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When it comes to self-development, many people repeat like a mantra: "Never give up."
They cite the example of various entrepreneurs and inventors, who supposedly never gave up and therefore achieved what they achieved.
I don't think it's about never giving up. A person achieves something first of all not because she or he does not give up, but because they are interested in living and acting, and the main thing is intuition. Anyone who achieves something knows how to listen to her/his heart.
If your intuition tells you that you've chosen the wrong way, you have to give up - to at least make a stop and think it over. Try to trust your feelings and find out whether this road you run so fast is right. Because if you're on the wrong road, what's the point of keeping running on it?
Why did you break up?
If you delve into your breakups, you will easily find that the root cause of each one was unfulfilled expectations on your part as well as on the part of the other.
You expected one behavior and attitude, but got something different in fact, and it doesn't matter in what areas - whether it's sex, the amount of attention, common interests, children, or money.
So what you received eventually did not coincide with your ideas of how it should be or how you would like it to be. The same happened with the other's expectations though.
A DECEIVER DECEIVES HERSELF FIRST
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The person who deceives you, accidentally or intentionally, is always, on some level, deceives him/herself. That's because it is just impossible to dare this dissonance that occurs in the body while lying without being deluded. The dissonance occurs when words do not coincide with thoughts, and thoughts do not coincide with feelings.
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When people in conflict are absolutely confident about something you don't agree with, or something that goes against common sense, agreements, or obvious facts, you can argue with them endlessly. Make a choice: to prove someone they are wrong, that is to explain that twice two makes four, or stop it and realize that they are deceiving themselves, not you.
Manipulator phrases that can drive anyone crazy
I've gathered for you three phrases manipulators use to undermine your independence.
💭 "You exaggerate everything."
The manipulator purposely makes you feel like a PARANOID. For example, flirt with your ex(s) in front of everyone and then say you were imagining things.
💭 "I hate drama."
The manipulator arranges PROVOCATIONS and then blames you when you react. Feeling drama they hate so much cultivates guilt feeling in you.
💭"You misunderstood me."
Misunderstandings occur everywhere. But the manipulators set up provocations in order to turn everything upside down and then blame you.
(Yes very much like a simple trick.)
💡The only way to quit such a relationship is to stop all contact. No messages, calls, or whatever.
The Danger of Pessimism
Pessimists don't see success in their actions, and the world around gives them no reason to be happy. This attitude reduces the quality of life and can contribute to the growth of depression.
An interesting fact:
Pessimists with their attitude prevent the production of endorphins, which directly reduces well-being and thus weakens the immune system. Simply put, they kill themselves.
However, you shouldn't confuse a pessimist with a realist - these are completely DIFFERENT views of life.
A realist is a person who is neutral to everything going on around him🙌🏻.
She or he doesn't let their emotions or desires affect the situation.
Do you remember that glass that is half empty or half full? A pessimist thinks it's half empty, while a realist sees it as half full.
So, a realist would just drink water from this glass to quench thirst😁
If that’s true, then it certainly worked, because no one today has any idea of where Genghis Khan is buried. Modern scholars believe that his tomb is somewhere around the Burkhan Khaldun mountain, but research in the area is difficult owing to restrictions imposed by the Mongolian government.
#4: The Lost Years of Jesus Christ
Many scholars and historians agree that Jesus Christ was a real person and that he was born sometime around 4 BC. However, a large chunk of his historical life remains unaccounted for, as no one knows what he was doing between the ages of twelve and twenty-nine. These are referred to by a variety of names, including his “silent years.” Of course, there are many theories. Some believe he was in Britain, others India. But the leading theory is that he was in Galilee, a region of both Israel and Lebanon, working as a carpenter under the tutelage of his father, Joseph. Following Jesus’s unknown excursions, he was baptized in Al-Maghtas around 28 AD, and it is here that his world-changing ministry began.
