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Asexual partner
Hi, for reference I (19F) am someone with a very high sex drive and I’m dating a girl (19F) with a very low sex drive and she has recently been questioning if she is a sex indifferent asexual. Sometimes I get a little insecure about it and sometimes I feel like she doesn’t find me attractive even though she reassures me all the time, and I’m actively working on this. I want to be a supportive partner to her so I thought it would be best to ask other asexuals how they would like their partner to treat their asexuality. I want to be the best partner I can be for her. I genuinely want to marry this girl, my priorities do not lie in sex and I would still want to be with her even if she never wanted to have sex ever again. But I also don’t know how exactly to support her with this because I don’t really know how it feels. I am also seeking advice from people who are not asexual that also have an asexual partner. Thanks so much!! I just want to make her happy :) btw she read this post I am not doing this behind her back :)
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Wanna smash? Wait- NO, NOT THAT!
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What am I?
Hello I’ve been questioning myself for a long time, I never see myself in relationships or have an interest in them and I don’t like psychical touch either it just kinda disgusts me 🥲
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How do I talk to him
Basically there's this guy I like at school who sitting next to me and who's also asexual like me, but I don't know how to get closer to him.
We've been sitting together for half a month and we've become kinda friends, talking about anime, playing online games during lessons, talking about asexuality experiences and random things that happened to us and I feel like if I don't take my chance now I'll lose it. Also he has a sort of crush on another girl from another class, but it doesn't seem like he's going to make any moves also because I think he gave her the ick. I just want to find an excuse to start talking to him in private chat and eventually push him to ask me out. What do I do??
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Just Learn A New Attraction!
I am not sure if it is okay to post this here
But recently I just learn about alterous attraction! And I never felt so relatable to this label about wanting to be close with people but never in a romantic way or less than that.
I am not sure if this still considers to me as a Aromantic individual. But I am just happy that there’s so many ways for people to love one another without the difficulty of just having romantic feelings and platonic feelings! :D
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What am I?
Hello. I (18ftm) knew I was on the ace spectrum for ages. I thought I was demisexual, which I maybe am but I'm not sure. I know for sure I couldn't sleep with someone who I don't have a strong emotional bond to, but my friend asked me "if you loved someone, would you do it for them, or because you would want it?" And the thing is, I would do it for them. Even when I imagined doing it, she never did anything to me, I did the work and I honestly don't want anybody touching me there. Does it sound like demisexual or something different? Thank you for your answers, Matty.
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how do u guys deal with having an allosexual partner?
ace girlie here but my partner is not. obviously i love him very much but hes mentioned wanting to take things to the next step(not intercourse just other sexual acts). he knows i’m asexual and would never pressure me into doing anything i don’t wanna do, but i still can’t fight this feeling that im disappointing him.
how do u learn to live with that feeling? does it ever get better?
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got myself an ace ring! :D
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Podcast -- Yes, Asexuality Is Real & Legitimate: Dr. Seth INTERVIEW with...
https://youtube.com/watch?v=9aXYAT-eZNQ&si=QqcYoOvhEi7B0gKl
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I think it fits
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sexual flag
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Is researching for a long time about being Ace stalling because you are in denial?
When is it too much of a length of time to figure out you are a form of being ace?
When does it become stalling because you are in denial?
I am asking for educational purposes.
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Confused about my identity.
So I'm 28M and I think I spent most of my life denying or hiding the fact I don't think I'm straight and am finally trying to accept and understand this.
The reason I'm posting here because I adore the idea of being in a loving intimate relationship with another guy but at the same time I can't imagine fully having sex and I don't know how to resolve these two beliefs being so different and so I'm not sure even what I am.
Hope this was the right sub to ask this question, thanks for reading this.
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As an ADHD Ace who uses caffeine to regulate, this is definitely true
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Truth
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am i asexual??
i’m currently in high school, going through what most teenagers go through. like, the whole boyfriends and girlfriends thing. all the people around me have boyfriends and girlfriends, and i’ve always known that i don’t really have a preference of gender. but i also realized, i have never felt actually attracted to anyone ever. in middle school id fake crushes to make friends with other people, but it was all fake. also, the thought of sex with anyone makes me feel sick. i have absolutely no desire to be with a man or woman sexually and the thought of it makes me extremely uncomfortable. any thoughts???
