LPT: You can gain confidence by believing that you are confident.
Back then, I used to be very insecure. I believed that confidence is a feeling which comes from within, which now I belirve is a complete lie.
Here are five tips you might need to apply on your life:
1. Speak just a bit slowly: I used to speak very fast because I was insecure while talking and trust me , human mind easily percieves that this person is feeling insecure just by this small cue. So if you speak slowly as if you don't care even if the people will ignore you, people naturally percieve you as confident and as if you have something good to say. You naturally become important in thier eyes.
2. Fix your body posture: Back then, I used to have a very dull body posture. I didn't worked on my body and as a reuslt, my back has became tilted. This thing created a loop where people see my dull look and percieve me as wierd and insecure and they don't give me importance amd I become more insecure and all. Until I started to walk and sit with my back striaght. No insecure look, and people noticed it instantly. Suddenly I was seen as thr most confident in thr whole room. And the best part? Thry don't even know why they were percieving me as confident which was further attracting them towards me.
3. Make eye contact just a bit longer: This is more about you, then others. Insecure people tend to make no eye contact with the people and overtime, our brain has made making eye contact as being confident. So when you make eye contact with someone while talking just a few seocnds longer, it indirectly sends a signal to your brain that you are confident.
4. Tell yourself rejection won't affect you: Why you feel insecure? Because you dear people might point out your insecurities and bully you for it. Which is a very valid concern. But just ask your mind, even if they do, what's the first which could happen? Maybe you eill cut them out of your life andnits good because you threw out the trash. People who point out towards others insecurities are insecure on thier own. You might have observed this behaviour on you too, most of the time you are judging something for something is a thing your insecure about it too. Just tell yourself even if they point out, you always have the opportunity to leave them and even if you can't leave them, you have the choice to not care about thier opinions because you know how shallow they are.
5. Act in ways you percieve as confidence: Ask yourself what according to you is confidence? If confidence according to you is the ability to approach people directly without fearing anything, than do it too. If confidence to you is expressing yourself without any dear like singing out loud than do it. Even if it feels scary, but once you do it even if you get a negative reaction. Your mind doesn't percieve that thing as threat anymore and because thr worse has already happened, you naturally start to do it more because anything worse couldn't happen and you will feel it.
Try these tips on your life and tell me the results after a week.
Set a timer in comments and come back to tell me the reuslts. I will like to hear it.
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LPT: Hit up grocery stores the day after major holidays to save some cash
Without a doubt the days that have the most discounted perishable items are the days after major holidays. If your local grocer has areas in the produce, meat, bakery, etc where they put reduced items, check them out. You can often times find things that were only ordered in for the holidays and/or find items that have a short shelf life that they made before the holiday, but have reached their "sell by" date. You can freeze most of it and reuse it later. The place I shop at had a pile of meat in their reduced area for nearly half off. So if your local grocer is closed on major holidays, pop in the day after and give it a look.
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LPT: Foaming soap dispensers are a ripoff - Refill it with regular hand soap and dilute it down to about 25% soap and 75% water to save money.
Foaming soap dispensers are roughly only 10% to 25% soap, the rest is water. It's a scam by the manufacturers to get you to pay more for less.
But foaming soap dispensers are cool, so don't abandon them completely, just dilute a regular hand soap refill down so it works easily in the foaming dispenser. Remember, we all need to save money to pay all those tariffs.
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LPT: Easy way to stop nearly any online company from illegally/unethically charging your credit card - including Adobe's unethical if not illegal 'early termination fee'
For most online shops and subscription services, once you give them a credit or debit card #, you're cooked: They won't allow you to remove it as an active form of payment. They insist that you have one active form of payment. (Which should itself be illegal.)
And many of them make also it difficult to near-impossible to cancel subscriptions and/or your account with them, with all kinds of dark UX patterns.
Or like Adobe, they may go even further, and a "Monthly Subscription" is actually an annual subscription paid monthly, spelled out in hundreds of pages of legalese that you agreed to by giving them money. And if you try to cancel, rather than let you pay for and use the rest of your "agreed" term - they charge you the rest of it all at once (not over months), and kill your service right then.
Then of course these companies are notorious for lax security and data breaches, and not storing your payment information securely. Now your CC and personally identifying information is everywhere.
