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New song - explanation, backstory - called GAY MISTAKE
Hi! It’s that ace DJ/EDM producer some of you follow.
I have a new song called GAY MISTAKE coming out and felt I needed to explain. I am a biromantic ace going through some things. I do feel attraction, just not sexual, and this about longing for a girl I met at the club after we hit off as quick friends and I just wondered… what if I wasn’t ace? I felt dirty about it, confused, still don’t know…
Anyway, I’ll get back to writing about other random topics like cyberpunk dragons soon.
And the garlic bread remix is still set for DSP’s (Spotify/Apple Music) on October 1st! Which is my birthday! So that’s fun!
GAY MISTAKE DEMO LINK
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Anyone else just kinda given up love because your ace?
So this is for my allo romantic people.
I recently have realized that the mass majority is not like me and is actually normally sexual and I'm ace. Which has been an issue in past relationships and talking stages.
With how sexual and sexually driven people are nowadays do you still search for someone or have you sorta given up finding someone because you don't feel people are willing to sacrifice sex to be with you?
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The asexual agenda is violence.
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do i have to tell my bf that i am ace?
me and my boyfriend have had sex many times. we have also done other things intimately. the thing is, the only thing i enjoy about this is knowing that i am pleasing him, i don’t actually get anything from it physically.
but i feel so guilty, i fake pleasure and even go as far as saying i came when i did not. i don’t allow him to finger me or anything that is only towards me and just say that i am not ready for that yet.
do i need to tell him this? i feel so guilty and i know if he knew this that we wouldn’t ever do anything again. but i want to still do it because it makes him so so happy.
please help.
i love kissing him i just feel like it’s for different reasons than what is normal.
am i still ace? i need help, i am truly struggling
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I prefer masturbation over sex
It just feels better and sex is too much hard work and I rather not. But it's hard for me to say to partners that I don't want to so I just do it.
With masturbation, you have control over it. There are no expectations. And nobody is watching.
After masturbation, I feel disgusted with myself or I feel guilty.
Overall masturbation is better!!!!!
Edit: i don't masturbate often either but still is better.
Another thing
I have had people saying "oh how come you are suddenly asexual?". It wasn't like that. I've always been asexual and I see all the situations and signs that proved that but just didn't pay attention. I just thought I had to have sex because of society.
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ASEXUALS is now a Scrabble legal word
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Yes! Yes! Yes!
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I'm pissed.
Sup. I'm asexual and very pissed. I (13f) have come out as sex repulsed and no one seems to be taking me seriously. They say that I haven't met the right person or am just not old enough to know. Trust me bro, If anyone knows my sexuality then it's me. I've heard that sex is important in relationships and I think that's bullshit. Why can't people accept who I am??
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I find sex unsatisfying
I consider myself asexual because I find no attraction to anyone and seeing porn or nudity (unless it's in modeling or art work) uncomfortable to see. I'm basically a prude until I find someone I love, and it can be any gender. I'll establish interest and find a person attractive but I don't imagine intimacy nor crave it before then. I do crave being close. I find sex to be something unifying.
In my relationships, I hardly ever reach climax. and I've been okay with that for such a long time, but I do feel a void when I don't. I feel a distance between me and my partner when I don't, and I feel selfish for wanting to reach an orgasm.
I'm my current relationship, I've never reached climax and it's starting to eat me up. I communicate with my partner that I haven't been about to. each time I do the issue has been gradually getting worse. my partner is very insecure now and sometimes they even get mad when I bring up the subject. they slap me in the face with their incompetency or they end up getting so upset that they express fear that I'll leave them if I don't orgasm.
I don't know what to do.
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DAE not care about dating?
99.9% of the people I meet care so deeply about dating, and if they are not dating at the moment they do absolutely everything and anything to find a partner and they become super insecure of the fact that they are not dating.
I personally do not care, I am happy alone, and it is not an insecurity that I have never had a partner, there is literally nothing ingrained in my brain telling me to get a partner, except for some social pressure I feel, apart from that, I do not care and I have never cared.
I can’t grasp dating being my number one priority in life every second of my life like other people, that seems insufferable.
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I feel like I'm the only one who hasn't lost virginity
Is it normal to be virgin forever :/
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Cheating Asexuals
Has anyone ever been cheated on by their ace partner or heard of aces cheating on their partner?
Most cheating usually occurs through sexy time... and since aces are aces I'm wondering how often do aces cheat.
I know we're still humans and very much capable of doing the same as allos, cuz some aces still have sex, kiss etc
And emotional cheating is considered a thing.
My theory is that aces are less likely to cheat than allos. But I could be wrong of course.
