Discussion I need some toxic motivation
Recently, I haven’t been able to do anything that requires even a bit of effort. I can’t do any assignments (even the easy ones), I can’t cook even though I enjoy it, and I can’t even bring myself to play my favorite video games 😭 like, what even is this-
So please hit me with the harshest motivation you’ve got ✨
https://redd.it/1decwcj
@r_getmotivated
Discussion Is it too late for me ? Should I end this run ?
I'm 25M. I even thou I got a college degree. I spent most of my time consuming media. I'm just keep on binging movies, tv show, video games. I'm overweight, working a minimum job as a security guard just so I could have to consuming more media, never had a girl friend. I have zero work experience because I switch job constantly, never hold a job longer than 6 months. I tried to get into programming but I quit because I couldn't commit to it enough despite already payed a significant amount of money into the course. I keep quitting job because I think gonna get a better one but I just fail. I think I had a commitment issues. I used to be fit and into boxing but I keep quitting after a while. I would always making up excuses for myself, that I need to focus on something else. Even when I was into martial arts, there was time where would quit one type and switch to another. I'm indecisive, all the time. There is always something new, always something exciting and then at some point I realized that I had gotten no where. Always something new to read, stuck in a self-improvement cycle and then revert it all back to the beginning, forgetting everything I had learned. I have difficulty remember thing, somehow it easy for me to remember thing I really care about but everything else is just passing by. I would pay for gym membership and then show up on like 3 times in year. I have no friend. My family hate my guts. I am beyond saving ? Should I kill myself ?
https://redd.it/1de1esq
@r_getmotivated
Tool Step up challenge
Tool So recently i found this app called step up, you can compete with your friends and see how many steps you can walk in a day and i did it with my friends and made it into a challenge. I’m a pretty competitive person and in one day with competing with my friends i walked over 11k steps. My motivation for this is that we made a prize for the top three and it’s a little summer challenge. This is super fun if you’re competitive and have trouble getting your steps in daily.
https://redd.it/1ddw7qn
@r_getmotivated
discussion I'm feeling stuck for 6 years.
I don't think I have made any significant progress in my life and I'm starting to feel very worried about my future. It feels like everything is messed up and I seem to live in the past or maybe I'm hard time forgiving and moving forward. I don't have any real sort of work experience and I don't have any qualifications and education besides high school and being currently enrolled in college. I have not been adulting and taking on life responsibility like I told myself many things which I wanted to achieve however I did not take the actions because of feeling scared, discomfort and not having the plan to execute. Also had expectations from the world that things will get better over time but I'm realizing nothing will change until I do something about it.
I'm still thinking in my mind that i should do something but my age is factor where I feel like people might view me indifferently. Due to that I feel immense amount of guilt and shame. I honestly don't know what to do. I'm so stuck and feeling trapped in my mind
https://redd.it/1ddwh6g
@r_getmotivated
[Story] Graduated last year and I've been solo-developing a roguelike instead of looking for a job, my applications were constantly getting rejected and entry level position requirements were actually insane. So I decided to work for a company that actually cares about me, my self.
https://store.steampowered.com/app/2266780/Ascendant/
https://redd.it/1ddonan
@r_getmotivated
My source of motication Discussion
Sometimes, the only thing that motivates me is wanting to do better than an ex boyfriend that I had in high school, who treated me awfully. If that's all I have, I am rolling with it
https://redd.it/1ddhg5z
@r_getmotivated
tool Focus on the next 24 hours
Stop thinking about what can happen in the next couple of weeks, month, or even year.
Stay present.
Just focus on the next 24 hours and do everything you can to get where you want to be.
& repeat.
Not many people possess the ability to stay present & being able to fully immerse themselves in the current moment.
By doing so you put yourself ahead of 75% of ppl
Stop worrying so much and just do.
My Favorite Discipline Resources:
Mind Snack Newsletter: Scienfically backed ways to improve your life in a micro learning fashion.
