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Hey-hey, my goodies! I'm Alice, I'm sexologist by education. Stay tuned for new posts about how to get pleasure 🔥 Buy Ads: @Fuller_b
Who else but me can tell you what NOT to do in bed?
That's right, no one.
So, I've made you a list of the most popular mistakes that men make in sex.
Especially, I often notice them in couples with several years of relationship:
- No feedback.
Some men are so silent that it really annoys girls.
- Taking porn as a model.
When in bed, demanding of a girl what she's seen in porn. But it is not a model, and you shouldn't be guided by it.
- Monotony in bed.
When they use the same techniques and tricks, and it all lasts for years.
In fact, everything is quite simple. Avoiding these mistakes is quite real, so I'm writing you plenty of great stuff!
Pose for cunnilingus and a passionate evening with your babe
Heir to the throne is one of the buzziest positions for girls' sensuality and dynamics.
Really handy when you wanna give her pleasure and see how nice your caresses feel.
👉🏻 The way it's done:
- The girl sits on a pouffe or chair, placing a pillow under her back. She puts her legs up slightly and throws them on your shoulders. You kneel on the floor, gently caressing the baby's belly and breasts with your hands. And pussy, of course!
Already imagined how you are gonna do it?
And how your girlfriend will get high in the process? Can you imagine? ☺️
Dirty talk is a thing worth practicing in couples
These are "dirty" erotic conversations before and during sex. After all, they are exactly what you need to create the right heat🔥
But here's the problem - guys and girls have no idea how to talk about sex and what to say while doing it...
And all you have to do is set the mood for pleasure, start with a couple of "dirty" phrases, and then make variety little by little.
And I've just prepped some super-sweet words for you ;)
These are the perfect phrases to master Dirty Talk👇🏻
"Tell me what you want and I'll do it."
"I've been thinking about you naked all day."
"Can you imagine how much I want you?"
"I wanna be inside you."
And try using "dirty names" for your girlfriend - little rascal, naughty slut (trust me, lots of women get turned on😉 ), daddy's girl and the like.
And the word "fuck" in general should live forever in your sex lexicon👌🏻
"She's Yours" — Step to Bed #5
Last time you discovered that in order to kiss a girl, you have to do short touches for 2-3 seconds at a time.
Now you can already move on to long touches in order to excite her🔥 (find a secluded place before that, it's easier).
👉🏻 Try touching and stroking her neck - it turns girls on like crazy.
After that, she'll wanna kiss you herself!
And above all, don't ask "Can I kiss you?". Do it — you're bandits after all! 💪🏻
Factors that can affect a girl's ability to have a multi-orgasm:
⚡ Biological predisposition. Yeah, some women are naturally gifted to easily achieve multi-orgasms. Others have to work on themselves and develop their sensuality.
⚡ Age. Women reach the peak of sexual sensuality at the age of 35. This means that multi-orgasms occur more often at this age.
⚡ Time spent on foreplay. The more smoothly, gradually and slowly you warm up, the longer the arousal phase will last.
⚡ The degree of arousal. When you are highly aroused, more blood rushes to your genitals and your erogenous zones become more sensitive.
⚡ Fatigue, stress. An exhausted body will simply refuse to produce orgasms.
You see? 70% in our hands! But even the remaining 30% are not hopeless, the main thing is the right approach😏
Greetings, sweethearts!
Here's what else I wanted to tell you 👉🏻 Trying to maintain a "perfect" libido can hurt self-esteem.
How? It's quite simple.
Since there is no such thing as a norm for libido, this means that high, low sexual desire or no sexual desire are equally normal!
You don't have to want 24/7, whether you're male or female. For some reason, I hear such a stereotype about men in particular.
People who worry about their level of desire not conforming to a mythical ideal get self-esteem and sex problems. Do you need it?
"First Kiss" — Step to Bed #3
Lily is with you, and if the date worked out great and it came down to kissing, but...
But you're not sure you're a great kisser – here are two ground rules for you:
👉🏻 Keep your mouth no wider than the thickness of two fingers (put two fingers in your mouth right now and memorize that distance forever!)
👉🏻 Kiss the corners of her lips (it turns girls on wildly, trust me)
Get it, gangster?! It's a lot easier than you thought!
