Discussion I am a 38M that needs to lose about 20 lb. I know I need to exercise but at the same time I really just don't care. What can I do to motivate myself?
Question in the title. I appreciate any advice. Thank you.
Edit: I'm not really looking for weight loss solutions. I'm looking to find motivation for exercise specifically.
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Discussion I need help to get motivated on fixing my relationship with my mom
Recently I've got caught in an argument with my mom, I admit I'm one at blame (Won't tell the story since it'll be too long and it definitely is my fault 😅)
She's the type of person who prefers acts of service, it'll get her heart. But now she's mad at me for long, I always feels afraid to talk to her or help her because her response would be a bit... bitter?
Just a few mins ago she told me (scold me) to reflect on myself and I should've shown more compassion to the family and maybe I should give it a shot, like more efforts to show some acts of service.
Any motivations to help me on being more initiative? (Side note: she's not a bad mother, I just needs some help to find a solution to fix this problem)
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Discussion I have hit rock bottom in life at 20 and desperately need advice on how to change
I’m 20M and last night I had a mental breakdown and cried for hours because of how terrible my life is going & im seemingly doing absolutely nothing to change it. I rarely ever cry or feel emotions this hard so this was a huge wake up call for me to start turning my life around but I literally don’t know where to start and desperately need advice.
For starters, I’m a terrible person and it’s taken me so long to admit that. I’m a liar, manipulative in relationships, often have sociopathic tendencies and no matter how much I tell myself internally what I’m doing is just fucked up, I continue to do it . Why? I don’t want to be this way anymore it’s not “charming”, mysterious or cute and all it’s done is ruin friendship after relationship for me.
Next, I’m extremely lazy. I get random bursts of motivation but it lasts for a few hours and I have such little discipline. I’m entering my 4th year of university this September then applying to grad school but since it is summer break i find my days consisting of being in my room on my phone for literally the entire day. I’ve applied to hundreds of jobs but haven’t got a single interview (possibly because I’ve only been applying online and not in person?) but I can’t even work up the courage to go to the library print resumes and go around to places. I’m also living in a huge city this summer where my university is located and there’s so much I want to go out and do but my only true friend is often busy and I struggle with the fact of doing things alone .
Im not going to bore you with further details but in essence I have no discipline to fix my life and am straight up waisting every single day . Any advice is genuinely appreciate because I’m sick of living like this and I woke up today with a promise I need to change.
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Discussion Any advice on jobs or careers for someone who's 32 years old and jobless?
I do have a bit of savings and have a two year diploma in Human Resources but I legit cannot for the life of me get an interview in business. I have ten different resumes but lack any experience in that field and experience in general that isn't some online side hustle for the past 3 years.
Any advice would be great. I'm not opposed to going back to school and have thought about in September to get my BA in business administration but I'm kind of old. I also might have a kid on the way... So I'm not quite sure this is an option. I'm in South Western Ontario Canada.
Thanks guys
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Discussion 19 year old guy, lost in life. Worried about the future and what lies ahead.
Was never the perfect student, I probably was the most regular and average in the bunch. I really don’t excel much in things such as sports nor am I really good in socializing.
Now that I am heading into college, I do fear alot of what the future has in store for me.
I am constant in a state of fear as to what I am meant for in life. If I am just meant to be an audience in other people’s success of that there is something greater left for me that is just waiting for me to discover.
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Text When a man lacks purpose, they distract themselves with pleasure
There you go, hope this post doesn’t trigger anyone :)
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discussion I'm addicted to my phone and have no schedule in my life so I don't do anything and have wasted the past year on my phone in bed I just want a career and goals.
Hi I had a lot of hobbies but post university i've been struggling to find a job because of an over saturation in the job market, layoffs, jobs being sent offshore and other elements like no ones hiring. I should be enjoying my time off since i'll be working the next 40 years but I haven't been doing anything I wake up and go on my phone and before I go to sleep i'm on my phone. I feel like i've wasted so much time of my life addicted to scrolling where I think what am I doing with my life i'm wasting it. I just lie in bed all day scrolling I don't even have social media besides reddit and twitter (twitter has artists I follow).
I had a lot of hobbies like drawing, surfing, running, gym, bouldering, video games, movies stuff like that yet I can't bring myself to do any of it not even playing a video game it's so annoying I just go on my stupid phone.
