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Someone I met here on Reddit recently came out, and I made this art for him. Do you think he's going to like it? ❤️
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Sorry to add to the pile, but I'm confused about my sexuality. I thought I was a lesbian, with aversion to sex, but now I'm not sure. The screenshots are from a post I made yesterday about approaching other women.
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Really frustrated by hypersexuality in Japanese media…
I very rarely watch anime but I like anime aesthetics in games and I love visual novels.
There are plenty of visual novels that have no sexual content, which is good. And also some like Fate were released with H scenes to gain more sales but subsequent releases had them removed. I’m fine with that.
But I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve seen screen shots from something and though “woah that looks cool” and find out it’s no less than 40% hardcore porn.
Even in non-sexualized world like Steins;Gate there are still parts. Like…things will be getting so interesting and then it comes to a full stop so the horny characters can have their banter.
I love Japanese media. But it feels like I’m asking for a burger with no pickles, they put pickles in anyway, and without fail I always have to pick them out when I just wish they weren’t there to begin with.
Does anyone feel that way?
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Hot garlic bread nearby
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The survey doesn’t believe we exist:(
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Yeah im definitely Ace
Ive always questioned it since with past boyfriends I enjoyed sex as a social thing, but having just broken up with this last one (mutual, we still besties so no worries), I think I can say that what I was enjoying was the attention. All of the past ones had some element of cheating/open relationship/situationship so I was always insecure about if they actually liked me or not. This last one he was extremely emotionally intelligent, but had high physical needs (Not even sexual, but cuddling and hugs) and I really hated that. I'm not a physically affectionate person at all and it really distressed me and made me feel gross in a way I never had before. Now thinking about sex was a chore i dreaded to do because of how much he'd want to touch me. I didn't have the need to feel "competitive" or "earn" the love through sex and it really shattered my illusion. Glad to be on the other side of it, but wanted to share in case there's anyone reading who thinks they're ace "but how can I be when I still like sex and want it?" Take a step back and examine everything, if you see this pattern know that it's possible, it's OK, and you'll figure it out one day :)
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Ace_irl
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Am I asexual?
I(21f) find men and women attractive. I can like a person. I feel sexual attraction but when we meet it drains out of me. I get kissed and I feel nothing.
When I have a sexual encounter I don't hate it but I don't like it either. I don't know anymore. I think I'm sexually attracted to the idea of the person. And when. It's time to do it, I don't want to be there. My mind starts to wonder. I feel myself get disgusted at times. Not at the person but rather at what is happening.
I read erotica and I get turned on. Granted i can't bring myself to masterbate. It doesn't feel right. Not necessarily bad. I can imagine doing it. But I can't do it.
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Aromantic and Asexual Shaming
Someone's stupid ass called me a virgin loner. (plus im a minor soo) Uhm some people shamed me for not wanting to have children or sum shit like that is so stupid.
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This has been my experience so far
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You hear that are more asexual women than men, but my personal experience is the opposite
Hey guys,
So basically the title, I have figured out that I am asexual over the last three years, and I have met quite a few asexual people in this time. But the thing is, literally only one of them is a woman. One. All the women I talked with about this subject basically said straight up no. Like that would‘t even have crossed their mind.
Talking gay, bisexual, etc. women, too. And my cirlce of friend is pretty much 50/50 male/female, and we all are really open with this kind of stuff.
Yet the general narrative seems to be that there are more female then male asexuals.
It‘s just wierd to me since I never met asexual girl before I figured out that I fall into this category, and I never met one after (except for one with whom I did not click at all), despite having been actively searching for a asexual heteroromantic girl with relationship potential for years now. Yet I find a ton of asexual men seemingly by accident.
I was just wondering, what is your personal experience with this? Please state your gender (or lack thereoff) if possible. How many asexual people do you meet in general, and how many of them are male, how many are female, and how many don‘t fall in those two categories?
