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You're valid
You are valid. It doesn't matter if you feel sexual, or not, you are still ace as much as you feel that you are.
I'm sorry to those that don't wish to be ace for many reason, but I want you to know that you're still valid too.
Asexuality (and even being aromantic) are ok, you're ok, and there's nothing to be ashamed off.
I'm proud of all of you.
From an ace girl. <3
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Stereotypes...
Found out yesterday that my one year younger cousin (20y/o) is getting married while I was making garlic bread at home and I think that pretty much sums up my sexuality.
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This ad in my email is so perfect it seems almost intentional.
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Asexuality is a superpower!
I realized I was asexual very late in life (late 40's, early 50's), and only after a lot of hurt and pain (and two failed marriages). You would think this fact would be easy to pin down, but it's absolutely not. I spent years thinking I was "broken" and that only pills like Viagra could help me try to have a normal sex life. The pills only made me feel more depressed, since they did sorta work - as they would help me to achieve the required stiffy (but they do nothing to address the fact that I simply did not want or need sex). I would grudgingly provide sex, because that was what the man is supposed to do, but my heart was never, ever in it.
This discovery of being asexual has brought SO MUCH peace to my life. (in previous years, pre-revelation, I had tried to off myself 3 separate times, including once drinking a quart of rat poison!) I have not had an incident of serious depression almost 15 years now! Along the way, I also realized that I was attracted romantically to both men and women, pretty much equally.
Just knowing that I am "normal" (as I was created) is a massive load off my mind and heart. It gives me such confidence in social situations, that I call it my superpower. I can walk into a bar filled with gorgeous people and not want to have sex with any of them. I see fellow humans, both men and women, without the filter of sexual desire (which I think complicates things a great deal)
I also don't spend the massive amounts of time and energy in dating or "the hunt" for a partner. I'm at peace with the fact that I may well be single until I die. I see so many people caught up in the dating machine, seeking partners, sex, etc. It takes up all of their spare time and energy. I don't concern myself with that, instead focusing on strengthening my existing relationships with good friends and chosen family. My superpower has helped me to make some very amazing, intense friendships, and close relationships.
I feel like I'll probably find a partner eventually. I'm open to it! I make a very good partner myself, which is why both of my wives toughed it out for so long in sexless marriages towards the end. As I get older, potential partners are also aging, and folks sometimes adjust their desire for sex as a "mandatory partner requirement" as they get into their sunset years. I'm not a bashful person, and I love meeting new people and participate in all kinds of social activities. I made a vow that I would never get into a relationship again without being 100% up front about my asexuality, so I'm excited to find a partner with whom I can be 100% myself.
FYI, I love a good makeout session. I love intimacy. I might even have sex on rare occasion with one of these potential partners. I just don't *care* about sex. I realize this reduces my partner pool a great deal and that's fine. If I find a partner, he or she will be that much more cherished for their rarity.
Having total clarity and peace of mind about sexuality is just something I see SO MANY normies struggle with. I am thankful every day that I don't have this compulsion and "need" which I have watched many a man do awful things in service of. Seriously, I was in the Navy in the 80's...I saw men do things which would horrify you.
I "came out" many years ago and it was the best decision I ever made.
After a lifetime of thinking I was "broken", it turns out I had a superpower the whole time!
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I love my partner to death but I think I’m starting to hate sex
My partner and I have been together for almost 2 years, they have a pretty high sex drive and tells me that we could be doing it all day if they wanted, I personally only ever “want” it every other week or so, but I do my best to fulfill their needs because that’s soemthing you do for and with your partner imo at least. After having sex or even thinking about it or specific moments, I get so grossed out, and icky and after we do it I’m almost running to the shower to clean off. I love my partner so so much and our intimate time is wonderful even without sex. We truly are happy with each other but I feel like it’s unfair to keep this from them.
I almost wanna tell them to go hookup with other people cause I trust that they love me just as much and I literally don’t care.
I also had asexuality in the back of mind for years but like most things I felt ok and out of the way ”rules” and feelings that most people have.
Any advice would be great! Thank you all:)
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Not ace but I messed things up with an amazing girl.
I'm not ace, I just have a really low libido. I fell in love with this amazing ace girl I've been into for years. She was my best friend for 3 years and we decided to give it a go. I messed up right off the bat and now she's big mad. Which fair. If she decides to give me another chance, what can I do to win her trust back?
I really like her. Right now I'm just giving her space but I'm afraid I'm going to lose her forever.
Here's what I did
We spent 3-4 months cuddling and smooching. Nothing more. I was fine with that and it was so nice to be with someone who didn't just want to have sex and leave. As we're discussing the terms of our relationship she said "this is an open situation btw" and that's something I'm okay with.
However my dumbass starts barking up her tree and I tell her how no anything is a deal-breaker for me and how I still want certain things from her. Then I tell her I want to hit it once to "get it out of my system" JFC I'm so stupid and I'm slamming my head up against a wall rn.
I immediately took everything back but the damage is done. I know I disrespected her. I didn't disrespect her boundaries but I know I hurt her.
