Discussion People love watching you overcome your struggles. They get uncomfortable when you no longer need them.
Not because they're evil or secretly jealous. Sometimes your problems gave them a comfortable role in your life. They were the sensible one, the successful one, the person you went to for advice. Then you start doing better, making decisions without consulting them, and suddenly you're "different." I've noticed that people are often more comfortable with someone overcoming a tragedy than simply outgrowing the version of themselves everyone was familiar with. We love a comeback story, provided we still get to be part of the audience. Maybe an underrated part of personal growth is accepting that some people will experience your happiness as the loss of their importance.
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If something is stressing you out or bothering you, how do you resolve it? Step by step what do you do? text
Question in title.
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discussion can unfinished goals in life lead to lower confidence?
For 10 yrs I've been feeling low in life to a point even my personality has changed. Majority of people say become strong and get your life together. Stop being soft and slow. And I don't know why I let such things like failure, shame,fears and social anxiety keep me stagnant.
Deep down I know nothing will change unless I make the changes. Whether it's toughning out , making the hard choices and simply being determined and consistent with it. But I still don't understand what is holding me back. What is the road block. Is it my old pattern and routine. Is it lack of self belief and confidence. Am I avoiding hard work and failures. Am I avoiding stress that comes.
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Discussion What actually helped you stop skipping workouts when motivation disappeared?
Motivation is great when it shows up, but it doesn't always cooperate with real life. Some days you're tired from work, some days the weather is terrible, and sometimes you simply don't feel like doing anything.
I've found the idea of making a workout easier to start interesting. A short session at home can feel much more manageable than committing to a long trip to the gym.
But I'm curious what has made the biggest difference for other people.
Did you build a simple home gym, set a minimum number of minutes, follow a written plan, or stop relying on motivation altogether?
What helped you turn exercise into a habit even on days when you weren't feeling particularly motivated?
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discussion only way to become strong is literally doing it?
I noticed the only person that can help is yourself. And becoming strong is the only way out like we can cry, make excuses and blame the world but none of it will matter. Because if the ultimate goal is to become independent capable worthy and strong, you have to face life on your own. Whether it's learning from observing someone else life or just going thru struggle life has to offer. But many elderly folks I observed like I learned that faith matters a lot and self trust.
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Greg Plitt - Start Today video
Some words from Greg Plitt before an early morning lifting session
https://youtu.be/hxu1CQaloQs?t=950&si=gCVBXdytN2KO1aY3
19:35
RIP
Not my video
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Discussion Do I still have time to turn my life around at 35 years old?
I struggle with self motivation.
I know what I need to do and have goals. I have good steaks of getting work done and accomplishing them with good routines, then I fall off and have to start back over again. When things get hard w work or a goal, I get cold feet and tend to avoid, distract, or scroll instead of work on the goal… much like what I’m doing now.
I’ve recognized that taking action instead of overthinking has been a big factor in my growth, but I can’t seem to shake the feeling that I’ll be a failure or I’m an imposter or that I’ll never be the person I want to be.
This has been a cycle of mine for a long time and I’m tired of it. I want to change but I feel stuck. It’s me - I get in my own way. But how do I change?
Did anyone move past a big personal hurdle and change their life for good?
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Story Ever since I decided to get closer to a girl, things in my life started to get worse.
Everything seemed to be fine in my life. I have a job I enjoy because I get to do what I love. My family supports me (finally) on what I do. I was starting to feel happy. And I had this coworker I used to chat with, a lot, every time I had some free time, during coffee breaks, or when my students were absent, or such.
The thing is: I really enjoyed spending time with her, there were times I went to work just because I knew she would be there, my mood changed for better when I saw her.
That's until I decided 'hey! Wouldn't it be nice if I tried to get closer to her? Maybe a nice friendship could get born, maybe something else...'
The following week after I thought that, another coworker told me she was leaving the job 'cause she found a better one. After hearing that I put my headphones on and decided I didn't want to hear any more.
