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Wondering if I fall under the asexual spectrum?
Hi everyone I’m an 18 (F) I’ve noticed that I rarely ever feel horny. When I do it’s usually only from watching porn which is hardly ever and it’s usually from watching it when I don’t really have anything to do. Even when I find someone physically attractive, I don’t feel aroused, not even when I imagine having sec with them. The main thing I think about it just cuddling and holding hands. Was wondering fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum but still trying to figure things out.
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An incomplete post on Connor Hawke being ace coded for thirty years before being canonized as asexual
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Being ace is liberating
Crushes? Not a problem
Dealing with relationship drama? Hell nah
Constantly thinking about whether I'm attractive? Never
It's so comforting to know that unlike my straight friends, I never have to worry about whether "my crush" liked my story for a reason or even constantly thinking about someone.
Anyone else think being ace is liberating? Or constrictive? Or do you just not care?
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Other people: "What could possibly be better than sex?" Me: IDK, my weighted unicorn I got from Target this week is pretty great.
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Bought this from the market and thought about y'all
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Mood:
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Puritanism is Bad.
To preface- I want to be very clear here that I'm not the boss of How People Feel, everyone is allowed to be as personally comfortable or uncomfortable with sex/sexual topics as they are going to be. I have literally no issue with and nothing to say about anyone's personal feelings, assuming they remain as *personal* feelings.
But I have been seeing quite a bit of sex-negativity and borderline to straight-up puritanism on this sub, and I don't like it. It's something that has me on edge because there is, currently, a huge cultural shift towards radical puritanical beliefs, and I'm very upset to see it spreading through communities I'm a part of.
I realize that especially here, those sentiments are rooted in frustration and exhaustion with sexual norms and expectations. I relate to some of the feelings behind it. But it's important to work through those feelings personally and not let them fester into harmful rhetoric.
I don't care if you personally feel that sex is gross, that you want nothing to do with it, that you dislike seeing or hearing about it. Cool. That's fine.
But bottom line- sex is also okay. Having sex is okay. Wanting sex is okay. Feeling sexual attraction is okay. Enjoying sex is okay. Having kinks and fetishes is okay, consuming sexual content is okay, being open about your sexuality (with those open to hearing) is okay. It is never acceptable to demonize these things or shame anyone for them. They aren't dirty or wrong.
It's also okay for media to involve sex and have explicit or implicit sexual themes, and that shouldn't be shamed either. And no matter how you feel about sex, sexuality, sexual topics- it is your own responsibility to deal with those feelings. Again- it is your own responsibility to deal with your own feelings.
I understand the frustration, and you're free to express it, you're free to vent, but please, please be careful about the language you use and the beliefs you fall into.
And obviously I'm talking about a specific genre of post here- I'm not mad at my community for reasonably expressing discomfort with things, I'm just disappointed when I see discussions in the vein of outright demonization of "degeneracy".
I'm just tired, man. I'm so sick of having to see moral fascism gain traction. I just need to know that there's anyone else here who's noticed and is worried by it.
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They're rolling back our rights! (US specific)
UTAH'S HB 77 HAS PASSED. It goes into effect May 7th. At that point, displaying pride flags at schools or on government property will be illegal. We CANNOT roll over and accept this without voicing our outrage, because this is just the beginning, and how we react sets a precedent. We need to show conservative lawmakers that we will not just quietly slip back into the shadows. Please, share this with others and on May 7th display any pride flags you might have in solidarity with the Utah LGBTQ+ community. WE WILL NOT BE ERASED! WE WILL NOT TAKE THIS LYING DOWN!
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I need my garlic bread
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Anyone who is still a virgin/never been in a relationship in your late 20s and older… how is your happiness?
Anyone who is still a virgin/never been in a relationship in your late 20s and older… how is your happiness?
I genuinely don’t think I want to be in a relationship or have sex… like ever. I suffer from horrible anxiety, and honestly, I just want a peaceful life with my dogs and I. I want to read, to learn, to grow old with just the little things I enjoy in life.