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Allo is not develop attractions after getting to know someone for a while?
So let me get this straight, It is a form of Aroace to develop attractions to someone after knowing them after a while?
You mean I am ..
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Questioning if I'm ace
Hey, I've been questioning if I'm asexual. I definitely fall onto the spectrum, and I think I'm aegosexual. Like I think about sex and Iread about it BUT I would never dream about doing it MYSELF with anyone. Like I imagine fictional characters and I'm like a spectator. Idk. The point is, do I count? Because I still do "stuff" by myself and my mother tells me that doesn't make me asexual. She thinks I'm trying to put myself in a box, I'm following a trend, or my older sibling (nb pansexual) I don't know what to do. Do I count still? I mean, aegosexual wouldn't be on the ace spectrum if it wasn't a real thing, right?
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Spot the Pride Flags 😊
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Being aroace is killing me
Being aroace is fucking killing me man.
People my age are dating n getting in serious relationships & I'm stuck never feeling attraction.
I've never had butterflies. Never wanted to be in a relationship with a certain person. Never wanted to kiss a certain person. Spent years being a hopeless romantic aroace, & I've even lost all ability to be a hopeless romantic.
It doesn't help that my friend keeps talking about his crush. How she's pretty & that he loves her, how he's winning her over, all that shit. It feels like rubbing salt in a wound. I've been asked by 3 people if I have a crush on someone because I genuinely love them (platonically), & it feels like a punch in the gut being reminded of what I can't have. I can't make myself feel attraction so I'm stuck like this.
I'm touch starved & it makes me want to fucking rip my skin off. All I want is for someone to hold me in bed all night & tell me I'm gonna be okay. Hold hands with someone. Have someone to hold & hug. But who the fuck am I gonna ask, especially when everything is considered romantic nowadays? It hurts so bad. I feel like I'm rotting away from the inside
I can't breathe in fully, it feels like I have a hole in my chest & my body won't let me cry.
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I have legit headcannoned Wario as aroace for years.
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Is there a name for this type of sexuality....?
Is there a name or description for any sexuality where someone feels aroused by the possibility that they could have sex whenever attraction is reciprocated, even if they may or may not want to engage in sexual acts
And do y'all experience this type of attraction
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What’s the most invalidating response you’ve ever received after coming out to somebody?
Hii this is my first time posting here and at first I didn’t know if I should post this but wth.
I’ll go first:
For one, I thought it was actually when I came out to my parents and they just said “…ok?”. We moved on and never spoke about the subject ever again (it’s been 10 years).
BUT I believe today takes the cake. I was talking to a professor I do student hours for and, one thing led to another, I came out to him as biromantic ace. And he said… “I just don’t think that is it, you know? I consider you look so feminine and have this charm about you.” Like I’m sorry what??? I was so stunned I literally could only awkwardly smile and think to myself what in carnation is this dude even saying… and then I went to explain how that had absolutely nothing to do with it, etc.
Ofc I’m pretty sure he still thinks I’m confused or something even after explaining the whole concept to him but whatever. Never again lol.
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My aunt found me the perfect man...
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My aunt found me the perfect man....
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Fam I'm so close to actually crying (in a good way)
So I'm doing this paper on prejudices against asexual people and have been looking around for sources and LOOK WHAT SOMEONE WROTE IN THEIR PHD DISSERTATION 😭😭😭😭😭😭 i love me some academic allies (original article is “Maybe all these random experiences form a cohesive picture”: Towards a grounded theory of asexual college students’ identity development by Mollet 2018 if you wanna check it out... just a content warning for smexual a$$ault in the paper)
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not sure if I should be offended or just be happy to be included
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Thought this belongs here :)
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Finding people more attractive with clothes on
I've been wondering about this. To me people are way more attractive with clothes on than naked. When it comes to porn I also like it way more when they're clothed.
I assume this is because of the lack of sexual attraction and aesthetic attraction being the one I'm feeling.
Naked people to me are well just naked. They do look a bit weird as we all see each others in clothes only usually. But there's nothing more than that.
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Mwhaha
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