PUT YOURSELF FIRST
If you’re in the path of achieving important life goals, and your life purpose, but some woman is getting in the way of that then you have to let her go. YOUR GOALS AND LIFE PURPOSE COME FIRST. This is absolutely essential to understand.
Women are too busy obsessing over themselves to give too many fucks about you. If you don’t care about yourself then you will be lost, because that’s a job that no one else can do for you but you! No one else can care as much about you rather than you. If you don’t fight for you then you will be lost.
Prioritize yourself. The last thing you want to do is to spend an entire day involved with low priority tasks instead of high priority tasks. High priority (high return-on-investment) goals should never be at the mercy of low priority (low ROI) goals. At the end of your life, when you are on your death bed: you don’t want to look back, and realize that all of it was spent on idle meaningless activities.
The irony is that by having priorities that are more important than her then she becomes more attracted - not less. A woman wants to be a support to a man’s mission; she resents being the mission itself. Hence, it has been said that one of the best ways to pickup women is not need to pickup women. Those who are thirsty, don’t get to drink.
While you on your life purpose, you’re infinitely more attractive than when your life purpose is to seduce women. A zest for life and being passionate about a meaningful life purpose doesn’t just make life more enjoyable, but it makes you incredibly sexier to women. This allows for women to live vicariously through you and being sucked in to your reality, not the other way around.
When you look at the qualities that women find attractive in a man, they have a common denominator of a man on his path:
• Ambition,
• Going places in life,
• Driven,
• Passion,
• Has sh*t going on besides her,
• Strong Frame,
Movies cultivate feelings of oneitis because they imply that the purpose of life (the highest ideal) is to just have a beautiful woman, or an orbit of beautiful women. While this is certainly a goal, it should not be the purpose of life itself. There is more to life than just p****.
A woman resents being treated like a goddess because she intuitively knows that she is a flawed creature. Making her the center of your world will quickly result in her not being in your world anymore. You have to play the game according to a woman’s nature, and her nature is that she resents being the destination because it prevents her from being fulfilled as a feminine woman.
Further, a woman resents the submissive man who plays the game according to her rules. Even an avid feminist, resents controlling the man that she’s involved with. Be uncontrollable.
WHY CREATING UNCERTAINTY WORKS WITH WOMEN
When a woman is uncertain about you, she will be at her best to get to certainty and to “lock you down”.
• Certainty gives boredom. And boredom kills relationships. Women feed on drama, adventure, and having sh** to brag about to their female friends.
• When she knows that she has you by the balls, she will no longer put in her A GAME to win you over. The excitement of the chase is over. When she stops trying, she stops caring. A cat doesn’t chase a string that it has already caught; a cat only chases dangling strings that might get away. The moment the cat catches the string, it stops chasing, gets bored, loses interest, and starts doing other things. This is why push/pull is an essential part of attraction-generating techniques.
• Create rapport (string is shown).
• Break rapport (string is pulled away).
• Repeat (push/pull).
Don’t take this personally. This is just how female nature functions. You wouldn’t blame a snake for biting you because that’s what snakes do! Likewise, it’s pointless to get bitter over over the darker side of female nature; instead, use and channel it to your advantage. Understand her psychology and use it as a force for your own seductive advantage.
• Don’t get bitter. Get better.
• Don’t let a rejection get you down. Use it as immediate sexual marketplace feedback to refine your sexual mating strategy.
KEEPING HER GUESSING KEEPS HER EXCITED
Hence, a dosage of dread is healthy for the relationship. She should know that your value in the sexual marketplace is high. You have other options besides her. This is what will keep her excited to fight to win you over, and to wonder about you when you’re not there.
• “Does he like me? Does he like me not?”
• “What is he doing now?”
• “Is he seeing other girls besides me?”
• “What is the new girl that he is seeing?”
THIS IS KEY: The more a woman thinks about you when you’re not around, the more she slowly starts falling for you.
Women don’t wonder about men that they have certainty over. They think about men they are trying to figure out. Her imagination will do more for you seductively than full-disclosure. Don’t always give women direct answers to their questions that reveal all the cards; leave enough hidden to keep them curious about f the truth out of you.
Psychological investment = amplifies attraction.
An ounce of mystery creates a pound of curiosity.
GIVE HER HOOPS TO JUMP THROUGH
Hence, don’t be a nice guy who is afraid to get favors from women because he doesn’t want to be an “annoying burden”.
• Flip the script. You are the important one in the interaction.
• You are the prize to be one. You are the one to be won over.
Have her jump hoops to earn your approval, and then grant it. Women value what they work for. When they finally win the prize (you) they’ll appreciate you a lot more than if it was granted to them on a silver platter initially for free.
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Technique #20.1: leave juicy bait.
A good conversationalist makes it easy for women to respond to him by: using bait (enticing teasers that women will be tempted to inquire about; if you casually mention just coming back from London then a woman will inquire about that; if you make a mysterious cold-read about her personality that she doesn’t fully understand then she’ll ask you to explain it - thus falling deeper into a conversation with you).
Talking about trending, high-demand, hot subjects that women generally find highly interesting (discussing Algebra will most likely put women to sleep, but talking about the 2021 election clown-show debate leads to a lively verbal response), triggering visceral emotions (“No one texts faster than an angry woman.”, and ultra bold language (that is triggering to the point where a woman almost can’t stop herself from responding - falling into the seducer’s frame in the process).
And if all else fails negging (by making a statement that compromises a woman’s ego - either playfully or “accidentally”, she will use verbally respond to defend herself so that she can continue to feel important. Keep in mind that negs are “throw and go”; if they come across an insult then a woman will either eject from the interaction or insult you back and then eject.
The incorrect use of negs can lead to a verbal harassment charge, so be smart). BAITING. Make having a conversation with you EASY. She shouldn’t have to strain herself to come up with something to reply back to you; it should ideally flow naturally.
One way to do this is to leave “tempting bait” in what you are saying. You’ll find that when a girl likes you, it’s much easier to hold down a conversation because she’s contributing on her part and leaving enticing “conversation bait” - to make it tempting for you to keep talking to her.
LAW #52: Leverage silence.
Learn to use silence to your advantage. What you don’t say is as important as what you do say. Silence itself is a response. Learn to leverage silence.
Keep in mind that NOT everything a woman says is worth deciphering. Often a woman will vomit an entire series of random nonsense that doesn't matter at all and doesn't have any deeper meaning. Never underestimate the incredible effectiveness of ignoring a woman, as a frame control tactic.
Using silence as a communication weapon will save you from a lot of time-wasting drama. Simply ignoring a woman at the right times will save you a lot of unnecessary pain-in-the-asses. The use of silence is especially golden during shit-tests; when a woman says some stupid drama-creating bullshit then just ignore it, and misdirect her attention to something else - to save yourself the headache.
Ignoring female bullshit will save you a lot of headaches.
What you reward with your attention tends to be reinforced. So it’s important to bring attention to positive behaviors, and disregard negative behaviors (even avoid mentioning them entirely. Attention is the currency that women crave, and what you give attention to: will be repeated. This is why it is best to not give credibility to negative behaviors by discussing them .