Tell you how to kiss her on the first date?
"Forget Naughty" — Step to Bed #1
Here's Lily and this one is addressed to you, Gangster😏
If you wanna get a girl into bed, do not talk dirty or make raunchy innuendos the first time you meet her.
Most men feel that this should ignite the fire of passion in the lady...
In reality, such behavior only gives out in you a sexually unsatisfied loser!
Lady should realize that sex in your life is a lot, mention casually about your novels.
Constant talk about sex is the way to the friendzone.
How to hide the imperfections of your body?
Here's Lily and I'm gonna say that nothing ruins sex like being self-conscious about your own body!
And the easiest way to hide flaws is none, not a bottle of wine, but as you might already assume, the right choice of lighting😄
So, it's not just the semi-darkness that's crucial, it's also the right tone. So cold tones accentuate flaws, and soft and warm, on the contrary, hides them.
You can use a little good old-fashioned candlelight or a "smart lamp"!
And what sex would be in subdued red light😏
Men, if you wish your girlfriend to melt with pleasure - take it up!
Sex on the floor: pros and cons
Lily is with you, and we've frequently discussed various locations for sex, but all the time missed one, quite obvious thing: the floor.
I'll tell you right away: it all depends on the surface. Old carpet and tile go to hell, do not even try, all you get in this case - an injury.
Anyway it's always worth to put some blanket or plaid, but it can be something less suitable: a jacket, a bathrobe, a flag torn from a wall or even a bear-skin 🐻
If it is not in the arsenal - better still to refrain, otherwise it can end up in physical injury🤷♀️
Thought of the Day
This is Lily, and I wanna talk to you about phone numbers. A cell phone number has 10 digits, and by combining those digits you can reach millions of subscribers.
Here's the thought of the day. Sex is the same phone number, but instead of numbers in it - numerous methods of exposure, erogenous zones, techniques, poses, and so on.
Using different combinations, you get completely varying"numbers" in the output. And the task of a good lover/mistress is to constantly try new variations.
That's it😏
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I'll tell you the secrets, answers to which aren't found on the Web
Greetings all✋, Lily is with you and both genders are wondering: do girls really like anal sex?
I actually went to check and couldn't find statistics in answer to this question on the internet🤷
Personally, I just love anal sex. The fact is that during anal sex the vaginal wall is stimulated from the other side and it is highly unusual and extremely pleasant sensations. And if you involve a toy or hands, believe me, a bright orgasm is guaranteed😏
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Sex in an elevator
Hey everybody, here's Lily and I wanna offer you another place for extreme sex and as you may have guessed from the title - it's about an elevator😏
I know it sounds extremely risky, but with a few things in mind - everything runs smoothly:
🔸Try to find a clean and pleasantly atmospheric elevator🤢
Hardly anyone likes having sex in a place smelling of urine or staring at a "proletarian power" sign all the time
🔸 Check if the stop button works and no cameras in the elevator⛔️
It's gonna be really confusing if someone joins you in the middle of the process.
🔸 Secure that very button☝️
Tommy and I used painter's tape, if you think of something else, tell us in the comments
🔸The best time is 3 or 4 in the morning⏰
At this time there is minimal risk of someone needing the elevator and the dispatcher noticing that it is standing suspiciously long
Now go ahead, no one but you will diversify your sex life
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Women's lingerie is an indicator
Lily is on, and frankly, we don't wear erotic lingerie daily, even if there is plenty of it🙅
Thongs, lace and rhinestone bras are, for the most part, exceptionally awkward and non-functional.
So if, when reaching the intimate areas, you find there lace, pearls and cuffs, be aware: you were expected here. Or not you, but it doesn't matter now 😅
If she was guaranteed to rest comfortably alone, she would wear simple cotton underpants and an equally democratic bra to breathe in and that does not bite into her shoulders.🤷
How to use this information and what conclusions to draw - that's for you to decide😏
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Not on the bed
Today Lilu is all for you, and I want to talk about diversity in the places for your love💕
It'd be great to have sex on the piano, like in the movie "Pretty Woman" (I love it😍), but we are all ordinary people, and the table is also not inferior in the frequency of use in porn😄
I think you already imagine the strength and reliability of the table. But let's go straight to the process itself: ALWAYS put on a pillow and protect yourself from the slightest damage!