Edit: I was gonna say internet friends that you have never met in real life don‘t count, but I guess If you really have a healthy friendship with that person, that should count.
I just don‘t want a bunch of people who live in certain bubble of the internet and considers the people on there their friends in general, t weigh much in with that. It is not what I‘m asking about.
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My mother was aphobic for the first time.
Basically, we had an argument, it went too far, she asked me "Do you really want to be alone all your life"
I told her that "I don't feel anything like that for people, I told you."
"Ah, but you have issues." What now. "You found a word that fits your issue and you use that."
So yeah. My mom just ended me.
And then she goes 'if you were asexual you would not be telling me that while crying"... No mom, I am crying because you just told me I'm broken.
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yea sex is cool and all but like
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I made garlic bread :>
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i’m confused and need help
heyo! i’m 15-16 F and i’m confused, i’ve gone through a ton of identity crisises throughout the past 3-ish years, and due to traumatic pasts i believe im asexual but also hypersexual if that makes sense, maybe even aromatic. i don’t like the thought of anything intime past like cuddling and like waist grabbing and such, but the thought of anything sexual makes me wanna gag also i don’t feel the arousal but when i do it’s during the ovulation period.
but the thing is that due to the traumatic pasts i also think im hypersexual it kinda made me have those dieresis in the moment and even graphic depictions of me but i won’t ever act on it because i don’t really feel sexual desires towards anyone also the thought of intimacy scares the shit out of me.
i also want to get into why i think im aromatic, i was with my bf he was my type and i knew i liked him and he made me smile and such but around the 1 and a half to 2 months i just didn’t feel anything but i knew i loved him, i didn’t feel anything inside. im considering i’m aromantic but i also want a life long partner but i don’t know if i would “lose” feeling after a month or 2. and i heard that bisexuality could also clash with asexuality.
i want to say i know im still young and i know i have time to discover myself but im confused right now and i want to know about myself, i also know that there is a lot of sub-terms under asexuality and it’s one big spectrum.
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Does anyone else feel uncomfortable with making out?
I’m probably demi and my gf is ace. We do cheek and forehead kisses and sometimes closed mouth kisses. Both of us are pretty grossed out by tongue. I’ve never understood long make out scenes in movies.
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sample text
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Are the Allos OK???
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Guys i did it
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How did garlic bread become an ace thing?
Garlic bread seems to be one of these universally loved things. but how'd it become an ace thing specifically?
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This resonates with me
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Early National Coming Out Day decors on my walk home :)
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My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders
I recently had a conversation with my family about this. I was told there's no way (even though I'm 31) that I could be panromantic and asexual unless I've had sex with all possible genders.
I'm a virgin, for what it’s worth. I've never had sex and have only dated casually (because thus far all dates have expected sex). How do I explain that I can be pansexual without needing to force myself into sex?
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Ace week around the corner
To all my fellow aces don't forget starting the 20th of this month and ending on the 26th is asexual awareness week
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Reality check
Im a 38 year old aroace and i have been in relationships sometimes. But i cant seem to find a life partner or other person to help with life things. Someone to help when you are sick and so on. Now i am in a bit of crisis. I cannot sleep in my house sometimes, leading to sleep deprived me. I have been informing my parents so they wouldnt be surprised when i move houses. They really like my current house. Now after a long search i have found a house swap. And i am so sleep deprived i am sleeping at my moms house. Back to where i have been when i divorced. I am lucky my mom is still fit and willing to help me. Otherwise i would have to sleep in my car or something. I even couldnt do the swap financially without my mom. Good news is my relationship with my parents is better, because i ask for help now. I moved twice before, excluding them. .
Finding someone feels impossible. And if you find someone it takes years to build trust and relationship.
I dont know what i will do if i dont have parents anymore.
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Am I asexual?
