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Hey-hey, my goodies! I'm Alice, I'm sexologist by education. Stay tuned for new posts about how to get pleasure 🔥 Buy Ads: @Fuller_b
Does sex change over the years in your couple❓
I bet it does, and that's totally normal.
So there you are, you meet, you date, then you start living together. At first everything was just fine: sex every day, passion, variety and experimentation.
Just a thought, a kiss or a lucky bend was enough to excite you...😈
But after 6+ months ( all in different ways) not the most pleasant changes began, which in the absence of reliable knowledge about sex and the right actions can lead to cheating and even breakup. So, the question is, what to do?
About that later...❤
"I have no idea what I like"
In my practice, I've noticed that this issue affects women more severely. What's the solution?
✔ Explore yourself!
One of the nicest ways is to do it with toys. Boys, this might be a great gift for a progressive girl who likes it hot😏
You can use small vibrators for external stimulation to awaken a woman's erogenous zones.
How does this work? Using them, a woman in a relaxed state seeks out which zones respond to stimulation. This exercise is recommended to do for 21 days, and the knowledge you have gained about yourself can be further used both in solo sex, and in sex with a partner.
And even if you have already studied your body enough, it will never be superfluous a little helper, able to quickly relieve stress and return a good mood.
⚡There is one little physiological secret that helps to get your partner more aroused: Massage the base of the big toes.
Remember this, or better yet, write it down!
This provides additional blood flow to the genitals, and it's also quite pleasant😏
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Can you substitute the lubricant with a home remedy? With vegetable oil, for instance, or petroleum jelly?
Many times people ask me, and I keep wondering...
My friends, these are not the kind of experiments that you need to do if you want mind-blowing sex, sure, and not a bunch of problems afterwards.
No, you cannot replace it, cause intimate gels, unlike other products, have the right, "friendly" for the microflora of the vagina acid-alkaline environment. Oil, cosmetic cream or petroleum jelly can break it.
Food oil in general is not the best solution when it comes to vaginal penetration. Not for nothing are oil-based lubricants used today more for intimate massage, handjobbing, manual stimulation and for male masturbation.
What to do if your partner only has an orgasm in one position?
What does the client's situation indicate? A low level of sexual prowess. Man does not know about the different types of female orgasm and how you can bring them to the partner. Fortunately, this can be fixed, all you need is a little knowledge and practice, practice and practice😉
And the girl just found a position in which she 100% gets an orgasm. But that doesn't mean that in other poses she isn't able to reach the finale.
Tell you how to fix the situation:
- Take time for quality foreplay, which should last at least 30-40 minutes.
- Learn intravaginal techniques to awaken the sensitive areas of the vagina. Then a woman will cum in any position, even a few seconds after the penetration of the penis.
Have you tried gratuitous oral sex?
Surely this thing takes dedication and unselfishness.
But isn't it worth trying to give her oral sex without demanding the same in return at least once in order to remain a sweet and caring guy in her eyes forever?
Surprised by this approach, a girl will want to please you more frequently and more😉
We're all bisexual...
I read this curious statement the other day👆🏻
Freud argued that people are 100% bisexual by nature. The logic behind the assertion was quite simple - it doesn't matter who is stimulating the erogenous zones - male or female. The orgasm will happen. So what difference does it make who you have sex with if the physical sensations are the same?
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He explained that people have constructed their own sexual boundaries in their heads. And if you take away all the accepted norms and stop thinking about what's right, bisexuality will be exposed. ⠀
What Freud didn't take into account then was that it is our brain that determines the level of pleasure. And if a person dislikes having sex with a person of his own sex, there will be no pleasure, much less orgasm. And we absorb the generally accepted norms from birth, so it's extremely difficult to "push our boundaries" like that.
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Do you think we are all 100% bisexual?
Erection Rings
I'm rested and now ready to give you a sex education😌
Erection rings are sex toys specifically designed to prolong and enhance erections.
They squeeze the penis, reducing blood flow. They come in singles like the photo, and some come in doubles/threesies. I do not advise to use them too often, but at times they can be quite helpful.
However, instead of an erection ring, you can use a squeezing technique: squeeze the place between the shaft and the head with your fingers before the onset of orgasm.
Could you do it again? 😏 This technique is called shibari.
For some couples shibari turns into a practice that diversifies intimate life — partners tie each other up (obviously, not simultaneously😄) and have sex while the body of one of the partners is in the harness.
It's useless to write about it — you only need to see and experience it for yourself, otherwise the most detailed and emotional descriptions are pointless.
Many people associate whips with BDSM, yet their use is far broader!
Oh, my darlings, the gentle whip, or flogger, is not designed for painful strokes, but for more convincing role-playing reincarnations.
Combining a powerful psychological effect with low impact, the flogger is great for couples who are new to experimenting.
Once arousal has peaked and patience is no longer possible, you can move on to playing with the flogger's contoured pen, designed for penetration.
Numerous men come to me with the same questions..