Chris williamson youtube chanel: ChrisWillx" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx
https://redd.it/1ddbu5y
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I need help to be more organised
First of all, sorry for any mispells/grammar errors since English is not my native language.
To give some context, I am a highschool teacher who is struggling with getting things organized. In my country, in order to be a teacher you have to pass an exam. I did have passed this exam in other times but I want to pass it with a calification that enables me to not have to do it all over. What I want to say is that here in my country, you get to obtain a position in public education by passing an exam. And in order to be able to do so I need to get more organized.
I know that a good thing to do is to keep a schedule and commit to stick to it, for example. But I can't seem to actually do it, I want to do more things like getting into a hobby (I want to paint Warhammer) and be able to somewhat do al the things I want to do in the day/week but when I have to put the effort into doing it, I simply remain in my house doomscrolling.
I am currently regaining my lecture habits and I feel good when I read something I like (currently reading Malaz 1) but I always tend to go to check my phone.
I think my main problems can be narrowed down to two concerns:
1) I am incapable of being organized with all my obligations as a teacher and housework. As a result I tend to do neither of them.
2) I am somewhat addicted to my phone, so when I do start doing something, be it a hobby or work, I can't spend a reasonable time withouth checking it.
3) I know I have the capacity to pass the aforementioned exam, but in order to do so I want to get more organized by tackling the above points.
Any suggestions/tips? I feel miserable.
https://redd.it/1dd9jfn
@r_getmotivated
discussion How do you find the drive to succeed and overcome laziness & procrastinating?
I think I've been avoiding my work for such a long time and it's just become the new normal like it's whatever. Yes I'm aware and worried all day every day but if I want to work on it than I'm feeling extremely confused and have no idea where how to even start therefore I keep procrastinating and laziness occurs.
It's so easy to eat junk food and use phone for hours but I can't put myself to exercise 15 min simply or open laptop to apply for jobs. Because those things seem to spark discomfort and anxiety so I keep avoiding it. Stupid thoughts like depression or fear makes me feel like I'm victim of it so I just keep avoiding.
https://redd.it/1dd3ype
@r_getmotivated
[Video] Sabrina emphasizes the importance of her success and self-love, opposing the widely held belief that a parent's greatest accomplishment is their child
https://youtu.be/6qPelDrGjJs
https://redd.it/1dc98vb
@r_getmotivated
discussion How can I stop feeling empty, unmotivated, and like nothing will ever work out for me?
I have a lot of trouble with motivation. I always end up giving up. I end up somewhere along the way choking on my own feelings of uselessness. It feels like I have to give up happiness to succeed in life, but I have to forget success to be happy. But I need both. I need to be happy and successful. I need to have a stable income job that I love with people that I love that leaves me enough time to do what I want and enough money to buy what I want with enough benefits to keep me healthy without working myself to death. Thats a lot to ask. its impossible, i know. but is it too much to ask for JUST being happy without feeling like a failure somewhere else? Maybe someone here has a solution. advice. maybe it would be better to come to terms and pick which one to forget permanently? Im thankful for any responses in advance.
https://redd.it/1dd0mo4
@r_getmotivated
[Image] Motivational Quotes
https://redd.it/1dcixge
@r_getmotivated
[Image] Just focus on the first step, then trust the process.
https://redd.it/1dcf4bf
@r_getmotivated
Discussion Not sure how to make good use of summer holidays
19M here . Its been around 10 days since my summer holidays began and honestly i don't know how to make use of all the hours in my day without regretting after going back . I wanna make memories but the issue i don't got much friends here in the city and truth be spoken, I am kinda awkward irl . Doing Computer science rn so I wanna also do some courses on that and maybe do some hobbies like painting but I don't know where to start .
https://redd.it/1db6uxo
@r_getmotivated
Discussion Why haven't we started a rebellion yet?