#3: USA’s Missile Submarines
There’s something about submarines and secrecy. The United States owns various missile submarines that are guided by nuclear power, including the USS Ohio, Michigan, Florida, and Georgia. These are known as SSGNs. The missiles on board these subs have the potential to cause great destruction, but their whereabouts and activities are generally unknown. However, they literally surface from time to time. For example, Michigan appeared in South Korea in 2017, and Florida took part in Operation Odyssey Dawn in Libya. On June 28, 2010, a rare event occurred which saw three of four surfacing at once in response to Chinese missile tests. These four subs have been SSGNs since the 2000s, but most of their actions and locations have remained a secret.
#2: The Mausoleum of the First Qin Emperor
It’s amazing how little we know about a UNESCO World Heritage Site. Found in China’s Shaanxi (shan-SHEE) province is this world-renowned mausoleum, which is most famous for its Terracotta Army. Constructed from 246 to 208 BC, the area houses approximately 8,000 terracotta soldiers and the tomb of Qin Shi Huang (chin sheux/sure h’wong). This is a massive underground necropolis containing...well, no one really knows. The burial tomb itself still hasn’t been excavated, but Han dynasty historian Sima Qian states that it contains “fine vessels, precious stones, and rarities.” But, like many archeological discoveries, it has probably been long looted. Perhaps we’ll never know what it truly looks like within the mausoleum complex.
#1: Area 51
When it comes to highly classified areas, it doesn’t get more famous than Area 51. Found in the Nevada desert, Area 51 is a top-secret military facility with ties to cutting edge technology. The place is so secretive that it wasn’t officially unveiled by the CIA until 2013, even though it was very obvious that something was in the desert. Area 51 is officially known as a military training facility and supposedly a testing ground for both experimental aircraft and high tech weaponry. Owing to its secretive nature, both trespassing and flying over the site are grossly prohibited and dangerously enforced. Naturally, this has given rise to a swath of conspiracy theories. Are aliens inside Area 51? Perhaps we’ll never know.
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Top 10 World Secrets That Will Never be Revealed.
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Today we’re counting down our picks for the Top 10 World Secrets That Will Never Be Revealed.
How to identify a verbal aggressor
Many people do not fully understand how serious the consequences of psychological violence are, but it is no less dangerous than physical aggression.
1. "The Mood Killer"
Moral sadists can't stand it when someone is feeling good, and therefore look for a chance to ruin your mood, each time enjoying bringing you to tears.
2. Absolute rightness
Verbal aggressors never apologize: they are sure that they are right by default.
3. Demeaning of interests
They often ridicule other people's hobbies and interests, which makes people embarrassed and even ashamed of their favorite things.
4. Impairment
Aggressors devalue the work of others and speak with contempt of any achievements, causing us to give up and think that no one needs our efforts.
5. Disguised villainy
Verbal terror often takes place behind closed doors so that no one can interfere. The victim is quietly harassed at school, work, or home and gradually driven to the point of extreme despair.
The last cigarette: How to quit smoking and change your life
When the barrier between a smoker and the world dissipates, then her or his personality changes greatly.
How to help yourself cope with an addiction?
• FIGHT AGAINST TEMPTATION
• LEARN HOW TO REDISTRIBUTE YOUR TIME
• DISCOVER OTHER PLEASURES
The memory of tobacco changes over time. Life rebuilds itself. Once victorious, no former smoker thinks about intentionally start smoking again and falling into addiction.
What highly successful people do early in the morning
Mark Zuckerberg works out three days a week, his workout is pretty casual - he goes jogging with his dog. But it's the first thing he does even before breakfast.
Anna Wintour, editor-in-chief of American Vogue, gets up at 5:45 every day to play tennis for an hour.
Tim Cook, CEO of Apple, wakes up at 4:30 and goes to the gym several times a week. In addition, he is really into cycling.
They do the sports they love at the early hours, which are all their own. Of course, this requires strong effort, but it is, in fact, where any successful person begins.
Such an early rise and coordinated and purposeful physical activity definitely sharpens the mind.
Gain control over things and life: nine principles of minimalism
1. We are not what we have.
By getting rid of unfinished tasks and unrealized fantasies, we make room for new possibilities.
2. Less stuff — less stress.
Getting what you want gives you a new headache because you have to take care of it.
3. Less stuff — more freedom.
Unnecessary stuff can be a barrier to discovering something new.
