Discussion If you could have 5 little "Motivational" reminders in your pocket all the time, what would they say?
If you had 5 little pieces of paper in your pocket at all times that had a reminder related to your motivational goals written on them, what would they say?
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Discussion Trying to move on from broken friendships
I've tried writing this a couple of times, but ended up making it way too long and rambly and including unnecessary details. So I'm going to try to keep this brief. (If I need to explain/clarify anything though, just ask)
A couple years ago, I [32F\] had a falling out with "Jen," [30F\] who had been my best friend since high school. I also made the difficult decision to distance myself from the rest of her larger friend group.
There were a lot of reasons for this. I'm not going to pretend I was some innocent angel, I definitely made mistakes and could have been a better friend at times, but the main reasons why I pulled away were my uncomfortable feelings with certain behaviors/actions of theirs, and because I felt they were being controlling towards me.
I can honestly say I'm in a much happier and healthier place since pulling away, but I've been struggling with fully moving on. Distancing myself helped me really take a look at how that group had behaved, and how my friendship with Jen had gone over the years. And while there were good times and I'm sure none of them had malicious intentions, it's made me realize there was a long pattern of controlling behavior and of things that I just was not comfortable with. I feel like I keep realizing more and more things that simply were not okay.
Is this normal? Just part of the healing process? Is there anything I can do?
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Discussion how can i keep focus on my goals and hobbies
Am(23f) unable to find hobby or goals with out getting board and give up like i keep swinging from thing to another like when I start thing i become really invested only to get tired and drop it later even with my relationship with other people I really burnt out seen my friends and keep conversation with them i finish my classes and flee back home avoiding them ik it wrong i trying to fixed it by forcing myself to act ok listen to them mostly rather then talking easier but am only getting more miserable i can’t sit reading a book or watch a movie more then 15min i only scroll through tik tok x ect. like all my friends family members living productive life while am lost can’t focus on one thing. i stopped seeing their stories and posts they made hate my self even more any advice pls😔
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Discussion when motivation to start is easy, but motivation to continue fizzles, what's your strategy?
I (37m) can't seem to create the habits I need to STAY motivated. For instance, I had a reaction to a medication and had to have my heart shocked back into rhythm. I quit smoking and started walking for 2 weeks, then pffffft. Or, finally convinced a Dr to MRI my shoulder, found tears in 3 muscles, had surgery. Finished PT and a few weeks later, pfffft.
It seems like it goes that way with everything. I make a lot of excuses and, sure, I've had a lot on my plate with my kiddos, but I can't seem to put a finger on why I quit or how to jump the hump. I want to be the good example of hard work and perseverance for my preteens, as well as doing it for myself and reaching my personal goals.
Is it just brute perseverance? Calendars or apps or notes? How'd yall break from new routine to habit when you're amped up and fizzle fast?
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discussion Best book on being productive, building habits and developing a strong work ethic in terms of self realising and potentially future entrepreneurship?
Title sums it up. I’m realising whilst reading business books is always good, I won’t become a successful business man in the future without the groundwork and fundamentals in place, aka right mindset and self beliefs.
Books I’ve had in mind; psychocybernetics, awaken the giant within, deep work and atomic habits (although I’ve watched through a summary of this already).
Any recommendations?
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Discussion What keeps you going?
I'm 34M. I've never had a
romantic partner. have a rare, incurable, genetic disease that has caused me a large amount of health and functional issues. Most notably: my vision and
hearing are awful; I'm paralyzed and l'm currently on dialysis;
have (another) tumor I need surgery for that's on my brain.
My parents are dead, with my dad passing about three years ago and my mom passing when
was eighteen.
I'm currently unemployed after losing a great paying job and after looking for work for seven years.
What's kept me going until
this point is trying to live my best life for my parents where they no longer can. Because. i know they wanted me to live and enjoy my life. That and not giving up ultimately makes fora better story.
But lately it's much harder to keep with this mindset, as
I'm still waiting on a kidney transplant and have to have brain surgery.
l'm exhausted and lonely (living by myself) I'm looking for your guys' motivators: what keeps you going each day in the face of adversity?