There are certain specific moments in your communication with a woman where it will be of tremendous benefit for you to be able to understand the true meaning behind the signals that women send out. The key is to pay attention to what matters, and disregard the irrelevant bullshit that doesn’t matter.
The 5 Key Rules of Frame Control
#1) Not everything a woman says is worth acknowledging.
#2) You don’t owe a woman anything - not even closure.
#3) Not everything a woman says is worth responding to verbally or emotionally.
#4) Not every question a woman asks is worth answering.
#5) You can redirect a woman’s stupid questions with either a sarcastic answer, or a question of your own.
Learning to say “no” and just ignoring her shit, will save you from tons of female drama and bullshit.
This is an excerpt from Forbidden Techniques of Frame Control. The Immutable 20 Laws of Frame Control: He Who Controls the Frame, Controls the Game.
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LAW #42: To attract women, become attractive. Be positive, socially competent, confident, and stylish.
Men that are positive are FAR MORE ATTRACTIVE to women than men that have pessimistic perspectives on life. Having basic social skills is necessary for dealing with people - women included. Having an active social life will inherently lead to having strong game skills. Don’t isolate yourself from society and stop developing yourself, the moment you get a girlfriend.
If you have no real-world friends who you meet up with then yes, that’s a red-flag that you need to socialize more. There are real benefits to having a peer support network - besides ample opportunities to sharpen your social skills. Further, one of the fastest ways to get strong social skills is to spend time with people who have strong social skills - role-modeling after them. Avoid spending time with socially inept fucking weirdos because that would only lead you to internalize their anti-game behavioral tendencies.
It's amazing how often basic rules of conduct are ignored like:
hold eye-contact,
articulate clearly,
have a strong, firm handshake,
keep your head held high,
don’t look down like a beta,
stand straight,
wear clean clothes (women do notice subtle details),
shower daily to ensure you smell nice,
don't monopolize a conversation,
don’t be clingy in conversations and “wear out your welcome”,
don't dress like a retard,
don't be a downer by focusing on the negatives in life,
don’t be bitter by speaking badly about people,
don’t bring up strange subjects like serial killers,
don’t bring up gross subjects like farts and feces,
don’t be socially awkward by being fucking weird and oblivious to the unofficial rules of dealing with people,
Yes, women will notice if you have:
greasy hair,
unkempt hair,
long nails,
smiling too often,
nodding too frequently,
licking your lips frequently,
being dressed oddly, and
dirty or stained clothing.
These subtle details reveal a lot about a man. If you look like shit, then women will find you creepy. Women will judge you within the first half a second of seeing you.
Dress impeccably. Not because you need her validation, or care what she thinks. But because you understand the importance of perception management & strong game skills when it comes to banging pussy in general.
By taking care of yourself (personal grooming, basic self-care behaviors such as good hygiene, being financially independent, etc.) you reveal the capacity to take care of others.
How to get a woman committed into a conversation: provoke a response by touching a nerve and tugging on a heart-string.
Bland statements don’t elicit conversation responses but bold, polarizing and controversial statements do. BE POLARIZING.
When bold statements work, they work like a BANG!!
Emotion creates motion. Get it? E+MOTION.
If she feels something then that feeing will compel her to say something. The lesson is: provoke an emotional response to provoke a conversational response. PRESS HER EMOTIONAL BUTTONS.
If you are able to create an intense emotional state within a woman, she will not shut the fuck up. She will talk non-stop and be highly invested in continuing to talk with you. This is true even if she is “busy” and there are other guys in the scenario. [A woman in an intense emotional state is highly susceptible to being seduced because her logical mind is shut down. This is also known as High Buying Temperature and the Amygdala Hijack.] Here is a simple way to remember this concept: E-motions create conversational MOTIONS.
APATHY IS THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE. FEMALE INDIFFERENCE IS THE ENEMY.
During a conversation, when you make her feel something - anything at all - then you are drawing her into your world and making her psychologically invested in you. Emotions are addictive, create involvement and create emotional engagement.
In contrast, if a woman feels nothing, she will say nothing.
INCREASE THE INTENSITY OF HER EMOTIONAL STATE BY SPIKING HER EMOTIONS.
Focus on the telling of emotional information over the telling of factual information. She cares far more about the former because inducing higher emotional arousal makes her feel more alive.
Pump up intense emotions into her system by saying and doing things that increase emotional arousal; social scientists have confirmed that increasing emotional arousal increases enjoyment in life.
This tip is the opposite of what intellectuals tend to do. Friendly conversation is called being a bore. Don't be boring. Ensure that you sprinkle in highly-edgy, highly-emotionally-charged spikes into the conversation.
HOW TO FLIRT: CHALLENGE HER. A WOMAN’S FRUSTRATION IS A FORM OF ATTRACTION TO YOU.
When you tease, playfully challenge, or neg a woman then you are getting her engaged into the interaction on an emotional level because now her ego is at stake. When you’ve poked at her pride then she has to pump up her self-esteem by teasing you back; the mutual back-and-forth teasing gets a woman psychologically and emotionally invested into the interaction.
This the logic of flirting and is a far superior medium of communication to the apathetic, “I don’t give a fuck” response that bland, politically correct nice guys get.
What if She's Toxic?
Spending time on a woman who is a good sexual potential is like watering a seed that turns into a plant that bears fruits, but spending time on:
a toxic woman (with severe emotional baggage) ,
on a woman who has friend zoned,
on a woman who has low interest (and unavailable for in-person meetups),
on a woman who is perpetually in a bad mood and always finds things to complain about,
on a woman who has perpetual problems that she needs saving from because she is incredibly incompetent,
you is like watering a rock. Pouring more water is not going to magically change the rock into a plant; if you keep doing what you’re doing then you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. You have to kick the rock to the curb, go find time-worthy seeds and never look back. Next level behaviors lead to next level results.
In the case of a toxic woman who is a relationship dead-end, it’s better to move on with your life, because no pussy is worth your peace of mind. Even if you fuck her, the psychological toll is not worth it, because that’s psychological energy that you could have spent developing better leads that are of healthier connections.
No pussy is worth your self-respect , and sexual market-value. Even if you fuck her in the end, think about how you’ve lost opportunities with other girls in the process.
I’m about to say something that is incredibly politically incorrect (and should not be shared with blue-pilled male associates): women have different levels of quality in sexual relationships. Not every woman that you can fuck is worth fucking. Some low quality garbage should be left in the garbage.
In contrast, there are higher quality women out there that are worth getting into a long-term sexual relationship with.
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Life is too short to take too long to make a move. GROW SOME BALLS and make a fucking move. Don't be one of those guys that needs to have endless conversations to nowhere - that span for many weeks - before you ask her out or endless dates before you physically escalate. Don’t become texting penpals. She’ll just use you for conversation, attention and free entertainment.
Put a price tag on yourself. She has to meetup at a reasonable time and make reasonable progress towards sexual intimacy or you’re moving on to prospects that don’t have intimacy (or logistical) impediments.