The solution:
# Replace your CC with PayPal, ApplePay, or GooglePay - then deauthorize payment to them on your end.
Steps:
1. Add one of those (PP, AP, or GP) as an additional payment option.
2. Make it your default payment option.
3. Remove your credit card as a payment option.
4. Now go to PayPal (or ApplePay, GooglePay, etc.) settings, and remove the offending merchant as an authorized payee.
That's it! The merchant can never charge you again. (Unless you explicitly allow them to with a new agreement.)
# It's also way more secure.
When you use one of those methods, the only thing the merchant is able to store, is your necessary PayPal [etc\] public ID, your address if they are shipping something to you, and a cryptographically secure token that uniquely identifies the specific agreement between you, the merchant, and the payment vendor - just for that specific transaction of recurring payment. That's it.
The token can't be used by anyone else to charge you, if it leaks in a data breach. (Unless the merchant's account and login credentials are also stolen, in which case then they are absolutely f---ed.)
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LPT if your glasses lose a screw almost any glasses business in the world will repair them for free.
My wife didn't know this. We're traveling from the US in Australia right now and her reading glasses fell apart. I told her to go to the closest glasses store and ask them to fix it. She returned a few minutes later with fixed glasses and no fee!
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LPT: You can beat your self doubt by acknowledging it.
Self doubt is the most loving part of you.
We often times tend to show self doubt in negative light which I agree, it prohibits you from achieving anything and stagnated you.
But instead of demonising it, I would like to compare it with a overprotective parent, a parent who don't want bad for thier child, who don't want to see him suffering. That's why they protect the child from anything because they are too caring too let him go.
Similar with self doubt, it maybe know how hurt you will be if you fail. It has seen you cry , it has seen the vulnerable side of you. It has seen you when you were outgoing and risk taking.
It has seen everything and maybe that's why it has started to protect yourself being the most loving oart of you because it don't want to see you hurt.
The intention is so innocent. so demonising it is not worth it.
Maybe it just want assurance, assurance that you will suruvive if you fail. That you will suruvive even if you lose everything.
And once you start to prove yourself in small ways, it start to become quieter, quieter until it realises it's job is done, now you no longer need it and it leaves you finally.
I know this won't be easy. But you have to do it slowly, lovingly and gently because your self doubt is also a part of you.
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LPT: If you're prediabetic or diabetic and struggling with breakfast, make high-protein pancakes using whey protein powder to control blood sugar and stay full longer.
A lot of people with prediabetes or diabetes skip breakfast or eat the wrong foods, which can spike blood sugar and leave you feeling hungry all day. A simple fix that has helped me is making protein pancakes using a low-carb whey protein powder (like Premier Protein).
You just mix a scoop of protein powder, two eggs, a little almond flour, and baking powder. It cooks just like pancakes but keeps your carbs low and your protein high. I usually pair it with turkey bacon, scrambled eggs, and black coffee. It feels like a full, normal breakfast without wrecking your blood sugar.
High-protein, low-carb meals help stabilize blood sugar, prevent insulin spikes, keep you full for hours, and can even help with weight loss if you're intermittent fasting like I am. Plus, it still feels like you're eating real food instead of being stuck with bland "diet" meals.
This works way better than cereal, toast, or fruit-heavy breakfasts, which cause blood sugar spikes even if they seem healthy.
Small changes like this make a huge difference if you're trying to manage or reverse prediabetes.
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LPT how to win at battleship
1.Avoid the most-guessed places (part 1). After playing a lot of Battleship, and observing the most routinely guessed locations, I've discovered that columns 1, 5, and 10 are literally the most highly guessed columns EVERY TIME. If you want to hide your ships the stealthiest, always avoid putting them in these columns.
2.Avoid the most-guessed places (part 2). In addition to avoiding columns 1, 5, and 10, also avoid anywhere that you can easily say, or that rolls off the tongue easily. People tend to naturally--guess the places that they can easily say. I don't know why this is, per se, but it's a fact (just put it to the test). Such places are: B2, J9, E3, I9, etc. Therefore...
3.Put your ships in harder-to-say locations. Things that don't roll off the tongue easily will be your best bet for hiding your ships. This takes way more thought and strategic placement, which in turn, yields better results and more wins for you! Such places to put your ships are: H8, I2, F6, C7, etc.