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discussion 19F completely lost
most of my time the past year in college was spent just kinda doing whatever (smoking, drinking, playing video games, etc) and i was doing pretty good in school so i didnt really care about whether that was or wasn’t healthy. a few months ago i did something dumb with someone while drunk and i dont think i can really hang out with the people that enabled me to live like that anymore, but i don’t know what to do from here. i kind of stumbled into this friend group through fighting games, and while i dont think i have problems making friends i think i have problems retaining and growing friendships. i dont know why i’m like this, but i just want attention from people that won’t give it to me and dont care much for attention from people that do. ive kept a few close friends for most of my life, but other than that, most of the interpersonal relationships i develop are short-lived, intense and codependent. i think ive been like this my entire life, and i dont know why or how to fix it. i would eeally appreciate any help with this.
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Discussion What are your success stories from staying consistent and optimistic?
I'm on a really good path in life right now but some days (like today!) it gets hard to stay optimistic about the future. I keep having this fear that I'm doing all this hard work for nothing, and sometimes I wish there was a psychic who could look into a crystal ball and tell me everything's gonna work out in my favor.
So, I'm turning to the next best thing: Reddit!
What are your success stories from staying consistent, disciplined and motivated over time?
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discussion how to find the fun in sacrifice to make life a bit better
I guess nobody likes doing hard things but life requires you to do that to make a living. You have to sacrifice the now moment for the better future.. but I just wondered how do you find the fun in something you hate doing most. How do you build displine system. I'm tired of watching motivational content. It's not helping me. Some people have such stressful jobs but it pays alot yet people somehow manage to do it. They just find something interested in it. How they do it? Maybe life is not so much about passion and interest. I feel like my brain just automatically shuts off to hard tasks. Leading me to failure rout
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Discussion (30M) Turned My Life Around After Hitting Rock Bottom
Well, about a year ago, I hit rock bottom. Teachers had always frowned upon me for not trying in school, constantly telling me I was wasting my potential. I never paid attention in class and barely turned in assignments. Basketball was my escape, but even that seemed out of reach when I was cut from my college team due to poor grades. My dream of becoming an NBA player felt like it was slipping away.
When I lost my spot on the team, it hit me hard. I spiraled into depression and self-doubt, skipping classes and ignoring calls from friends and family. My dorm became a mess, filled with dirty laundry and fast-food wrappers. One morning, I woke up on the floor, surrounded by crumpled papers and empty pizza boxes, realizing I had truly hit rock bottom.
That day, I got a call from my academic advisor, threatening expulsion if I didn’t pull my grades up. I knew I needed to make a drastic change. First, I cut out all distractions and sought help from a campus counselor. The withdrawal was tough, but I managed to stay disciplined.
I started working odd jobs to scrape by and training on my own in the school's gym. It was hard at first, but I persisted, setting small goals and celebrating each milestone. A few months later, I began volunteering at a local youth center, coaching a kids’ basketball team. This experience gave me a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
During one of the volunteer events, I met a former NBA player who offered to train me. I hesitated, feeling unworthy, but he encouraged me to give it my all. Long story short, I trained with him, improved my skills, and regained my confidence.
Now, a year later, I’m back on the college basketball team and having an amazing season. I’ve made new friends and even started dating someone I met through volunteering. Turning my life around was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but looking back, it was worth every struggle.
Last month, I played in a game with NBA scouts present, and I delivered the performance of a lifetime. Hearing that I had caught the scouts' attention was one of the happiest moments of my life. It was a testament to my resilience and the power of never giving up.
Even in the darkest moments, there's always a way to turn things around. It just takes perseverance, support, and the courage to take the first step.
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Discussion How do I manage failing tests?
Hello everybody.
I'm having a little bit of a problem with school. I have a class where the professor started intimidating us since day 1 (the everybody fails this class-kind of professor) and now after half quarter I have failed 2 tests already.
The problem is that whatever test I'm doing I barely fail, minimum pass is 80 and in both tests I have got 79, while in every other class I'm getting 100s. I have sleeping problems and due to the anxiety induced due to the intimidation I have problems focusing during his tests.
What can I do to overcome this? At this point my priority is not the class, which I would like to pass to be honest, but I want to sleep again.
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Discussion Trying to reframe my thinking during job search.
I'm currently job hunting and have a lot of short stints on my resume. Most of it was bad luck, i.e. laid off, bad management, relocated. I recently had an interview and while I felt good about it, I can't help but feel as though my resume/past holds me back. I feel remarkably subpar in both my education and professional experience. I'm a great employee and hard worker. My references can attest to that, however, the first thing future employers see is a lack of stability. It really hurts when you can't explain to employers the financial struggles I went through just to finish college or when the rug was pulled underneath me at my previous employer. I just need one chance to prove myself to be worth hiring.
