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Asexual Activist calls out JK Rowling for "acephobic" tweet
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It Annoys Me That People Think I’m ‘Depriving Myself’ of Sex Because of My Sexuality
So, quick story from a night out, and honestly, it really pissed me off, so I wanted to share it here.
I’m at the bar with my friends, a bit tipsy, and Simon (my friend’s crush, just to clarify) starts talking to me when my friend is off doing something else. He asks me if I have a boyfriend, and I answer, pretty casually, “It’s complicated.”
Then he asks why. So, without thinking too much, I say, “I’m afraid he might be too Christian.” And that’s when everything goes wrong. Simon starts asking me if I’ve had sex yet. I say no, and he starts getting really agitated, saying, “You shouldn’t wait too long! I know you want it deep down! You shouldn’t deprive yourself for him. You’re 20, these are the best years for that. You should open up more, don’t be so shy. A lot of guys would want you. It’s not healthy to deprive yourself like that……….."
What?
At that point, I was like, What the actual f***? He thought my “complicated” answer was about sexual frustration, and that I was somehow withholding sex because of my relationship. But no, I was just trying to explain that I was worried about the potential tension with his religious views, and how that might interfere with the relationship. But Simon totally missed the point. He thought I was just holding back sexually, not considering the clash of beliefs.
Then he kept pushing, and I ended up trying to explain that I’m not depriving myself of sex (because, spoiler: I’m asexual). My situation is not about sexual frustration or deprivation. I just have different needs. It’s frustrating that people always see it as some kind of sacrifice, like I’m missing out on something.
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JK Rowling:
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In a world of JK Rowlings, remember we have our ace ally Aaron Paul 💜
https://redd.it/1jt94fn
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Happy Ace Day
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Nice to see JK is as vile as ever
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J.K. Rowling mocks the aces
https://redd.it/1jt681c
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this is the first thing i see for ace day bro😔
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She's actually just a D1 hater at this point. It would be genuinely impressive if it weren't also so deeply sad
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My reaction to international asexuality day
https://redd.it/1jsxumm
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'Hazbin Hotel' creator Vivienne Medrano (VivziePop) comes out as asexual, calls out 'Harry Potter' author J.K. Rowling
https://redd.it/1jsxj4s
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Happy Ace Day to Anime Fans
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Gonna have myself a great International Asexuality Day if only outta spite towards this woman
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Happy International Asexuality Day!
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Why else would I want to be in the 20% if it wasn't for chocolate?
https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxTeC6Jynge5nP35VSSst8hbhRqJXkPmjS?si=0c8OdVLpTarJbIjo
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In case you need a new fandom
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"Why would anyone hate asexuals? They're doing literally nothing"
I was reading through a reddit discussion about Rowling's recent aphobic tweet. And in the thread, several people were talking about how it's dumb to hate on aces, as we're by definition not doing anything. It's an idea I've seen floating around on the internet for years now
And guys, could we stop saying things like this?
Not even getting into the fact that aces can have and want sex, everyone realizes that trans people aren't doing anything either, right?
I can kinda get the sentiment behind the statement. Someone's hating on you, and you're literally just sitting there eating your cereal. There's humor and absurdity in that
But trans people can make the exact same joke. They're just hanging out living their lives too. Acting like this only applies to aces plays into the idea that any other type of queer person is "doing something"
Also, btw, it's untrue that we're not doing anything. Aces and aros all over the world are finding each other, building community, and challenging relationship norms like allonormativity, amatonormativity, and sex as a requirement/universal need. This is the exact reason why all queer people are hated. If you're any label of queer, your mere existence challenges traditional gender and/or relationship norms. Norms that religious conservatives want to maintain, as it's easier for the church to control the population if everyone's living the same lifestyle
So yeah, let's not pretend we're just actionless bystanders, who are somehow innocent in a way that all other queer people aren't. Let's actually admit how transgressive asexuality is, and be proud about how fucking cool that is
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JK Rowling takes the day off from harassing trans people so she can harass asexual people instead
https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1jt4cpu
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Yesterday an older couple recognized my ring and wished me a happy International Asexuality Day. They are both asexual and have been married for 70 years.
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Aegosexual (X-post from r/LGBT)
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Happy International Ace Day! 💜 From the main characters of my debut graphic novel
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Could not contain my queer rage so I posted this on my personal Facebook
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'Hazbin Hotel' creator Vivienne Medrano (VivziePop) comes out as asexual, calls out 'Harry Potter' author J.K. Rowling
https://redd.it/1jsxf7i
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I implore anyone who says "aphobia doesn't exist" to read through the replies to *That* tweet
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Me a trans non-binary person realising I'm also probably asexual
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What do you guys normally like to do for Ace Day?
This is my first time knowing about it. I'm not used to how Pride events work, so how are you guys usually celebrating?
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Happy ace day, yipeeeeee
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Lookie what I made for todays occasion! 💜
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Sharing my pride pins for international asexual day 😁 which is your fave?
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I'm lost
Context: early 20s man, I know I'm asexual but I don't know which, I have little if no sexual and emotional attraction, and there may be trauma due to the past but I am unsure. I have a fair amount of mental health conditions that affect this.
Previous Advice: People close to me have suggested that I start dating and stuff but I don't know where to even start with that and that sounds terrifying to me. Even if there is someone the chance is so low and I don't want to upset people for trying to find myself.
I don't want to be alone, I Just started living and I know all my friends will grow up and there will be less time to be had. I should be around people because it's good for me or I'll start going off the rails. I don't know what I want but I know I don't want to be alone and I'm afraid of missing out on life. I just need advice or to know I'm not alone, thanks everyone
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