I haven't finished a book year in a year and I use to read one every night and finish it in like a month but now i'm on my phone. When I was at uni I had a schedule but no i'm unemployed (I do have a job but it's only after school and holidays camps for teaching) because I can't get a job un my field (I had an interview with a company and I made it to the final round out of 1,000 people and then they laid off 2,800 workers so it fell through). I'm nearly 25 I feel like i've wasted my life. I really want to draw and draw every day to get better at it,
I even bought an ipad for it with procreate yet I haven't touched it in a year. I don't do any exercise I just go on my phone, when i'm walking I go on my phone, doing anything I go on my phone. I'm not even depressed anymore I just get off my phone i'm addicted. How do I fix this what do I do? I'm sick of this, I haven't accomplished anything i'm just in my room all day scrolling. I can't even remember the past year it just blends together. I could be doing so many things but nope I go on phone I use to barely go on phone but post uni it's been bad, I could surfing and improving my drawing skills but nope not happening I hate how addictive social media is where when I am off it my friend will go on instagram and scroll looking at memes while we're hanging out having dinner or something.
How can I make a schedule I don't exercise or do any hobbies anymore when I want to I havent even bothered to job search anymore or refine my portfolio/resume. I have a mentor whos given me a checklist and he gave me that in March and I feel bad because its June and i've done nothing just been scrolling (and my laptop was broken but I finally bought a new one), I use to be a hard worker my mum calls me lazy, am I lazy, unmotivated or addicted? or all? I've wasted so much time i'll never get back when i'm doing a 9-5 I wont have as much time to do hobbies I should be enjoying my time but i'm addicted. I wanna do my hobbies again I dont want to be a person who only scrolls and has no hobbies.
My diet has also been horrible I barely drink any water, have had a lot of fast food, burgers and stuff but usually when hanging out with friends, I do live at home so my parents make dinner at least.
I also want to start dating again I have some photos I think are decent for hinge but I've even been procrastinating that I am doing nothing with my life I want a relationship, I want hobbies, I want a career and goals to look foward to. I feel like if I did start dating it could help get my shit together lol, i'm nearly 25 never been in a relationship and don't have a career so worried it'll be a red flag. Have I ruined my life is it over? If I dont find a job in my field idk what to do.
Am I lazy? I hate my phone so much stupid scrolling I still do hang out with friends, go to concerts/music festivals and movies travelled to thailand with friends this year, road trip last year and skiid in japan and stuff but I don't even watch tv anymore just scroll. Not having a full time job
Let the Haters Fuel You text
I'm working on a project now, a lot of people like it, some love it, but a few of my friends have been talking shit about it. They've made suggestions that are objectively incorrect (from a data science perspective), and yet they're friends so I have be polite and say "oh yes, I will definitely think about that."
It hurts my soul, leaves me feeling tired.
But then I think, PROVE THEM WRONG.
My motivation for today: Prove the haters wrong. And when we achieve success, really shove it in their faces, quote them, and never let them forget how wrong they were. In life we must fight to defend our identities, or beliefs, our vision for what's correct. Today is a battle, tomorrow is a battle.
LETS FUCKING FIGHT
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discussion 21 year old virgin with no friends, social life, that stays home all day and plays video games. What can I do to change/improve?
I am so sick of my life. Whenever I go outside I also see people (particularly, young guys around my age or even younger) living much better lives than me. I see guys with really pretty girls, friends, and they look so happy. it honestly makes me feel so fucking resentful.
I just don't know what to do. I thought about joining a community college. I also wanna get a job but it seems very difficult, and I dont have much life experience.
I feel so lost and overwhelmed. I fucking hate seeing other guys live better lives than me. I am sick of jerking off and playing video games all day while other guys have sexual and romantic experiences with girls and even have a fun and exciting life.
I have no girls, friends, or even much money in my life and I struggle with finding a job.
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[Story] Recently graduated as a CS major and all of my applications keep getting rejected so I started solo developing a roguelite instead
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Moving Mountains text
Wanted to share a little reminder that might help someone out there today: Every big dream starts with a single step. It's easy to get overwhelmed by the journey ahead, but remember, every small effort counts. Whether you're trying to learn something new, improve yourself, or just make it through the day, those tiny victories matter.
I recently read a quote that stuck with me: "The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones." So, keep moving those stones, no matter how small they seem. Progress is progress, and every step forward is a step closer to where you want to be.
