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She's definetly talking to an ace 😂
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Calling ppl “lonely virgins” as an insult is so annoying
You realize some people choose it voluntarily and have no interest right?? They make it seem like virgins are these pathetic humans. Just shows how society always assumes people want to have sex and not having it makes u some kind of weirdo.
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Show affection by crying in parking lots…
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Allo people joining ace spaces because they gave up on relationships
I’ve been in a few ace discussion groups where there’s one person who admits they’re not ace but is choosing not to date anymore. Has anyone else experienced this? It’s so annoying lol
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Can a QPR count as “gay,” even if it’s not romantic or sexual?
I’m pretty sure I’m grayromantic and gray ace (or maybe aceflux?), and I’m still learning about how all of this stuff works. I’ve never had a QPR before, but I would be open to one. I’m just wondering if two people of the same gender (or similar genders?) in a QPR would count as gay, even if they’re aro and ace?
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Therapy be like
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…what
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Change the face of my Apple Watch
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My partner cheated on me because I was asexual
I'm going to be honest. Being ace is difficult. My partner cheated on me because of my low sex drive. I was in a 6-year relationship with my girlfriend, and she always ranted to me about craving intimacy and sex and how she desperately wanted to have sex with a man. She told me these things while she was with me, and it made me feel so guilty that she saw the relationship as more of a burden than an actual one. She ranted about it so much to the point that she suggested me being a fucking cuck since I didn’t see “sex” as a big deal, but just because my viewing of sex is different doesn’t mean I’m okay with getting cheated on.. like??? But yeah, skip to a few months later, and it’s August; she called me on the phone and cried about how she had a nightmare that she slept with a man and whatnot. At first, I didn’t care because it was just a dream, but later, as the day continued, guess what! She confessed that the reason she didn’t talk to me the entire day yesterday was because she was getting dicked down by a 29-year-old catholic prick. He knew we were dating too; my girlfriend sobbed and claimed that “the sex didn’t mean anything, it was bad, “ and I told her, “I don’. t give a fuck if the sex was good or not; you still cheated on me.” And she continued to cry, whining how “You’re never gonna speak to me again after this.” And I was thinking, “Yeah, no fucking shit.. you’re right about that.” Honestly, I was a fool for believing she’d stay loyal. I trusted her; I gave her everything, even sent her fucking care packages while she was in foster care, and spent six years of my life trying my hardest to please her. I even went as far as to give my virginity to her, despite the fact I felt pressured to do it and utterly uncomfortable during the entire thing, but I pushed it aside to have sex because I knew that’s what she wanted. I truly believed that there’s no love if there’s no sex; it still hurts; I wanted the relationship to work out, and I even hoped to see her this October. But no, long-distance relationships can’t work, especially if one in the relationship is an out-of-control sex freak and the other is an asexual with zero libido. I just wish she would’ve told me sooner that she wanted to break up with me instead of cheating behind my back, just for a short lived sex moment.
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Painting for AroAce gf
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Random Ace Fairly Odd Parents comic (ace microaggression warning)
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Acechilles heel
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Tattoo (story in description)
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AITA for thinking putting specific sexual items in all college dorm move in bags is a bit weird?
So, I like to think that despite being a bit sex repulsed myself, that I’m overall pretty sex positive. Basically do whatever you want with whoever you want who consents to do it with you, just not directly in front of me.
But now I’m starting to second guess myself after being told that I’m weird for thinking it’s weird to put strawberry flavored oral lube into every college freshman’s move in bag at my school.
Condoms in the move in bag? Sure, I can support that. Not everyone at college needs or even wants anything to do with actions that should involve condoms, but you know, it’s college. That’s fine.
Strawberry flavored oral lube available as a free sample at the optional safe sex welcome event or as an option to grab off the dorm reception desk? Totally normal for college. I 100% support it.
Giving out specifically strawberry flavored oral lube as part of the mandatory for all freshman move in bags that include things like their dorm keys? To me that seems like a step too far. Especially since it’s the ONLY sex item in the bag. No condoms. No safe sex promotion. Just flavored lube.
Not only is it assuming that every freshly 18 year old (and some 17 year old minors) are going to have sex, but it’s also assuming that they’ll have a highly specific kind of sex. At least condoms should be used by anyone having any kind of sex that involves anyone with a penis. I get people can just throw it out if they don’t want it, but why give such a specific item to everyone in the first place.
Also, like, these kids are moving in with their PARENTS!!! My mom looked through the welcome bag to see what cool university branded merch I got. I could have explained condoms to her. That’s just college. Strawberry lube? That would not have been fun.
Am I crazy? Sex favorable aces please inform me if I’m letting my personal feelings about sex cloud my judgement here. I also feel I have to ask here because when I explained that not every college student wants oral sex, I was called a prude.