So today let's take a closer look at the subject of masturbation and its effects on the body:
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— Can masturbation increase or decrease penis size? - NO.
If we are referring to the size of the penis when it is not erect, no.
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— Can masturbation cause a change in the shape, size or color of a woman's genitals? - NO.
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If masturbation changed the genitals of both men and women, then surgery to change them would not have been invented and would not make sense😉
What is your sex duration?
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There are couples who have an act lasting 30 seconds and even 45 minutes. But the question is, don't they exaggerate their bedtime victories?
Oh, and seriously? Do people pick up their phone to time how long sex lasts?
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What's my point? I mean, does it really matter how long the process lasts? If you and your partner enjoy the process, then you are fine.
Do not put yourself in a box, enjoy it.
Watch out, it's hot!
Many people erroneously believe that masturbating in front of each other is unacceptable.
That's why they prefer to do it secretly from each other.
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Darlings, you're missing out on a lot!
Tell your partner your little secret. Let him watch you caress yourself.
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Light some candles and do it gracefully in the light of their flames.
Or use your favorite toy.
Trust me, it'll make for an unforgettable night.
Adrenaline⚡️
A good old life huck ahead of the weekend, in case you didn't know. I've both fallen for this hook and used it myself, so enjoy😏
🔺Sexual attraction is directly related to adrenaline.
If you want to feel bright emotions and fire in the relationship from the first date or to diversify life with your partner, arrange periodically some extreme.
Go together on a carting, a ski hill, a scary attraction, and for the especially brave parachute jumping, hot air ballooning, plenty of options.
Do not plan anything for the evening: you will be infatuated with each other.
However, it is important not to overdo it, if one of you is scared as hell of heights or something else (in the format of a real phobia), then it is better to choose an activity with a moderate dose of adrenaline😅
By the way, adrenaline can be added in a sexual context. There are many options: try new places, positions, toys.
Who am I and why do you need me?
I constantly face the fact that many people don't understand who a sexologist is or why they need one at all.
Imagining that I'm sitting in my office, waving rubber dicks or massaging every other person's prostate😄
In fact, we're dealing with a huge layer of problems, why you "shouldn't" if your health is okay, why you don't want sex, how to restore your sex life after a betrayal or tragedy, techniques that help you feel better about each other and much, much more.
Lately, I've been getting a bunch of emails from people who aren't in a long-term relationship. They don't understand how to satisfy their needs in this case and whether it is necessary.
❓"And if you don't want to, is that normal? I only want my ex/girlfriend, what to do?" etc.❓
Guys, every question is worth separate attention and parsing. Sexology is part of medicine, and medicine never diagnoses based on just one single symptom.
We're all different, and problems need to be dealt with the same way.
The main thing to remember is not to fall for advice: "It worked for me...", consult a specialist. Otherwise you can mess up things like that. One of my acquaintances once advised a way to forget an ex is a sex marathon.
The result: positive HIV and a broken life.
A new day, a new pose!
It's a nice rule, isn't it?
✔How to perform?
Here is a simple but effective variation on the missionary pose. The girl lies on her back with her legs bent and the man puts his hands under her knees.
✔ What is the peculiarity?
The pose requires no acrobatic skills. Yet it brings a different sensation and takes the depth of penetration to a new level. And the "chaise longue" is simply designed for unhurried, thoughtful and long-lasting sex.
If anyone here likes to have sex with elements of BDSM?
In light of my clients' recent experiences, I recommend thinking ahead about how you will use your power. This is mostly for men, since a girl by nature can't get really hard (unless she's using foreign objects, of course😄)
So here's the first tip — be rhythmic.
If you're going to beat your beloved chaotically, play Tom and Jerry better. And here the blows should be rhythmic, then they evoke a pleasant trance. While the gradual build-up of force gives the body a warm-up.
Autumn, Autumn...
More and more often I notice that autumn is a challenging time for me at work. During this time both men and women tend to have libido problems.
What is the reason?
Biorhythms 🤷🏻♀️ As you know, the daylight hours gradually shorten in the fall, and the lack of sunlight leads to a lack of joy hormones. And where is there to hide from depression when its main enemy is hiding behind clouds and so early goes over the horizon? That is why we are all familiar with the term "autumnal moping". It also happens due to the constant change in temperature.
Our body is simply not able to readjust so quickly, so the change in heat exchange within us causes drowsiness and apathy. Can you imagine how many things happen through a simple change in the seasons?
So before you get offended with your partner for misunderstanding or decreased attention to you, think about it: maybe it is easier to figure it out together and somehow contribute to a warmer relationship in bed?
Don't get hung up on one "most vital" point
If you're going to wow your partner, so do everything with dignity and, most importantly, take your time! Neck, ears, shoulders, left breast, right breast, tummy and keep at it!
The longer you tease your partner by approaching her vagina, the more she will get aroused and have a lot of joy.