# You've got this!
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Discussion less productive after uninstalling Instagram/Netflix
I uninstalled Instagram and Netflix 2-3 days ago because I have an important exam in 4-5 months. I was wasting too much time with Netflix, like 6–8 or more hours every day, so I uninstalled it. But now I am feeling so physically and mentally exhausted, like burnout (or I don't know how to describe that). I have set my daily goals, but I am in no mood to finish whatever is left of them (I have finished half). I have cravings to watch series on Netflix or Instagram reels but even if set a fixed time for these, I will stop following them after a few days and start wasting time on movies, etc. This has happened a lot of times to me. I have tried apps that limit your screen time, etc. but nothing works for me, so this is the last option for me
How do I bring myself to complete rest of my goals? Is it normal to feel like this after deleting these apps?
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I need help discussion
Hi, I’m 33F single pretty much my whole life. I have no clue where my life is heading. I’m highly depressed. I literally don’t leave my house unless I have to force myself to go to work and then I come right back to my house and watch tv. I don’t want to go out. I don’t want to workout. I order takeout every other day. I scroll through my phone for hours. And it’s driving me insane. The hardest part is that in my head I want to do more. I have so many things I wanna do. But I feel debilitated. Like mentally I literally can’t move. The only comfort I have it my favorite show and my
Phone. I joined Pilates because I wanted to try it out and when I did I loved it. Now it’s been months since I last gone. Instead of having a healthy meal and save money, I buy some cheap salad and try to be healthy that way. I do the bare minimum when I go to work. I’m dragging my feet the whole time counting the hours until I can go back home. I have close friends I talk to but I barely talk to my family. I get very angry when I do because I feel like no one realizes how I am and it makes me feel like no one cares enough to ask if I need help. But yet I get asked favors left and right without any appreciation. I’m in the process of getting therapy. I just need help with some pointers that can help me. I wanna do better. I wanna be happy. I just need some help. If anyone has any tips and pointers that would be amazing. 🩷🩷
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discussion is it normal to be so impatient?
I'm (13m) a very inpatient person and I mean REALLY inpatient.
For example I play the guitar for about a year now and if something doesn't work right away, I get frustrated, stop playing guitar and just tell myself that I'll never achieve anything and get really frustrated.
Just the littlest thing triggers me and my whole day is ruined, and I get sad and angry, I just hate myself for that.
Is it normal to be like this at 13 and what can I do about it?
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DISCUSSION Making It in A Sanctioned, Third-world Country
I've been wondering whether there's any success stories of people who, well, "made it" WHILE living in a country such as Iraq, Syria, Iran, Yemen, Cuba, etc.
With all the sanctions and embargoes, it feels so much harder to fulfill a dream like becoming a millionaire without getting dragged into dishonesty and corruption.
Any ideas and PRACTICAL solutions would be appreciated.
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Discussion I need discipline
I need discipline
And I'm looking for help and advice from like minded productive people.
I am a 24 year old that is just coming out of a a 5 year depression.
I am entering my hustle Era, so to speak.
I feel overwhelmed with how many tasks and projects that I have that I need done and want to do.
I work a very well paid factory job. But I work a weird shift with alot of overtime. 3pm to 3am, 6 days a week.
When not at work, I can't find the energy to accomplish any major tasks. Or any tasks for the that matter.
I'm usually sleeping. Then wake up and get angry at myself for sleeping all day.
Everyday is work, sleep, work, sleep. Without any time to get ahead on other projects.
I'm trying to find motivation to go to the gym on a regular schedule.
How can I make the most out of the day? How can I find the energy to do something?
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There is something in me that does not want to give up no matter what happens. Do you feel it too? Discussion
Even when things get hard like my job, pay, where I want to be vs where I am being a mountain. There is something in me that says "Hey Cobra. Keep going. You got this" and it has been such a moving and empowering mindset to have. It keeps me going.
Do you ever have that feeling of self empowerment as well?
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[Image] "Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase." ~ Martin Luther King Jr
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the most successful people I know are primarily
internally driven . discussion
they do what they do to impress themselves and because they feel compelled to make something happen in the world. After you’ve made enough money to buy whatever you want and gotten enough social status that it stops being fun to get more, this is the only force I know of that will continue to drive you to higher levels of performance.
eventually, you will define your success by performing excellent work in areas that are important to you. The sooner you can start off in that direction, the further you will be able to go. It is hard to be wildly successful at anything you aren’t obsessed with.
This is why the question of a person’s motivation is so important. It’s the first thing I try to understand about someone. The right motivations are hard to define a set of rules for, but you know it when you see it.