I’d love to hear other people’s experiences. No judgement. (:
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Why can't doctors accept asexuality?
Last week;
Doctor: ''This medication may reduce your sex drive''
Me: ''That won't be a problem. Sex isn't my thing''
Dr: ''When did you last have sexual intercourse?''
Me: ''26 years ago''
Dr (falls off chair): ''There are tests we can do''
Me: ''They've been done. I'm fine. I'm just asexual''
Dr (looking highly sceptical): ''I'll schedule some tests''
Me: ''No thank you''
At least 1% of the population identify as asexual. Is it really that difficult for doctors to accept we exist?
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New asexual discord!
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[Guilty Gear] Lost in thoughts of your crush G_R_S
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Would yall join a newly made asexual discord server?
I’m thinking about making one. It would probably have some location specific channels, or sexuality specific, etc. I’m open to suggestions for what channels to have too. It would also possibly have a dating section, which you absolutely do NOT have to participate in, it would also be location specific as well as a general chat channel. Just a nice place to chat and hangout. Thoughts?
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I like someone asexual and I'm alosexual
I know asexuals are very diverse and can tolerate certain physical touch.
I really like a girl, I'm a girl too, I still don't know If I'm 100% alosexual, sometimes I think I'm either demisexual or greysexual. Anyways, I fear that she will be disgusted by the fact I tolerate having sexual thoughts even If I would always respect her and keep things for me. I'm fine not having sex, only kissing and hugging is fine.
Are asexuals disgusted of people with sexual thoughts?
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Can mirous attraction make the person fantiscize abt sex, but dont have the urge to have partnered sex with them
This question im asking to is mostly miransexual and pseudosexuals. Bc i have Heard somewhere that they can fantacise abt ppl they are attracted to, but dont feel any desire or urge to have sex with them. And i wanna know if its true or not? Cuz there are some that are ✨ Gatekeepers ✨ or maybe i am wrong… IDKKK
So yeah, Thats why im here to ask if its true or not. If so, may you tell me your experience? Id like to know!
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It took a long time to understand
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Me wondering why I was sexually attracted to men and women but don't want sex with them
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Other people: "What could possibly be better than sex?" Me: IDK, my weighted unicorn I got from Target this week is pretty great.
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This cute little furry I made 😊
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How do you feel about the term “sex-repulsed” ?
As someone who aligns with the definition of being “sex-repulsed” I don’t love the label because it feels like I’m saying I think sex in itself is gross or wrong (which I don’t it’s just not for me).
I feel like the term when it’s not fully understood gives into the misconception of purity culture in the ace community and infantilization of asexuals
Maybe it’s just me but if anyone else feels that way, do you use a different label?
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Am I overthinking my lack of sex drive or “attraction”? Is being asexual really the culprit here?
30f and I really can’t tell if I’m inevitably single because I don’t want a relationship or it’s a case of self sabotage. Within the past few years, the only attention I’ve gotten from attractive guys were on dating apps. But that should be taken with a grain of salt, I feel like compared to the average woman, I don’t get attention from quality guys in person. I’m pretty shy and tend to speak when spoken to, on top of bad anxiety, I’ll say I question if women can relate to my lack of sex drive. I haven’t had sex since my early twenties/don’t masturbate and couldn’t care less if I died a virgin, will feel some kind of way if I’ve never found love though.
It’s as if I want the reassurance I’m desirable (from what seems like decent men) vs actually going out on dates, I’m insecure but wouldn’t just go for anyone that gives me the time of day. I just don’t get why it can’t ever go my way w/ the OLD apps, it’s likely bad luck but a pattern of: ghosting, fizzling out, the convo not flowing to my expectations & I dip out, just lack of interest (can go both ways) etc. I’m attracted to men, I really don’t think id date a woman but something about men at the same time turns me off(physically & personality wise). Like almost every woman ive known has been boy crazy since they were pre-teens and I never got it, I thought they were exaggerating or I was a late bloomer. Well here I am 2 decades later, my closest thing to boy crazy were celebrity crushes.