A few properly placed and well-timed touches can make a woman aroused. Touch her in the right area on her skin during emotionally high moments. Use conversation as misdirection while touching her; bullshit baffles brains.
Don't just approach to have a nice conversation to nowhere. Approach with the intention of banging her. Consistently move the interaction forward closer to sex. Your time isn't free. Always be pushing the interaction closer towards sex. Don't be one of those guys who: - has endless conversations that lead to nowhere, - becomes the penpal chatting buddy that never makes a move or - waiting around for months hoping that things will work out in the end.
Often women don't know what they want until you show them what's possible. LEAD. Don't ask permission to "touch her". Just touch her during the course of the conversation and watch her respond with positive ⚡️EXCITEMENT.
Always be advancing the interaction towards sex. Life is too short to be spend to be trapped in an endless conversation to nowhere or going on a dozen friendly dates. Always be moving things forward towards sex and if she resists repeatedly, NEXT HER.
Reading body-language is crucial. She could be DOWN TO FUCK RIGHT NOW but you are still busy having a conversation trying to create more attraction and more rapport. Don't be blind. Open your eyes to the signals she is sending and tailor your game accordingly. If she is down to fuck, don’t run more attraction-generating game; just fucking close now!
Don't frame the touching as a big deal. Make it appear natural, spontaneous and smooth. Don't draw attention to it, or look at the touch while touching. The conversation will distract her from the touch being uploaded to her unconscious. Physical escalation creates excitement for women that encourages them to keep going in the interaction. One of the best times to touch a woman is when you’re making a point, or to reward her for good behavior. Start with smaller physical escalations before proceeding to bigger forms of physical escalation. “You get a hug for that.”
This was an excerpt from Cory Smith's The Sexcalation System.
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Pickup should be fun! Have a good time! Don’t make it painful by being overly self-critical, neurotic, OCD, anxious about being judged, or self-conscious.
By entering into talkative state, you’ll naturally say the right things in conversation. Talkative state is a certain state of mind that is conducive to being a conversationalist. One is able to enter this state of mind by warming up and doing some socializing.
Brief note on texting:
Practical application: when you get a text from a woman, don’t take 5-10 minutes to ponder the best possible response that you can send her. This is a waste of your time and psychological energy. It takes away the fun of the interaction and turns it into a chess match.
Further: it can take more energy to remember to text her back than it takes to just text her back as soon as you read it. You are far better served by just responding instantly as soon as you read her text than having to exert unconscious energy to remember in your mind to text her later and unconsciously working on the “most clever, value-giving” text back. I advise not looking at your phone’s texts until you ready to interact with women, so that you aren’t put in a situation where you read texts, can’t respond right away, postpone it for later, and then have your mind waste its energy.
When you have genuine fun in the field, you will be much more motivated to go out and interact with women (sustaining motivation in the long-term) than if you view it as a painful chore and a dangerous minefield.
A good approach appears like “it just happened”.
A good approach appears natural and spontaneous – not planned. A good pickup should not look like a pickup. A good pickup appears as if you are in the middle of doing something important, but you happened to notice something about her that overwhelmed you so much that you “couldn’t stop yourself” from sharing that thought.
After all, you are a highly social outgoing guy. You enjoy talking to people and meeting new people - as you go about your daily life. Even if you don’t “get the girl”, you still got an enjoyable experience that uplifted your spirits and made your day more awesome.
After talking to her for a bit, she ended up being so cool that you exchanged numbers so that you can invite her to fun events in the area that you are going to anyways because you have an exciting and fun lifestyle.
MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT PLANETS AND THIS IS WHY IT MATTERS.
Men and women are VERY different. You have to let go of the bullshit feminist propaganda, feminists want to brainwash you into believing, that men and women “are the same” and “equal”. Men and women are VERY different;
THOUGHT. They think differently.
BEHAVIOR. They behave differently.
ACTION. They make decisions differently.
PHILOSOPHY. The process of how they look at the world (and interpret events) is different.
SPEECH. And most importantly: they communicate differently.
This is crucial for you to understand because viewing a woman as “a man with a vagina” leads is the equivalent of playing chess with a blindfold on. If you treat a woman in the same exact way that you treat a man then YOUR GAME IS FUCKED.
Don’t treat a woman like she is a man - who just happens to have a vagina. Treat a woman differently than you would treat a man because the woman operates on Feminine OS and speaks Womenese, while a man operates on Masculine OS and speaks Manese.
THE TRUTH: WOMEN LIVE ON A DIFFERENT PLANET, AND COMMUNICATE WITH A DIFFERENT LANGUAGE.
FUCK political correctness. This is the truth (be willing to verbalize this 5 times over for the concept to sink in):
Men communicate in the masculine style 🔪 , and women communicate in the feminine style 🍑.
It’s problematic when newbie seducers think women ALSO communicate in the masculine style. These clueless guys will interpret a woman’s words incorrectly because they fail to realize that she is communicating in the FEMININE which is an entirely divergent language and operates based on a different set of variables (e.g. emotion, ego, primal imperatives etc).
The core of problems in long-term sexual relationships is using Manese Tools to understand Womenese.
These clueless guys use the rules of masculine communication (“Manese”) to interpret feminine communication and then are left scratching their heads when her actions are misaligned to her words. They’re trying to interpret Womenese with the tools of Manese (e.g. they think women mean what they say literally, say what mean literally, and uphold their word as honor dictates).
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Have powerful body-language when communicating with women. Often how you say something is more important than what you are actually saying; hence, your delivery skills are crucial. You can have the best pickup lines in the world, but if the delivery is off then the pickup lines won’t hit. If you body-language is weak then women won’t take you seriously. Here is a checklist for good body-language when communicating with women. Each one of these is incredibly important.
• ✅ #1) Be LOUD.
• ✅ #2) Have a DEEP TONALITY.
• ✅ #3) Hold STRONG EYE-CONTACT.
• ✅ #4) Take your time when talking. Talk slower at times to emphasize key points. GOOD PACING is vital. 🔑
• ✅ #5) Use PAUSES to build anticipation.
• ✅ #6) TOUCH to emphasize key points.
• ✅ #7) Use GESTURES to emphasize key points.
• ✅ #8) TAKE UP SPACE when talking to women. Keep your feet apart. Have a Power-Posture.
• ✅ #9) HAVE VARIETY in your tonality, temp and volume.
• ✅ #10) Communicate with NON-VERBAL body-language such as your posture, and practiced FACIAL EXPRESSIONS.
• ✅ #11) Practice emotional regulation techniques and meditation skills to communicate from a position of having a RESOURCEFUL EMOTIONAL STATE, and peace of mind. Being relaxed will help you avoid nervous ticks, facial flinches, or signaling stress.
• ✅ #12) Keep your head up, and chest out. Keep your back straight. Lean back. OWN THE SPACE.
• ✅ #12) Feel good. Enjoy the experience in the present moment. Flash a GENUINE SMILE.
