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Anyone else just hate advertising in society?
I can’t just scroll YouTube or anything without seeing an add for a mobile game or skin care product with some lady wearing exposing clothing who just so happens to be conventionally attractive and by some coincidence the camera is focused on her attractive parts. Also side note why is it never men?
Edit:
I mean specifically like the sexualized ads. Are people actually attracted to that? Might have to go take a gander to r/ask…
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IM IN A QPR!!!
So I finally had the talk with my roommate. They have been my friend since we were children. I would always refer to them as my spouse because we always joked that we were married. We’ve always been really close. I asked them if we were in an official QPR. And we agreed that we were. I’m officially taken now. We’re not 100% sure what that means for us yet. We’re gonna discover for ourselves what our QPR is. I’ve always loved them. But I never understood it because it wasn’t a romantic love. I never wanted to kiss them or have sex with them. But I loved them more than a friend. They are also aroace so it’s perfect. If we ever decide to go further in the intimacy side of things we will do it together. But I just want to spend the rest of my life with them. We’ve even talked about getting married and moving to Oregon. But that would have to be later down in the line lol. I would normally say we’d be rushing it but we’ve known each other for so long. We just love each other very much.
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trying to write romantic relationships
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New lore just dropped, aces don't like rats?
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Is This True?
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Ok sooo….hear me out
So i just minded my business, just doing weird crap ig…
And then i kinda have like a question for sex-favorable ace who has a strong sensual attraction..
I have hear that strong sensual attraction can sometimes be misunderstood with sexual attraction.
And i was like questioning in my head like… ‘’ imagine someone that has a very strong sensual attraction that desires sex bc they want the sensual part of it, would that Even exist?!! ‘’
And this question was in my head for like THREE DAYS. And here i am asking this question ( mostly for sex-favorables )
Can an ace want sex just because they want the sensual part of it?
And not the person??
Id like to know!
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Does wanting to have a partner while also not wanting it normal?
So sometimes I feel that I want a partner, someone to call mine,go on dates,be sweet to each other or just generally have someone to call your bf/gf but at the same time I don't want it??? like I don't want anyone being that personal to me. Its exhausting just thinking about talking to someone, calling them to update and stuff. It's that normal??
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Anyone else feel uncomfortable when a show or movie shows an intimate scene?
Like, I don’t mind a scene where two characters kiss, but when it becomes more intimate, does anyone else feel even a little uncomfortable?
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So, that was fun.
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I have a question about aces in relationships with allos
So if you guys are aces and you are dating allos, how did you know what to do when you slept with an allo for the first time. This is assuming that your sex positive or indifferent. Did they just tell you what to do?
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If an ace sex therapist existed, would that be beneficial for you?
Hello everyone, I’ve been thinking about this lately how I have never heard of or encountered a sex therapist or (even just a normal therapist) who identified as ace.
Cause I was thinking about how an ace asexual therapist could be good in the way that they are motivated not by trying to “correct” one’s aceness but rather help them become comfortable with it. And furthermore for those who are sex positive aces who want to explore physical intimacy in a way that is safe, someone who has lived experiences as an ace person could be more helpful.
Do you think there a market or need for such a role?
EDIT: My definition of sex therapist here focuses on verbal psychotherapy not physical therapy either clients
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my last post, i dont wanna go crazy on the internet yk )
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I identify as asexual but my girlfriend says I'm crazy in bed
So, a bit or context. Me and my girl have been together for 2 years. I'm a serious, academic kind of person, and all knowledge I have of sex is purely intellectual. I've been honest with her since we've been together. And the first time we had sex we'd talked it over so much we had an amazing time.
I just go with whatever she suggests. Sometimes I add to her ideas, but that's it. And she says I've given her the best sex she's ever had.
It feels a bit surreal to be called great in bed when you don't even feel the urge to be great in bed.
Has anyone else felt like that?
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Halp lol
So idk how to explain well but me and my partner are both asexual and we don't hate the idea of intamacy since I'm demi and they are gray ace
I'm just looking for advice on how to grow depth and intamacy in a relationship without sex
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Love language
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Appropriate response tbh
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We need to stop humoring Incels' self-proclaimed definition
This is more just word vomit and border terms, but I wanted to ramble about it as it's been bugging me for a while. If anyone has more accurate information on the topic, please link it.
"Incel" stopped being a shorthand for "Involuntary Celibate" a long time ago. Ironically, the term was coined by a woman, but the manosphere ran her out because "women can choose to have intercourse whenever they want"
Incels have become a broader cultural movement, embodying much of modern-day misogyny. I remember the Incel movement had an internal meltdown because a major leader got himself a girlfriend. Ironically, some incels took it as a betrayal and acted like he should have voluntarily remained celibate.
