incongruent with masculinity. " - is this a self fulfilled predicament or rather an externally imposed issue? That affects a lot the solution to the problem.
My anecdotal experience as a male asking for help: I have gotten some support, I have gotten support on wrong assumptions and more rejection than both of those.
https://www.psypost.org/psychological-distress-isolates-men-more-than-women-according-to-a-14-year-study/
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@manpill
What are some good counter arguments to 'men are responsible for their own problems and not feminists'?
Use analogies wherever necessary
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was full of before I did.
Sit there for a long time. Eventually get up and brush my teeth. Go to bed even though it's only 10:00.
Lie in the dark. Think about Monday. Think about going back to work.
Think about my nice office and my successful career.
Think about coming home to my nice condo alone.
Think about next weekend and the weekend after that and all the weekends stretching out ahead.
Think about being 40 and alone. 50 and alone. 60 and alone. Is this what I want? Did I choose this or did I build a prison out of standards and call it self-respect?
Close my eyes. See that guy's face again. Hear his voice. Until you figure out what you're actually offering, you're going to keep being disappointed. He's right. I hate that he's right, but he's right.
Fall asleep finally. Dream about lists. Long lists of requirements. Checking boxes. Nothing ever checking all the boxes.
Wake up with a headache. Saturday morning alone like always.
Check my phone. No messages except one from Sarah asking if I'm okay.
Don't respond. Lie in bed. Think about everything.
Think about changing. Think about lowering my standards.
No, not lowering. Maybe just examining them.
Maybe just being honest about what I can actually offer in exchange for what I'm demanding.
Maybe just being willing to be vulnerable.
Maybe just being willing to build something instead of demanding someone arrive fully built.
Get up eventually. Make coffee. Sit on my balcony. Nice view. Nice condo. Nice life. Empty life.
Think about texting Sarah back. Think about asking if that guy might want to try again.
No, too humiliating. But also, what do I have to lose besides my pride? And what has my pride gotten me?
Sit there with my coffee thinking. Maybe I'll text Sarah.
Maybe I won't. Maybe I'll figure out what I actually bring to the table.
Maybe I'll keep pretending I don't need to sit there alone, successful, independent, entitled, insufferable, and finally finally aware of
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@manpill
Sit with my phone in my hand, not really looking at anything.
Think about what my therapist used to say. She said something about how I tend to find problems in everyone I date. Said it might be a defense mechanism. I told her that was ridiculous. I just have standards. She asked what I was protecting myself from by keeping everyone at arms length. I stopped going after that session. Clearly, she didn't understand me. I look at the clock. It's 9 now.
Think about tomorrow's plans. I don't have any Sunday either. Another weekend alone. By choice, obviously.
Get up and wash my wine glass. Catch my reflection in the kitchen window. 34 years old, successful career, nice condo, good life. So, why does that guy's question keep echoing in my head? What do you bring to the table? I bring everything. I bring myself. That should be enough. The right man would think that's enough. sit back down on the couch, pull up social media, scroll through photos of friends with their partners. Everyone looks happy, probably just for the photos, though. Probably fighting when the cameras are off. And see a post from Jessica about her husband surprising her with flowers just because. Roll my eyes, but also feel something twist in my chest. When was the last time anyone gave me flowers? Probably that guy I dated four years ago who turned out to be awful. See, Rachel posted about her boyfriend making her favorite dinner after a hard day. Comments full of people saying how sweet he is.
Think about how I make my own dinners after hard days because I'm independent because I don't need anyone to take care of me.
Close social media. Open my messages. Scroll through old conversations. A lot of conversations that just ended. A lot of guys who stopped responding. A lot of guys I stopped responding to. Mostly the latter because they weren't good enough. because they didn't meet my standards. Because I deserve better.
Think about that guy today asking if I'm supportive. Of course, I'm supportive. I would be supportive to the right person. It's not my fault. I haven't met the right person.
Open a new bottle of wine. Definitely shouldn't. But here we are.
Think about what he said about wanting someone to make my life easier while making his harder. That's not what I want. I want partnership. I want equality. I want someone who enhances my life. Isn't that what everyone wants?
Sit there drinking wine and thinking. Think about my requirements. Successful but not too busy. Ambitious but available. Makes good money but will split housework equally regardless of income disparity. Emotionally intelligent but not too sensitive. Stable but passionate. Feminist but masculine. Write them all out on my phone. Stare at the list. Is it long?
Maybe it's long. But women are allowed to have standards. We're told to have standards. We're told not to settle. Delete the list. Feel worse somehow.
Pour more wine. Think about my friends again. They all settled. Clearly, they're with men who don't check all the boxes. But they seem happy. Happier than me.
No, that's the wine talking again. I'm happy. I'm very happy. I have everything I want. Except I'm alone on a Friday night drinking wine and spiraling. But that's just tonight. Most nights I'm fine. Great. Even think about what that guy said about turning systemic issues into personal entitlements. That's not what I'm doing. I'm just aware of what women face. I'm just protecting myself. I'm just making sure I don't end up like my mother, doing everything while my father did nothing.
Wait, is that what this is about? No, this is about having standards. This is about knowing my worth. This is about not settling.
Finish another glass. My head is starting to hurt.