I would like more perspective on how I can stop feeling bogged down by my past and how I can address those feeling when they arise. I've worked hard to this point but I can't help but feeling upon first impression less than.
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Discussion I'm having trouble getting motivated
A bit about me. Mid-30s, looking for work, living with family. Recently had Covid, still recovering from a traumatic fight from a few weeks ago.
I'm having trouble getting motivated to do anything productive. That is, I'm trying to send out 5 or 10 applications a day, and go for walks, but I feel I should be doing more.
Like a few months ago I did all this research into starting a small-online business, but lost motivation in it.
I'd love to do something with AI but couldn't figure out how to monetize.
I was recently taking a course to do online work, but lost interest halfway through.
I thought about learning how to make music and posting on Soundcloud or Youtube, but realized there's such a huge learning curve with the software.
I was going to buy a Saxophone but didn't have anywhere I could practice so I gave up.
I thought about taking this Security Guard course online but my family told me not to "waste any more time on courses".
So I'm in this weird zone where I'm applying to entry-level jobs I don't really want, getting rejected by some and ignored by most. Feeling like I should be doing one of the above in my spare time but also just feeling depressed.
Maybe I should just focus on one thing? Apply for jobs all day and then hyper-focus on one of my other ideas at night?
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Discussion 32 and unemployed..
I'm looking for all the options at the moment. Financial certifications , e-commerce or marketing certifications, etc. Does anyone have any tips or options?
I currently only hold a two year diploma in business from college but can not get a job or an interview in that field. I'm underemployed with little experience other than warehousing, retail, customer service/sales, and some other entry-level stuff, but most of my experience is from over 5 years ago. I would really like to attempt to transition into another job or career. I really need to start making more money.
I might attend college again in September and work towards a business administration bachelors because I would only need to do 2 more years to finish and one year would 100% be online but right now I don't have many other prospects. I also have thought about getting my masters after that in marketing or something of that nature.
Added onto these job decision struggles. I think I have a gaming addiction, which im really trying to sort out. It's destroying my life currently and taking a lot of mkn3
I also have zero friends, and I'm not great at maintaining relationships.... I feel like a 12 year old loser...
I've thought about working towards my comptia a+ certification, and I'm 13 videos into the 60 video course on youtube... just feel lost, man. I feel like I don't belong anywhere. I'm not motivated and had friends growing up who became doctors, dentists, teachers.. joined the military.
I'm literally a fucking loser
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Mental health; or career opportunities? Please adviceDiscussion
Hello, Everyone.
I have just finished high school and am about to start university. I am currently living in the UK with my parents.
They don't treat me nicely, they don't respect me, respect is far-fetched; they don't even talk properly. My parents constantly taunt me, compare me, force their wishes on me, and try to control me in every single aspect(career choice, eating habits, workout habits, and everything else, heck! even mobile phone data plans).
They keep giving me the silent treatment from time to time. They shout, they cuss, and criticize every single move of mine. It is impossible to have a civil conversation with them about differences of opinion, they gaslight me and blame everything on me.
My mental health has taken a huge beating because of all these, I'm improving myself and learning stoicism.
I can move to my home country of Bulgaria and live with my grandparents there, but I would have to leave the UK and move to Bulgaria to complete my undergrad(I will also graduate with zero student debt if I move to Bulgaria). The only concerning factor is career opportunities, after completing my bachelor's in Bulgaria there will be limited career opportunities so I'll have to do a master's back in the UK(I want to settle in the UK).
In Bulgaria, I'll be able to live comfortably with my grandparents. If I think about moving out in London when I'm in university; it is going to be extremely hard as I'll need to work 25 hours a week alongside university just to survive(I'll get very few student loans in the UK as my parents income is very high but they are not going to help at all).
I am going to study mathematics, then I want to do master's in data science to move into data science or do master's in mathematical finance and move into finance.
What should I do? Is it worth going to Bulgaria?
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[discussion] to do lists are the shiiittt
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Discussion Can't find motivation to start working out and I feel bad about it.
Short context:
I'm currently in the process of grieving and healing from a hard breakup. I'm trying to slowly rebuild my personal life, taking better care of myself, etc...
I can achieve some goals like drinking plenty of water, eating (relatively) healthy, but for some reason I can't find the strength to start working out again.
