The unwanted Daughter
My father is Moroccan and comes to Europe where he met my Mother . My Mother felt in love and the both starting a Relationship. The result of it was my mothers pregnancy after 2 years . When my mother told my father, that she was pregnant , he didn’t was happy but also not shocked. After a while , my mother found out that he was unfaithful.. she was in 6 month of her pregnancy, when the „ truth „ comes out . My Father was married to a German Woman , she had a Child and she also was pregnant ( she was in 3 month att) my mother was leaving him, after he told her , that he has no problem with more than one woman . They don’t saw each other again for the next 12 years …. I grew up , with my half siblings and they father . My mother tried that I feel accepted , but her husband never accepted me .
So after 12 years , my mother met my father in a bakery .. They both talks about me , my mother ask him if he want to see me , he said yes and he took our address and phone number .
When my mother told me , that he will come to see me , I was ready! Ready to see wherein come from , why I feel so different to all around me , who my other half is , I felt missing a big part of me and I thought , I will find it when he comes , I fought he will explain to me , why he didn’t come to see me and I was ready to forgive him for leaving me alone .
Well….. he came ( surprise 😂)
He was calm and he hugged me like a friend and ask me how I feel . That’s all of conversation that we have ( I was 12 at this time ) he was talking with my mother about non sense , like people do ,they want to avoid a theme . I was sitting there and was waiting for him to talk to me , to tell me who he is , who he was and all of information u can imagine…..
but nothing happens. I was to shy to start a conversation, I just was looking at him and smiled when he smiled and don’t miss the part when he looked at me . But nothing , he stayed a half hour and ask at the end , if I want to see him again, I told him „ yes of course „ like fangirl ..
He leaved and my mother told me , she will tell me when he is calling or something . He didn’t call , he didn’t come to my house again … he disappeared again.
6 years after, my 18th birthday was coming . I was happy because I turned „ adult „ … I don’t know why but my mother was calling me to come home , something important. When I arrived at home , my father was standing in the livingroom….. congrats me to my birthday and gave me a gift ( a videocamera) I was shocked , I couldn’t say anything. A few family members was there so the conversation was not deep and about all sorts of stuff . My father didn’t talk to me again. Nothing about what happened, why he didn’t called me , just nothing . He drunk his coffee and made smalltalk ( he was very friendly and good talker ) ……
I was starting getting mad and I wanted to go out , so I told to all people that I’m leaving and my father turned to me and said he will come with me , I was thinking , he made a good move , so we can talk alone about all. I thought it was the perfekt moment , just me and him , outside walking . But he walks to his car , I was walking next to him , he ask me if I like his gift , I told him that I love to make videos and he made the perfekt gift…. Than he ask me if I want to see him again … I remembered on the last time he ask me this , I answered him this time „ if you want „ … he was saying good bye and drive away ……. I didn’t saw him again .
2 years later , my mother invited the new neighbors and told me to bring the coffee . I made coffee and all cookies and cake and bring it out . Then I saw a girl , like same age like me , and her friend and mother . The mother and the girl was my new neighbor and the other girl just a friend of them. So my mother started taking and somehow , my mother turned the conversation to Morocco. The neighbors friend starts talkin that she came from Morocco ( she was my age 20 ) so they both talks about Morocco, till the moment my mother was asking her about her family situation, her names …… her
Hundred of Moroccans try to migrate illegally of Ceuta
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What's your biggest deal breaker in a relationship?
I'm curious to know what everyone's biggest deal breakers are when it comes to relationships. Is there something that would instantly make you reconsider dating someone, no matter how great they are otherwise?
For me, it's a lack of honesty. I can't deal with someone who isn't straightforward or who keeps secrets. Trust is so important, and once it's broken, it's hard to rebuild.
What about you? What’s that one thing you just can't overlook, even if everything else is perfect?
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This leak, showing the representative of the Polisario terrorist militias at the TICAD meeting
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Exportation of avocado 🥑 might increase by 50% next season
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Anyone knows what's this Moroccan actress name called?
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A house , but never a home. (Need advice)
Hello everyone , i need ur advice.
I live with my parents and 2 younger siblings. From a young age my parents had violent fights , their marriage is a big mistake in my opinion , and it made my and my siblings childhoods miserable (all types of abuse litteraly , a lot of beating especially in my case since im the oldest girl) they are both mentally not okay , and both of them are being all the time charged negatively from their families pushing them to fight , (my mom's mom / my dad's sisters)
I was kinda accepting the horrible atmosphere we have in the house saying parents aren't perfect , we never choose them , and the only thing i can do for myself is to work on myself and my mental health so i be a better parent than them in the future , even if what they made us live and still making us live has resulted in me having many physical and mental issues that are preventing me to function like a normal human being , i was hoping i'll get better since im studying in another city now and only coming in summers..