• ✅ #13) Amplify your volume and SPEAK CLEARLY. Articulate yourself well.
• ✅ #14) Sit down, lean against the wall, or get into a comfortable position. This is known as LOCKING IN. Confident men don’t position themselves in an uncomfortable position when communicating.
• ✅ #15) Command the environment. Move things around. Control and adjust things in the environment. Behave like THE PLACE YOU ARE IN IS YOUR HOME.
Women can use humor, “constructive” criticism, and “positive intentions” to disguise blatant manipulation and Power Grabs. These women will make Power Grabs (such as these) to establish themselves as higher in relative social status, get their ego validated and feel important.
Once these women get relative social power, they become disgusted by the men who gave up their self-respect and power. The insight here is simple: women desire men that are more powerful than them. Even a savage feminist seeks out a more competent man who is higher than her in subjective social status - both relative to her and relative to society’s standards of success.
To attract beautiful women into your life it’s imperative to:
seize social status immediately,
create the frame that YOU ARE THE PRIZE IN THE INTERACTION,
avoid exuding an apologetic or doubtful self-image,
ALWAYS have powerful, dominant body-language,
ALWAYS retain Walk Away Power by having multiple women in your orbit,
behave like a KING,
dress like you’re wealthy,
avoid peasant and low status behaviors that indicate that you are a man of inferior social standing,
avoid dressing average,
avoid worshipping women,
There’s a lot more key behaviors than I’m including in this chapter, but to summarize they follow one basic guiding principle.
Seize social power, and retain it. Women think they want social power, but quickly lose respect and attraction to a man who gives away his power.
Technique #12: The Field-Tested Line, Transitions and Routines
Have a few memorized lines that you can use at any moment just in case your brain can’t think of anything to say to keep a conversation going. Have a default memorized line to use to start the conversation in case your brain freezes and you are lost for words.
CREATE A CHEAT-SHEET.
Be willing to write down a few topics to talk about into iOS Notes (use bulletpoints - not word-for-word scripts) and glance at them while you are in the midst of the interaction (she will think that you are just checking texts).
HAVE A GAMEPLAN.
To become more success with women, develop a conscious gameplan. Don’t just leave it to chance. Figure out a step-by-step plan of action on what specifically you are going to do in order to have more beautiful women in your life.
BE ON THE LOOKOUT FOR GOOD LINES.
Every time you leave your home, you have multiple opportunities to initiate conversations with female strangers as you go about your daily life and sharpen your skills. The optimal path is to practice your social and seduction skills on a daily basis as you do simple seemingly mundane things such as shopping for groceries, or even taking out the trash. Remember: you get good at what you do frequently. Often the best lines come from spontaneous conversations.
The best routines come from natural spontaneous conversations. If you have noticed that a specific line has generated results for you then remember it and add it to your pocket of lines; chances are that it will work again! Continuously refine your arsenal of battle-tested, field-proven, non-cheesy lines.
Be willing to learn about subject matters that women find highly interesting, and to become competent in areas that women really appreciate. It is preferable for these to be based on the type of woman that you are interested in.
At the same time, don’t lose your identity in the seduction game; draw women into your own world by flashing elite status, having a fiery purpose, and having your own personally meaningful hobbies that you genuinely care about and are a master of.
One of the girlfriends that I had in college was obsessed about being a vegetarian, PETA, anime, fitness, and (ironically) video-games. I recall knowing close to nothing about most of these subjects and researching them by watching documentaries and reading articles on the web, so that I would be able to engage in conversation with my own unique perspective on these “hot topics” that she adored. While I did this in my formative years, I would not necessarily recommend this mating strategy unless you are already in a sexual relationship with the woman (or you are trying to break into a particular niche of women who ascribe to a certain micro culture) because researching a subject can be time consuming.
Further, it is preferable for a woman to be sucked into your world more than you are sucked into her world. Focus on her becoming interested in your favorite subjects of conversation MORE than you becoming interested in what she is interested in. This is simply more time efficient. Further, it allows you to play the sexy role of an authority figure who guides her path (as a salsa dance instructor, college “tutor”, or even a spiritual leader in some religious niches) rather than a low status follower of her world. Don’t lose your personal identity in pursuit of sexual access to a specific woman, but be willing to recreate yourself and become the best version of yourself for the sake of achieving your life purpose.
A woman is attracted to a man of higher social status than her. Create this perception of status by teaching her new things about life. After all, a teacher is of higher social status than his student. This is more effective to do if she gets sucked into your world, and into subjects that you are a master of - rather than vice-versa.
Women fuck up - not down. Women fuck men that are leaders - not followers. You want to constantly be leading her physically, mentally and logistically. By playing the role of a leader in the dynamic between you and her, attraction levels will spike. Even a “feminist” woman, wants to be submit to a more dominant, and more competent man.
If you want to get a woman to be sexually aroused by you then you have to frame yourself as the PRIZE and the ONE WHO IS MORE VALUABLE than her. One way of asserting yourself as the being that is of higher worth than her is by leading. A leader is naturally given the position of being higher in relative social status than those that follow him.
• Knowing that you have a set of high-demand correlated skills that generate value on command and make you highly desirable commodity in the sexual market place. The knowledge that you can go out on any day, and after a few hours meet a new amazing woman, who you have chemistry with, is incredibly important to have as a man. You want her, but you don’t need her because you can meet another girl (just like her, or even better) within a day or two.
• UNDERSTAND THIS RIGHT NOW: Men with more SEXUAL HUSTLE, get laid more than master theorists who don’t even go out. You need to hit the field because input determines output. Have a system that has been field-tested to work with women. Be highly aggressive in going after what you want in life. If you don’t go out and meet women, no amount of theory can help you.
•Know that you can accomplish anything that you set your mind to accomplish. Unlimit yourself from limiting beliefs that state otherwise. Since your childhood you have been conditioned to believe that you are weak, and incapable; you have been trained to conform to the sheep around you. You have been turned to yet another sheep among the masses of brainwashed sheep. Now as an adult, it’s imperative that you take off the chains. Regardless of how dark your past was, START AGAIN MOFO!!! Embrace your APEX PREDATOR BEAST identity.
This comes down to a few key behaviors:
• - Behaving like the 10 that you are.
• - Having other viable options besides her (aka internalized abundance).
• - Having a lifestyle where you meet and flirt with new women, so your skills stay as sharp as a Katana.
• - Holding the “I am the prize” mindset that is the cornerstone of sexy confidence. Hold this mindset especially in the face of shit-tests. In fact, don’t even flinch in the face of shit-tests. THIS IS KEY!!!
• - Putting yourself on the pedestal
• - Not kissing her ass.
• - Exuding powerful, dominant body-language at the very and staying Alpha throughout. Be unapologetic about your highly dominant body-language and apex alpha male presence.
• - NOT becoming a weak soy boy once the sexual relationship intensifies; HOLD THE FRAME. Once feelings are developed, an Alpha can quickly turn into a Beta Simp; don’t let oneitis turn you weak. Don’t stop developing your game skills and sexual market value, just because you’re in a relationship.