4.Use more vertical ship locations. If you place your ships mostly vertical, it will help them get hit a lot less. Horizontal ships take up a lot more space over more columns, giving your opponent an advantage to finding them sooner. When someone is scanning their board for your ships, they will tend to look across the board (more then they look up and down the board) for a guess, meaning they will start looking at the horizontal spaces and gaps (naturally) when determining where they think your ships are. My guess is that it's probably natural because (in North America and a lot of other countries) we read left to right horizontally. So, if you place them vertically, you reduce your chances of the ships being found. Now, instead of your opponent seeing the gap on their board and guessing your ship at A1, A2, A3, and A4....your ship is now hidden better at A3, B3, C3, and D3 (for example). Just by reading those two sets of four (A1-A4 and A3-D3), did you notice it was easier to quickly read A1-A4 and that your brain kind of "hiccups" or "stutters" (aka you had to read it a little slower) trying to adjust to reading A3-D3? See the reason why that is next...
4a. Once your ship has been found, the natural guess for your opponent is to guess in numerical order. This is just how our brains are taught to function (for example, when you're taught to count, you say 1, 2, 3, 4). Therefore, when your opponent guesses, they will most likely guess the next number horizontally after the "hit" location on your ship. If your ships are horizontal (A1, A2, A3, A4) they will be sunk in a hurry. If they are vertical, you will buy some time while your opponent tries to figure out which way your ship is facing.
5. Keep your ships in closer-knit groups. As you can see in the second picture, my first two ships are vertically placed in columns 2 and 3 within a shorter distance of each other. You will also note that the other three ships are in a little group near the mid-bottom right of the board. When people are guessing where they think your ships are, they tend to guess sporadically. For instance, if they sink a ship at F6-I6, their next guesses will be somewhere further away from that (as if they gained a big victory in that one location and now it's time to move elsewhere). So keeping your ships closer together will result in being hit (and sunk) less. Just be sure not to put your ships so close together that their squares are touching horizontally or vertically (diagonally is OK). Otherwise, when your opponent hits one ship and starts guessing other squares around it, they might start destroying a second ship in the process.
NOTE: Even after your opponent sinks a vertical ship, it's very rare that they start guessing more vertical spaces. So don't worry, this usually doesn't effect the above tips at all. Most people just stick to habit :)
6. Leave some empty space. This tip is just GREAT! It's funny to watch your opponent guessing all these spots in your gap area--and getting annoyed that
LPT: If you want to print stuff for free, check your local library
You could honestly make a megathread about stuff associated with public libraries, but this is one I don't see being talked about.
If you don't want to print large amounts of paper or just don't own a printer in the first place, see if your library offers free printing up to a certain page count. Mine lets you print thirty pages a week, while I've heard some areas let you do fifty pages a week.
This is going to be highly dependent on the area you live in, but it doesn't hurt to ask.
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LPT: How to deal with emotional blackmail in relationships
I'm 18M and my ex (18F) and I were together since we were 16, same school , same class.
I broke up recently because she became superr (i didn't know how she became and what the hell happened) insecure, obsessive, and emotionally draining.
I believe I know her really well — she's a topper in our class, and I'm not as good as her, but we used to vibe really well. She’s cute, beautiful, and perfect for me in so many ways. She gets me, understands me, and everything seemed perfect.
But in the past few weeks, she’s been getting way more insecure, obsessive, and emotionally blackmailing me over the smallest things. She doubts me over little things, and it’s just... irritating. (now it seems like im arguing with who just get emotional and start sending crying emojis if I don't agree with her)
After the breakup, she’s been threatening to harm herself if I don't talk to her. She keeps spamming me on WhatsApp with crying messages, sad quotes, and emotional blackmail.
She told almost all her friends that I’m "trying to leave her," and now they stalk and text me non-stop asking me to talk to her.
I deleted all my social media and made this anonymous account just to breathe, but she still has my number and won't stop messaging.
Neither of us wants our families involved, because if it gets out, it'll explode badly (we're both just Class XII passouts and from strict families).
I'm trying to focus on my NEET preparation and coding, but I feel completely trapped between guilt and pressure.
I don't hate her and I don’t want anything bad to happen to her, but I also can't live my life like this anymore, tied down by emotional blackmail.
(i tried to explain her about my situation that i need a break from this and her changing behaviour, but all she got doubt and emotional blackmail)
I REALLY NEED SERIOUS, PRACTICAL ADVICE.
How do I get out of this mess without making her situation worse and without ruining my own future?
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LPT Advice: how to become a better conversationalist?
