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I'm asexual! So I made this! Happy coming out to me!
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A classic
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I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I can finally say I'm asexual.
That's it. It just feels good to say I'm fine. It feels good to be myself. Those romantic/intimate expectations finally behind me. I'm asexual.
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am i a part of the lgbtq+ community if i am cishet?
this has probably been asked before but i just made my account on reddit so i havent seen it if so, sorry.
but ive only ever considered myself an ally, should i consider myself a part of the lgbtq+ community instead?
i was born as a girl and have never questioned if i feel like another gender. i am very happy and comfortable in my femininity, and theres never been any doubt to me that im straight either. but i have never had any kind of sexual thoughts or feelings about anybody, and i never want to engage in anything like that, but i dont understand how a lack of sex drive would make me a part of the lgbtq+ community? i am happy to be educated on that though
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Being "too young to know"
I don't understand people who say that someone is too young to know. If they never had a crush before then that's the literal definition of aromantic. It doesn't matter if they change later on, realize it was a phase, or they were just too quick to conclude. They are were still aro at that time. Heck I can even say that kindergartners are aro and it would still technically be correct.
If you're questioning or already think/know you are aro, then great for you. If it makes you feel better knowing you're not "wierd" or a "late bloomer" then carry on. Don't listen to anyone else trying to tell you otherwise. If a girl can confidently say she's straight at 12 then you can also realize you're aro/ace/aroace too, labels don't always stay forever and you can be a cis aro one day, realize you have a crush the next week, and then become a sex-repulsed omniromantic demiboy two months later until you find what fits you best.
I'm sick and tired of people (mostly parents) acting like we're picking our permanent career choices and that being labeled as aro is a choice we'll regret and we can't change back once we said it.
So yeah, that's it, I just wanted to talk about that. What do you guys think on this matter, I want to know if there's anyone who might think otherwise and I really want to know the reasoning. If anyone wants to ask for advice or share any stories I'm free to listen!
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Aesthetic attraction
Heard on the radio yesterday:
Guy 1: "You can find someone good looking without wanting to have sex with them."
Guy 2: "What’s the point, then?"
That really made me sigh and roll my eyes, especially after everyone on the show started laughing.
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Slowbro is indeed a bro.
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anyone tried tinder?
barely any of my friends are single right now, and none of them are ace so they don't understand how excluded I feel from everything. I'm lonely and often get random interests or urges to try out tinder, but I'm also nervous abt getting catfished or even just getting rejected lol. has tinder worked for any of you aspec people??
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How it feels to be a sex-repulsed ace on a dating app
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Representation💜
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Saw an ace flag in the protests
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Just how we like it
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DatingAsexual.com
Hey fellow aces,
If you’ve ever felt like mainstream dating apps just don’t get us, you’re not alone. Swiping endlessly through profiles filled with "looking for something casual" or being met with confusion (or worse, unwanted pressure) when you disclose you're asexual? Yeah, same.
That’s why we built DatingAsexual.com — a dating and community platform exclusively for aces and ace-spec folks. No need to explain yourself, no awkward conversations about why you’re not "just waiting for the right person" — just real, like-minded people who actually understand.
### What makes it different?
- Only vetted profiles – Every member is part of the asexual spectrum, so you won’t be bombarded by allo folks who don’t understand ace identities.
- Community-first approach – More than just dating; it’s also a space to meet queerplatonic partners, friends, and ace allies.
- No-pressure matches – Whether you’re looking for romance, companionship, or just good conversation, the platform respects your pace and boundaries.
- Filters that actually make sense – Find people based on their specific ace identity, romantic orientation, and comfort levels.
Would love to hear your thoughts! What features do you wish an ace dating platform had? And if you’ve had terrible experiences on mainstream apps, feel free to share (we’ve all been there).
Check it out at DatingAsexual.com and let’s build a space where we don’t have to explain ourselves — just connect.
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Don't know if this was worth posting but made a poster in the size of a playing card. I'm thinking of hanging up on april 6th.
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both of us?
Or is it a phase that other couples have successfully gone through and found a way to accept the asexuality of one of the partners in a way that doesn't feel defunct and miserable? Seeking advice here, and your personal stories would be immensely helpful, too.
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I guess my question didn't post
I guess my question didn't post. I didn't receive a message that it got deleted. If so, I'm sorry for posting it again.
What is the difference from Asexual to Aromantic? I have read the definition of Aromantic, but I don't understand the difference.