When I got back home I cried a lot and did not sleep for almost 10 days. It's not that I'm not happy for her, it's just that I miss her energy, I miss being around her and our workplace has really changed since she's gone.
I lost all motivation not only at work but also to live. Last time I saw her was for her birthday, when she visited us and I had the chance to greet her in person. Since then I tried to message her, to which she replied but I've noticed she was kind of not interested, which to me is really sad.
What can I do to feel happier? Do you have any advice? I tried manifestation but so far it didn't work, and things have worsen because I had some family issues after trying that method and everything almost got destroyed.
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Discussion What's one home gym improvement you're proud of that cost almost nothing?
Not every home gym upgrade needs to be a new machine or an expensive accessory.
Sometimes the most satisfying improvement is finally organizing the weights, clearing enough floor space to move comfortably, repairing something small, or finding a better place for the bench.
What's one improvement you've made to your home gym that cost little or nothing but made a real difference?
I'd love to hear about the small projects that turned out better than expected.
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text this helped me be a little more productive
tried getting all my stuff done in the first half of the day and leaving the evening just to relax without feeling guilty about it. it's easier for me to focus in the morning and not get distracted, and by the time evening came i was actually glad i did it, could finally chill without thinking about all the things i still needed to do
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[Video] I made, to try motivate myself from stop dreaming and to take the next step to realizing my goal
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What finally got you moving when motivation kept fading after a few days? Discussion
I used to set big goals that felt important in the moment, then lose the thread once the initial push wore off and the daily stuff started feeling random again. A couple months back I tried Improve Myself app after hearing about the weekly reflection research, and the setup had me spell out the actual obstacles instead of just listing outcomes. It turned that into a short daily Blueprint with specific actions and a quick journal note, so the motivation piece became more about checking whether the thing I did matched what I said I wanted rather than waiting to feel ready. The learner identity angle made it click differently too, less about forcing progress and more about treating the small steps as proof I could actually shift the pattern.
The daily tasks stay short enough that I don’t talk myself out of them, but the journal keeps me honest about whether I’m just staying busy or actually moving toward the clearer outcome. How long did it take before your daily actions started feeling connected to the bigger picture instead of just another checklist? And what made the difference between goals you dropped and ones that stuck once the early motivation faded?
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discussion what to do to get motivated to be in a relationship
So I’m a 24 year old guy who has been single for the past 5+ years. And it’s really been a lonely time right now. I’m seeing certain relationships and my friends getting married and how happy they are. I’ve tried everything from dating apps to going to bars to going to the gym. I’ve tried if every thing I could think of to help get me to be attractive to someone but I just am like in the background.
I’m a very cool, funny, laidback guy who wants to be a great man to someone.
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Discussion What to do if you're a failure overall
I had tried to get better, seen a therapist etc. But nothing works. Basically I just feel empty. Everything feels bad. Nothing gives me pleasure anymore. I've a partner but I'm living a double life because my family won't accept my sexuality even though I have come out to them. So I feel like a failure to my family because I can't fulfil their wishes for grandchildren and traditional family flag posts.
I feel like a failure to my partner because I feel I'm letting him down every day and there's constant tension hanging over us because of my family though we're in a different country.
I have a job which on paper is not bad. But I've been here for 6 years. I have constant self doubt at my job and anxiety coupled with social anxiety. I feel constantly passed over and I can't get a read on people. In my mind everyone hates me or looks down on me. Also a lot of complex over being older than everyone else. And now AI is coming for similar jobs.
I'm introverted and low energy and I've realised my "friends" don't stick around. They call up when they need help but soon as the need is over, calls stop. And you just feel like you're the only one keeping the relationship alive. I guess I'm just boring and also I can't relate to anyone. Maybe I'm just a bad person.