• - Being a man on his purpose, living his dream, pursuing his vision, and executing daily goals. Part of being a man of success is being a man on his mission in life, and having a higher purpose other than her pussy. Women want to be helpers to your meaningful mission, not the mission itself. The faster you understand and implement this, the faster you can live a life of happiness. After all, happiness comes from making consistent substantial progress towards a meaningful purpose.
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I still remember one of the first cold approaches that I have ever done. I was so nervous that my entire body was literally trembling. It was terrifying. I walked up, delivering my opening line, and then ran away like a cat with a tail stuck between her legs. I remember traveling to a far side of the city to approach beautiful women, but then not even approaching a single one because I was so afraid.
Fast forward thousands of approaches later, I can approach any woman at any location at any time - without feeling anxious. The ability to meet women anywhere that I go makes even a simple trip to the grocery store an exciting adventure. The next woman I approach could be a fuck buddy. When traveling, I am never bored because I can easily interact with the women at those locations.
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Introvert Strengths
Deep work capacity
Critical thinking abilities
Non-neediness
#01) Deep work capacity.
The introvert has the capacity to spend a lot of time in solitude and that allows him to focus on a specific activity for hours upon hours to achieve a specific goal.
The ability to retain razor focus towards one’s goals for long stretches of time and completely shut out the outside world is paramount to success. Remember we live in a society that makes millions of dollars in trying to distract you into falling into the consumerism trap (and other goal distractions). Achieving your clear goals is defined as success; everything else is noise and commentary.
#02) Critical thinking abilities.
The introvert is able to spend a large amount of time in solitude to reflect deeply upon his experiences to mine them for lessons and use what he learns to refine his current mating strategy. This is because, unlike the extrovert, the introvert does not have a need for constant stimulation; the introvert is able to laser focus on what needs to be done, despite an absence of stimulation and social interaction.
An extrovert is more likely to impulsively and instinctually react to a situation - without stopping to ponder and think about what the best course of action would be. Reckless thoughtless action can sometimes yield catastrophic results - or at the very least inefficient effort. In contrast, an introvert is more thoughtful. When a situation arises, he is more likely to think before jumping in with the questions:
• “What is my goal in this situation?”,
• “What is the best strategy to achieve this goal?”,
• “What is the agenda and needs of the person that I meeting with?”
• “Is there a way for me to create a mutually beneficial alliance so that my goals and the goals of the person I am dealing with are both achieved?”
• “In terms of what I want from this individual where I am at versus where are they at?”
• “What are some of their passions, and core values?” This way I can engage in the interaction by talking about common interests, connect on shared values, and then (potentially) pitch by agenda in a smooth manner (sometimes non-verbally) - whether that’s a greater level of physical intimacy or a business deal.
#03) Non-neediness.
The Introvert is better able to deal with being alone for long periods of time. Sometimes it is necessary for one to isolate himself from society so that he can take care of shit that needs to be taken care of. An introvert is better able to do that than an extrovert can.
DEEP WORK is an essential component of success in any field. One must be able to isolate himself from society for several hours a day to work with intense laser focus towards his goals. Dealing with people during this time will simply distract.
Neediness is a trait that is absolutely disgusting to women because needy men are perceived to be weak, without options, and low in social status. Neediness is also exhausting to be around. One of the advantages of an introvert is that he doesn’t need people as much as extroverts do and thus he is able to emotionally and psychologically detach himself from sexually charged situations. This level of non-neediness can be quite attractive to women.2
A note about neediness
It’s important to note that neediness is NOT to be confused with showing sexual intent. Do not have the false premise that showing sexual intentions towards a woman is being “needy”. It is important to show that you are sexually interested in being with a woman. And that is NOT considered to be “uncool” or “needy”.
The difference between interest and desperation is the level of intensity.
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Play along the fantasy she desires to see. Leverage sexy stereotypes and her imagination.
ADOPT A SEXY STEREOTYPE THAT IS BASED ON THE DESIRES AND WANTS OF THE DEMOGRAPHIC OF THE WOMAN THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN. Understand that women respond to their imagination of you more than the objective reality of who you are.
AS A MAN, YOU CAN BE MANY THINGS TO WOMEN, BUT YOU CANNOT BE BORING. Being boring is the cardinal sin of dealing with women. Playing it safe, predictable, and nice is playing it boring. You need to START TAKING RISKS in interactions with women. Be edgy. Polarize. START DRIPPING WITH PERSONALITY. Bare your naked soul. Express yourself freely and fully. Take on intriguing hobbies and develop an identity that women will find interesting.
3 SPECIFIC EXAMPLES ABOUT PREEMPTING WOMEN'S BEHAVIORS WITH COUNTER MEASURES DESIGNED TO AMPLIFY HER LEVELS OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION FOR YOU
1. For instance: if you know that asking a woman for permission before doing something will lead to her losing respect for your authority and ultimately resulting in lackluster sex, then you'll immediately cease this beta male behavior. Be a leader - not an approval seeking simp. Be a decisive warrior - not a soy boy. A woman wants to look up to her man and be challenged (she resents being able to control a man like she controls a dog on a leash), so put yourself on a pedestal and don't ask her permission to do what you have to do.
2. Another example: if you know that saying "sorry" sets a precedent for more simp like behavior, then you'll avoid unnecessarily apologizing for your existence. Apologizing is beta male behavior that comes from insecurity and self-doubt (the exact opposite of confidence). Expressions of self-doubt and weakness absolutely disgust women - just like men are disgusted by expressions of obesity. Stop saying "sorry" (a word that kills the vibe), and start OWNING IT. For every word that comes out of your mouth, own it 100%. When dealing with women, exude extreme confidence. YOU ARE A FUCKING 10, SO ACT LIKE IT. YOU ARE THE PRIZE TO BE WON, SO BEHAVE ACCORDINGLY.
3. Final example: if you know that giving into a woman's Boundary Pushes, only reinforces her negative behavior and will embolden her to progressive violate even more of your boundaries, you won't stand for her bullshit. The more disrespect you put up with, the more she will disrespect you in the future. Here is a savage truth about women: they don't respect men that they walk all over - like a doormat. If a woman treats a man like shit, she will start to believe that he is shit. Don't be a fucking pushover. Don't put up with bullshit. Call women out on their BS behavior. Communicate boundaries clearly, and be willing to walk if they're violated.
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF. This is a job that only you can do for yourself because women are too busy obsessing over themselves. Everyone is out for his own skin. It's imperative that you look out for YOUR SKIN
Women see the world through emotional lenses. Feeling something is true is enough for it "to be true" - to a certain extent. Women use their emotions as a guiding system to navigate their behaviors, and to "perceive the world with". Men that are able to express themselves on an emotional level will be able to communicate in a manner that really resonates with women.
The Feminine Communication Style
Women say what’s on their heart. They talk based on how they feel at the moment.
Their words often don’t have weight to them because women don’t follow a code of honor. Women’s verbalized thoughts don’t have consistency because emotions are volatile. She can say that she loves you today, but a few days later break up with you. What she really meant is that she loves what you represent, the feelings that you make her feel, the value that you give (not you per se) and she’ll continue to love you - as long as you continue to give her those things.