Think about texting that guy to tell him off properly. realize I don't have his number. Probably for the best. He was an anyway. But also, what if he was right?
No, he wasn't right. He was trying to manipulate me. He was trying to make me doubt myself. Classic male tactic. Undermine a woman's confidence so she'll lower her standards. I see right through it.
She falsely accused innocent man of rape and left his life in ruins
https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/uk-news/falsely-accused-innocent-man-rape-34169390.amp
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@manpill
There is a matrilineal society in India. Men often lack basic human rights. Journalists celebrate it as "woman empowerment"
I will just greet you with this small extreme condensed paragraph from wikipedia. I am writing a grand article on it, and I will release it soon. But I beleive all of us should be aware of this. We have so many issues we are fighting for but i believe nowhere men are as approached as these. All these are happening in a small part of Indian subcontinent, the north east sister states.
What bugs me most is how these injustices are celebrated by them as "women empowerment", "freedom for women" and "benefits to society", the shameless of these group of people including award winning journalists and others at the end is baffling. By the end of this short piece, you will know the entire variety of problem a person can face in his lifetime arising from social and economic discrimination regardless of his caste, creed, gender and religion are faced by these men all together at once.
Women have a dominant role in the matrilineal society of Meghalaya.
The youngest daughter of the family, the Ka Khadduh, inherits all ancestral property
After marriage, husbands live in the mother-in-law's home.
The mother's surname is taken by children.
When no daughters are born to a couple, they adopt a daughter and pass their rights to property to her. The birth of a girl is celebrated while the birth of a son is simply accepted.
There is no social stigma attributed to a woman remarrying or giving birth out of wedlock as the "Khasi Social Custom Lineage Act" gives security to them.
Most small businesses are managed by women.
Care of children is the responsibility of mothers or mothers-in-law.
The youngest daughter of this society who inherits the ancestral property holds a pivotal role of looking after the welfare of her parents in their old age, as well as the welfare and education of her siblings.
Apart from these wiki ones, here are some more:
If a child takes his father's last name, he is excluded from the society.
A man can not marry outside the tribe.
Domestic violence specifically defines it as men committing it against women, so men have no remedy in that aspect.
# The shameless people arrive here:
Some Khasi men perceive themselves to be accorded a secondary status. They have established societies such as the Syngkhong Rympei Thymmai (SRT)[(3,000 members)and Sam Kam Rin Ku Mai (Societal Restructuring Association) to protect equal rights for men. They express that "Khasi men don’t have any security, they don’t own land, they don’t run the family business and, at the same time, they are almost good for nothing."
However, Patricia Mukhim, who edits the Shillong Times feels: "I tend to think Khasi men feel diminished in their manhood compared with outsiders... it's a pity, because that's what distinguishes us from the others"
However, women feel that they take better care of money matters than men and they enjoy economic freedom.
The padmashri award winning person (one of the highest civilian award in India) says the same patriarchal thing but ofc since it's woman no one's gonna say anything: "The khashi men have to make their own identity by contributing to society" - remeber the society that makes them 3rd class citizen, society that doesn't give them equal economic rights, shame on this award winning losers. "You can't have two head, just one" \- shame on this person. "[Addressing people who no longer take their mothers surname\] And ask those who choose their fathers’ titles over those of their mothers—which parent has truly reared them.” \- shame on this person once again.
While it's not wonder that certain elements of injustice against women are prevalent including certain isolated elements of patriarchy but the presence of one injustice doesn't justify the other. And the ones who say so are hypocrites.
Keith Pariat was quoted as saying: If it's a girl, there will be great cheers from the family outside. If it's a boy, you will
“Pending Corruptions of Justice at April 2026.” Men's advocate Dr Rick Bradford draws attention to some of his previous blogs before describing some proposed changes. Very UK focused. Not as thorough or as exquisitely argued as some of his other posts. I will post a few extracts in the comments.
http://empathygap.uk/?p=4834
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I really hate how the term ‘incel’ has been hijacked by feminists and extremists
I believe that those men single and lonely who really know in their bones who cannot get sex or relationships because of their looks that don’t meet the threshold to obtain relationships deserve to have an answer as to why that is. Especially when they start to hit their 30’s and 40’s.
Incel as I have understood has always just meant ‘never had a relationship and unable to despite trying’ and has been about the prejudice of lookism in society and how that affects relationship and workplace dynamics and how in some ways can literally destroy your life.
Instead, feminists and ignorant men have decided to define it as ‘Elliott Rodger sympathiser who advocates for the rape and murder of all women.’
https://redd.it/1ueiv45
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West Bengal to give grant to female college students to increase participation rate and decrease dropout rate. Plot twist - female participation rate is already higher and dropout rate lower than male
Basically, what the title says.
>unmarried female students enrolling in undergraduate programmes at government and government-aided colleges will be eligible for a one-time grant of Rs. 50,000.
>The scheme was presented as part of the state budget, with the administration stating that the support aims to improve college participation among women and reduce dropout rates.
Plot twist - female participation rate is already higher and dropout rate lower than male
Sources in:
West Bengal to give grant to female college students to increase participation rate and decrease dropout rate. Plot twist - female participation rate is already higher and dropout rate lower than male : r/SystemicSexism
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