As for that leader who got himself a girlfriend - He is still an incel. He had not been "cleansed" because he did one act and didn't technically meet the defunct definition. Being an Incel is a serious accusation of harmful beliefs, and people shouldn't be able to easily wriggle out of it. You aren't magically "cured" of racism or homophobia if you kiss one member of a marginalised group.
Due to mainstream humouring the old incel definition, it has led to a new wave of virgin shaming. There are cases of innocent people being accused of horrible sexism without any basis. Allosexuals who were always minding their own business or asexuals for simply existing. In the mainstream attempts to rightfully combat incels, it can go too far the other way - Unintended pressure to have sex or it's assumed you to have something mortally wrong with you.
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Can you be asexual and still get aroused?
20 something male here. I don't like dating, don't like the idea of having sex with guys anymore. I rarely ever fantasize about an old partner or when I see someone on the street. I just lost all interest to have sex with someone.
But I still get aroused when I'm by myself. Not all the time, but when I'm watching adult content or just pleasuring myself. Does that happen to some of you?
Trust me, I could not be clearer on my lack of sexual attraction towards people. It just became so lackluster and unappealing to me. But I still get aroused and am able to normal sexual pleasure. Idk, just felt like sharing it.
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I think i know why i doubt so much.
I have been having, a rough day. And i dont really want to vent so much abt it when it here, and if i do im sorry.
I just have a feeling that i know why i keep on doubting so much abt it. It starting to annoy me a bit, and i feel like letting this out.
I cant tell what attraction i always feel, its always blurry and just hard to understand.
I keep having like…a strong attraction. It feels like i would think its sexual attraction, but it doesnt feel right to call it that way. It feels very off. Ppl always say its an urge to have sex with someone, but idk if i ever had any urge for someone like that.
Maybe i do, but in a different way?!!
Like, its not sex. Its something else, idk what it is really..
I would try and imagine how sexual attraction feel, i try putting it in my head. But instead of sex, its just make out. Thats all i can think of. But there are no penetration, nothing very sexual. Just this.
So anytime someone describes sexual attraction to me, i would only think of make outs rather than sex. Its kinda weird.
I dont really imagine ppl with clothes off. I tried it before, i would find a person admiring, but i dont want to touch the naked body in a sexual manner. It doesnt really put me into any other feelings.
I have sensual thoughts ( their kinda arousing, ) but there would be an instinct where my brain just makes it sexual, without me thinking abt it. I feel like its bc of my arousal doing this, and might made my brain assuming that i wanted sexual thoughts????
IDK HOW TO EXPLAIN IT.
Its just, not enjoyable, i tried thinking it positively, but its the same whether i try to change the situation, characters, anything. It feels the same.
It also sometimes feel like im forcing myself not to enjoy it, but idk why. What caused me to do all of this?
I never exactly assumed that sexual thoughts were ‘’ wrong ‘’ as ppl suggested me. Its just feels… disturbing.
Im a bit scared.. scared that im forcing not to like something. Maybe i did like it, and i was just ashamed????
So i would try an change it again to see if i liked it, but i still dont.
Idk if what it is, what im feeling. Its there, but its not like how ppl describe it.
Idk what im doing. Its just that, sometimes, writing makes me feel better. I dont want reassurance, none this Will help at all in this situation.
I just want to let this out ig.
Idk if anyone relates to this, but if it does, i Hope it made you feel less alone.
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Best "regular" dating apps 2025?
New to ACE dating, so was wondering if there are any regular dating apps that actually allow me (m44) to find ACE woman? I tried Tinder (probably the worst) and doesn't seem to have a filter for sexuality.
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At this point, I am just seeing the possibility of never finding love
This isn't really a vent, because I want to specify that it shouldn't be seen as something negative.
Romance and relationships are the most glorified thing on the planet, and there is quite possibly no other problematic societal construct as equally present everywhere as the notion that one "has" to experience it at some point to lead a fulfilling life.
I feel manipulated and betrayed by this, because it has made me touch-starved for such a huge part of my life. The fact is that I should actually be happy that I got to spend so much time not needing the validation of someone else and get to enjoy the things I want for myself. You don't even need friends or family, although I'm very happy to have plenty of those, being able to take good care of yourself should always be the priority of your desires, and we should stop shaming people for it by calling them lonely or selfish.
I'm still open to a relationship if I were to find the right person, but I no longer actively wish for it. I want to be able to see a future of me just remaining single forever without it being immediately associated with sadness and wasted opportunity. That's actually the attitude my father used to have before he met my mother, and I think that's awesome. He never abides by other people's demands of how he should live his life, doesn't waste his energy on things that don't affect him, and doesn't take meaningless bullshit from anyone. And that's exactly what the notion of romance as a requirement is; meaningless bullshit.