Am I looking for excuses to justify being single? Is it simply a case of being unlucky? Is there more to unpack here? Or is the right guy all it takes for it to fall into place?
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Came out yesterday!
I have contemplated my sexuality for a long time, I wanted to say I was asexual, but always thought I was too young to know for sure, since people don't always develop feelings of attraction at the same times.
Since my birthday was coming up, I realised I am beyond the age this stuff usually starts, and I still feel absolutely nothing towards anybody. My younger sister and all of my friends have been talking constantly about attraction for years, and I still don't get it in the slightest.
I am confident now that I am in fact asexual, and the other day I told my family! It feels good. I already knew they were accepting, but the confirmation still feels nice. Sorry if this is a bit rambly, but I felt like shareing somthing cheerful!
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FFS
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I made a collage for my fellow aces!
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I really hate the sexualization of vampires in media
I know that we're all into dragons(I'm too, my favorite mythical creatures), but I'm also into vampires ever since I was a kid and always disliked the common trope of them being seen as sexual and ever since I discovered that I was ace when I was like 12(and learned about the term when I was 15), I figured that it made sense as to why I feel like that, but I still to this day can't see why people do that in the first place.
Many people misinterpret it, but they weren't even sexual originally, they were quite literally undead non-rotting corpses which drank blood and brought pestilence, wtf is sexual there? I barely even stomached to watch the new Nosferatu which was atrocious and culmination of all of my problems with how people see vampires.
I love stuff like original Nosferatu and Dracula as opposed to the remakes and a lot of modern vampire media for this exact reason. I literally couldn't properly enjoy Resident Evil Village(my favorite vamp media in years) because of horny idiots.
Anyone else feel the same?
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When does your asexuality flare up most? 🤔
Lol fun little post where we can share our moments in life where the ace really jumps out without judgement. There have been several moments where if I were to comment it probably would’ve come out rude and judgmental to others when in fact it’s just an asexual thing with me but it feels impossible to try to explain that in a way someone will understand it’s truly not an insult but a sexuality thing. Sooo if anyone has situations they’ve been in like that where they feel it wouldn’t been received correctly irl we could share it here!
- love triangles. Ruins every TV show (recently watched the mufasa movie, totally ruined the backstory that part of their beef was over sarabi instead of just being king…)
- any irl relationship drama. the urge to say that the relationship is not worth it in anyway but that’s bc I don’t think there’s much point to relationships to deal with the drama or immaturity
- liking people no matter how horrible their personality is because they’re good looking. I actually have this occurrence where I might start out thinking someone is pretty or handsome and then if they’re revealed to be a horrible character then they visually suddenly look ugly to me lol. Same vice versa
- people kissing with tongue is something I will never ever understand
- people sharing the crudest details of vernacular of sex with you just totally assuming you want to hear that language or imagine them in that scenario
- having sex with someone you just met or even if you have known them as friends, having it as soon as you start dating or get into a relationship. Took me so long to realize that was a norm after so many tv shows had it happen lol
- MORE CRUDE STUFF: ppl really out here burying their faces in the place where ppl expel their fluids and waste???? 🤮
(Gonna add more as I think of it)
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Would yall join a newly made discord server for asexuality?
I’m thinking about making one. It would probably have some location specific channels, or sexuality specific, etc. I’m open to suggestions for what channels to have too. It would also possibly have a dating section, which you absolutely do NOT have to participate in, it would also be location specific as well as a general chat channel. Just a nice place to chat and hangout. Thoughts?
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How do I tell my friend I have a platonic crush on them!
I don't really know if this goes in this subreddit but I don't really know where else to put it so oh well. Anyway, I have this friend who I'm really close with and, for context, she's AroAce and I'm asexual. She's definitely my closest friend and I do feel a platonic crush on her and I want to tell her but I don't know how? I don't want her to take things wrong and thing in romantically interested in her either because I'm not and never gave felt that way. I just really want to tell her how I feel but I don't know how and I don't want to ruin our friendship in any way either and I'm a bit scared I will (I've never been very good with words)
Any advice?
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