Reposting this from r/questions and adding to it at the end:
"Why haven’t we started a rebellion yet?"
"I’m just curious. Like… REALLY curious. Why haven’t we… us… as a human race… so called “divine beings” started a rebellion against our corrupt, money grabbing, incompetent government? Think Boston Tea Party. Can we unite finally? They are taxing us out the ASS and they’re UNREALIZED GAINS. The Boston Tea Party happened because of a number of reasons, but most of all was TAXATION WITHOUT REPRESENTATION. Is humankind really just pawns living life in autopilot? Can we please take back what’s ours????"
Let's start something, seriously. This shit only gets worse by the day and it's way too far already. They've created so many things to keep us over-stimulated, distracted and docile: social media, porn, all the so called "social" issues to divide us and fight eachother so we don't focus on them, the two candidates for president of the supposedly greatest country in the world being fucking idiots, leading to us questioning our leadership/reality and making us just feel crazy. Like there's so many distractions, it's obvious once you see it and most importantly - it's working. Enough is enough, dopamine detox and you'll see how fucking horrible this all is. Stop indulging and stand up, come together for once on this instead of hating each other over purposeful, manufactured division. There's no need for us to hate each other, we should be focusing on them and demanding better.
https://redd.it/1db2ima
@r_getmotivated
discussion 18m I want to get my life back on track after a LONG depression
In November 2021 I had just turned 16 and with some changes in my social life, found myself in a very bad depressive episode which has pretty much lasted until now. I managed to pass the majority of my exams in early 2022 but haven't persued any education or career since then. My self esteem is still awful and I'm still kinda depressed but I feel ready to make a change.
I'm in the UK if that helps for context. I live in the countryside with nothing around me, I have no friends except my now long distance girlfriend and I have no money. I also have awful social anxiety and I know I'm at huge risk of being thrown back into my depression if social interactions don't go how I want them to.
I can't bear to watch my life pass by me any longer. If anyone has been in a situation similar to mine I'd LOVE to know what advice you could give me to get out!
https://redd.it/1dearyr
@r_getmotivated
[Image] How to stay calm (without any hacks).
https://redd.it/1de1wj5
@r_getmotivated
How Do You Navigate Authenticity in a World full of Expectations? Discussion
Hey Reddit!
I've been thinking a lot about authenticity lately and wanted to open up a discussion about it.
In a world that often feels dominated by social media, curated personas, and societal expectations, being truly authentic can sometimes feel like a challenge. But what does authenticity really mean to you?
For me, authenticity is about being true to myself, embracing my quirks and flaws, and not being afraid to show my true feelings and thoughts. It's about making decisions based on my values rather than trying to fit into someone else's mold. I've found that when I'm authentic, my relationships are deeper and more meaningful, and I feel a greater sense of fulfillment.
However, striving for authenticity also comes with its own set of challenges. There's a fear of judgment, the pressure to conform, and the vulnerability that comes with showing our true selves. Sometimes it feels easier to put on a facade, but I've realized that this often leads to a disconnect not just with others but with myself.
So, how do you navigate authenticity in your life? What challenges have you faced, and what benefits have you found in being authentic? Do you have any tips or practices that help you stay true to yourself?
Looking forward to hearing your perspective.
https://redd.it/1ddy02v
@r_getmotivated
Tool A game that actually makes you workout in real life
so I was playing UFC 5 recently (the career mode specifically) and I realized that I am sitting on my ass all day playing this virtual game, succeeding, winning titles, and all and thinking I'm actually the shit. so I thought I need to stop gaming like a nerd all day and actually do some workouts and be productive.
BUT I love gaming. So I thought why is there no career mode game in general that incorporates you actually doing workouts like the ones these virtual characters do? So I decided to quickly make a website for a game like this that I could develop with my friend in the near future where you are the fighter and climb up the ranks and compete for the title, boosting your stats through completing daily workouts in real life. You would be fighting against other real people as well who are doing the same thing, so it's not just simulating fights with random AI.
