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Being accused of being an “incel”
I don’t pay enough attention and I have bad grades, have bad social skills because I don’t like a lot of hobbies, and some other issues. My dad always tells me that I’m going to end up being an “incel”, which is kinda frustrating because he assumes that I’m going to like a gender.
My brother also said “you’re definitely not getting a girlfriend” even though I said nothing about how to get girls or anything. He just straight up assumed it. The reason why he said that is because I had no friends at school and I wasn’t trying to make any.
I hate this assumption that I have to like a gender and everyone just assumes it, and my dad will just assume “oh you liked a girl back in 1000 BC”. So? I can change my mind and just not want to. I feel like a gray sexual, where I have mild attraction, and just not enough attraction to start a relationship.
And that’s fine, but my parents say that is a bad thing and that I’ll end up lonely. Which doesn’t make sense I can just make friends, get a pet or something. I seriously don’t understand why people put dating on such a pedestal.
Currently 14 turning 15 in a few days also
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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So people are more interested in r34 about an aroace artist than into the artist herself... What is wrong with people?
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"Childish" asexuality with a disability
I am 23 but have IDD and autism to the point where I have a very childish mind, i have pretty high support needs. I'm asexual and never wanted to partake in those types of acts with anyone, i dont see the epal, i'm pretty repulsed by it. However mind you, little kids can get crushes too, their just different from adult or even teenage crushes, my first crush was a girl I knew on my street when I was 8, the reason I liked her was because we both liked Lego. It certainly wasn’t sexual, it was just a crush I didn’t understand. Even now when I have a crush on someone it’s always in a very non sexual childlike way, I just wanna play with Lego and watch movies and be their for each other.
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shirt i got from my favorite band has some subtle ace vibes :)
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In 5 days I will tell my parents that I am asexual. I really appreciate the support you are giving me.
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Ace and Aro Nails
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Fits here IG
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First time having garlic bread
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Is this accurate when describing miransexuals?
Miransexual: Aside from experiencing mirous attraction. Referring to someone who does not experience sexual attraction or desire in the typical, intrinsic sense. It’s often defined as someone who feels no inherent or spontaneous sexual attraction to others but may still be sex favorable. With sex favorability, it is often more about fantasies, idealization, and self-idealization that can lead to arousal or desire. Miransexuals can feel aroused or want sex, but their desire is not tied to a real, spontaneous attraction to other people.
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Lost my virginity tonight. I’m definitely asexual
I’m a 26M and I lost my virginity tonight. I posted previously here that I have a tickling fetish that my sexuality revolves around. I have never fantasized about sex, so I always wondered if I would like it or not. Well it wasn’t for me. Didn’t turn me on at all. Couldn’t stay hard to save my life, no matter how hard I tried to think about my fetish. I ended up using my fingers and mouth to get the girl to orgasm multiple times, but I got little to no pleasure from it. She was amazing and was understanding of my situation after I explained all of this to her. Not really sure to go from here…. I’m glad to at least not be a virgin anymore.
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Is anyone else just… Confused??
I came out as aroace a year and a half ago, and I feel like the more secure I become in my asexuality, the more confused I get about how to accurately describe it to allo people. There is not language built for us. This is a romance-centric world. I am tired.
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Insecurities resulting from my asexuality
Hi, I'm in my 20s and I'm asexual. I've never had sex and I don't want to, but it makes me feel very insecure.
You know, the topic of sex comes up often, my first problem is I just don't find it amusing all these jokes etc.
Besides, I have the impression that people somehow know that I am a virgin and therefore treat me like a child... (I received such suggestion from one guy but he wanted to manipulate me to have sex w him).
Ehhh... Does sex really change that much in life? Will this "make me a woman"?
I'm not going to do anything against myself, but I'm tired of being constantly misunderstood and feeling judged because of who I am...
Even the stupid question if I have a boyfriend. I don't have one and never have, but if I say it, people will think I'm weird (I can see it in them) and honestly, I don't want to pretend and invent any past relationships.
Actually, I came here for support and I would like to know if you have ever had a similar problem...
I'm sorry if I described it chaotically, there's a lot going on in my head.
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How can I F21 break up with my girlfriend F22 for being asexual?
Hello there I really hope I can get some good feedback. I’ve always been inexperienced in relationships. I’ve kinda always used the excuse of I’m so busy with school/ work that I never really attempted to date or have sex. I figured if I found the right person then I would be willing to have sex. I chalked up all discomfort or worry from my lack of experience.
Back in August I matched with someone great on a dating app and we hit it off. It’s long distance (3 hours) but we’ve been able to make it work and she’s visited me and I visited her twice.She’s an amazing person. So smart, creative and just a wonderful and supportive person. I really emjoy spending time with her but last visit something happened.
