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Fam I'm so close to actually crying (in a good way)
So I'm doing this paper on prejudices against asexual people and have been looking around for sources and LOOK WHAT SOMEONE WROTE IN THEIR PHD DISSERTATION 😭😭😭😭😭😭 i love me some academic allies (original article is “Maybe all these random experiences form a cohesive picture”: Towards a grounded theory of asexual college students’ identity development by Mollet 2018 if you wanna check it out... just a content warning for smexual a$$ault in the paper)
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not sure if I should be offended or just be happy to be included
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Thought this belongs here :)
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Finding people more attractive with clothes on
I've been wondering about this. To me people are way more attractive with clothes on than naked. When it comes to porn I also like it way more when they're clothed.
I assume this is because of the lack of sexual attraction and aesthetic attraction being the one I'm feeling.
Naked people to me are well just naked. They do look a bit weird as we all see each others in clothes only usually. But there's nothing more than that.
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Mwhaha
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I guess my question didn't post
I guess my question didn't post. I didn't receive a message that it got deleted. If so, I'm sorry for posting it again.
What is the difference from Asexual to Aromantic? I have read the definition of Aromantic, but I don't understand the difference.
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i'm confused if i'm demisexual, aegosexual, both, or neither 😭
i've thought for years that i'm asexual because i've never had the desire for sex or sexual attraction that allos talk about. however, now i'm confused because i've figured out recently that i can be sexually attracted to celebrities (not just the aesthetic attraction that i've felt until now). BUT it's only toward celebrities that i feel like i know their personality and that i feel a personal connection to (as in, a celebrity that i follow and like them and their content). so am i demisexual since the attraction is toward specific people that i have emotional connection to, even though it's basically an intangible fantasy? am i aegosexual even though celebrities are real people? am i both? neither? or lastly, should i just call myself aceflux and call it a day? 😭
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i feel lost. i don’t know if i will ever be able to be in a relationship normally
i am 18F and asexual. i had some traumatic experiences when i was younger that i won’t get into, but the idea of a sexual relationship makes me violently uncomfortable and even sick. even if i were to see a therapist i don’t think i would ever be okay.
i am a very social person. i’ve been asked out many times, but i always say no. i feel terrible about this, but i feel broken because of the way i am. i don’t want to get attached to someone and have them leave me because i absolutely can’t have a sexual relationship.
i have always wanted to have a romantic relationship, but i feel unlovable because i’m ace. it makes me feel kind of hopeless. i want to really know and hear from older asexual people who can relate to me. how plausible is it that i will find someone someday that will be happy in a nonsexual romantic relationship?
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Yeah
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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69 is a nice number.... mathematically
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There are better things!
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Am I really asexual?
About a month ago, I got into a long distance relationship with what I would like to call, the love of my life. Now, I've been identifying with ace for a long time and everything did fit and make sense. A week into my relationship, I decided to try and think about her in a sexual way. The idea as always didn't appease to me yet I didn't feel uncomfortable or creeped out, more of a "This is the woman I love, I don't think I could ever hate this" sorta feeling. My romantic feelings for her have only deepened, and I realize it's only been a month. But I continued this sort of "asking myself to think of her like that" until about a week ago and then I stopped. Now, there wasn't anything off about it until yesterday, I woke up and I started to fantasize about her. I thought that maybe that was just a fluke or something similar but somehow sometimes when I'm alone I think about holding her and cuddling with her, like one usually does but then it goes beyond that and I like it. What does that mean? Am I not asexual and why did this not exist before?
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Made a garlic bread grilled cheese
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Alterous Attraction?