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not really a rant i just needed to yap
ok so im gonna be yapping about a few things in this post so buckle up.
first, ill start with how i found out about the asexual community. i dont remember how it started exactly, but i do remember that it started on pinterest. it was pride month, so of course there were some stuffs in my feed. i fell down this rabbit hole on asexuality, and i remember by the end of it i was really thinking like, ”huh. have i felt sexual attraction? i think about sex a weird amount for a teen, so i dont think so. but to think about me having sex? thats kinda weird. maybe im on the spectrum somewhere…” and so I’ve done a lot of soul searching since then.
now, how i would describe my sexual orientation, im not sure. aegosexuality speaks to me, because i do fantasize about mainly romantic and sometimes sexual scenarios, but the thing is i can out myself into those scenarios. another thing though, is that i only make these scenarios with the fictional characters im currently crushing on. for example, i was crushing on bakugo from mha once and i sometimes made up slightly sexual scenarios including myself and him, but now ive moved onto dabi, and no longer find sexual scenarios w bakugo nice to think about. actually, i see now that i can only have one fictional crush at a time, and once i leave one behind i wonder why i even slightly enjoyed thinking about sexual things with them in it. thinking about doing sexual acts with anyone besides my current fictional crush, is gross to me.
its hard to explain, but its like aego/demisexuality? because i form a made up bond with the fictional crush in my head, and the bond isnt there with others, so i only enjoy doing romantic and sexual things with the current crush? if that makes any sense? sorry if it doesnt, but moving on to another topic.
trigger warning? aphobia is something that seems to be pretty prevalent, and im a little worried honestly. personally i dont really want to come out to my parents, but i kinda do at the same time. the only thing keeping me from doing it is the fact that aphobia is a much more apparent thing to me now than before. people call asexuality “not real” or say things like “you havent met the right person yet” and “youre just scared of sex” and its genuinely so irritating. like why so much ace hate? gay hate is a thing, but people dont normalize it anymore. aphobia just seems so normalized, and it honestly makes no sense to me. like, if gays and lesbians and bis can exist, why cant aces? i feel like id be shoved off as “just a hormonal teen girl” or yet another who “hopped on the trending queer train”. my feelings are real, and infantilizing them is a crime against my humanity.
for all the aphobes out there, suck my spiritual balls and just know that you sound really dumb hating on aces, because it makes you sound either like your most important quality is how you have had sex, or just a whiny virgin.
and to all the aces out there thanks for reading and sorry for the grammar i wrote this on my ipad! have a great day and go eat some cake!
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Equally ace when drunk
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Just curious, but how do you feel about s*x?
I’m so sorry if I didn’t tag this post accordingly—
I feel like it could just be somewhat due for growing up with my parents NEVER bringing up the subject all. It was always taboo and they still never acknowledged it or anything and I’m 19. Never rlly had “the talk” or anything so I had to figure out a lot on my own.
Sex and sexual attraction just seems so odd to me. I don’t understand it in the slightest bit.
Growing up I finally realized I was actually the odd one when I realized that people actually do feel sexually attracted to others. I just sort of thought sex was some big joke I wasn’t in on. I still think it’s a big joke and the whole idea of sex is so funny to me.
But realizing that it’s actually a BIG part of a relationship for some people took me aback—I couldn’t imagine thinking any less of your partner just because they decline to have sex. You love your partner so why would it be a necessity anyways, yk?
I never really connected the dots either when I thought how about how I was even born. I just like to think of me just spawning from nowhere.
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I think I am just going to date Ace people.
I'm having the same issue with my partner which is why the topic and title. I'm just not going to post the partner one since I know they reddit.
This weekend I had, a few years younger, friend bring up that I was more sex positive years ago and laugh. The only reason they know is because I was explaining Asexuality to a support group for LGBTQ we're both in. Majority of the group is fine or understanding.
I'm still having regrets. This friend, and my partner seem to bring it up accordingly if I do bring up that I'm Ace. Or just occasionally if it's relevant to the topic. So if I'm explaining it to a new person in the group or I am just communicating it.
So I explain that I'm Ace. They make a comment about me being sex positive in the 'but not really' Ace tone. Like their correcting me.
Maybe it's insecurity.. but I have had to deal with relationships going bad because they don't understand that I'm ace and I mean it. So occasionally I will bring up that I am Ace/Aro in a confirmation conversation. Just to remind them.
Still happens. So you just get so mad and tried of allo's some times.
I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual. The rest is just soup. That's the meat of it and the rest is just soup.
(Or in Ace terms, that's just the bread to my garlic. Garlic to my bread?)
I have been pretty historically sex positive but more of I 'thought it was interesting'.
As I have matured that's Just no longer the case. It's just eh and I have better things to do. I would be more in the sex-neutral to sex-repulsed category now.
"I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual." Is still true regardless. It's true and VALID.
It's like...
I've never found a hamburger to be appetizing. I would enjoy it is an option when I was younger because hey food. Now I just don't. I tried things and explored when I was younger, sure.
I still don't fine them appetizing, that hasn't changed. It's never going to.
Does that make me choosing not to eat hamburger even if it's presented to me now any less valid?
No no it doesn't. But hey I'm preaching to the choir. Still it needs to be said.
I have never found hamburgers appetizing and now I don't eat them either, why is it such a hard thing for others to get?
I've tried to explain what Asexual is actually occasionally to those two but it just goes back to this.
Whenever I hear this type of comments I just sometimes wish to never date the Allo's anymore just because it always happens. Or even explain Asexuality to people.