I want to let her know I don't need sex from her. I just want to hold her again.
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New Ace tattoo dropped
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Figured this sub would like this
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What would be the ace drinks(like garlic bred but in drink) I’m thinking Choccy milk
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Ridiculous.
It's very strange to me that it's so hard to find a woman that simply wants to cuddle with me instead of going further. What kind of earth-family is this??? Am I an alien??? I mean, space isn't only in the sky dude. It's everywhere.
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Was messing around with InspiroBot and it came up with this, thought it would fit here
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When did you learn about the concept of sex?
I'm wondering if this is common, but I've known about it since maybe pre-school or daycare years because of my environment. The kids I was around knew, so I knew. The kids and adults I was around cursed, so I would too
Kids pick up more than many adults think
It's like they either don't remember being their age or they just think that it won't happen to their kid/child relative
This is why it's so important to start talking about it age appropriately from day one
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One of my AroAce Characters, Andy!
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Never aroused by people but aroused by intellectual studies
This may sound strange but I really only experience physical arousal when I’m learning/engaged in intellectual topics. For example: currently reading an educational book and the more mentally engaged I am I start to experience a state of physical arousal. Anyone relate or can explain what is happening
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I have no idea if anyone remembers anymore but I drew some aro/ace arrow aces (hah) like years ago by now and I found them in my folder the other day and felt that a redesign was desparately needed. Not my most detailed work but it hope you guys like the new fits!
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🤪🥲
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Based on a certain Marvel game to have recently come out
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I've only just now realized I'm the worst ace in history
I'm allergic to garlic. I cannot eat garlic bread. How do I do this lol
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The Fact People can See Me as Sexual Makes me Lowkey Not Want to Exist Anymore
The idea of people being sexually attracted to me disgusts me but I can't control what other people do. I hate it so much I feel like this world wasn't made for me and I don't want to be a part of it anymore. It feels degrading to imagine being seen this way in the world. It seems like every human relationship with people unrelated to you is tainted with sex. Fml
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Being accused of being an “incel”
I don’t pay enough attention and I have bad grades, have bad social skills because I don’t like a lot of hobbies, and some other issues. My dad always tells me that I’m going to end up being an “incel”, which is kinda frustrating because he assumes that I’m going to like a gender.
My brother also said “you’re definitely not getting a girlfriend” even though I said nothing about how to get girls or anything. He just straight up assumed it. The reason why he said that is because I had no friends at school and I wasn’t trying to make any.
I hate this assumption that I have to like a gender and everyone just assumes it, and my dad will just assume “oh you liked a girl back in 1000 BC”. So? I can change my mind and just not want to. I feel like a gray sexual, where I have mild attraction, and just not enough attraction to start a relationship.
And that’s fine, but my parents say that is a bad thing and that I’ll end up lonely. Which doesn’t make sense I can just make friends, get a pet or something. I seriously don’t understand why people put dating on such a pedestal.
Currently 14 turning 15 in a few days also
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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So people are more interested in r34 about an aroace artist than into the artist herself... What is wrong with people?
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"Childish" asexuality with a disability
I am 23 but have IDD and autism to the point where I have a very childish mind, i have pretty high support needs. I'm asexual and never wanted to partake in those types of acts with anyone, i dont see the epal, i'm pretty repulsed by it. However mind you, little kids can get crushes too, their just different from adult or even teenage crushes, my first crush was a girl I knew on my street when I was 8, the reason I liked her was because we both liked Lego. It certainly wasn’t sexual, it was just a crush I didn’t understand. Even now when I have a crush on someone it’s always in a very non sexual childlike way, I just wanna play with Lego and watch movies and be their for each other.
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shirt i got from my favorite band has some subtle ace vibes :)
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In 5 days I will tell my parents that I am asexual. I really appreciate the support you are giving me.
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Ace and Aro Nails
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Fits here IG
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First time having garlic bread
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Is this accurate when describing miransexuals?
Miransexual: Aside from experiencing mirous attraction. Referring to someone who does not experience sexual attraction or desire in the typical, intrinsic sense. It’s often defined as someone who feels no inherent or spontaneous sexual attraction to others but may still be sex favorable. With sex favorability, it is often more about fantasies, idealization, and self-idealization that can lead to arousal or desire. Miransexuals can feel aroused or want sex, but their desire is not tied to a real, spontaneous attraction to other people.
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Lost my virginity tonight. I’m definitely asexual
I’m a 26M and I lost my virginity tonight. I posted previously here that I have a tickling fetish that my sexuality revolves around. I have never fantasized about sex, so I always wondered if I would like it or not. Well it wasn’t for me. Didn’t turn me on at all. Couldn’t stay hard to save my life, no matter how hard I tried to think about my fetish. I ended up using my fingers and mouth to get the girl to orgasm multiple times, but I got little to no pleasure from it. She was amazing and was understanding of my situation after I explained all of this to her. Not really sure to go from here…. I’m glad to at least not be a virgin anymore.
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