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i'm confused if i'm demisexual, aegosexual, both, or neither 😭
i've thought for years that i'm asexual because i've never had the desire for sex or sexual attraction that allos talk about. however, now i'm confused because i've figured out recently that i can be sexually attracted to celebrities (not just the aesthetic attraction that i've felt until now). BUT it's only toward celebrities that i feel like i know their personality and that i feel a personal connection to (as in, a celebrity that i follow and like them and their content). so am i demisexual since the attraction is toward specific people that i have emotional connection to, even though it's basically an intangible fantasy? am i aegosexual even though celebrities are real people? am i both? neither? or lastly, should i just call myself aceflux and call it a day? 😭
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i feel lost. i don’t know if i will ever be able to be in a relationship normally
i am 18F and asexual. i had some traumatic experiences when i was younger that i won’t get into, but the idea of a sexual relationship makes me violently uncomfortable and even sick. even if i were to see a therapist i don’t think i would ever be okay.
i am a very social person. i’ve been asked out many times, but i always say no. i feel terrible about this, but i feel broken because of the way i am. i don’t want to get attached to someone and have them leave me because i absolutely can’t have a sexual relationship.
i have always wanted to have a romantic relationship, but i feel unlovable because i’m ace. it makes me feel kind of hopeless. i want to really know and hear from older asexual people who can relate to me. how plausible is it that i will find someone someday that will be happy in a nonsexual romantic relationship?
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Yeah
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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69 is a nice number.... mathematically
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There are better things!
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Am I really asexual?
About a month ago, I got into a long distance relationship with what I would like to call, the love of my life. Now, I've been identifying with ace for a long time and everything did fit and make sense. A week into my relationship, I decided to try and think about her in a sexual way. The idea as always didn't appease to me yet I didn't feel uncomfortable or creeped out, more of a "This is the woman I love, I don't think I could ever hate this" sorta feeling. My romantic feelings for her have only deepened, and I realize it's only been a month. But I continued this sort of "asking myself to think of her like that" until about a week ago and then I stopped. Now, there wasn't anything off about it until yesterday, I woke up and I started to fantasize about her. I thought that maybe that was just a fluke or something similar but somehow sometimes when I'm alone I think about holding her and cuddling with her, like one usually does but then it goes beyond that and I like it. What does that mean? Am I not asexual and why did this not exist before?
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Made a garlic bread grilled cheese
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Alterous Attraction?
I just found out alterous attraction exists. I did a bit of research on it, but was wanting to find a few more explanations from people who are alterous before I decide if I am or not. I found a couple of posts that I thought matched me quite well, so my description is mostly taken from other people. I'd be cool with dating this person, but being their friend is just as good. Like I wouldn't actively start a relationship, but I wouldn't turn one down. I want to be around them (physically close, but not in a sexual way), to talk to them, to get to know them, to be emotionally intimate with them, and to feel totally comfortable around them. I think they are aesthetically attractive, but not sexualy. I've also never been in a relationship, so I have no idea weather I am fine with things like kissing(no Idea if I consider this to be romantic or sexual, or not), cuddling/snuggling(not sexualy of course), holding hands, etc. I am asexual, and I don't know if I am aromantic or not, because I know nothing about romance. Again, I am mostly looking for explanations of alterous attraction from people who are alterous so I can decide if I am or not. Also, if you think the alterous lable doesn't quite fit me please suggest a better lable.
This seemed like a good subreddit to post this in, because the only alterous subreddit I could find looked very dead.
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How do you guys find someone that doesn’t care about sex
I feel like we live in such a sexualised society and it suck’s because I am not aromantic and I want to find love. I feel like being asexual (even if I’m not exactly sex repulsed) makes me unlovable. I am aware other asexuals exist but I’ve never met any of you guys in real life. It makes me feel so isolated and unlovable. As a queer woman also I feel like, lesbians put so much emphasis on “good sex” and it stresses me out.
For anyone that has a partner, how exactly did you tell them you’re ace and how do you guys work? I guess I just need some cheering up I suppose.
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I'm tired of the "I can fix you" BS
I'm an asexual that indulges in her kinks and lifestyle changes, I like to dabble in them and can get aroused, I enjoy kissing, hugging, cuddling, I like the romantic aspect of relationships rather than the sexual stuff. Some people I talk to in kink groups have noticed this and we talk back and forth and the question then comes to sex... Some can acknowledge I don't want sex then "Maybe you need the right person." Or "Why are you into kink, but Asexual?"