4 DISRUPTION FACTORS
It can be hard to decipher the true meaning behind a woman’s words because:
even the woman herself doesn’t understand half the vomit that comes out of her mouth,
women buy into their own bullshit and can have strong frames themselves,
the woman herself will often say things that if taken at face-value are very misleading, her words are based on how she feels at the moment and how she feels is liable to change.
A woman actions and words are based on how she is feeling at the moment; just like her feelings are liable to change, so are her actions and words liable to quickly change from extreme to extreme. Women mean what they say but only at that moment - when she feels what she feels then. After all, women live entirely on the emotions of the moment. A woman’s opinions and behaviors can change as soon as her feelings change.
In post breakups, women will often rewrite history in a manner that conveniently forgets the positive things that their ex-boyfriend did, and embellishes the negative things that were done.
The key to understanding how women communicate is to understand that women live in the emotions of the moment.
According to her, if something feels true then it is true.
If doing something feels good then she will do it.
To communicate on a woman’s level then show how being with you is the most enjoyable and fun option for her; demonstrate, don’t just explain.
To speak Womenese, minimize logical lectures and instead communicate in a manner that is emotionally expressive. Touch a woman’s emotional buttons through good story-telling, taboo words MOTHERFUCKER, and a style of communication designed for emotional impactfulness. Women perceive the world through their feelings, so a style of communication designed to trigger a woman’s emotions will be more impactful than a style of communication that is logical and emotionally dry. This can be hard for high IQ men to implement because they are used to communicating solely on a logical plane, and completely disregard the emotional plane; to go from one world, to another world can be quite challenging for them.
1 When looking into a woman’s social media account, only casually skim it for a maximum of five minutes - just to get a sense of what her core values are, what her hobbies are, what her ambitions are and so on. It’s extremely unhealthy behavior to constantly be checking a woman’s social media accounts and to comment with pedestalizing comments like the hordes of other thirsty men. By pedestalizing a woman with your behaviors, you end up pedestalizing her in your heart and mind. Female influencers don’t respect their followers and certainly won’t respect a thirsty guy writing thirsty comments. Don’t waste your life living through the social media posts of someone else. Skim through casually for 5 minutes to gather some actionable-intel (about a woman who you are already communicating with in person in real life) but don’t spend any more time than that.
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SOCIAL LEARNING THEORY
Share something personal about your life but make sure that it is amusing and has a funny/bold ending to it. By sharing something about your life, you are inviting her to share something about her life too. After all, according to American-Canadian psychologist Albert Bandura people learn best by role-modeling after observed behaviors. A woman is more likely to learn by seeing a demonstration of proper behavior than she is by listening to an explanation of proper behavior.
On an advanced note, sometimes you want to give sarcastic and evasive answers to women to encourage them to prod more and to spike intrigue by appearing more mysterious (See Law #2: Create desire by leaving a woman wanting more and utilizing the negation tactic).
Go first; then leverage reciprocity and mirroring.
LAW #9: Reciprocity is effective for instantly getting compliance.
Imagine two different situations:
Situation #1: immediately upon entering a restaurant, a waiter asks for you for a five dollar tip. “Get the fuck outta here” would be your initial response.
Situation #2: a waiter provides stellar prompt service throughout your meal - ensuring that you’re glass of orange juice is always filled, there are plenty of napkins, there are lots of extra condiments, you have a wide selection of bagels - and then after the meal is over, the waiter requests a five dollar tip. The latter situation is more likely to get compliance because value was given upfront for free, and then value was requested secondly.
Implement the Principle of Reciprocity
Women are more likely to give value when free value has already been given to them. Hence, give emotional and conversation value FIRST. Request emotional and conversational value SECOND.
Implement the Principle of Mirroring
What you put into an interaction is what you will get out of it because women will mirror your behavioral patterns. Put into a relationship the kinds of things that you would like to get out of a relationship.
This concept is relevant in having conversations with women:
If you want a woman to invest, be a shinning example for her to role model after.
If you want a woman to entertain you (and give value) when it’s her turn to talk, lead by example and say something that is entertaining (and value-giving) to her when you are talking.
Showcase the proper model of giving value, so that a woman will reciprocate by giving the same type of value that you gave her.
Share details about your life. Talk about exciting and funny things that are currently happening in your life. Explain interesting pieces of information that you have recently learned yourself.
Ask yourself:
What is a project that I’m working on right now that I’m passionate about?
What is something extraordinary that recently happened to me?
What is something new that I learned recently that completely changed my perspective on the world?
Discover the answers to these questions and then share them boldly. This will encourage her to share as well because of the effect of reciprocity and mirroring. A conversation will ensue.
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Technique #14: The Cold Read
Making a cold read (or a warm read) boils down to making an intelligent, insight about her favorite subject: herself. Tell her something about herself that she didn't know before. Give her an insight about her current life’s situation that will blow her fucking mind.
Cold-reads are extremely effective conversation amplifiers. After all, there is no one in the world that she cares more about except herself. By revealing something about her that she didn’t know before you’ve given her a significant amount of benefit - one that will reciprocated by her giving conversational value of her own to benefit you!
Technique #14.2: The Dig Deeper Tactic
Listen attentively to what she says - both on an intellectual level and on an emotional level. Then paraphrase what she has already told you in your own words, and go deeper into that subject.
When a woman talks about herself, read between-the-lines and understand the implications. Think to yourself:
Why is that true?
Why is it important?
What are the implications and ramifications of what she said?
What does that say about who she is?
By thinking about these questions and possible answers, you will use your mind to generate insights. Then proceed to share the most interesting of these insights with the women who you are dealing with.
4 Types of Cold Reads You Can Use
• - Comment on her energy levels. Does she have a lot of energy or is chill and calm?
• - Comment on her introversion or extroversion. Is she an introvert or an extrovert?
• - Comment on her accent, and take an educated guess as to where she is from. “You have a strong accent. I can tell that you are from Russia.” You can take this a step further, and take a guess about what her age is. Regardless if you are wrong or right, she will be entertained and will wonder what lead you to come to that conclusion.
• - Comment on her Myers Briggs personality type.
#1) Women make decisions and perceive the world through the medium of how they feel. By changing a woman’s mood, you’ll be able to change a woman’s mind and behaviors. 🔑 Control her emotions = control her perspective of the situation = control what she does.
#2) A lot of guys try to communicate with women through logical persuasion which falls on deaf ears on women who are emotional creatures. You have to learn to press a woman’s emotional buttons. 🔑 Control her emotions = control her behaviors.
#3) A lot of guys can’t even manage their own emotions yet they expect to manage a woman’s emotions. Mastery starts from within. By learning how to lead yourself, you’ll learn how to lead other people - women and men included. 🔑 By improving your own emotional state, you’ll improve the emotional state of those around you.