I feel like a mediocrity, which is true, I learned not to justify it. I want to try to do better, challenge myself, I'll get serious about it for a day, but then I just don't see the point and give up. I wanted to get a driver's license, but the classes were tough for me, I couldn't concentrate because of the instructor yelling at me and telling me I sucked and wasn't serious about learning.
I'm 39 and I just feel I don't have anything to live for and it's just slow coasting to the end from here on out.
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Top 100 things to be happy about in life. Text
1. Hot showers
2. Cold showers
3. Celebrating holidays
4. Sunshine
5. Cold weather
6. Going to the pool
7. Delicious food and your favourite foods
8. Hot weather
9. Following people and things you like online
10. Pets
11. Amazing books to read
12. Making new friends
13. Hanging out with old friends
14. Your favourite snacks
15. Warm food after a long cold day
16. Your hobbies
17. Building your career
18. Going out
19. Staying in instead of going out sometimes
20. Instrumental music pieces
21. Exploring genres of music
22. Nature
23. Animals and wildlife
24. Lying on your bed after a great shower or bath
25. Your parents
26. Loose, comfortable clothing
27. Clothing that makes you feel confident in your own body
28. Candles
29. The option to listen to ASMR
30. Getting into bed when you are exhausted
31. Watching the sunset
32. Watching the sunrise
33. Waking up so early on a travel day that you can watch the sunrise
34. Finding a new favourite song and playing it on repeat
35. Finally getting that big promotion
36. Simple, ordinary days that bring you comfort
37. Extraordinary days that you will never forget
38. Stargazing
39. Cloud watching
40. Jumping on the trampoline without a care in the world
41. Staying home from school or work when you’re sick, that feeling of being temporarily freed from the responsibilities
42. Enjoying sweating in a sauna
43. Skinny dipping
44. Hot drinks you love
45. Cold drinks you love
46. Drinks with the boys or girls
47. Intimacy with a partner
48. Your family
49. Being a mother
50. Being a father
51. The belief in god or the belief in love and good morals
52. Seeing your child for the first time
53. Love, just in general
54. Gardening with your own plants
55. Diversity
56. Books and movies about love
57. Your romantic partner
58. Your favourite hoodie
59. Renaissance and fantasy fairs
60. Receiving gifts
61. The free will to decorate your space however you want
62. Great art
63. Globalisation, the fact that you can buy almost anything anywhere
64. The freedom that comes with adult money.
65. Teen love and relationships
66. Video games
67. Great teachers in your life
68. Getting a refund
69. Kitted or crocheted sweaters
70. The smell of rain
71. Fresh herbs and vegetables
72. Amazon prime shipping (if you know, you know)
73. Preserving the memory of your loved ones
74. seeing a beautiful pair of eyes
75. A Great night’s sleep
76. A perfect night’s sleep
77. Actually keeping your plants alive
78. A safe, warm home and place to sleep
79. Feeling attraction to someone
80. Finally telling your crush how you feel
81. Dating your crush
82. Getting married to your best friend
83. Financial stability
84. The excitement of planning a vacation
85. Your honeymoon
86. Going on a vacation in general
87. Your first time being intimate with sommone
88. Long, Long, walks
89. Funky/ Silly socks
90. Building Yourself a gaming PC
91. Playing all through a video game for the first time
92. Your first gaming console
93. Buying the next generation gaming console
94. Thrilling sports and extreme sports
95. Going and exploring somewhere new
96. Flying by plane, helicopter, or even by paragliding or hangliding
97. Returning to your home town after a long time
98. Hiking to beautiful places
99. Finding an object or place you love still in its original condition
100. Meeting a long distance friend or partner for the first time.
This list was written completely by hand by a human, not automated by an AI.
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discussion What's one small thing that made you genuinely happy this week?
What's one small thing that made you genuinely happy this week?
I've been writing down moments of joy for a few weeks (a swim, a quiet coffee, a good song), and I noticed I started seeking those moments out more. Curious if others do something similar.
What's your small joy this week, and do you track it somehow?