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You need motivation? Don't feel like working anymore? Read this! Text
Everyone needs a farewell right?
I am sure you loved some cricketers or some football players and you probably loved how they got farewell from their team. For eg Messi won the cup (best moment tho)
But have you thought who's that one person who is always rooting for you and giving their best so that you can stand somewhere without any problem.
They are your parents. They sacrificed their dreams, life, money, health, mental peace etc.
Don't you think they deserve a better farewell. Don't you think they should be proud of you and satisfied with themselves that their biggest investment gave them the best returns of their life.
Every parent who gave up everything for their children at least deserves a comfortable life during their last years. They are getting old still they are working relentlessly not for themselves but for you. You are everything to them.
Don't seek for motivation when the only thing you have to do is work or study... your parents are dealing with much more difficult things even right now but it won't reflect on their faces.
Show them whom they have created and give them the best farewell they could ever imagine.
Just lost my dad today.
Rip dad you was my hero <3
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has made me unmotivated and lost I feel like I can't start my life without one
I also have no sleep schedule
And how do I stop watching porn?
My family also gets mad at me and my parents threaten to kick me out or start paying rent (which I can't afford) because I stay on my phone all day which I dont want to i'm addicted.
I should clarify I stopped going to the gym because I got a eating disorder
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How I Stayed Consistent with My Goal of Losing 15kg (5 Tips You Can Implement for Any Goal)[Tool]
Staying consistent with your goals can be challenging, especially when they are long-term and difficult. Here are five tips that helped me stay on track while working towards my goal of losing 15kg:
1. **Break Down Your Goals into Smaller Tasks**:
* Instead of focusing on the daunting task of losing 15kg, I broke it down into smaller, more manageable milestones. This made the goal feel less overwhelming and allowed me to celebrate small wins along the way.
2. **Set Specific and Measurable Milestones**:
* I set clear, specific milestones such as losing 3kg every month. This gave me a tangible target to aim for and helped me track my progress more effectively.
3. **Have a Method to Monitor Your Progress and Stay Motivated**:
* This is arguably the most important step. Seeing progress is crucial to pushing through difficult times. I found that visualizing my progress kept me motivated. If you're unsure how to do this, I recommend trying Friengle, a goal-tracking website I developed. It features a simple yet advanced interface to track your goals and includes social features to keep you motivated.
4. **Celebrate Small Wins**:
* Celebrating small achievements kept me motivated and reinforced positive behavior. Whether it was losing the first 5kg or sticking to my workout routine for a month, acknowledging these wins helped me stay committed.
5. **Stay Flexible and Adjust Your Goals as Needed**:
* Life happens, and sometimes you need to adjust your goals. I learned to be flexible and adapt my plan when necessary, without losing sight of the overall objective.
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discussion 23 Male and I want to change my life, but I'm not motivated at all.
In hindsight I think I might be actually suffering from depression, because I don't even have the motivation to do the simplest of things.
I got fired from my job 3 months ago because the store fully closed down, and even after applying I can't find anything new.
Living with my parents, meanwhile my younger siblings are in the Navy and able to become independent. While I am still living with my folks.
I have no friends, I want to contact them but fear is holding me back. Not to mention I never hear from them.
I made a vow to stop jerking, and I try to stop playing video games all day but it's hard.
Sometimes I think I'm a lost cause. I have a degree but everyone keeps telling me it's a useless major.
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discussion is having the right perspective better than motivation?
The way we see things and the way we talk like dialogue and perspective is that more important to learn and adopt than say relying on motivation?
I mean I watch a lot of YouTube and short clip motivation content sure it does help for a bit and some phrases makes me want to adapt however anytime a thought arise from overthinking and self doubts or if someone said something. I immediately lose all the motivation and positive thinking. I just have no idea how do I live life. I'm feeling very stupid like I'm not even living life based on my age and I'm seeing people my age successeding doing so well. They worrying about future problems and grinding to secure life in long run meanwhile I'm constantly battling and beating myself up from overthinking. I'm tired of it.
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Article From Struggle to Strength: Practical Tips for Personal Growth
Have you ever felt like life’s challenges are too overwhelming, leaving you unsure of how to move forward? I've helped many people navigate these exact feelings and come out stronger. Life can be an incredible journey, full of highs and lows. When facing tough times and insecurities, discovering, and nurturing our inner strength can help us navigate through almost anything. Here are some strategies to help you develop resilience and get back on top of things:
Reflect on Past Challenges
Consider difficult situations you have previously encountered:
· How did you manage to get through those situations?