We wanted to see if other people would like this idea as well of having the game actually make you be productive and consistent and not just sitting on your ass all day. We made the website quickly in 2 hrs so it's not the best, but we want to see if people like the idea and would actually sign up to the waitlist for this.
Appreciate any feedback you guys give.
https://redd.it/1ddvtlc
@r_getmotivated
Discussion What if they always tell you that "You are too sensitive"?
I figure many of you feel embarrassed or a bit guilty when you express your feelings, and they tell you, 'Nahhhh... you are just too sensitive.' Of course, not all of our thoughts are true, and not all of our concerns are valid. But we all need a safe place to express our thoughts and discuss them. When people keep telling you that you are too sensitive, sometimes they say it to avoid working on themselves and facing something important. So, next time, do not doubt yourself. Being sensitive is not necessarily a bad thing! Embrace it. Find the right people to express.
https://redd.it/1ddj4rv
@r_getmotivated
tool Do The Opposite
I saw this this morning on Instagram and it was enlightening. So i figured id share a transcription of it.
"I don't know who needs to hear this, but your ability to create the reality that you want is directly determined by your willingness to experience its opposite. Saving money will have you feeling broke, while it's actually making you rich. Setting boundaries will have you feeling alone, while you're creating new healthy relationships in your life.
Digging up your trauma will have you feeling broken, while it's actually healing you. Working out has you feeling weak, while it's really making you strong. Learning something new makes you feel dumb, while it's making you more intelligent. Your ability to attain the thing that you want is directly correlated with how willing you are to experience its opposite.
You have to be okay with being uncomfortable to truly achieve success. You got this."
Credit: IG: KeeganJasper
My Favorite Discipline Resources:
Mind Snack Newsletter: Scienfically backed ways to improve your life in a micro learning fashion.
Chris williamson youtube chanel: ChrisWillx">ChrisWillx" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx
https://redd.it/1dddo9e
@r_getmotivated
story Launching the Boredom Relief Program and Sharing My Journey as Ms. Virginia North America
I’m Taylor, the current Ms. Virginia North America, and I’m excited to share an initiative I’m launching this week that’s close to my heart. As someone living with bipolar disorder, ADHD, and addiction, I’ve faced many challenges. These experiences have inspired me to become a dedicated disability advocate.
Launching the Boredom Relief Program
This week, I’m thrilled to introduce the Boredom Relief Program. This program is designed to provide engaging resources such as games, books, and puzzles to patients in psychiatric wards, emergency rooms, and residential programs. Boredom can significantly impact mental health, and we aim to improve the well-being and overall experience of individuals in these facilities.
To support this initiative, we’ve set up donation boxes in the local community to collect these resources. The response from local businesses and residents has been incredibly encouraging, and I’m hopeful this program will make a meaningful difference.
Personal Journey and Upcoming National Pageant
On a personal note, I’ve recently lost 80 pounds with the help of weight loss shots, which has been a transformative experience. This journey has been challenging but rewarding, and it has further fueled my commitment to advocating for mental and physical health.
I’m also preparing to compete in the national pageant in the third week of July, just one week after getting out of rehab. This decision was crucial for me because I felt it was important to show up not only for others with mental illness but also for myself. I refuse to let mental illness stop me, and I feel like a winner just by showing up and participating.
I wanted to share my journey right now in the hopes of motivating and inspiring others. Thank you for taking the time to read about my journey and initiative. I’m excited to connect with this community and work together to make a positive impact.
https://redd.it/1ddcdsn
@r_getmotivated
Story Fitness is the Way and the Light
Re-post from the r/self sub. Has a bit of a focus on dating because that sub seemed to be full of people with dating woes…
Health, dating, confidence, mental health…fitness can be a solution to SO many of life’s problems. It continues to baffle me why a fitness craze still has not swept the country
If covid taught us anything, it’s that having good metabolic health helps protect us against disease, viruses, and other illnesses. Here’s nationally famed and respected Physician/researcher Dr Peter Attia on JRE podcast discussing how being fit reduces all cause mortality (death from ANY cause) by up to a factor of 5x reduction!