THING IS , before minutes , some fight happened between dad and mom, and my little sister (17yo) had a panic attack or idk what it was she was screaming so loud and shaking uncontrolably and crying so bad (i was sleeping in the next floor and that woke me up ) she had that after my mom blamed her and my little bro for not checking on her after my dad made her angry and my mom grabed a table and smashed it and it broke.. i couldnt help her or stop her and seeing her suffer broke my heart fr , she opened up to me before days about how hard life is in this house and started crying and i felt helpless , my little bro (14yo) , since he was a child he rarely reacted to them having big fights , he was always numb to that and still is somehow and it's so scary , im worried he'll get into drugs or something cz i already found out he was hiding vaping.
At this point, i don't care about my parents , i forgive them and i accept that i can never change them or fix our relationship as i was trying to do for years , but im so worried about my siblings , i wanna help them yeah , but helping myself get a bit better took me years and a lotttt of trying and i feel like each one deals with that in their own way so its not like im a therapist who can deal with different clients , i wanna help them with what i know but i feel like if i do i'll make it worse for them and me and its just impossible , how can i help with little things ? Im more worried now that i'm not home most of the year..
What if someone dies this idea can't get out of my mind , mom and dad could kill each other it won't surprise me , but what gonna happen to my siblings after that, i feel helpless.
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How long would it take to get rid of our bad cultural habits?!
I live in an appartment complex, yesterday was a sunday, a wedding ceremony started around 9PM, it was in a tent in the middle of the road, it was loud, they didn't even respect Adhan, I barely could sleep at 3AM and I'm working that day, I woke up at 6AM to hear them playing Abali 7abibi louder than before, the song kept replaying for 30 minutes, then another 30 minutes of chaabi, I heard them shouting and clapping, it finally stopped at 7AM as my phone rang for work.
When are we going to seriously apply laws that help reinforce the respect and comfort of others?
Why are those ceremonies so imortant and have to be organized in a certain way?
If one feels an obsession to do it that way why not take your tent somewhere else? he wasted a lot of money anyway, why not lend a villa or a wedding hall or a freaking stadium far from people who just want to have some break from all the madness in this world?
The people who attended the ceremony and stayed for 10 hours dancing, eating, drinking, talking, don't they have anything in their lives?
When will we break this cycle and change this perspective, put down the glasses we see the world in? it's a vicious cycle, "people will think this, will say that", they will think and say, this is the majority of our society, why don't we just enjoy our lives the way we want, do the things that make us happy and not be obsessed by how the others see us?
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Actually crazy times we live in
Hey Y'all, I just saw something incredibly messed up that has been going on for days.
I don't know how this is happening. But if you go on any Islam related tiktoks, or TikToks showing for example Palestinian kids suffering, Muslim immigrants being attacked somewhere or just Muslims suffering. Literally all the comments you will find will just be:" Yes kill those filthy Muslims" "Those terrorists deserve worse" etc etc...
The comments are completely senseless and they say the worst things ever. From the profiles they seem to be from Europe or NA in most cases. There are way too many comments for this to just be dismissed, something is going on, like some sort of political movement. They could be botting these comments en masse. I am not sure but it is very sketchy since it's inconsistent.
I am saying inconsistent because if Muslim hate was up to that level then these internet dummies would be commenting elsewhere and making more content but it seems to be just comments.
I can give y'all a couple links if you want but this stuff is absolutely disgusting.
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how to deal with sexual harassment on the street
I moved to a smaller city for work purpose and the cat calling etc is unreal, today I had someone on a motorcycle following me around after I said no 3 times he just said ' don't make me follow you any longer' in a stern voice so I saw an older lady walking and I asked her to walk me somewhere safe and only then he left. I'm still scared and don't wanna be here any longer, I don't wanna leave the house any more, I'm terrified. how can I deal with these situations better in the future and how can I protect myself?
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Cleanliness in Moroccan cities
Few days ago during my road trip ive met an old German lady living a van life and travelling through Moroccan cities, and based on what she's seen in both Morocco (especially big cities like Fez, Marrakesh, Casablanca, etc.) and Europe, she couldn't help but notice trash thrown everywhere despite the fact that trash cans are everywhere. I tried to justify that it's a problem of awareness, and the only possible solution for now, besides educational approaches, is criminalizing the act of not respecting the environment and throwing trash all over the place, it realistically does sound like climbing a mountain, but i couldn't think of a better solution. Any reflections ?