We started kissing and she kept inserting her tongue in my mouth. I do not like kissing with tongue I’ve discovered. She obliged and we kept kissing. She then asked for me to remove my shirt and I was nervous but removed it. Once she started to feel me off I got scared and embarresssly pulled back. She seemed disappointed and sad but I couldn’t force myself to do the deed.
The next day she asked if I was asexual. I really never had thought about it so I denied the claim. She said good because we would have to break up. But for the last week I can’t help but think I may be. I really have never been aroused by another person, masturbated to another person or even felt turned on by a person. Learning from this community has been very helpful and I don’t feel as alone but I think I need to break it off.
I really like her and she really likes me but I know we physically can’t be. She wants to be physical with someone but I can’t be that person. I feel like I wasted her time so any advice on how to end it?
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romantic attraction??
i'm trying to help my friend figure out if she's aroace, but she's (relatably) struggling to figure out if she's feeling romantic or platonic attraction. can any alloromantics explain what romantic attraction actually feels like? because nothing we've found is helpful lmao.
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Not ace but I messed things up with an amazing girl.
I'm not ace, I just have a really low libido. I fell in love with this amazing ace girl I've been into for years. She was my best friend for 3 years and we decided to give it a go. I messed up right off the bat and now she's big mad. Which fair. If she decides to give me another chance, what can I do to win her trust back?
I really like her. Right now I'm just giving her space but I'm afraid I'm going to lose her forever.
Here's what I did
We spent 3-4 months cuddling and smooching. Nothing more. I was fine with that and it was so nice to be with someone who didn't just want to have sex and leave. As we're discussing the terms of our relationship she said "this is an open situation btw" and that's something I'm okay with.
However my dumbass starts barking up her tree and I tell her how no anything is a deal-breaker for me and how I still want certain things from her. Then I tell her I want to hit it once to "get it out of my system" JFC I'm so stupid and I'm slamming my head up against a wall rn.
I immediately took everything back but the damage is done. I know I disrespected her. I didn't disrespect her boundaries but I know I hurt her.
I want to let her know I don't need sex from her. I just want to hold her again.
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New Ace tattoo dropped
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Figured this sub would like this
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What would be the ace drinks(like garlic bred but in drink) I’m thinking Choccy milk
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Ridiculous.
It's very strange to me that it's so hard to find a woman that simply wants to cuddle with me instead of going further. What kind of earth-family is this??? Am I an alien??? I mean, space isn't only in the sky dude. It's everywhere.
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Was messing around with InspiroBot and it came up with this, thought it would fit here
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When did you learn about the concept of sex?
I'm wondering if this is common, but I've known about it since maybe pre-school or daycare years because of my environment. The kids I was around knew, so I knew. The kids and adults I was around cursed, so I would too
Kids pick up more than many adults think
It's like they either don't remember being their age or they just think that it won't happen to their kid/child relative
This is why it's so important to start talking about it age appropriately from day one
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One of my AroAce Characters, Andy!
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Never aroused by people but aroused by intellectual studies
This may sound strange but I really only experience physical arousal when I’m learning/engaged in intellectual topics. For example: currently reading an educational book and the more mentally engaged I am I start to experience a state of physical arousal. Anyone relate or can explain what is happening
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I have no idea if anyone remembers anymore but I drew some aro/ace arrow aces (hah) like years ago by now and I found them in my folder the other day and felt that a redesign was desparately needed. Not my most detailed work but it hope you guys like the new fits!
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The asexual urge to pet and hug these anthropomorphic alien animals
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basically most straight men’s thoughts on asexuality
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And they are saying "the queers sexualize children"??? wtf...
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I have found the most offensive thing I have ever heard a non asexual person say and it is surprisingly not that asexuals don’t exist but what do you guys think
So I was scrolling Reddit and since I visit this subreddit a lot I got recommended a post that literally said that the poster was gay and that they did not think that asexuals should be included in lgbtq+ because that is for sexuality’s and a sexuality is not a sexuality it is the opposite or in their words “I don’t think asexuals deserve a spot under this magnificent rainbow” and I have never been more angry in my entire life what do you guys think. Also that garlic bread is not the best food that has ever been made by man but that is unrelated to this.
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How exactly can an asexual be sex-favorable?
With all die respect, this is something that genuinely confuses me. I know asexuality exists in many forms and shades. I myself used to think it just meant being disgusted by all sexual activity before realizing that one can still be neutral about it or (like myself) feel libido in other ways but not care about the act if sex itself.
But doesn't sex-favorable contradict the very definition of what an asexual is? How does that work, and how is it different from non-asexuality (allo)?
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