Text Motivational Quote 2
“You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.” -Zig Ziglar
https://redd.it/1do2bbt
@r_getmotivated
Sometimes you need a kick up Story
So I was sitting in my room scrolling youtube and reddit, eating crappy foods, just wasting away and farting up my room. Mustered the strength inside of me to go and do the grocery shopping.
As I was coming back and putting the key in my front door, I could smell my farts through the door...
Made me think in fear, What the hell am I doing with my life!
Morale of the story is, things you do(and not do) have an affect and reach way beyond the comforts of your existance. Don't allow yourself to do things you'd hate yourself thinking nobody's noticing. You can do better!
https://redd.it/1dnjz96
@r_getmotivated
[tool] WHY NOT YOU?
Happy sunday.. have a quote for you going into the week.
"Why not you? you've got the brains... you can make decisions.. you can study the plan.. you can change your life.. you could grow immensely in the next few years... you could make your dreams come true... you could become healthy, you could become powerful... WHY NOT YOU?????"...
* Jim Rohn
**LETS GO.**
My Favorite Discipline Resources:
[Mind Snack Newsletter: Scienfically backed ways to improve your life in a micro learning fashion. ](https://mind-snack.beehiiv.com/)
Chris williamson youtube chanel: [ChrisWillx" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx](ChrisWillx" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx)
Jocko podcast: [JockoPodcastOfficial" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@JockoPodcastOfficial](JockoPodcastOfficial" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@JockoPodcastOfficial)
https://redd.it/1dmxnyv
@r_getmotivated
sounds more fun?
* You could study, do dishes or workout for 10 minutes — which sounds more interesting?
If you have boring responsibilities you need to do, then break them up into smaller parts that feel better, and focus on why you want to do it. **Don’t take action while feeling worse (because that keeps you stuck). Feel better first, and then do something.**
And your emotions are the thread that connect you to other experiences that match how you feel. So as you continue following what feels better (which is different from escapism; which is avoiding feeling worse), then you’re naturally guided to more better-feeling experiences.
.
**2. Have No Expectations In a Specific Outcome — Let Go of Ulterior Motives.**
Do what feels better, **with no expectation it needs to lead to a specific outcome.** You feel stuck when trying to control what you can’t; which is the outcome. You feel movement when you focus on what you can control; which is how you feel while working towards an outcome.
>**“I feel stuck because I don’t see any progress.”**
It feels like there’s no progress when you’re attached to a specific outcome. But you always have progress; even if it’s simply that you learned different ways that don’t work, which gives you clarity of new ways that can work. And if you’re insisting in a certain outcome, then you slow things down. **Insistence = resistance.**
* **Ulterior motive:** *“I believe my emotions come from outside of me. So I’m trying to change my circumstances and other people, so I can feel better.”*
Feeling stuck makes you idolize different — You’re either nostalgic about the past or worship the future; but regardless, the present moment isn't good enough for you. You feel stuck because everything you do is a means to an end, instead of a means for the means. **Take action for the satisfaction of the act itself; not as means to get something or make something happen** (i.e. ulterior motive), because that keeps you stuck.
You’re shifting your mindset from, *“I’m doing this thing I don’t want to do, to get that thing I do want,”* to, *“I’m doing this because I enjoy doing this.”*
.
**3. Comparing Yourself to Others.**
When comparing, **you should all over yourself:** *“I should be doing something more important,” or, “I shouldn’t have done that.”* You believe somewhere else is more important than where you are (i.e. the grass is greener). But **even if your life changes, you would still believe somewhere else is more important than where you are. So you will feel stuck no matter what.** Different places; different faces… but you still feel the same (aside from a temporary honeymoon phase, the new car smell quickly wears off after you emotionally acclimate to your new circumstances). And after you try and fail enough times, that’s why you end up feeling stuck.
>**"I'm not where I wanna be in life and it’s frustrating. I know I shouldn't care or compare, but I feel upset when I see people having a life and accomplishing their dreams."**
**Just because they have the physical life they want, that doesn't mean they have the emotional life they want** (i.e. feel good, supported and having fun.). And vice versa; even though you don't have the physical life you want (yet), you can have the emotional life you want. Your dream life is based on your dream emotions, which you can have right now.
* When you feel stuck you believe, *“This moment should be different.”*
* When you move forward you believe, *“This moment doesn’t need to be different for me to feel better.”*
.
**4. Validate Yourself.**
You naturally compare to people who are ahead of you. But what you don’t see is other people thinking you’re ahead of them. People are ahead and behind in different areas. For ex: Give yourself credit for being open to learning how your emotions and beliefs work.