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ONCF train delays
Salam 3alaykoum everyone, i saw someone asking about what to do if they missed their train and i thought i would give yall a little piece of advice for those who don’t know it already:
Ida jab llah dar train retard and you had an important meeting awla chi 7aja hakda w wslto m3tlin, mni twslo l la garre tlbo “un billet de retard” (wa9ila daba tbdlat lih smiya idk) houwa wa7d lwr9a mn 3nd la garre comme quoi rah dak train li 9te3to fih dar retard.
If you pressure them they will certainly give it to you (although sometimes you dnt have to pressure them) but tbh ma n9dch ngoul likoum wach ghay3tewh likom b zrba awla la, it depends 3la la garre w nass li fiha, but rah kay3tewh if you ask for it !!
Someone might find this beneficial, d3iw m3aya :)
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The dilemma of finding a partner
Whether its for finding a date or a long term relationship, we have all seen throughout social media or even IRL, people struggling to find their so-called "other half", and we ve been hearing all kinds of advices given to those people, yet if those advices do work, why is the problem still prevailing like crazy?
If u try to sum up the kind of answers that are given to this, it is something like this:
-Just work on yourself and love yourself, and the right person will come along -> its beneficial but the person wont just pop out of thin air once u better urself, and thats the case for many.
-Put urself out there, go to events or coffee shops or the gym for that -> the majority just go to these places, do their thing and leave, cause its hard (some see it creepy too nowadays) to randomly approach a stranger doing their thing.
-Just wait until its the right time and the right person will come along -> good advice but lacks practicality from the person s side.
And before anyone strikes the argument of "it worked for this person and that person", we cant apply what worked on a lucky small sample, on the big majority.
Ive written this looking for mature insights and takes, maybe even practical solutions (isnt that what everyone wants 😂) to this dilemma we are seeing everywhere nowadays.
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This country is weird
Anyone that likes a different sport other than football, or likes western music ( any genre ), looked as "3ami9" and "pick me", can't even watch F1 in peace smh.
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An eureka moment about Moroccan cuisine
So, Moroccan cuisine, amazing right. But why isn’t it as popular as Italian or Japanese or whatever?
So I was thinking, and had an eureka moment which I had to share.
Moroccan food,
Can’t be eaten by an individual.
Think about it, tajines, couscous, bestilla, raziza, it always has to have a meglas of at least 4 people. Moroccan food never had the benefit of it being eaten by one person like a taco or a Turkish pizza.
Ofcourse, there are small bestillas, but let’s be honest it doesn’t hit like the real deal where you have to dig with your hand for that treasure. Or the tajines where you have to hope your uncle passes on that chicken leg.
The experience is just so raw and unique, and not easy to be replicated by a restaurant on the go.
Moroccan food is amazing, but commercially it doesn’t fit at all. It’s family food, and family food always is preferred to be made at home. It’s not fitting to get through a drive through or something like it. Not to be ordered by Glovo. It’s not easy to carry. You can only experience it with loved ones.
Ps.
I also think it reflects the society in general. Where most Moroccans have very close bonds with family and friends and love live in groups unlike other nations. No matter hard times, we are always together.
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Moroccans, What Are Some Tips That Made Living In Morocco Easier?
What are some tips that made your life easier in Morocco, whether be it financial, administrative, social... whatever.
Share your best tips for a much more convenient life as a Moroccan living In morocco.
Tips that are not popular or known to most people.
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the best advice you received?
Maybe someone here needs to hear your advice
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Some Photos I took Of The Vibrant Majorelle Garden in Marrakech
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What do you think about the shortage of water situation in our country and do you see any optimistic signs from the government’s policies?
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For those who had a divorce with their Moroccan wives, what do you guys regret ?
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Hi , there's in earthquakes right now in Casablanca 😬
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circumcision for my son
Hi all
I m so scared for my son. I know it s normal to get circumcised as my husband did but as we are getting close to the date I m very anxious for my son who is 3 and half years old…..
Please help me. Plus I cannot express my anxiety to my family as they think I’m crazy…..
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Does living alone worth it
I'm going to live alone , actually this is the first day living alone , does someone of you guy lived alone for a while? does it worth it ? any ideas
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Moroccan negative traits that I have noticed.
The majority of Moroccans are notoriously nosy and eager to learn everything there is to know about you, which has always made it very difficult for me. As a European, I notice this trait in the majority of Moroccans, particularly women—I'm a woman, by the way—no matter where they live. As somebody who is a introvert and despises any attention being Moroccan has screwed up my psychological wellness , they compare you with everybody.
Here are some things I have observed:
* Moroccan families train you to watch what you say, and everything, and I mean the everything , can be utilised against you.
* Like a fish bowl, every move is watched and judged.
* Their incessant interrogation leaves many feeling exposed and overwhelmed.
* Highly narcissistic, emotionally immature people who never mind their business.