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Discussion The boring routine is the one that finally stuck for me
I spent a year in Toronto trying to copy other people's 5am routines. Gym, journal, cold shower, the whole checklist, and I'd burn out by Thursday. What actually stuck was smaller and duller: I open the laptop at the same time, phone stays in another room, and I let the first hour be ugly. I still don't know if that's discipline or just lowering the bar enough to clear it.
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Discussion I use ice water to trick my Coca-Cola brain
Riding a bike in 30°C heat, and then, on the way home, passing those transparent fridges full of perfectly cooled sodas… that was my weakest point. It’s understandable, because a few days earlier perfectly cooled Coca-Cola was my go-to beverage, and my brain had been trained for years to recognize the temptation and fully surrender to it. It’s not hard to imagine that during the first week I slipped. I drank the soda, closing my eyes to feel the pleasure, and then came the feeling of guilt. But I knew it was just a moment, and it wouldn’t change my path forward.
The next day I got on the bike again, but this time I carried a bottle of water with ice. It looked just like those sodas, only filled with plain water. To trick my brain even further, I avoided those fridges for about a week. Then, to test myself, I started stopping in front of them and drinking my own water, to show myself that I had won that battle. It was a small win, but every win counts.
My main point is this: one bad day is just part of the journey, and we need to accept it. A single slip can’t ruin the final goal. What does the damage is repeating the slip until it becomes a habit, and you know where that ends.
Now I use those one-off slips as rewards, because I have built strong training and eating habits. So, listen to your body, and if you feel the need (once in a while) to eat a piece of cake or drink a glass of cola, just do it.
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Discussion Do I still have time to turn my life around at 35 years old?
I struggle with self motivation.
I know what I need to do and have goals. I have good steaks of getting work done and accomplishing them with good routines, then I fall off and have to start back over again. When things get hard w work or a goal, I get cold feet and tend to avoid, distract, or scroll instead of work on the goal… much like what I’m doing now.
I’ve recognized that taking action instead of overthinking has been a big factor in my growth, but I can’t seem to shake the feeling that I’ll be a failure or I’m an imposter or that I’ll never be the person I want to be.
This has been a cycle of mine for a long time and I’m tired of it. I want to change but I feel stuck. It’s me - I get in my own way. But how do I change?
Did anyone move past a big personal hurdle and change their life for good?
Edit: Yes. I have ADHD. Recently diagnosed no meds.
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Discussion Does anyone else feel like "just get motivated" quotes are useless when you're really struggling?
I feel like motivational quotes do very little when you are struggling deeply. What seems to help is someone listening without trying to fix anything. I'm not fully dismissing quotes. I like a good one. But motivation tends to come back after someone feels heard, not before.
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Story I noticed I kept avoiding the things I wanted most because I didn't know how to act when nobody was expecting anything from me
I realized I was much better at working toward things when someone else knew I was supposed to be doing them.
At work, I'd finish something I didn't particularly care about because someone was waiting for it. I'd remember appointments, meet deadlines, and follow through on favors. But something as simple as spending 30 minutes learning something I'd wanted to learn for years? Somehow, that could sit untouched for months.
The weird part was that I wasn't even particularly busy.
One Sunday, around 4:40 PM, I opened a folder containing a project I'd been talking about starting for almost a year. I had the afternoon free. Nobody needed me. Nothing urgent was waiting. I stared at the folder, checked a few messages, made coffee, and eventually started cleaning my desk.
At some point, I caught myself thinking, "I'll do it when things settle down."
Things had literally settled down. That was the entire problem.
I started noticing this pattern elsewhere. I'd be strangely productive when a deadline was approaching, but on a free evening, I'd drift between small chores without touching anything I claimed mattered to me. I could respond to five people's requests before doing one thing for myself.
I used to interpret this as poor discipline. But I think part of it was that other people's expectations gave my time a structure I didn't know how to create for myself. When nobody was waiting, I treated my own intentions as optional, even when they were the things I cared about most.