· What actions did you take?
· Which of your strengths came into play?
· What did you tell yourself at the time? Was it beneficial in hindsight?
· If you were to face the same situation again, what would you do differently?
· What advice would you give to someone else in a similar situation?
· How can you apply the lessons learned to your current challenges?
Engage in Positive Self-Talk
We all have our own inner dialogues. What we tell ourselves, and how we do so, matters.
Building inner strength involves listening to ourselves and considering what this is telling us:
· How would you advise your best friend in this situation? Extend the same kindness to yourself.
· Create effective affirmations. For guidance, consider my other posts on crafting affirmations.
· Accept confusion as part of the learning process. It's natural to feel uncertain while working things out. Confusion just means you’re trying to figure something out.
· Recall times when life was smoother. What factors contributed to those positive experiences?
Evaluate Your Thoughts
Gaining perspective on your thinking can provide clarity:
· What evidence supports or contradicts your thoughts?
· Are there alternative explanations for the outcomes?
· Are you considering all possible scenarios, not just the worst-case?
· How useful are your conclusions?
· What limiting beliefs might be influencing your thoughts?
Look to Role Models and Mentors
Think about the individuals you admire and respect:
· What would they do in your situation?
· How would they handle it?
· What skills and resources do they have that you also possess?
· How can you develop the qualities they have that you don’t yet?
Celebrate Your Achievements
Reflect on your proudest moments and accomplishments:
· What are your most significant achievements?
· Did you experience doubt during those times? How did you overcome it?
· What personal skills and resources did you rely on? How can you apply them now?
Craft Your Affirmation
Complete this affirmation to solidify your learnings and plans:
"Now that I have realized/learned [what have you learned from reflecting on the above\], I choose to [what have you chosen to do differently/do more of/start doing\] because [the benefits you will gain by making these positive improvements in your life\]."
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Positivity Despite Negative Forces text
I was dealing with an old flame the other day. Horrible dude, honestly. Textbook narcissist. But when I interacted with him, I realized a funny thing, since we've split, I've moved on, become happy again, and he still remains angry, carrying this perpetual hatred (for what reason I honestly do not know).
And someone was like, aren't you upset that he's so nasty to you?
No. I'm not. I feel sorry for him, and hope he finds peace; although I have resolved that some people will never find peace, for whatever reason.
And this is to say, even if you have to deal with someone horrible today, tomorrow, this week, this year, this lifetime, remember this has no bearing on your worth, your power, your ability to operate freely in the world and find joy. If someone makes you feel small, identify that shit immediately and cut it the fuck out.
Every day, rather than trying to work on someone who clearly does not want help: work on yourself, support your friends, family, find love and perpetuate love. This positive momentum will carry you so far and so well.
Be well, smile, spread love, and keep fighting to retain your positivity no matter how hard it seems at times.
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Text My partner of nearly 5 years cheated on me and left. I don't know what to do with myself.
My boyfriend cheated on me yesterday and left , and my life has been hell ever since he told me. Any encouraging words to help me out of this rut would really be appreciated
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Discussion I made a mistake. Miserable
I was responsible for some renovations and constructions in my house. And I dropped the ball.
Indecisions, inactivity, and distracted, I didn't get it started. It was to start from January.
Now June is here, and it's raining, and will rain for another 2 weeks. I was in talks with the contractor. But the rains are reminding me that I made a mistake. I am not able to live with it. What do I do? It feels horrible. That I delayed it so much, and now it might get delayed even more.
Please help me accept the situation and move on. The guilt is very all consuming for me now. It doesn't help that my family members will agree that I dropped the ball.
I feel like shit. I don't know where this is coming from.
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[Image] Motivational Quotes
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Tool Free Minnesota Mom pep talks for kiddos of any age who could use some cheering on or cheering up
I love getting to cheer people on as well as getting to impersonate my mom’s ridiculously thick Minnesotan accent.
Tell me what you need a pep talk for and I will do my darndest to give you a pep talk that will knock your socks off, honeybun!
PS: Thank you to everyone who have asked for pep talks in the past. It has been so much fun and has meant so much to me to hear from people. When I told my mom that there are people who like hearing my impersonation of her she said “Oh my god! I’m a celebrity!” and has been beaming about it ever since.
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