* An extroverted culture whereby introverts suffer in the long run.
* They always find a way to turn any topic into a discussion about themselves.
* They are unable to respond to criticism in any way and turn things around on you. To a stunning degree.
* Moroccans either have two modes -having a good time and treating nothing serious or being totally cold to each other.
* Trauma dumping is another huge red flag with Moroccans especially on their kids and they wonder why so many Genz Moroccans are struggling emotionally.
* They miss social cues - like not knowing who really likes them or who is using them.
* Always complaining about something.
* No family planning
* No Financial planning
* Never listen to their children.
* Not respecting boundaries.
* Hardly ever respect or study Arts or Literature which help with emotional maturity.
* Always on the phone or needing to talk to someone.
Anyone else notice anymore traits or can explain why Moroccans act like this en masse?
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Morrocan instagram is just... weird
EDIT: I'm also not talking about pr*stitut***, sadly this is just a form of getting social acceptance and what they perceive as "credit", basically moroccan social contract = a woman's sexual availability is her value
This isn't religious preaching, just something that I noticed is almost universal to the moroccan youth and especially when comparing it to living in more socially conscious places.
Why do all the girls I know have a million seductive pictures on their instagram with thirst comments all over?
These are girls I know, who I thought were normal, sensible people, yet their ass is on the gram under the guise of some "self-love" thing, for all to see and admire. These are women who you'd think would value themselves as individuals before bodies, yet they fall into this endless validation loop of being the "it" girl and most lusted over (mainly because it is well perceived socially).
I've been privy to some men's messages on the gram, those were men I know, who I thought were normal, sensible people, yet they often make very degrading comments in private, rankings of girls etc and speak of them in ways I don't think they would appreciate (hopefully...).
It feels like social media and the moroccan youth in general just turned into a giant sexual market with no substance, no originality and no respect.
Yet these are not the downtrodden of our society, but "educated" (hh) people who will pretend to be sensitive to certain issues, to be nice and sociable, to be open and forward thinking. Yet it seems the main concern is how sexually available women can make themselves in order to garner attention and clout. These behaviours are validated in public but then mocked in private.
I've made my point, this is just my bonus personal rant about the moroccan youth I encounter : They don't read books, they have no idea of their condition, they do not have the brainpower to truly enjoy the arts or philosophy, they don't try or don't have the capacity to involve themselves in politics, they don't try to build any project or community that would actually benefit the youth or improve things they are passionate about.
They have no hobbies but posturing and pretending they are cool by repeating the same tired and (frankly ridiculous) codes over and over again. (moroccan subcultures lack depth, just another sexual market with no substance), all of this is lack of exposure to the better parts of human culture, and overexposure to the worst
thank you
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Breaking Free from the Snowpiercer Mentality
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I've been thinking about Morocco lately, and a comparison comes to mind: our country sometimes feels like the train in the movie Snowpiercer. In the movie, the train carries the last people left on Earth, and they are divided by class. The further back you are on the train, the poorer and more oppressed you are.
In Morocco, it can feel like we're all on this imaginary train. When people move up in life—whether by getting a better job, earning more money, or just improving their lifestyle—they often forget about those still struggling at the back. There's a common attitude that once you've moved up, you don't look back.
The problems of the people left behind aren’t your concern anymore. Sometimes, you even become the very thing you used to complain about.
I have friends who once complained about not being able to find a place to rent in some cities in Morocco. They were struggling to find even one apartment. But when I showed them how to use a database to find rentals, they turned into Airbnb super hosts and started renting out 2-3 places. So, they became part of the problem they used to complain about.
The students doctor that are complaining about their career, once they get opportunity to leave the country, they will do it. And return at late age retired here in some villa with 3 maids.
Another example is people who used to complain about the high prices of computer hardware. Some of them traveled abroad and then contacted me, asking how they could sell their GPUs for a 60-120% profit.
But here’s the twist: some people are so proud of being "at the back" that they actually stop others from moving forward. It's like they've accepted their position and even celebrate it. They resist change, look down on those who try to move forward, or worse, pull them back when they try to escape the tail end. This creates a strange situation where progress is held back by the very people who could benefit the most from it. For example, some people complain about the price of eggs because they want to do bodybuilding, but none of them get into farming. Instead, they choose careers in finance or IT, and eventually, they either leave the country or become the next ones to take advantage of others. They still want the farmer to sell them eggs for less than the cost price.
This is a tough reality we need to face. If Morocco is going to move forward as a country, we need to get rid of this Snowpiercer mindset. We need to remember that we're all on the same train, and if one part is struggling, it affects us all. Instead of ignoring those in the back or celebrating their struggles, we should be working together to help everyone move forward.
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