Do you also find sex on the bed too dull?
First orgasm at 35
I was dealing with a girl yesterday, and we had a deeply reverent session. She's pretty shy and reserved in her communication. Sweet, funny, modest.
She came in with this problem - she is 35 years old and hasn't had an orgasm in 8 years...
She hasn't had sex or masturbated in all that time. For her own reasons.
Now she has a boyfriend, and she can't cum at all. Both of them are totally confused and don't get the situation.
In fact, it's not the boyfriend or the girl, it's her hormones, which have been "sleeping" for a very long time.
As a rule, it takes a lot to awaken the sexuality and desire in bed again for such girls.
The goal of sex for this couple right now is to make a really deep connection!
With massages, deep emotional sex techniques, and passionate play, not just penetration.
That's what most couples never do and commit a mistake
Not talking after sex👐🏻
Neither after a day nor after an hour. While it should be done within a few MINUTES after sex.
This is especially important in the first phase of a relationship when you need to learn and discover each other's preferences.
No need to omit or flatter your partner - it won't be good for sex.
Many people don't realize HOW valuable this is to your relationship✔️
When exactly to arrange this feedback after sex?
At the moment when you have already "cooled down" emotionally and physically.
No need to rush☝🏻
"Double Compliment" - Step to Bed #10
Hi there, it's Lily and I bet you won't argue that compliments turn girls on wildly 🔥
But there's a way to give an X2 effect after each compliment.
Like? Just pay compliments in the company of other people!
🗣 It amazes me that you work so hard on yourself
🗣 I love women with such a broad mindset like yours
P.S: The key is not to praise a girl's appearance in public. Believe me, it really pisses other people off (including the girl)!
We're all bisexual...
I read this curious statement the other day👆🏻
Freud argued that people are 100% bisexual by nature. The logic behind the assertion was quite simple - it doesn't matter who is stimulating the erogenous zones - male or female. The orgasm will happen. So what difference does it make who you have sex with if the physical sensations are the same?
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He explained that people have constructed their own sexual boundaries in their heads. And if you take away all the accepted norms and stop thinking about what's right, bisexuality will be exposed. ⠀
What Freud didn't take into account then was that it is our brain that determines the level of pleasure. And if a person dislikes having sex with a person of his own sex, there will be no pleasure, much less orgasm. And we absorb the generally accepted norms from birth, so it's extremely difficult to "push our boundaries" like that.
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Do you think we are all 100% bisexual?
Erection Rings
I'm rested and now ready to give you a sex education😌
Erection rings are sex toys specifically designed to prolong and enhance erections.
They squeeze the penis, reducing blood flow. They come in singles like the photo, and some come in doubles/threesies. I do not advise to use them too often, but at times they can be quite helpful.
However, instead of an erection ring, you can use a squeezing technique: squeeze the place between the shaft and the head with your fingers before the onset of orgasm.
"How to Kiss?" — Step to Bed #4
Bandits, lots of you wrote yesterday they haven't gotten to the kissing part yet.
So👇🏻
- Step 1. Make eye contact (it's the foundation of all the basics, gangster, without it you'll have a HUGE harder time!).
- Step 2: Short touches for 3 seconds at a time. Try touching her wrist or shoulder or lightly hugging her.
Eventually you will slowly but surely gain her trust!
P.S: Tomorrow I'll tell you how to go straight to a kiss after that💋
"Recognize Fears" — Step to Bed #2
Lily is here, and I'm talking to you, Gangster! Find out what a gal is afraid of and start contradicting her fears! Trust me, it will cause a lady's emotions to run wild.
🗣 If she's afraid of heights, I climb on the roof with her!
🗣 If she's scared of horror movies, I take her to a horror movie!
🗣 If she's modest, I lay down with her in the middle of Times Square!
Emotions aren't just seducing her, she LOVES you.
P.S: Gang, in my next post I'll tell you how to blow the roof off any girl with emotion!
Does spermotoxicosis exist?