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=92kYDVjX0G0
My story:
I used to be fat, playing World of Warcraft 12+ hours/day (got rank 14 if anyone is familiar with how horrible that grind was, in addition to gladiator top 0.5% the first 3 seasons of the first expansion), and I was depressed, weighing in at ~265lbs completely sedentary. Never had a date, not one in like 6+ straight years!
I went to Hawaii and hated it. Felt embarassed to take my shirt off, etc. I decided then and there to make a change, and started huffing and puffing running my fat ass around the beach. I continued to run when I got home (a bad idea for weight loss at my weight). I ran until I had to take 3 advil and run with tears running down my face from the lightning bolts of pain I got from shin splints running at that weight
But over the next 4 years I lost the weight, got into competitive distance running, then got serious about lifting. By year 6 of my fitness journey I was in the best shape of my life
Here’s my cousin and I, pissed off that we had to stop playing WoW to help carry sod:
https://imgur.com/gallery/qsn9wSq
And here’s us 6 years later, post fitness journey (more pics below):
https://imgur.com/gallery/OSvHRbQ
Dating came much easier. Female friends started hitting on me, I had to start friendzoning girls I wasn’t into like others had done to me all those years ago
Now I’m not saying that getting fit alone will solve your dating woes, as I’m sure some blackpilled bros will still say “yeah but you’re taller” or other stuff. But it definitely won’t HURT your chances! It may not help as much as it did for me, but it won’t hurt your chances…unless you get super yoked which some girls won’t be into, but most guys can’t get that big without drugs anyway. And with all the other health and confidence benefits, there really is no better use of those 1-2 hours of your day. And for women, the benefits getting fit have with dating are at least threefold with how visual men are!
I’m not looking for praise or any of that shit, got enough of that. I’m posting this for all those bros who feel like they can’t get dates
There’s a meme I’ve actually lived my life by which says: “just keep working out until someone loves you”. It doesn’t matter what shape you are in right now. Even if it’s good, it can always get better
Me in Hawaii pre fitness journey:
https://imgur.com/gallery/CjHT7Mb
Me in Hawaii post fitness journey:
https://imgur.com/gallery/42sjXUh
Just trying to be helpful and inspire. Get at it! Work smarter not harder, do research and be willing to modify routine and diet. And above all, be patient AND consistent! :)
https://redd.it/1dd43j6
@r_getmotivated
The event that was motivating me most to lose weight is now over. Now I’m losing motivation to continue on my healthy eating journey - advice on how to stay motivated please? discussion
Hi, thanks for reading! I’ve been on a journey to lose weight for health since the beginning of the year, but the major events (family reunion and surgery) that were helping propel me to lose weight are now over.
Could you please give me advice on how I can get back in a motivated mindset and continue to lose weight even without a concrete event I want to look good for / be healthy for on my calendar?
I still want to do it for my health but I feel like I’m needing additional / different kinds of motivation. Thank you so much in advance! 🙏
https://redd.it/1dd3623
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I gained back 60lbs and lost all my healthy habits. How do I start over again?
I’ve just completely went back on all my progress. I stopped going to the gym, I stopped waking up early, I stopped eating healthy, started over eating again, I stopped journaling and going to therapy.
I’ve completely gone backwards, and I feel like I’m spiraling. And I feel like gaining all the weight back makes me lose any sense of hope or purpose.
I emailed my therapist to ask for sessions again and I’m currently in college maintaining a 4.0 gpa, I have a loving boyfriend. those are the only positive things in my life right now.
I just need some insight or advice, I need to know if this has happened to other people and how they bounced back, where do I start? What mindset helped you? What was your first vital step?