I'm not obese, but I have a bit too much fat around the belly and chest, and I can definitely feel my arms and legs much softer than what they used to be. I want to change that, but I can't find any trigger to get me going, it seems that I'm constantly lacking the energy for it.
Any tips or advices?
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discussion I want to stop being an incel. I am Turning 18 in 3 days.
There are several factors that has led me to become a raging "mysogynist" these past few days. Like most men, we hold a candle of resentment for the breasted kind, with an endless wick of memories that keeps the flame lit as a means of protection.
If I were to assess my problems, I'd say that I have a hard time forming reciprocative relationships with the opposite sex. You see, most people my age speak to each other in a way that seems more boring than sledding in Kansas.
My therapist told me that I went about seeking attention in an unhealthy way and for an unhealthy reason. He told me I was in denial. About what exactly? I don't know. I understand that you have to work for therapy, but in this case, if the denial has gotten so bad that it's affecting my interpersonal relationships, you are obliged to tell me. It's like giving your physician access to your most intimate parts, to point out the lumps in your balls, just for them to say, "Yeah, you're fucked." Tell me! Otherwise, what am I even paying you for? Fuck people and fuck therapy.
I'd like to think that love is real, but I've left more petals on the ground than on the flower. I've left more coins in the fountains than in my pockets. And every star I've wished upon has run away with my secrets.
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TEXT "Pain is inevitable. You either suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is the pain of discipline is temporary while that of regret is permanent."
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Discussion Do you use motivational apps ?
I’m currently working on an app project to help you store and share inspiring quotes and ideas, and I was wondering if anyone already used any motivating quotes app ? If so, how do they help you ?
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discussion how do you actually stick to a habit???
I feel like, for my whole life, I’ve never been able to stick to habits consistently. Even basic things like showering and brushing my teeth. Recently I’ve been using thc at night, and this is the only thing that has actually helped me stick to a consistent night routine. But I feel so guilty for it. My boyfriend is an over achiever, extremely neat and organized and I can tell me using this bothers him more than it bothers me. Why do I need a substance to allow me to brush my teeth and moisturize after a shower? Why can’t I do these simple things organically? I have diagnosed ADHD (i still feel unsure of this diagnosis, idk..) and am medicated, but even with medication I still can’t stay consistent with anything. The most I’ve gone with a routine/plan is a month. And then I slowly start to break away, or just lose the motivation, or full on forget. The only things I do consistently is eat, sleep, bathroom, and put on shoes before I go outside. I guess I also do brush, don’t get me wrong, but it’s not something i can just do if that makes sense. I’ll forget a lot, or I’ll have weeks were I take perfect care of my teeth and then have two weeks where I keep forgetting or am too tired. Why can’t I function outside of this bubble!?! I look for advice and I see things saying to add habits on to your old ones, but I don’t have any solid habits to add to. How do you stay consistent?
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Discussion Do you motivate yourself by reminding of your own death and how limited your time is?
For some reason, I can't really focus on meditating about my death. Maybe because I am utterly convinced that it's gonna happen in 70 years maybe when I'm 96.
What kind of helps me to put it into the right perspective would be what if I would right now stand on a chair with my head in the noose? One kick and it's all over. Thinking about this makes my heart race, because then I realize how precious time actually is and how little I've "exploited from life".
But this isn't really a healthy way to motivate yourself.
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[Discussion] -- How many states and UTs have you travelled to till now?
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Discussion How to start liking things that are good for me?
Things like exercise, eating healthy, concentrating on work, sleeping on time, reading, and other things which will definitely make my life better. I like them for 1-2 days but then I start hating it. I try to do these things but can’t maintain them. I keep faltering and becoming depressed. For context, I am a 29 yo female in India.
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DISCUSSION How to master yourself
The mastery of one’s self is finding the balance in yourself.
The trick is leaving your comfort zone. And doing something different than what you’re used to.
The trick is knowing that even the darkest of endings can have a beautiful beginning.
Discomfort and pain and fear, are what make us grow.
The most important thing to remember, is that you don’t stop learning and growing until the day you die. It’s never too late.
You need to work out, you need get more sun, you need meditate. You need to make more money. You need to go to work. You need to get paid. You need to feed yourself. You need to…
I’m 26M neurospicy with the alphabet.
My only claim is personal experience.