I just found out alterous attraction exists. I did a bit of research on it, but was wanting to find a few more explanations from people who are alterous before I decide if I am or not. I found a couple of posts that I thought matched me quite well, so my description is mostly taken from other people. I'd be cool with dating this person, but being their friend is just as good. Like I wouldn't actively start a relationship, but I wouldn't turn one down. I want to be around them (physically close, but not in a sexual way), to talk to them, to get to know them, to be emotionally intimate with them, and to feel totally comfortable around them. I think they are aesthetically attractive, but not sexualy. I've also never been in a relationship, so I have no idea weather I am fine with things like kissing(no Idea if I consider this to be romantic or sexual, or not), cuddling/snuggling(not sexualy of course), holding hands, etc. I am asexual, and I don't know if I am aromantic or not, because I know nothing about romance. Again, I am mostly looking for explanations of alterous attraction from people who are alterous so I can decide if I am or not. Also, if you think the alterous lable doesn't quite fit me please suggest a better lable.
This seemed like a good subreddit to post this in, because the only alterous subreddit I could find looked very dead.
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Is researching for a long time about being Ace stalling because you are in denial?
When is it too much of a length of time to figure out you are a form of being ace?
When does it become stalling because you are in denial?
I am asking for educational purposes.
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Confused about my identity.
So I'm 28M and I think I spent most of my life denying or hiding the fact I don't think I'm straight and am finally trying to accept and understand this.
The reason I'm posting here because I adore the idea of being in a loving intimate relationship with another guy but at the same time I can't imagine fully having sex and I don't know how to resolve these two beliefs being so different and so I'm not sure even what I am.
Hope this was the right sub to ask this question, thanks for reading this.
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As an ADHD Ace who uses caffeine to regulate, this is definitely true
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Truth
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I'm asexual! So I made this! Happy coming out to me!
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A classic
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I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I can finally say I'm asexual.
That's it. It just feels good to say I'm fine. It feels good to be myself. Those romantic/intimate expectations finally behind me. I'm asexual.
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am i a part of the lgbtq+ community if i am cishet?
this has probably been asked before but i just made my account on reddit so i havent seen it if so, sorry.
but ive only ever considered myself an ally, should i consider myself a part of the lgbtq+ community instead?
i was born as a girl and have never questioned if i feel like another gender. i am very happy and comfortable in my femininity, and theres never been any doubt to me that im straight either. but i have never had any kind of sexual thoughts or feelings about anybody, and i never want to engage in anything like that, but i dont understand how a lack of sex drive would make me a part of the lgbtq+ community? i am happy to be educated on that though
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Being "too young to know"
I don't understand people who say that someone is too young to know. If they never had a crush before then that's the literal definition of aromantic. It doesn't matter if they change later on, realize it was a phase, or they were just too quick to conclude. They are were still aro at that time. Heck I can even say that kindergartners are aro and it would still technically be correct.
If you're questioning or already think/know you are aro, then great for you. If it makes you feel better knowing you're not "wierd" or a "late bloomer" then carry on. Don't listen to anyone else trying to tell you otherwise. If a girl can confidently say she's straight at 12 then you can also realize you're aro/ace/aroace too, labels don't always stay forever and you can be a cis aro one day, realize you have a crush the next week, and then become a sex-repulsed omniromantic demiboy two months later until you find what fits you best.
I'm sick and tired of people (mostly parents) acting like we're picking our permanent career choices and that being labeled as aro is a choice we'll regret and we can't change back once we said it.
So yeah, that's it, I just wanted to talk about that. What do you guys think on this matter, I want to know if there's anyone who might think otherwise and I really want to know the reasoning. If anyone wants to ask for advice or share any stories I'm free to listen!
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Aesthetic attraction
Heard on the radio yesterday:
Guy 1: "You can find someone good looking without wanting to have sex with them."
Guy 2: "What’s the point, then?"
That really made me sigh and roll my eyes, especially after everyone on the show started laughing.
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Slowbro is indeed a bro.
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anyone tried tinder?
barely any of my friends are single right now, and none of them are ace so they don't understand how excluded I feel from everything. I'm lonely and often get random interests or urges to try out tinder, but I'm also nervous abt getting catfished or even just getting rejected lol. has tinder worked for any of you aspec people??
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How it feels to be a sex-repulsed ace on a dating app
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Representation💜
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Saw an ace flag in the protests
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