4. Get rid of useless and ugly things.
5. Establish control over your shopping.
6. Don't keep unwanted gifts.
Keep a special box for items to give away, such as to a charity.
7. Enjoy without possessing.
In today's world, almost all of humanity's masterpieces are available without having to purchase them.
8. Enjoy what you have.
When we have enough and are grateful for it, we don't want more.
9. "Live simply and let others live."
Pay your attention to recyclable goods.
What to pay attention to, what the first steps to take, and what direction to take in order to become the best version of yourself!
▫️ Step 1: Broaden your horizons.
The process of self-development depends so much on our erudition. It is really hard to find any path if you have scant knowledge.
▫️ Step 2: Read a lot.
Books are an invaluable source of knowledge. Whatever your professional field, read! Explore fiction. Discover spiritual literature. The whole world is in books.
▫️ Step 3: Move.
Learning the proper mechanics and specifics of exercise is very mind-blowing. If you're passionate about sports, it's simply impossible not to develop.
Reflect on hard questions
For example, Oxford and Cambridge applicants are often asked tricky questions in entrance exams that train their analytical thinking.
Some of them are even published in books. So try to think about them yourself first, and then read the author's reasoning.
I'll give you some examples, and you try to answer them:
Will your bag ever be empty?
An empty bag is not actually empty. In addition to dust, crumbs, scraps of paper, and germs, it is full of air, which takes up all the empty space.
But what if you pump out the air? The bag would still be overflowing with the quantum energy produced by constantly appearing and disappearing particles and waves.
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Productive time
For 5-10 minutes before falling into a deep sleep, our subconscious mind is ready to receive important information, process it, and give clues.
Dedicate these minutes to analyzing the day's victories, studying self-involvement techniques for positive attitudes, watching helpful videos, and doing spiritual practices.
Have you ever met stubborn people who are difficult to change their minds?
Or perhaps you yourself are not flexible and find it difficult to change your beliefs, behavior, and perceptions.
In fact, this is a sign of a particular personal quality, which is called RIGIDNESS.
It can control our life, but it's not so easy to get rid of it, because rigidity is linked to many mental processes, and often we are predisposed to it from birth.
That's what it's all about. Today's news is really scary, but people’s comments to it are even more scary. What's interesting is that sometimes it seems that all the commenters are at least prone to rigidity, and at most in need of emergency psychological support.
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Roller coasters were invented to distract Americans from sin In the 1880s, hosiery businessman LaMarcus Thompson hated that Americans were tempted by hedonistic places like saloons and brothels. So he set out to straighten up one of the most immoral places he could think of: Coney Island in New York. There, he built America's first roller coaster to give New Yorkers some good, clean fun
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Accepting yourself when you succeed is not difficult. Accepting yourself when you fail is something everyone learns sooner or later.
Accepting oneself amidst strong feelings is something that any book or even the most superficial psychological coaching can teach you.
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But do you know how to accept yourself as inactive, standing at ground zero? To do it when you are incomprehensible to yourself and others. How easy is that for you to give yourself time to blunt and digest what's going on? Isn't it better than spending all your energy to avoid facing your weaknesses?
GETTING OUT OF A CO-DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP
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A person who has stopped playing co-dependent games and raping him/herself, who has escaped from the abusive system in one way or another, is often considered from inside the system as a traitor who has failed, abandoned, left alone, chosen the easiest way.
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And no one is saying she or he is right. However, often a person has no other way to start a better life, except going for a betrayal, which, together with the pain, carries its healing power.
Over four years the difference between the calendar years and the sidereal year is not exactly 24 hours. Instead, it's 23.262222 hours. By adding a leap day every four years, we actually make the calendar longer by over 44 minutes. Over time, these extra 44+ minutes would also cause the seasons to drift in our calendar. For this reason, not every four years is a leap year. The rule is that if the year is divisible by 100 and not divisible by 400, leap year is skipped. The year 2000 was a leap year, for example, but the years 1700, 1800, and 1900 were not. The next time a leap year will be skipped is the year 2100.