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Diagram based on recent discussions regarding what exactly is sexual attraction and why wanting to do the thing with specific people doesn't guarantee allosexuality
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Okay but why is this a mood tho?
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Friend needs help
So my bestie we’ll call her H is just realizing she’s ace and doesn’t know how to feel. She has a VERY christen dad who will basically call you f slurs on a good day even called me her lesbian lover which has become a running joke bc of how close we are and bc she’s only had 2 bfs who were ready for sex when she wasn’t/doesn’t even interested in it. Do any of y’all have any advice for her? Anything will help!
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Proud member of the
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I may be an ace but man horny songs are FIRE 🙏🙏
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Ok guys, im serious. What is really sexual attraction ( Im also asking allosexuals here )
Guys, i think were wrong abt it. Apparently sexual attraction is not like a ‘’ want ‘’ or a ‘’ desire ‘’ to have sex with someone.
Its apparently something else. And now im literally freaking out, bc we all got everything wrong.
So let me start by telling a story on how i have found out.
Before i have been taking a break for personal reasons. And yes i now have come back, yippe. I wasnt really here to post, just here to comment and Watch videos ig. Until i have found a post where someone asked a question to miransexuals. And the thing that caught my eyes was one comment and its kinda long and all so i copied it. It basically talked abt how ppl ( especially asexuals ) would misundestand sexual attraction as a want or a desire. But apparently this is what it is
Pasted here :
‘’ This is one of those concepts that I think is difficult to discuss, because it's terminology created to describe a very specific experience, but my understanding is essentially that it's describing what graysexuals traditionally referred to as "muted" sexual attraction. I.e. sexual attraction that is not strong enough to ever act on.
I also see a lot of people use the term "desire" or "want" when comparing this to sexual attraction, but sexual attraction is NOT about active desire or wanting to have sex with someone. It's an entirely unconscious urge towards being sexual with someone. It's literally just our animal brains going, "Oh, that person is a potential mate."
So... yeah, i would say the difference is more in the strength of it, but technically, it IS sexual attraction; it's just very low level. I would actually say I felt this for my bf shortly before full-blown sexual attraction kicked in. Like it wasn't strong enough to feel a need for him, but it was there. Like a little distracting spark that continued to grow. ‘’
Now lemme tell you something. Im questioning my whole attraction again.
I remember the time when i posted something abt my asexuality. I posted abt how that i was afraid that im somehow denying my asexuality and that im just scared that i have accidentally called myself asexual and just unconsciously have sexual attraction for some reason ( im still questioning that )
Now, it makes sense why i still keep questioning. What if i unconsciously have an urge to have sex with a specific person?! This was just the only thing i have questioned. And let me tell you why
( i have said this on my last post before. I feel like mentioning it again for this particular post too. If you dont mind. Btw there would be a Little bit of TMI on this subject )
i also daydream abt sensual things. And when i do i kinda get a…. Arousal ( sorry for making this an uncomfortable subject. I needed to let it out ). And when it happens, there would be sexual thoughts that just pop out of nowhere and, lemme tell you this, They make me UNCOMFORTABLE. They make me feel like throwing up and just disgusted after this happens.
You get the point, they are intrusive sexual thoughts. But anytime i have those thoughts i would still question myself, bc my brain would say things like ‘’ you got aroused by sensual things. It means you have an urge to have sex, and you are gonna like it ‘’ or ‘’ you have an inconscious urge to have sex with them. And you are just denying your attraction ‘’
And this would just be a cycle of doubt abt asexuality.
So yeah, you get the point.
Im afraid that i am i am just denying sexual attraction and was just unconsciously feeling it while calling myself ace cuz maybe i am ‘’ in denial ‘’
So yeah..
The thing that kinda confuses me is that Even allos says that its a desire to have sex. They never exactly mention abt unconscious urges abt it ( maybe be they are unconscious when having them. So they might not know they do have that unconscious urge and just…not mentioning it at all )
So yeah, idk whats true anymore. I Wanna know what yall think, and allos, pls PLSSS tell me what the HECK is sexual attraction?? Id like to know
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My therapist still thinks Asexuality is about libido
Even after I gave her AVEN resources. I have a fucking libido( not much) I give up.
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Love language
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Are they forcing you to have children too?
I met a guy recently and he's really nice, but like my family he keeps saying that in the future I will get married and get pregnant, when I definitely don't want to. Forcing someone to have a child is bad enough, but when you're a woman it gets worse.This is a brief rant because when people tell me this I feel like crying with rage, why can't they just accept other people's choices? They say I'm going to change and stuff like that, but I know I won't. Anyway, I'm posting this here so I don't go crazy with anger and let it all out.
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