#4) Even the most dominant of women, wants to be dominated by a stronger and more competent man. Lead the men and the women will follow. Lead a woman and she’ll get TURNED ON 🔥. Learn to be an effective leader by being competence, and leading with confidence. 🔑 STRONG DOMINANCE CONVEYS INTENSE CONFIDENCE.
#5) What a woman says is not what she truly means because what she said was based on her current emotional state. As her current emotional state is subject to change, so does her thoughts on the subject matter. Don’t take anything a woman says too seriously, or attribute it too much importance. Understand that a woman easily changes her mind, as easily as she changes her mood. 🔑DON’T TAKE A WOMAN’S WORDS AS PERMANENT.
Escalate the vibe to avoid falling into the friendzone.
It looks like a normal conversation to an untrained eye, but the daytime seducer is implementing a series of rapid-fire tactics, that will create an emotional connection that leads to legs being spread.
Guys that get friend-zoned:
don’t escalate the vibe,
don’t sexuality the conversation,
don’t create a man-to-woman frame, and
don’t flirt.
“Touch early and touch often” is a maxim in the seduction community. Touch is a form of physical communication that cannot be substituted by verbal communication. Create this pattern of continuous touching from the very start of the interaction.
How you start an interaction is how the entire interaction will continue; likewise, how one starts a relationship with a woman sets the behavioral pattern of the entire relationship. Behaviors tend to reinforce themselves overtime. Ideally you want to start with a man-to-woman frame right away - rather than land into the friend zone and then have the hassle of changing behavioral patterns that have already been ingrained. If you don’t touch her at all for a period of 15 minutes and then suddenly start touching, it can be strange to suddenly start touching her later on.
How an interaction stats is how it will continue on. You want to start with the frame that you are just a touchy guy and naturally touch everyone as you communicate with them. Physical escalation is the bridge that separates men from boys, and lovers from friends.
Touch her body. Make a move. Shamelessly touch her body with ultra confidence - like you expect automatic compliance. Assume that it will work and often it will. She desires your touch but she is too restricted by social conditioning to express this outright. Slut-shaming is still a cultural phenomenon, so women tend to be more promiscuous in private than in public.
You have to touch her body early and often because this is a vital element in the mating process. Get her hooked on the oxytocin that she feels upon skin-to-skin contact. Eventually, she will be hooked on the pleasure that your dick provides.
When it comes to physical escalation, just make a move. Her body craves your touch. Don’t rob her of this gift. Overtime increase the duration and intensity of the touch. You are having an unspoken physical conversation.
These guys are projecting themselves unto others - erroneously concluding that women are just like them and think just like them. Don’t project your own mind unto women because women don’t see the world as you do, and don’t operate based on the same rules as you operate in. Don’t assume women think a certain way - just because you think that way.
It’s important that we establish the truth immediately that women might as well live on a different planet because of how different they are from men. Women speak womenese, motherfucker.
The way that a woman shows love to a man is different than the way a man shows love to a woman.
The way that a woman navigates through the world and makes decisions is entirely different than the way a man operates.
The way that a woman communicates is entirely different than the way a man communicates.
Women communicate in a secret language that is understand by other women and by men who fuck women. My goal with this book is to teach you how to decipher this secret language so that you can understand the meaning behind her words, and if you wanted to, could communicate to her in Womanese so she could TRULY UNDERSTAND YOUR THOUGHTS.
Remember: woman want to fuck guys who “just get IT”. If she has to explain what she means then inherently the guy “is a loser who doesn’t get IT”. Being a guy who “JUST GETS IT” implies social proof, social intelligence, and status. Be that guy.1
The irony is that women expect a guy to just “get it” without explaining what “it” is. They’ll shame men for reading seduction self-help books like this one that reveals the truth about women, while simultaneously reading advice columns in popular female magazine.
WHY DECODING A WOMAN’S LANGUAGE MATTERS
Sun Tzu once said “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” Practical knowledge is potential power; applying practical knowledge in the field leads to actual power.
It’s a tremendous help to have an acute understanding of “Female OS” operating system to be able to seduce her mind, and unlock her legs. Understand this well: dominating a woman’s mind leads to dominating her body.
Mind fuck her, body fuck her and then you OWN HER SOUL. To mind fuck her, you have to understand her mind. A woman’s communication is the window into seeing how her mind operates - so being able to decipher the truth behind her words is essential.
If you know how a woman thinks, her value system, her belief system, and her emotional-buttons then you’ll be able predict how she will behave in response to your sequence of behaviors.
• #1) DON’T Talk quietly. Talking quietly is the most effective way to have women ignore you. If you don’t even take yourself seriously then why should women?
• #2) DON’T Have a high pitched tonality. Research done on studying high pitched tonality versus low pitched tonality revealed that the latter is more influential towards impacting people, and is more attractive to women.
• #3) DON’T Have evasive eye-contact and darting eyes. Eye-contact is one way that close connections are formed. It’s especially important to hold eye-contact when leading her logistically; take her hand and fucking lead.
• #4) DON’T Use fast moving gestures that reveal nervousness - instead of slow moving gestures. High status body-language is like moving through water. Fast jerky movements reveal nervousness and overcompensating due to insecurities. Another example: when a woman calls you from a different direction, don’t quickly move your head like rapid fire, but rather slowly move and acknowledge her presence.
• #5) DON’T Not take up any space at all - which is submissive body-language and reveals weakness. Women want to mate with the Apex Alpha which is why it’s imperative that you exude dominant, powerful, and strong body-language. Be the most dominant man in the room.
• #6) DON’T Having monotone delivery and only using 1 type of tone the entire time. A predictable tonality makes one boring to listen to. Variety is the spice of life.
• #7) DON’T Keep a poker-face during the entire interaction - which is part of a larger problem of being too serious and intense instead of being playful and flirtatious. Generally speaking, women at parties would prefer to relax and have light fun banter instead of engaging in intense conversations about the meaning of the universe. Light conversations precede deep conversations.
• #8) DON’T Be in a non-resourceful emotional state which doesn’t lead to effective communication. Remember: the emotions that you feel within yourself, manifest themselves in your body-language. By managing your inner-emotional state, you automatically manage your outer-body-language.
• #9) DON’T Keep your head down, and look down. Don’t Lean in and be hunching. Stop sitting with bad posture when you’re in front of a computer for hours at a day.
• #10) DON’T Mumble, or stutter your words. Don’t speak in a manner that is difficult to understand. If people have to say “what?” That’s a strong sign that you aren’t communicating clearly.
• #11) DON’T Touch your face during communications, or pace back and forth (both behaviors reveal nervousness). When approaching a woman, if you feel nervous then just imagine how she must feel.
• #12) DON’T Speak quickly like you’re rushing to get through your message because otherwise people will stop listening. Play the pauses.
• #13) DON’T Always keep a Resting Bitch Face on, and forget to smile. If you’re suffering, other people around you will feel those negative emotions and be turned off. This is especially true if you have a anti-seductive habit of complaining and focusing on the negative in life. Smile from a place of overflowing positive emotions.