If it’s useful, my reasons for things falling apart is mostly due to living with toxic family members, my childhood dogs death, and being rejected from a school program (which was my ticket out of my household). I’ve struggled with binge eating before and all this going on made me turn back to binging, staying up late, and isolating myself, even ghosting my therapist. Any encouragement or advice would help!
https://redd.it/1dc1red
@r_getmotivated
MetaDecided to change my attitude and be confident about how I look. How and where to start it?
I decided to follow some of the comment sections advices, even the bad ones, and be more confident instead of complaining all the time. But how is it done? It's the first time I'm actually trying this.
some of you may already know me as the guy who complain about being ugly. Whenever I post something people tell me I look good and attractive enough (even tho I don't think so) and the only thing I should change is my attitude and mindset. Some others say I'm trynna fish compliments...? However, I'm taking people's advice and wanna go for a change. I just don't know how or where to start it.
I wanna be more confident but I have a dark past with bullying and not fitting the beauty standards (specially as a short guy) so that's where it gets me. I'm open to advices.
https://redd.it/1dcqqdd
@r_getmotivated
Text Cutting my screen time from 8 hours 55 minutes to 1 hour in 30 days (week #1 progress)
Recently, my university semester ended, and summer break began. My girlfriend and I decided to take a trip abroad, something we've been saving for since last year. We had so many plans because this is our first trip together since we started dating.
But lately, I've been really struggling with phone addiction. I’m constantly glued to my screen, endlessly scrolling through social media, which has ruined every plan we’ve been making for this trip we were so excited about.
I’m lucky my girlfriend is so understanding and supportive. Instead of letting my addiction affect our relationship, she decided to help me tackle it before our trip next month. She spent an entire weekend finding helpful resources to address my phone addiction.
She found an article that explained different levels of phone addiction and provided a detailed guide with practical methods for each level. Seeing how much effort she put into helping me and how supportive she’s been really motivated me to give it a try. Honestly, I thought it would be just another unhelpful article on the internet, but it turned out to be really effective. It helped me reduce my screen time from an average of 8 hours 55 minutes per day to 7 hours 35 minutes per day in the first week. I know it’s not a huge change, but I’m feeling positive that I’ll make more progress in the month before our trip.
Here are some screenshots of my screen time before and after. I’ll keep sharing my progress every week, and let’s see how much I can reduce my screen time before the trip.
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Uh9Rl6ZNQXq-AcTH5YrOO8psZkmHYmQ2?usp=sharing
If you’re dealing with the same problem, I’ve included the article link below. I hope it helps you as much as it’s helping me.
https://bamboo.beehiiv.com/p/a-practical-guide-to-overcoming-phone-addiction
https://redd.it/1dcswo0
@r_getmotivated
[Image] it's not too late to change your life.
https://i.imgur.com/SoDPWNs.jpeg
https://redd.it/1dckt2z
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I kept judging myself for being unmotivated until I learned that there are 2 different types of motivation
We often push ourselves to accomplish goals and keep moving forward. But what if why begin to lose motivation? How do we keep going?
I struggled with this for awhile but then I learned that motivation can exist in two forms
Intrinsic: From within the individual
Extrinsic: From outside the individual
This may not be as simple as a carrot and stick scenario, but different situations might require different sources of motivation. They may even exist simultaneously, so it’s important to understand the psychology behind this. I did a deep dive on my finding here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WCW9evmGg9s
Let me know if this helps you particularly if you find yourself going through a high patch with finding inspiration or motivation.
https://redd.it/1db7hmp
@r_getmotivated
[Tool] Here’s the music playlist that motivates me the most. Feel free to share your music suggestions that can fit the playlist. Thank you !
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5v3V4XbfXsMKcAGyd8ncle?si=cb14353281264c29
https://redd.it/1dawbyt
@r_getmotivated