Lily is with you and now I'm ready to dispel the myths😏
Semen consists of seminal fluid and sperm. Neither one is toxic to humans😄
Sperm in general periodically dies and gets disposed of like any other aged cells in the body.
In the same way, there is no telling how much you should have sex. The main thing is to be satisfied and not to feel discomfort, otherwise excess testosterone can make you a real rage volcano with a burning cannon😀
Have awesome sex and be in a good mood!
Men, cheer up your ladies
Lily is on the phone and I'll tell you with 100th confidence that not only men have the way to the heart through the stomach😀
Post on my love of food! No better way to show your love for a loved one than to cook her favorite meal, and do it deliciously.
I adore it when Tommy makes me something yummy to eat. And I find that a man able to cook is incredibly sexy and caring.
Treat your sweetheart to dinner at least once, and it pays off faster than you think💕
Once a month is the norm?
Lily is on the line, and I guess no one will argue that sex is nice, and it's great when both partners desire it. That's pretty clear. And what if the urge doesn't arise as often? Less clear here. Where the norm and whether to be a Stakhanovite in bed?
There is such a thing as sexual constitution - how much sex each person needs per day, per week, per month. Well, it can be strong, medium, and weak. It's heredity, genetics, which we are born with and it doesn't depend on our desires in any way🤷♀️
So do not immediately look for a problem. One person might want sex every day, another once a week and that's the norm☝️
Series are bad role models
With you Lily and if you ponder, no matter what melodrama you turn on, you won't find an adequate and harmonious relationship there. Instead you'll find quarrels, scandals, breakups, tears, cheating, suffering, manipulation, intrigue, lies, and misunderstandings.
Happy relationships are too boring, you can't build a story around them. No one would care for five seasons of characters who met, fell in love, got married and live a quiet life, not cheating, not breaking up and not blowing each other's brains out. On-screen twists and turns are needed to move the plot along.
Yet at some point, we stop distinguishing between fiction and reality and transpose movie standards into ordinary life. And as a result, we come to believe this is exactly what a relationship should look like: that something is constantly happening, nerves are strained, and the degree of passion is turned up to the maximum. As a consequence, we look for "problematic" partners.
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Porn vs Reality
Here's Lily, and I wanna end this topic once and for all❗️
Note to self: sex in porn is staged. Period. Porn actresses do not enjoy being stared at by many men. So before you suggest quick anal sex to your woman, study the subject. Okay?
Learning from porn how to please a woman is a stupid idea. But you have to talk about your desires, just at the right moment. Like when she's already had a couple of orgasms and is horny to the max.
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Sex should be loved by both, but also by each separately
With you Lily and you probably thought I was bitten by Captain Hindsight😂
It's just that people tend to ignore their desires cause they're afraid their partner might not be thrilled. As an example, my friend really enjoys doing rhyming, but for the second year she can't offer it to her partner because she's worried he won't understand
And in such cases I recommend to say to her partner a phrase like this
"Can I do it for myself? I get high from it."
Be unafraid to talk about your desires and you will be happy❤️
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The myth imposed by porn
Today Lilu is talking to you, and I would like to discuss what your men should do excellently!
And let's talk about going down on❤️🔥
So, often in porn, you can see the following picture: a guy sticking his tongue out as much as possible and with the very tip at a fast pace is trying to erase the poor clitoris!
They make it so that all viewers can see what the man is doing, and as you already understood, this is NOT ABOUT PLEASURE!
Remember: the best licking is with a relaxed tongue!
There is even a whole warm-up for the tongue before the cunnilingus! I can tell you if you're interested.
Male mistake
Greetings, Lily with you and let's discuss what, on the male side, worsens a relationship.
The most common male behavior is to assume that your partner isn't getting anywhere.
The candy and bouquet period is long gone, and she still demands your attention, courtship, trips to the movies and sittings in cafes? What a mess!
For relations were fabulous, and quarrels bypassed you, you need to try to arrange a romance! It is so pleasant! And both of you, since then you will have a bunch of pleasant memories to rely on and it is likely to be the most stable foundation for maintaining a happy relationship!
Bring flowers for no reason, say compliments, give a hand and other little things, as we gals love it so much🙃
As a bonus, most romantic evenings would end up in the bedroom💕