I tried a couple of small changes.
First, I stopped asking myself what I felt like doing with a completely free evening. Instead, I'd decide on one specific thing before the evening arrived. Not a schedule for every minute, just something like opening the draft and writing one paragraph before dinner.
Second, I started treating promises to myself as actual commitments, but without making them dramatic. If I said I'd read ten pages, I read ten pages. I didn't turn missing a day into a whole investigation into my character.
The surprising part was that I didn't need to become more demanding with myself. I needed to stop assuming that something only deserved my time when another person could see its value.
I'm still inconsistent with this. Sometimes I genuinely need rest, and sometimes I use that explanation to avoid something uncomfortable. I'm getting better at telling those apart, but not perfectly.
I've also started wondering whether being dependable to everyone else can occasionally become a socially acceptable way of neglecting yourself. Nobody complains, because you're still doing everything you're supposed to do.
Does anyone else find it easier to show up for obligations than for the things they genuinely want for themselves? I'm curious what that looks like in your life, especially when you technically have the time but somehow never seem to use it.
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Story Day 117: My son was scared of me. Today he counts my pushups.
Day 117 sober. No alcohol, no tobacco, no Chitta.
I want to share what changed me, not just how many days I am sober.
2 years ago, my 14-year-old son was scared of me. When I came home drunk, he would go to another room. My wife would not talk. I was a father only on paper.
Today is different. This morning my son counted my pushups - "Papa 18, 19, 20!" - and we laughed. He sits with me when I read 【entity-Gita¦canonical\\_name=Gita】. We eat together. He is not scared now. He is proud.
What changed? One line I read on Oct 13 - I am attaching its screenshot with this post. It says:
"Zindagi me har sangharsh aapko kuch sikhane aata hai.
Shuruat me wahi sangharsh aapko mazboot banata hai,
aur waqt ke saath wahi aapko tajurba, samajh aur aage badhne ki himmat deta hai.
Isliye mushkilon se haar mat maniye."
This is true for me.
My sangharsh taught me:
\\- Day 1 to Day 30: I learned how to sleep without alcohol. I used to drink to sleep.
\\- Day 31 to Day 82: I learned how to say NO. On Day 82, I saw my friend cut his wrist for Chitta. That day I could have gone back, but I said NO.
\\- Day 83 to Day 117 today: I learned how to be a FATHER again.
I have only 3 rules. I tell my son only these 3. No 4th rule.
Study: 10 min 【entity-Gita¦canonical\\_name=Gita】 in the morning. It makes my mind clear.
Eat: With family, no phone. Whatever my mother makes.
Play: 20 pushups when urge comes. I say Jai Shri Ram. My son counts.
This is my Method. This is not motivation. This is my daily life from Kanina, Haryana, India.
If you are on Day 1, please don't think about Day 117. Just think about today. One day at a time.
Your struggle today is making you stronger for tomorrow. It will give you experience to help someone else tomorrow.
If you need help in India, call 14416 Tele-MANAS. It's free and confidential. You are not alone.
If this post helps even one father to go home sober tonight, my 117 days will be worth it.
Stay disciplined brothers.
IWNDWYT. Jai Shri Ram.
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What’s a motto, saying, thought, or phrase you go to often that impacts your mindset? Discussion
I have one that I go to so often and I’m wondering if anyone else has something like this. Mine is “what if this was awesome” or, if awesome is too out of reach in that moment, “what if this was fine”. Just contemplating what it would take for me to get to “awesome” or “fine” makes me realize that it’s very often not a huge stretch. If things are boring, hard, strenuous, painful, etc. this is something that directly impacts how I respond.
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[STORY]: I just passed me CFA level 3 in second attempt and I was really happy until I wasn't?
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[Story] I survived stage 4 Hodgkin’s lymphoma, and the 1,615 origami cranes I folded during my darkest days eventually became this.
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[Story] Do not give up on yourself. (Me saying this while being on the ledge every damn day.)
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