It’s important to be kind to yourself. And forgive yourself when things don’t go to plan. It’s equally important to show up for yourself. I don’t just mean feeding and watering the plant, I mean giving sunlight, get that body moving and find little things to do rather than sitting there lost in your own head.
Take it from me, you truly can be your own worst enemy, but you are also the only one that can truly change YOU. If you want a change you have to work for it. The hardest part is getting started.
STORY TIME, some time recently, I was so low. I had given up. Eating and showering very seldomly, I didn’t even brush my teeth. I had come to the conclusion that giving up was the best option, I didn’t wanna die, but I had stopped caring about being alive. Everyday I was laying there, staring at my video game screen doing the same routine I had for months, wake up, go to work, come home, eat, play video games until I pass out. I had an extremely heavy dependence on weed, and pain killers. Both taking their toll on my body. Obviously none of this could continue. Not like this. Not before something permanent happened.
One day I decided I had enough. I decided i can’t rely on the world around me to pick me up when I won’t even meet it in the morning when I wake up. I decided that if I wanted to be happier, to be better, I had to make a change. But where to start? What to do? Where do I want to be? Who do I want to be? All of these questions have no wrong answers, but they all have ONE right answer.
It took me too long to realize for change to happen, and you don’t know where to start, just start. Literally anywhere. For me it was brushing my teeth. I set a goal for myself. Brush my teeth. That’s it. No time constraints, no pressure. As long as I brushed my teeth.
Now obviously you don’t want to be jumping in to the deep end of the pool when you don’t know how to swim or there’s no life guard, but you also don’t want to stay dry, and not taking a chance.
Where do I start? Where do I go from here? Now what?
Just start.
I know that’s definitely broad but just start. Do anything, even if it doesn’t seem related to where you want to be, do it.
The first step is often the hardest to take, so don’t make it more complicated than it needs to be.
I’ll be here to discuss or answer questions if any.
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Discussion Seeking Distraction Blocking Help
Hi Motivators,
I'm reaching out because I need help reaching my professional goals, but I'm hitting some roadblocks. I'm a 33M, extroverted ADHD attorney who is dangerously prone to distractions. As I'm sure many of you can relate, the internet can be a real enabler in that, so I need to set up some guardrails when I really, really need to get something done. In my current job there's a lot of routine, boring tasks that I simply need to do, and do on the computer, so I'm getting more desperate.
My newest scheme is to simply block all web browsers on my computer. Drastic, I know. But hear me out. If my workday is limited to attending meetings, drafting documents, sending emails, and making phone calls, I reckon I can get all my work done in about 4-5 hours and then just exercise and go home. Wouldn't that be miraculous?
But the two organizations I work with often operates in G Suite... Yeah.
For mail, that's an easy one, as I can use gmail via the mail app on my mac. For Docs, I can use Microsoft Apps and set up Jomo, my distraction blocker, to give me, say, five to eight 5-minute breaks, so I can use a "break" to copy text from a word doc, put it in a google doc, and share it with others. But meetings are trickier. Some meetings are in zoom, which is great, but for the meetings in google hangouts, I could use my phone to use the hangout app, but things will be pretty small.
But I'm trying to be creative and proactive to make this happen, so any thoughts and problem-solving energy would be much appreciated.
Best Regards,
Jobbin
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tool Your new life is going to cost you your old one.
Here's another great quote i saw on instagram that i think will help you guys:
"Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It's going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction. It's going to cost you relationships and friends. It's going to cost you being liked and understood. It doesn't matter. The people who are meant for you are going to meet you on the other side. Instead of being like, you're going to be loved. Instead of being understood, you're going to be seen.
All you're going to lose is what was built for a person you no longer are. Many people say that you have to love yourself first before you can love others. But really, if you learn to love others, you will learn to love yourself. The point of healing is not to return to a place where everything is perfect. Instead, it is to begin to develop the ability to respond to what's imperfect."
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[Video] why chasing joy will ruin your life
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Discussion Should I be competitive?
I've decided that I want to take my goals seriously. I know it's crazy, but I want a career in comedy. That will take a lot of time, effort, luck, and sacrifice. When I was younger, I was super competitive. My competitive mindset pushed me to be the best, do all-nighters, work harder than everyone. I want that motivation back into my life to achieve what's important to me.
However, it also made me base all my self-worth on my performance and how I compared to others. It also makes me more angry at failure, I used to be quite scary to the people around me.
Is it worth it?
TLDR: Is being competitive for motivation worth being less mentally stable?
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