The "Grave" Technique
Sexy, slow and languid technique. It arouses, excites and brings truly magical sensations😉
Characteristic differences: tardiness, caution and complete focus on the senses. Everyone writes and compares the sensations to riding on a swing. When at the moment of approaching orgasm, you slow down, freeze and feel with every cell of your body.
As for me, this technique is something intimate and awe-inspiring. When there is visual contact, when you breathe and hear each other's breathing, and get high on the process.
Slow, tweaking movements, little stops in spades, visual contact, that's all there is to know. Try it and enjoy it!
Factors that can affect a girl's ability to have a multi-orgasm:
⚡ Biological predisposition. Yeah, some women are naturally gifted to easily achieve multi-orgasms. Others have to work on themselves and develop their sensuality.
⚡ Age. Women reach the peak of sexual sensuality at the age of 35. This means that multi-orgasms occur more often at this age.
⚡ Time spent on foreplay. The more smoothly, gradually and slowly you warm up, the longer the arousal phase will last.
⚡ The degree of arousal. When you are highly aroused, more blood rushes to your genitals and your erogenous zones become more sensitive.
⚡ Fatigue, stress. An exhausted body will simply refuse to produce orgasms.
You see? 70% in our hands! But even the remaining 30% are not hopeless, the main thing is the right approach😏
Greetings, sweethearts!
Here's what else I wanted to tell you 👉🏻 Trying to maintain a "perfect" libido can hurt self-esteem.
How? It's quite simple.
Since there is no such thing as a norm for libido, this means that high, low sexual desire or no sexual desire are equally normal!
You don't have to want 24/7, whether you're male or female. For some reason, I hear such a stereotype about men in particular.
People who worry about their level of desire not conforming to a mythical ideal get self-esteem and sex problems. Do you need it?
As I'm sure, many of us associate certain smells with sex.
By the way, that's also where the stereotype of scented candles comes from.
However, there is such a thing as olafactophilia — sexual arousal associated with smells, commonly identified with the smells of body secretions.
It does not mean such people like these smells; simply that they are the ones triggering certain hormonal mechanisms in their brains.
Nipple caresses...🔥 Is there a proper technique?
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There is no single advice on breast stimulation and techniques for this process that work for ALL without exception. We are all different!
But there are some good techniques you can try:
💥 Nipple between your fingers.
Cover breast with your hand so that the nipple is between your middle and index finger. Squeeze your fingers so that when you lift your hand, the nipple will also lift up and pull the whole breast up with it.
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💥 Lubricate breast and hand with massage oil.
Place a palm on the breast so that the fingertips are positioned around the circumference of the breast. Lift your hand and at the same time caress breast with your fingertips until they close on the tip of the nipple.
Sex on the table is the most delicious dish
Sudden, desperate, roof-top sex on the kitchen table should be safe.
The key is mental intimacy and a real appraisal of the situation.
You have to make sure the table is secure with sturdy legs. Always realistically assess the context, if there are any doubts, it is better to complete the table foreplay still passionate on a more secure bed.
A woman's body is the main dish at this feast and she feels all the irregularities and small prickly objects more. So first and foremost, order.
The stop sign: the glass table.
I definitely do not recommend it, the risk is disproportionate to the pleasure.
Who likes submission?
I adore both being subjugated and submitting. Either way, that's something that can truly diversify your sex👌🏻
The fantasy of "submitting to a mistress" is a common one for men who hold positions of authority and, therefore, control the actions of others during working hours.
Every third successful and self-sufficient representative of the strong sex comes to fantasies in which a "strict mistress" in high heels, in a leather corset, with a whip and handcuffs dominates.
However, there is also the other side of the coin in such tough games. Thus, many men also do not mind to be in a dominant role. And with the help of orders or slaps to achieve subordination of his partner, even if this game will be a one-time and short-lived.
Try both options and decide what is closer to you😉
A physiological tip for arousal — raise your temperature
Literally!
It is physiologically easier for women to become aroused when the ambient temperature rises. The ideal temperature for sex is between 28 and 32 degrees. In a hotter environment, feelings of discomfort begin to grow.
So if you still haven't taken care of a warm place in your home, now there's a definite motivation😏
Scene 1, take 1.
🔥 What to pay attention to when having sex for the first time with a new man?
Yeah, I'm not much of a blogger, no regular posts, but I'm a good sexologist😄 Something tells me the latter is more important.
So, today I'm going to tell the girls a tip. And men read and remember so they don't get caught up.
The first, second, third man didn't satisfy you in bed?
Remember, dear: the search for a good lover is inherently doomed. Do not expect a WOW-effect with the first intimacy and do not make hasty conclusions.
The most important thing you need to understand in the first night: whether the man wants to please you? That's the litmus test that differentiates a good lover from a bad one.
Desire can manifest itself in technique, even if it is imperfect, in his questions, his general attitude. Taking care of a woman in bed is the green light to a relationship. Give just such men a chance. Gradually you will motivate him to develop sexually, or you will progress together🔝