I feel like I’m an interesting enough person, I have plenty of interests in loads of different movies/songs/tv shows, I stay mildly up to date on current events, I love learning niche facts about things so in my head I have a great foundation for starting convos but whenever I’m talking to someone knew my mind blanks on coming up with a topic to talk about. Now if someone brings up a topic I know about I’ll have no problem keeping a conversation going but I struggle with coming up with them myself and it makes me really self conscience when in a new group.
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LPT - Record the people, places, and moments of your life!
One day your going to be old, and what a shame it will have been that you didn't capture the people you loved, the places you visited or the moments you experienced throughout your life.
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LPT: As you age, make sure you can always do these 3 things …
1. Get out of a chair without using your arms.
2. Get up off the floor without assistance. Any way that works!
3. Bend down and touch your toes.
These are good signs of strength and flexibility. If you find that your ability to do these things is diminished, work on what you need to do keep these abilities.
This tip isn’t meant for anyone with an injury or illness that would preclude these activities.
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LPT: When you’re feeling lazy, tell yourself you only need to work for 5 minutes. Most of the time, you’ll end up doing more once you get started
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LPT: I accidentally found the fastest way to get water out of your ear (better than hopping around)
So I had water stuck deep in my ear (you know that annoying feeling where it won’t come out no matter what you do).
Instead of hopping around or using my hand as a suction cup, I tried this random thing:
1: Tilt your head so your blocked ear is facing down.
2:. Start moving your upper body up and down strongly, like bowing but quicker, without using your legs too much.
3: Slightly bend your knees while doing it (don’t keep your legs totally stiff).
4: The momentum just shot the water out instantly. No pain, no struggle.
I’m calling it the slingshot method. It worked first try. Thought I’d share in case anyone else gets stuck like I did.
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LPT: Use PowerPoint to keep your screen from locking.
IT have a policy which locks your computer, or logs you out every 5 minutes (or worse)?
Open PowerPoint, any presentation will do, and start the presentation. Tab out and continue your work.
On a Microsoft OS, your computer won't timeout...ever.
Also, if you hit the "B" key, it sets your screen to black.
Sorry, Cybersecurity folks...had to share this one.
Also, don't do this and leave your computer. That's probably unethical and/or violates a code of conduct.
I use this one because I'm constantly interrupted while working and have long conversations with folks while sitting at my desk...and for whatever reason my WIFI drops if the screen locks.
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LPT: Have an interview coming up where you have to record your answers? Download a teleprompter app for your phone to conduct the interview!
Some job interview processes have these interviews where you have to record yourself answering questions and you'll usually get 3 attempts to record for each question or something of that sort.
HireVue is a popular platform that companies will use sometimes for this format.
These interviews can be nerve wracking, even moreso than live face to face interviews. I personally think they're unfair, because on top of the pressure of interviewing, you're being timed and have to answer to a screen, so it can be awkward.
What I did to fix this was I downloaded a teleprompter app on my phone - they have free ones that are both on iPhones and Android devices. Just look up "teleprompter" in your respective app store and download the one that gets the best reviews.
Then - go through whatever steps you need to take to enable it to work to float atop of whatever app you're in. For HireVue, it'll be ran via Chrome.
The first attempt you record will be your throwaway attempt. Use that time to learn what the question is, figure out how you want to answer and put that into your teleprompter app. Then, when you've got your answer, start to record your second attempt using the teleprompter.
Your recording will look natural and you'll look like you're actually looking at the camera! And itll give you peace of mind when answering these questions.
Best of luck!
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LPT - If you have an item of clothing that you really like, buy it again
If you have an item of clothing (or anything else) that you really like, buy it again
It'll save you for when it wears out, gets broken, stained, etc and you want to buy it again only to find it's no longer in stock, can't remember where you bought it, now wildly expensive, etc
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LPT: For dog owners: Tampons can potentially be deadly for (small) dogs, please be careful
PSA for other dog owners, especially if you have a small breed, who are (like I was) not aware of this: If you suspect that your dog has ingested a tampon, please go to the vet immeditaly, as it can be potentially deadly. Also do not try to induce vomitting, as this can make matters worse (beacuse of the absorbency). Through several coincidenses, we realized in time what our small dog (not even 6 kg) had done, but I was painfully oblivious to the risk until it happened (our dog luckily got the surgery in time and is recovering well).