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Ice pops were invented by an 11-year-old by accident In 1905, an 11-year-old boy named Frank Epperson left soda powder and water outside overnight with its wooden stirrer still in the cup. The mixture had frozen in the chilly nighttime weather, and so the Epsicle was born. He sold the treat around his neighborhood and a nearby amusement park and even patented the recipe. Years later, he changed the name to Popsicle because that's what his kids called their pop's concoction
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#10: Letters of Last Resort
This is the stuff that spy movies are made of. Belonging to the United Kingdom, the letters of last resort are exclusively written by the newly appointed prime minister. Four different letters are penned, which are then given to four submarines equipped with destructive Trident missiles. Within the letters are instructions telling the commanding officers what to do in the event of a nuclear strike on Britain. No one but the prime minister knows the exact contents of the letters, as they are kept sealed until nuclear war breaks out. In the event that nuclear war doesn’t break out (which, thankfully, it hasn’t), the letters are destroyed upon the inauguration of a new PM.
#9: The Imperial Napkin Fold
It’s hard to imagine a simple napkin being the subject of a state secret, but such is the magic of the imperial napkin fold. The napkins at Austrian governmental events are given the fancy fold, which results in a gorgeous flourish befitting the rich dignitaries who attend these types of events. Also known as the Hapsburg napkin fold, the technique is a guarded state secret, and it’s said that only two people at a time know how to do it; they then pass the knowledge on to another high-ranking official upon their deaths. Napkins folded in this manner are even kept in Austrian museums, public interest in their extravagance being so profound.
#8: The Coca-Cola Recipe
Coca-Cola has been around since 1886, and try as desperately as they might, no one has been able to replicate its distinct taste. That’s how you know you have a good beverage on your hands! Inventor John S. Pemberton kept his recipe a secret and even refused to write it down for fear of people copying his success; it was finally jotted down when Ernest Woodruff purchased the company in 1919. The physical recipe then made the rounds between New York’s Guaranty Bank, Atlanta’s Trust Company Bank, and finally the World of Coca-Cola, which is where it resides today. It is currently housed in the so-called Vault of the Secret Formula, and it remains a very closely guarded trade secret.
#7: The Origins of HIV/AIDS
While HIV is largely linked to the 1980s, it continues to be a problem. In 2020 alone, it was estimated that nearly 40 million people were living with the disease. But regardless of its prevalence and very public history, there is still a lot about the retrovirus we don’t know. For example, humanity is still mostly unsure of where it came from. The leading theory is that African hunters in the early 20th century killed and ate chimpanzees infected with SIV - the S standing for “simian” - which then mutated into HIV in the human body. However, this information is typically populated with words like “probably” and “likely,” indicating that the origins of HIV are not definitively known, even to this day.
#6: The Farmers’ Almanac Formula
“Farmers’ Almanac” has been annually published since 1818, so it’s obviously doing something right. The “Almanac” makes long-term weather predictions in North America, and various scientific studies have proven a roughly 50% rate of accuracy. Not bad, considering the predictions come up to two years in advance and it seems like the local weather station doesn’t even know if it’ll rain tomorrow. Weirdly, almost nothing is known about the making of the “Almanac.” The forecaster is kept secret, and the “Almanac” itself has never revealed how it makes its predictions. The formula is reportedly kept inside an impenetrable box, and the world is left wondering just how in the heck these gods can so accurately predict the weather.
#5: Genghis Khan’s Tomb
Living from the mid 12th century to the early 13th, Genghis Khan is the infamous instigator of the Mongol Empire, which was the largest connective empire in history. After taking over much of the known world, Khan died under unknown circumstances and was returned to his home country of Mongolia. Legend has it that the funeral procession killed anyone who witnessed it in order to keep his final resting place a secret.
Two rules to change your love life
Let's talk about the things without which your relationship is just doomed to fail.
Screw advice on how to have ONS or get married. There are only two rules in sex life that really work. They work for both men and women.
Simple means good. Complex means bad.
There is no need to prove anything in a relationship. You don't have to woo or chase anyone. Do it once, you will do it every day, and all you will see in response is a dissatisfied face. If things are not going well since the beginning, do not suffer or wait something.