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My girlfriend is HOT AF
As a demisexual (27F), I already don’t find many people attractive. My asexual girlfriend (31F) is the most attractive person I’ve ever met. I think she’s easily one of the smartest people I know. I love listening to her talk and express her knowledge to me. It’s such a turn on for me. Tonight I was doing some school work while she played video games with a friend of ours. She beat him in most games, which gave me a sense of pride. However they played a higher level of Tetris together.
I have never felt so turned on from her. I loved watching her beat the shit out of our friend for a little over an hour. Watching her do a puzzle game was easily the hottest thing my girlfriend could have ever done. I’m hoping other asexuals or demisexuals can understand what I was feeling. You’re free to talk about this. I truly wanted to tell anyone who would listen that I found my partner incredibly sexy while she played Tetris.
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what is with the bad faith posts from allosexuals in this sub?
look, i know this group's about info states "This is a place for asexuals, demisexuals, aromantics, gray-a's, questioning, supporters, folks just interested, and everyone in between." so of course, folks who are interested are welcome! but i feel like in the last 48 hours, i've had a wild influx of posts coming across my dash from allosexual folks wondering why partners won't have sex with them or speculating on whether people are asexual or otherwise asking for a lot of emotional labor from actual ace people.
google exists, and reddit has a search function! i don't spend as much time and emotional labor in my life just existing as an asexual to come to reddit and spend more time and emotional labor on bad faith posts from ace-phobic or ignorant strangers.
incidentally: are there any other subs that folks would recommend that are a bit more ace-affirming? maybe smaller ones?
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nicknames
i literally hate that my friends have given me this horrible sexual nickname (don't ask how it happened.) and now if i ask them to change it its 'too bad'.. even the one who knows im ace only managed to say (after i sent her a dm) 'guys she doesn't like it'
no change
i hate people
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Am I assexual?
I think I am sex-repulsed. I find sex to be a disgusting and repulsive act, even though I have a small amount of sexual attraction. I think I would feel guilty if I engaged in it, and I don't experience much pleasure when I masturbate (I’m still a virgin). I don't know what would happen if I were to have a sexual experience."
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WE ATTACK AT DAWN
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Y’all have to be kidding, right?
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yeah I'm fine with that 🤣
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Would it be rude to ask an asexual person for their number?
I want to ask this girl for her number she's asexual and I don't know if it would be rude to do that so I just wanted the opinion of other asexual people.
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Disabilities and asexual
It's so annoying when you have to explain that you're asexual when you have a disability. Due to media always showing people with disabilities as asexual, It's hard to get people to believe that you're asexual but it has nothing to do with your disability . _ .
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Can't stop staring
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Pokemon teams aroace !
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Yeah… um….. fetish? Can y’all help me? I need some guidance
So, when I was about 8 years old, some random forking thing connecting in my brain that gave my dinosaur brain a sexual proclivity for… um….. snoring. I don’t know why. I’m so ashamed of it that I have never, ever talked about it. I spoke about it today, for the first time ever, at 27, with my therapist. It felt so weird to say out loud. I have kept it a secret for so long.
My therapist said it’s unusual, but it’s not weird. But personally, I am so upset and ashamed by it. I feel like it’s so violating for me to feel aroused by someone while they are not conscious. But it’s just the SOUND that gets me. I wish I snored more, because I’d get off to my own snoring audios. It’s like a switch that flips in my brain. I hear it, and I’m aroused. I don’t think anyone could ever accept it or understand. This is why I have never told anyone.
I am here on this forum because I’m kinda ace, because my sex drive is 90%….. not from sex.
And I see here that many of you guys have fetishes. But yours aren’t as weird as mine… clothes, cat ears, boots, idk. I hear the sound and boom, arousal. I barely feel like that for anything sex related.
My main question is… what do you think of me for this?
Some follow up questions are….
1. If someone told you they had this fetish, would you find it weird and disgusting?
2. If I 10% enjoy “real” sexy stuff and 90% fetishistic, how can I define my sexuality? Am I ace? Am I just fucked up?
3. Can I reroute myself? Can I change this? Can I find a way to enjoy more…….. “normal” things more?
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Any Bi or Les asexual girls?
I recently joined this Reddit community and I'm not very familiar with some of the terms being used, like ace, allo, and others. 🥲 As an asexual lesbian, I'm curious to know how many other bi or lesbian asexual women are part of this community. Think of this post as a little attendance check!
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Ex wanted to have sex. Told a friend and he sent me this. perfect
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Begone, demon.
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So many microlabels! :D
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Art. Among us perler beads
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We need more swords
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