• #14) DON’T Use meaningless filler words that take up time, but don’t actually contribute any sort of value. Examples include: “Umm..”, “Uhh…”, “Like…” Use pauses instead of filler words.
• #15) DON’T When engaging in a lengthy conversation, be standing while the girl is sitting down. The fact that she is relaxed, but you’re putting yourself in a relatively uncomfortable position just to talk to her is giving away subjective social status. Alpha males don’t make themselves uncomfortable just to talk to girls.
It’s your delivery of the content and belief that the content is worth listening to that carries it enough for women to WANT TO LISTEN TO.
THE CARDINAL RULE OF SEDUCTION #1:
WHEN IT COMES TO SEX, PAY MORE ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE DOES THAN WHAT SHE SAYS.
Understand this right now and right here: women speak the loudest with their actions. You’ve heard the phrase “A picture is worth a thousand words.” A single action reveals more about a woman than 10,000 words. A woman could verbally bullshit you from morning to night, but her actions and body-language reveal the truth about the situation.
If she:
- allows physical escalation to occur on an intimate level,
- initiates touching by herself,
- qualifies herself to you (e.g. gives you reasons why you should be with her by explaining -different ways that she is awesome),
- moves with you to an isolated spot,
- brings up the subject of sex by herself, or
- initiates interactions first AND makes time to see you on one-on-one dates:
then she is into you, and there is sexual potential. This is true even if she is verbally dismissive and says “the wrong things”.
I repeat: this is true even if on the surface the words that she uses seem to portray you in a negative light. When actions differ from words, trust the former.
Words convey what a woman wants to be. Actions convey who she is now. The smart seducer behaves according to how women are - not how they wish to be. He pays attention to their actions and body-language to ascertain the truth. Much of Womenese is unspoken.
THE CARDINAL RULE OF SEDUCTION #2:
ALWAYS RETAIN YOUR LEVERAGE.
Be acutely aware of the value that you are giving her that she needs, and values. Retain that leverage.
THE CARDINAL RULE OF SEDUCTION #3:
ALWAYS RETAIN WALK-AWAY POWER.
Time is life itself. To give it out to a woman, she must be WORTHY. If she isn’t worthy or proves to be unworthy later on in the relationship, then walk away. Always always always retain leverage and the ability to walk away. Women are like children, and need to be dealt with by having a firm hand.
Women have the irrational emotions of a child. This inner-child is always within her but masked because she has learned to appear adultish for the sake of her professional life. Smart seducers know to look past the fake facade of her appearing like a mature adult, and communicate to the inner-child that is within her; this style of communication is known as flirting. One key concept of flirting is to be high status, and a high status man’s power is in his ability to walk way because he has other options and the game skills to generate more options.
A master seducer is efficient. When he meets a woman, he thinks her through a live funnel. This funnel involves constantly leading the interaction towards sex. Life is too short to play indirect game that spans months. You have to consistently be moving the connection towards physical intimacy by doing a series of moves. If you spend 5 time tokens achieving something that should have only taken 1 time token then you’re just inefficient; don’t spend 5 dates to fuck her if you could have fucked her on the first day.
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Technique #4: Utilize Calculated Pauses.
Use the “pregnant pause”. When story-telling or sharing your opinion on a matter PAUSE at the right moments (as soon as you say something particularly edgy) to allow her to contribute back to the conversation. Create opportunities for the girl to contribute to the conversation. Use eye-contact to reinforce the expectation that it’s her turn to talk.
If you are the only person who is talking then it can come across as try-hard. A woman has to invest in a guy in order to value him. Women value what they work for. Hence, it's necessary for her attraction levels to jump through hoops on your behalf.
7 Conversation Sins:
taking too long to explain something,
using filler and boring fluff content,
repeating yourself,
taking too long to hit the punch line,
not having a punch line at the end of a small ramble,
not pausing at interaction points to let her talk,
not having an obvious ending to what you’re saying, so a woman picks up on the cue that it is HER TURN to speak in the conversation,
In the initial phase of the conversation, talk in short-bursts that all have punch lines in the end. Going on a lengthy monologue, without receiving conversational feedback from her is weird and you may lose her attention span. Be self-amused. Talk about things that you enjoy.
Anticipate times when she is most likely to respond and pause during those moments to allow her invest into the conversation because (1) her investment in you is more important than you generating attraction, and, (2) a conversation should be a two-way street.
Advanced notes:
Time in the field will tell you proper ratios. An ideal conversation is roughly a 50/50% divide – albeit at the start of pickup it will be around 80/20% where you are doing the majority of the talking. The reason why you are doing most of the talking initially is because you approached her (hence, the burden of carrying the conversation is on you) and she may not be in a social mode yet.
THE SEQUENCE:
The seducer says something and then ends at a provoking moment to allow a woman to contribute to the conversation.
He holds eye-contact.
He then waits for the woman to say something back.
Often at this point the woman will respond (giving into the social pressure) but if she doesn’t seem likely to contribute on her own initiative at this point of the interaction (providing a body-language cue such as averting her gaze) then the seducer will either move on to his next conversational point, or ask a question.
If all you do is chase a woman then you don’t structure an opportunity for a woman to chase you. By creating space, you allow a woman to invest in you! The more she invests in you, the more she rationalize that you are worth investing in. When one creates a vacuum then women will fill it with their efforts.
HOW TO LEARN WHAT SUBJECTS OF CONVERSATION WOMEN ARE INTERESTED IN:
When you notice that she brings a subject up on her own then take mental note of this. This is an indicator that it’s a conversational topic that she is passionate about. If you notice that her eyes light up and she becomes animated as soon as a specific subject of conversation is brought up then take note of that too! Women constantly leave clues on how they desire to be seduced. Ignore what she says “she wants”, and look at what she behaviorally responds to (in terms of her actions, body-language, and micro-expressions).
Conversation is not a blind man’s game; to succeed pay attention to the ongoing dynamic between you and her, and tailor your strategies based on the current social feedback you are getting.
Make a list of topics that you have a lot of knowledge in, you are passionate about, enjoy talking about, and what women will generally find interesting. When you are in a conversation bring these subjects into the conversation. For example if you care about travel then no matter what she says then you can bring it up with a simple “That reminds me of the time I was in Florida, […]”.
A smooth transition depends on relating what she just said to what you have just said; albeit, you don’t always need to have a smooth transition. You can just can bring up a random subject and as long as you have the confidence and a strong frame, it will work too. General rule of thumb: with a strong frame, you can get away with almost anything.
What you don’t want to do is to talk about subjects that women don’t find interesting. If upon talking about a particular subject, you see that a woman is expressing disinterested body-language then that’s a sign that you should switch the subject. In contrast, if you see a woman’s eyes light up (and emotional state spike) as soon as you mention a particular topic or buzzword, then that’s your cue that this subject is worth talking about with her. Make a mental note in your mind to learn more about that subject, so that the next you see her: you’ll be able to better engage.
The optimal path is when you are interested in the same subject as she is interested in. Then when you share enthusiastic insights about that subject, then you create a mutually beneficial and mutually enjoyable experience that is shared between the both of you.