Your relationship should bring joy.
If the relationship ceased to bring joy and began to bring disgust, then end it. Don't get used to the showdown and tears. This is not normal for both of you!
After all, many people get bogged down in resentment for years! They occupy their brains with unnecessary squabbles - so don't do that!
These rules are necessary to build a long and stable relationship.
Second date: 3 main mistakes
1. Unrealistic expectations
Remedy:
Expect nothing. Just let things happen.
2. Talking only about yourself.
Remedy:
Ask questions. Stop talking about your business and your worries all the time. Being truly interested in the other person can do wonders!
3. Ignoring your own feelings.
Remedy:
Listen to yourself. If you feel really good, arrange for the next meeting. If not, do not continue.
If you take into account these recommendations, the second date is sure to go without mistakes.
Whose sexual desire strengthens a marriage better: the husband's or the wife's?
If both spouses really want to have sex with each other, their relationship has excellent prospects, regardless of the cultural or social context.
The difference in the degree of the partners' sexual desire for each other does not mean that their relationship is over. A decrease in sexual desire can suddenly occur in both women and men.
Due to gender stereotypes, a husband's unwillingness to have sex with his wife is usually perceived more tragically and is more likely to lead to divorce.
The more husbands and wives want to have sex with each other, the more often they do it, the more satisfied they are with sex and their marriage. That said, if the husband is somewhat more sexually active than his wife, all aspects of their relationship only benefit.
The desire to control everyone and everything all the time
This desire can be dictated by perfectionism, egocentrism, lack of trust and a variety of other reasons.
But all these consequences have a common cause - a violation of attachment in childhood: at some point the child ceased to feel secure near his or her parents. She/he stopped trusting this world and feeling relaxed.
Growing up, such children rely only on themselves. It would seem that this is absolutely great...
But there is a flip side of the coin: even when they need help, they don't ask for it, since they are afraid to admit their weakness. Becoming adults, these people live in a state of constant tension and always expect some kind of trick from the world.
Why do marriages fall apart: 6 root causes
The reason of any family problem is considered to be the problem of communication between partners. But in fact the reasons are deeper than that. Here're the six most frequent reasons that lead to a crisis in the relationship.
1. Change
2. Escaping from loneliness
3. Blaming
4. A lack of empathy
5. Inattention
6. Hidden power struggles
Life teaches us how to love, how to carry the weight of loneliness, how not to be afraid of shame, how to build bridges out of the walls, enjoy the opportunity to get lost in this crazy world, take the first step, and forgives for unjustified expectations. Life teaches us how to love everyone equally, how to seek and find compromises, and also to devote the whole self to something or someone. And this life is worth living.
A conscious person, what is he?
It is a person who understands what he/she is doing at any given moment and is aware of all their actions as well as always able to say "no" when it is necessary.
A conscious person understands what is going on in his/her head and can control his/her own thoughts. A person of this kind does not drown in random thoughts. He or she chooses their thoughts in the same way they choose their clothes.
Conscious people think before they say anything to others. They understand the meaning of words and keep in mind that they can hurt the other, so they choose words carefully.
Organized day
Divide each day into sections: morning, lunch, afternoon, evening. It is easier to plan important tasks and find time for rest and study for separate chunks of time.
THE BYSTANDER EFFECT
Why doesn't anyone come to help?
The more people who observe an emergency situation, the less likely they are to offer help.
Example: this experiment was conducted in 1968 by social psychologists Bibb Latane and John Darley in New York City. One college student simulated an epileptic seizure. In a situation where one passerby was present during the seizure, the student received help 85% of the time, and only 35% of the time if there was more than one person nearby.
What is the destructive power of devaluation?
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Devaluation always contains some evaluative judgment or comparison with someone better that always causes a feeling that you are getting less than what you are.
You are told all the time that you fall short of the expectations of whoever is evaluating you. Criticizing is a fairly common form of devaluation that is applied by both parents raising their children and couples living together. After being criticized you may still be given advice even though you haven't asked anyone for it.
So devaluation is aimed at making you feel like a complete nothing, an incompetent, infantile, stupid and completely unfit for life.⠀