Hell my ex and I were talking about it and even he said "When we were together you were getting aroused, so why didn't you wanna have sex with me?" And had to repeat arousal and sexual desire are two different things. (Didn't know I was ace when we were dating)
I hate explaining every time I have no sexual desire, I am allowed to get aroused without the need or want for sex, I HATE hearing "Maybe one day we could." It's no a hard no. I wish I could be heard instead of invalidated or putting that pressure on me.
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Imagine someone who is not allosexual but is also not asexual?
What do we call this, or am i just making things up in my head?
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why is sex so important?
first time posting but ive been lurking for a while and wanted to get my thoughts out somewhere. it is really nice seeing sm people have the same feelings about sex. i am asexual, and ive only dated allosexual ppl. im still figuring out how to navigate my sexuality, but i just struggle to understand allosexual povs, i dont understand why sex is so important and always on their minds? what is frustrating is when i feel like its necessary for that feeling of intimacy. i don't think i am sex repulsed but i want to do it even less when people think it's the only way to feel close? sometimes i js feel like those type of dynamics are so vapid, i love being physically affectionate and close w someone but it never feels like that's what people actually want. a lot of people ive dated always assume cuddling leads to sex, or kissing leads to sex, and it really sucks we can't just enjoy eachother's company. does anyone else feel this way?
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Asexual and at a crossroads after a 5-year relationship with a sexually dissatisfied partner - sharing my personal story and seeking advice
I'm female, in my early 30s, and engaged to a man who isn't satisfied with our sexual life. Can't blame him - though I don't know where exactly my case falls on the asexuality spectrum, we've both admitted by now (to ourselves and to each other) that there's little compatibility in this aspect.
This man is my first long-term relationship and first sexual partner ever. Before we met, I was chronically single, afraid of intimacy, and friend-zoned people who were interested in me OR cut ties with them right before things were about to get sexual. I fell in love romantically, had work crushes, went out with guys every now and then - but ultimately kept to myself. There were a few people who hinted at my asexuality back then, but I didn't understand what the term meant and almost took it as an insult.
This relationship is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I am eager to do whatever it takes for us to stay together and walk hand in hand to the next chapters of life - but my partner doesn't feel happy sex-wise. For the first year or so, we were exploring each other, and I was unimpressed by the experience of sex - sometimes it felt good, but mostly meh. My thoughts were: "Is this what everyone is obsessed with? What people leave their families and move countries for? What they PAY FOR?"
I wanted a lot of tenderness, romance, and foreplay, and my partner expected lust and passion that come naturally, intensity, and openness to certain sexual practices. I am by no means a prude, and I'm always willing to use toys on him if they make him feel good, but for me, it's a big no-no. I remember the first couple of times he opened up about his dissatisfaction - his words hurt me a lot. He said that I'm deprived of sex appeal even when I'm wearing lacy lingerie and that he doesn't get aroused enough because there's no response. We tried short-term therapy for couples, and even though our therapist was fantastic, I felt like he was expecting her to fix me rather than help us find the middle ground.
After that, we've tried things in bed that I hadn't been open to before - can't say I didn't like them; some were even enjoyable, but he's a smart man and knows none of these is a natural impulse from my side. "You're like a student who's learned the lesson by heart but still has zero interest in the subject". And this is ultimately true - if someone told me I'd never have sex again, I'd be relieved as long as I can keep all the hugs. I even thought of an open relationship (openness for him, burden off my shoulders), but we both agreed that it wouldn't work for us. This issue keeps him hesitant about marrying me, and there were a couple of times when we almost talked ourselves into a crisis - I was thinking in panic "This is it, now is the moment he'll ask to break up", and every time he was like "What are you talking about? I don't want to break up, I'm just speaking my mind".
Should I let him go? Not that he is determined to - as my close friend once told me, if he wanted to go, he would. Also, this outcome scares the shit out of me financially and overall as a life decision - we've spent crucial years together as immigrants in a country where it's not particularly easy to secure your spot under the sun, and I can't afford living here alone and just sticking around for no reason. Also, we've changed each other a lot in other aspects of life and become a strong alliance with trust, open communication, a common outlook on life, and future vision - and I desperately want to keep it all. We want children (though the thought of trying to get pregnant for months and months gives me chills). My partner is generally going through a bit of a mid-life crisis and is currently reevaluating happiness and purpose, and I feel like I'll be the picket-fence version of calm and uneventful happiness with bland sex and friend-like connection that he will possibly settle for - but isn't it cruel to