It's exhausting and being invalidated hurts. Their both Trans/bi for context so they should understand on some level.
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Petition to make Gwenpool a larger icon within the aro and ace communities! She is getting her own comic about her coming out and I hardly see her here
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GUYS IM GOING INSAINE WHAT EVEN IS ROMANCE?????
Like i hear people describe it as like “caring about someone a-lot and wanting to be with them all the time and giving them gifts and complements and hugging n stuff” BUT I FEEL ALL THOSE ABOUT FRIENDS?????? The only substantial difference I understand is sex but what about asexual alloromantics??? Clearly they can still feel romantic attraction without sex so WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE????
(Sorry for being so angry lul ive just been confused about this for months and i still can’t figure it out)
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Fellow aces, forget about aphobia or whether you’re valid for a minute. Do you wear your cloak over both shoulders, just one, or not covering either shoulder?
I’ve tried all three and I can’t settle on one way to wear a cloak. Is it a situational, pragmatic kind of decision, or just a fashion choice? Am I making some kind of statement if I wear it a certain way? This is bugging me and I need to know.
The Ace Council probably has some answers, if nobody else does
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Ace flag in game 😌
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AITAH for telling my asexual friend that I wish I wasn't asexual?
(using a friends account) I am asexual but struggle with internalized acephobia. I'm trying to accept myself, but I'm not there yet. I have one other friend who is asexual and proud, and I asked them if they would be up to talk to me about it. I told them that I often wish I was not asexual, and that I really want to work on that. I said this thinking that maybe they went through the same stuff when they realized they were asexual and could give me tips, as they are a lot older than me.
They later told me that me saying that I wish I wasn't asexual made them really uncomfortable, and that I shouldn't talk to asexual people about this because it will hurt them. They recommended some books for me to read instead.
AITAH for saying this to them? If another asexual person would talk to you about their internalized acephobia, would this hurt you?
I'm asking genuinely, I want to work on myself and thought that talking to other ace people could help me, but if it just hurts them I will stop doing it.
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MRW I'm at Little Caesar's and they ask if I want some free Crazy Bread (Does it count as garlic bread?)
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Coming to terms with my sexuality felt like a weight lifted off my chest.
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Scared of men :x
Anyone else have a really hard time interacting with men because you're afraid they will hit on you or even just think about you in a sexualized way? There are two guys at my work that have shown some interest in me and I will start to panic whenever I see them off in the distance. They both seem like nice guys but I just get so freaked out by any attention at all :(
I think it might be due to being over-sexualized as a child. I went through puberty really early and developed at a young age. Adult men (like 30's-50's) cat-called me, asked me for my number, and made comments about my body at 10/11/12 years old. Is this something other ace people experience or is it more of a trauma thing?
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The source of all aces
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Told a friend that I’m asexual and it went well!
For context I’m in this support group for cancer survivors and once a year we go out and do some fun things together. Our annual fun activity day was yesterday and I was in the car with several people from the group, including this one woman who I’ll call Perry. Perry is in her late 20s and I’m in my early 20s. I don’t know Perry super well yet since we only talked to each other like twice before this day but she seems cool and I just kinda clicked with her. She also mentioned going to pride and I think she mentioned being bi so I knew she was cool like that.
We were talking about horror and horror podcasts and I thought about The Magnus Archives which I like (I’m on season 2). I really like and relate to the main character Jonathan Sims since he’s biromantic (canon in all but name), canonically asexual (word of god), and strongly implied to be sex-repulsed/averse, which is the same as my identity and how I feel about sex. Lately I’ve been wanting to be more open and honest about who I am, including but not limited to my asexuality, since I feel I’ve spent too much of my life hiding myself in general. So I kinda saw an opportunity to bring it up so after explaining the podcast to her and why I like it, I said something along the lines of
“this might seem kinda silly but the main character is asexual like me so I kinda like that.” And she responded with something like “no that’s not silly, representation is important.” It felt really validating of both my identity and how much I relate to this character. She didn’t make a huge deal about it or anything which was nice, I didn’t feel like getting too into it in that moment. It was kinda the ideal response to my comment so it made me happy.
I kinda have anxiety about sharing stuff like that with others since in the past I’ve had bad experiences with close friends (not with being ace but other stuff). It’ll take a lot of time and effort but I want to try to move past all that and get better with making friends and sharing who I am with people.
Just wanted to share some ace positivity and a nice story here today.
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when I was younger I thought I was just a very very passive person when it comes to romance
Looking back is a funny thing. I used to think I was just a very very passive man. The man has the pleasure tto romantically initiate in the culture I was thrown into and I was under the impression I am just very very passive and anxious about that. Looking back though I think I never really had an interest beyond a basic curiosity. I always knew I had lower romantic drive, but it still had caused me some headaches and a lot of confusion and frustration also on the receiving end I guess. I have to say though that I never wanted to marry, so I knew that was not common. maybe someone sees themselves reflected in their story.
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Asexuality on Jeopardy
Asexuality was mentioned on today’s Jeopardy episode. I know it’s a tiny thing, but it made me smile a little since we tend to be forgotten a lot of the time.
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