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LPT: Donot use airline customer support numbers directly from Google
Scammers create websites with airline names alongside their scam phone number. Search engines see these websites and end up giving the scammer's number to travellers. This might also be true for other customer service numbers, I've seen this for airlines firsthand.
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LPT: When asking for help at work briefly explain what you have already tried. It shows initiative and gets you better advice faster
Instead of just saying "I do not get it" explain what you attempted and where you got stuck. This saves time for the person helping you and shows that you made an effort before asking for assistance a big plus in any professional environment. It also improves your own problem solving skills because you are reflecting on your process.
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they can't find your ships! They do this because "surely" this giant gap on their boards between (or outside of) their white pegs "must" contain a ship! It's our brain's natural desire to give symmetry to things. If there's a bunch of white pegs on the bottom, then there must be a ship to hit and put red pegs at the top. This is the way our brains work. So, to greatly confuse your opponents EVERY TIME, leave some empty space. This is accomplished by arranging your ships as noted in #5 above.
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LPT How to find the owner of a lost phone
Someone ran to me in a cold sweat at a market the other day asking if I lost a phone. Nope. He was really distraught about this phone her found because he picked it up and moved it.
I had him show it to me, it was a new iPhone. I activated Siri with a long press to the power button on the side, and said “call mom” it rang, no answer. Tried “call dad” voicemail. Then I said “call my emergency contact” it gave a list. I selected the first one, boom. He was also still at the market with the owner.
May not work on everything but certainly worth a try. (Feel free to share your tricks and experiences too)
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LPT: If you want truly authentic recipes from any cuisine, try searching for them in the country’s native language (e.g., search “ricette italiane” instead of “Italian recipes”). Also, look for websites ending in the country’s domain (like “.it” for Italy or “.fr” for France) instead of “.com.”
You can even use a free VPN to set your location to that country and discover even more local recipe websites. (You may need a browser translator extension.)
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LPT: Dumping your thoughts in a notebooks just beofre sleeping could dramatically improve your sleep quality.
Getting a good sleep is very crucial for your health. As a person suffering from insomnia, this simple excercise has improved my life alot.
Getting a good sleep, makes you more productive. You can think more clearly and fast. You are more attentive and you feel very refreshed.
This really helps you especially if you have a habbit of thinking. Dumping your thoughts in a notebook signals your brain that they are unimportant, which dramatically improves your overall sleep quality due to the calm mind.
This works great for me. But I would like to see other's experiences too. Feel free to try it and share your reuslt. I'm open to any opinion and result.
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LPT: Empathy aside, a propensity to jump to the cruelest solution for complex problems is a clear indicator of a lack of intelligence and a lack of creative problem solving in a speaker. Instead, recruit people that work to craft Win-Win solutions.
The types of people that immediately jump to and champion “cruel, but necessary” approaches often reach these conclusions with relatively little thought.
Indeed, it is a clear sign of shortsighted, reflexive, and lazy problem solving in a candidate. They needlessly burn bridges and are overcommitted to poorly considered plans even when they don’t pan out.
These individuals are also often easily frustrated by better fleshed out and carefully considered solutions proposed by team members.
It takes more effort to craft win-win solutions, but it is often the more considered approach and pays dividends in the medium to long term as well.
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LPT - Stop watching the News!
Likely the biggest single source of stress and anxiety (especially right now) is coming from watching the news....I have decided to stop watching the news cold turkey...I mean it's nothing but negative stories anyways, and it's the SAME stories over and over but with just different people, and thinking back at all the time spent watching the news, I can't think of at time where listening to even ONE news story made my life better....and besides it can't be good for the subconscious to have all these negative news stories bouncing around in your head...
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LPT: When you’re teaching your parents to do something on the phone, have them press/touch the buttons themselves rather than you doing it for them. This way they’ll remember the steps much better.
Helps even more if you can mention common things like three horizontal lines usually being “more options” and a gear icon being “settings”.
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LPT - If an article headline ends with a question, the answer is almost always ‘no.’
If a news article, blog post, or video title ends with a question like “Did Scientists Just Discover Immortality?” the answer is 99.9% “no.”
It’s a trick to get you to click (called Betteridge’s Law).
Unless you’re bored or really want the details, assume the answer is no and move on.
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LPT: If you're calling someone to get information, have a pen and paper BEFORE you call.
Honestly, I can't count the number of times I get a call from someone needing an address or phone number and I have to wait while they run around trying to find a pen.
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