Remember, feeling stuck is viewing what you have as not good enough; which is a reflection of how you view yourself. You allow a shift in your life when you allow a shift in yourself. **The more you see the value in yourself, then you naturally see
[Tool] Why You Feel Stuck and Lost in Life — How to Start Moving Forward
TL;DR: **You feel stuck because you judge yourself, and your life.** Here’s why you feel stuck in a rut, loop or cycle:
* **Unwanted/ Negative Cycle:** You experience what you don’t want → Judge it and feel worse → You experience more of what you don’t want.
* **Wanted/ Positive Cycle:** You experience what you don’t want → Use that as clarity to focus on what you want, accept and appreciate it, and feel better → You experience more of what you want.
**A negative cycle continues if you judge the cycle.** But **when you accept the stuckness and appreciate where you are, then you allow things to improve and shift to a positive cycle.**
* When you feel stuck you believe, *“This moment should be different.”*
* When you move forward you believe, *“This moment doesn’t need to be different for me to feel better.”*
**When you’re indecisive of what to do, it’s because you’re not decisive of how you want to feel.**
When you feel lost and confused, you may not know what you want or what path to take specifically, but you know what you want in general. As you **focus on feeling better** (and don't demand specific answers from yourself right now), that allows guidance and new opportunities to support you in moving forward.
\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_
**You feel stuck because you judge yourself, and your life.** Feeling stuck is like being on a treadmill: you're always moving, but never going anywhere. And it's understandable why you judge your job, home, relationships status, etc., but it doesn't help you free yourself. **The only reason anyone wants anything is because they believe they will feel better when they have it** (i.e. you want physical change, so you can have emotional change). But, **emotions are guidance that come from your thoughts;** they don't come from your circumstances or other people.
* When you **focus on what you want** = You **feel better.**
* When you **focus on (and invalidate or judge) what you don't want** = You **feel worse.**
You can neutrally recognize you don’t prefer something. But if you feel confused and frustrated, that’s helpful guidance to let go of judging yourself and others. Because whenever you judge anything, not only do you feel worse, but you're blocking clarity and good ideas that can help.
.
# The Cycles of Feeling Stuck
Here’s the two cycles of feeling stuck:
* **Unwanted/ Negative Cycle:** You experience what you don’t want → Judge it and feel worse → You experience more of what you don’t want.
* **Wanted/ Positive Cycle:** You experience what you don’t want → Use that as clarity to focus on what you want, accept and appreciate it, and feel better → You experience more of what you want.
Notice: Both cycles have you experiencing something you don’t want, because that’s what creates preferences. But you don’t have to experience it in a negative way. So the difference is: How do you respond: Judging? Or accepting and appreciating? **How you respond to this situation determines how the next one will unfold.**
Ironically, **being upset with the negative cycle, keeps you stuck in the cycle.**
And, **how you view the cycle is a reflection of how you view yourself** (i.e. *“This cycle isn’t good enough for me.”* = *“I’m not good enough for me.”).* When you begin accepting and appreciating the negative cycle, then you allow it to shift into a positive cycle. And you allow that shift when you start **seeing negative emotions as positive guidance and supportive friends.**
**All emotions are equal and worthy.** But if you believe negative emotions are bad, then you don’t give yourself the freedom and grace to be human, and that keeps you stuck. Feeling stagnant is helpful guidance that you can feel movement and clarity within a couple of minutes, if you want to.
.
# Feeling Stuck vs Being Stuck
Feeling and being stuck are two different things:
* **Being stuck:** Your circumstances haven’t changed.
* **Feeling stuck:** You judge your unwanted circumstances as bad, and believe your needs won’t be met, and
Text Change
I don't know if this will help someone, but I thought I would put it out into the void.
Subjectively I noticed many people have a fear of letting go of bad habits, relationships, friendships and whatever comes to mind. I thought about this phenomenon quite a bit and came up with a subjective-heuristic conclusion:
The hardest thing about letting go is to accept the change that will follow.
I believe in change being a catalyst that gets the necessary momentum in your life. If you start to think of change as something good in your life and not as something that you do not want, you will reap the benefits of living a mentally balanced life. I know, change can be hard, because of the fear of the unknown that will follow, but it is also exciting when new chapters in life begin.
Take this as what it is worth to you - I just wanted to share my thoughts.
https://redd.it/1dmiy0p
@r_getmotivated
[Video] How to cope with lossing a father: Gabrielle Walsh stresses how her inspirational father acted as an anchor in her life, offering stability and security
https://youtu.be/8meYGCyP4yI
https://redd.it/1dm5yfq
@r_getmotivated
Text Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder. By Rumi
Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder. By Rumi
https://redd.it/1dm6kz5
@r_getmotivated
Discussion Feeling Lost and Behind in Life – Seeking Guidance and Motivation to Get My Life on Track
Hi everyone,
I'm reaching out because I feel very lost, confused, and behind in life. After completing my schooling in 2020, I haven't done much of anything. Now it's 2024, and I realize that I could have graduated if I had gone to college right after school. I don't have any hobbies, haven't mastered any skills, and haven't enrolled in any courses. I feel like I've wasted precious years and still struggle to take action.