Ive been researching and thinking for a while and I dont know how I feel about it all. First of all I never had sex Ive never had an "urge" to have sex with anyone specifically to me its always felt like if I get horny its nothing masturbating couldn't take care of. If Im honest masturbating feels more like a chore that I try to make better with porn which does barely anything to add to it I perfer reading erotica or audio porn or something where they are dressed in clothing that shows off their body instead of regular porn? The best way I can explain adding porn to the mix is when you do laundry and play some music or turn on your TV while doing it so its not as boring? I honestly wish I could get rid of my libido forever. Ive always thought people have sex for the physical sensation and nothing more I only recently learned that you are suppose to feel some sort of deep emotions which feels like that would be impossible for me. I keep thinking of a scenario in my head if a women I like was to starting showing signs of wanting sex and start to undress would I feel nervous and get butterflies? Most likely but I feel like that would be because its my first time and Im anxious/confused. Would I get horny and want to have sex? Also yes most likely I feel like it would likely feel good physically but emotionally it wouldn't feel like anything it would just be a better version of masturbation to me. I do have sexual fantasies but even I try really hard I cant seem to imagine the person Im with in the fantasy to be a person I like the apperance of, it always just goes back to a faceless individual. Its also hard to imagine them naked its always in a outfit that I like. So the question is, is this asexuality? Does me knowing that if a person wants to have sex with me Id likely get horny and say yes is that sexual attraction? Is that how most people see sex or is there something deeper Im suppose to be feeling which I dont understand? I am confused about it all because Ive never had sex and just need to try it? Or do I already know how Id feel?
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Reddit is Like Twitter
Yall, I don’t use X but I’m new on Reddit.. new asf. And I really like to find communities for my interests like everyone does, right? 😭🤌🏾 tell me WHY.. I was looking for piercing content.. and the shit said “Piercingporn” and I was thinking “Oh! Must be like ‘food porn’ 🤡 click”
YALL 👀👄👀😭😭😭😭😭😫💀 THERE WAS NOTHING AT ALL ABOUT PIERCINGS AT TF ALL. I would laugh but my fucking heart is still RACING like my life was threatened. I YELPED SO LOUD. I’m still so shocked omfg like, I’m too old for this, WHY DID I THINK IT WAS ABOUT PIERCINGS?!? WHY DID I THINK IT WAS AN INNOCENT CLEVER NAME THAT WAS NOTHING ABOUT PORN?! It didn’t even have piercings of genitals on there it was JUST PORN. I want to rip off my skin rn. What the helllllll.. 😩🫣yall.. I’m laughing cause I’m nervous as FUCK and literally thrown back but I’m seriously in a fight or flight mode. 😭😭😭😭 that was SO FUCKING DUMB of me, I needed to comfort stim and ALL after that.
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Was just asked if sex with my (also ace) late wife was like fucking a teddy bear
Or a fleshlight.
Just… ugh. Why would you say that to anyone at all, let alone a widower? Oh right, aphobia, hooray.
You can find the comment thread that led to it in my profile.
Leaving aside the thoughtless cruel language, I’m just so fed up of having to justify that my wife and I could both be ace and still have an active (albeit less frequent than others’) sex life and two children together.
We liked the emotional intimacy and both of us wanted kids. But neither of ever looked at another human being and said “I want to tap that”.
Don’t tell me that because I liked sleeping with my soulmate that I must have experienced sexual attraction and therefore must be gray-spec. I know what I am.
Anyhow, thanks for letting me vent to people who understand. The only ace I know IRL is a Catholic priest (that’s not a joke, he identifies as such and has told me so), and I’m not about to use the word “fleshlight” in his earshot.
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Asexuality in therapy?
has anyone ever talked to their therapist about being asexual?
I’m in a relationship and my partner is not asexual but I am and it brings up a lot of feelings and anxiety for me so I want to talk about it.
We’ve never talked about sex at all and it just makes me nervous.
I still have a hard time accepting my asexuality and am always super nervous to bring it up to other people.
This woman knows so much about me this feels like a big thing she should know about but I’m not sure she would understand or know how to react.
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God
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