My physical, mental, and emotional health are deteriorating. It’s already halfway through 2024, and I haven't accomplished anything meaningful. I believe I’m still deeply hurt and somewhat depressed after my father’s death in 2018. Relationship issues and the stress from them have also caused significant emotional turmoil. This constant state of low mood and depression has made me lazy and lethargic, affecting my skin, hair, personality, and overall well-being. I've become insecure about everything and have grown so introverted that I avoid socializing in every way—I don't even meet the guests who come to my house. Since 2018, I’ve barely left my home and can count on my fingers the places I’ve been to, mostly just within my city and nearby restaurants.
I haven't made any efforts to improve myself physically, mentally, emotionally, educationally, or spiritually. I’ve lost the passion to do things for myself and have stopped loving and caring about myself. I’ve treated myself poorly all this time, and it makes me feel extremely sad.
I'm 23 (f) and feel very behind in life. When I see my peers, they are far ahead—completing their studies and achieving milestones. I lack confidence and feel ashamed when people ask what I'm doing. I've even lied about being in college to some people (my sister's idea).
Currently, I work from home in a job that pays well and have gained some knowledge through the internet, YouTube videos, articles, and people's stories. Despite this, I feel like I'm not making a significant contribution to society and am just wasting my time.
I’m in desperate need of guidance and don’t want to share my feelings with anyone in real life due to fear of judgment and ridicule. I’m also uncertain about my future educational path, so any recommendations regarding courses or studies would be greatly appreciated.
Therefore, I'm reaching out to you all for help. Please recommend any courses, career paths, or skills I can pursue. Share any tips, ideas, or inspiration that could help me get my life back on track. I need motivation and a clear path to follow. Any recommendations, ideas, tips, or inspiration would be incredibly helpful.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and for any help you can offer.
https://redd.it/1dm2ynl
@r_getmotivated
[Text] Had a mentor tell me this when I was feeling down about my lack of success, thought you guys might appreciate it too.
https://redd.it/1dlutug
@r_getmotivated
discussion Feel unmotivated and can’t stay off my phone or laptop, what do I do?
Feel unmotivated and can’t stay off my phone or laptop, what do I do?
I’m 21f and I’ve had a really rough month. I’m unemployed as of last week and I caught my bf cheating on me with multiple women so I am already really down about that.
I want to get back into a routine and switch up my life so that I have more control over things and I’m productive, I just can’t seem to get off my phone and do anything anymore. I am also way behind on my uni assignments. Am I fucked?
I feel like I’m starting over and I don’t know where to begin.
https://redd.it/1dlc232
@r_getmotivated
discussion How to face the things you are uncomfortable to do and fear the most ?
I seem to be wasting so much and instead of feeling worried I'm just mindless not caring anymore about my future but somehow in the background I'm feeling like damn loser for wasting so much time. I don't know why I'm not doing the things I should be doing. Like so fed up with my thoughts and doubts. I tried watching YouTube videos on motivation and self-improvement stuff but any thoughts that rise automatically destroy any hopes or desires I have
https://redd.it/1dl4ctc
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I am really a mess. I’m at a loss for words with my life. How do I repair it?
I have been burnt out since uni ended
It really taxed me. I have not felt like doing anything ever again. Sometimes I try, but it’s never consistent. Uni pushed me to the brink. I really used to think I was this special person, but now it’s humbled me. I really thought I was the kind of material for a top uni (I went to a quite normal uni by the way, not a top one), but now I know I would’ve crashed and burned if I had somehow been able to enter one (a top one). After forcing myself to be disciplined so much in uni, now it feels like I’m sticking a large thorn in my side anytime I try to be disciplined again. I just fear of the never ending work. I just deep down haven’t really felt like doing that again. Sometimes I do feel like doing the work (in this case it would be learning skills including coding), but, since sometimes I have a little bit of a liking for coding, I fear I’ll be stuck to that desk for 7 hours everyday, pumping out work, while ignoring everything else. After a whileI was just TOO PASSIONATE during uni. But at the same time I was pushing myself past what I thought I was capable of. And also, although I wouldn’t have quite thought so that time, past my limit. And I ignored people’s calls and messages. I wish I made time for other people in my life at the time other than the ones at my university accommodation.
I was so focused that I finished a long essay in one and a half weeks. I downed Red Bull and coffee like they were water towards the end. And one of the main things-if not the main thing-that drove me, is how my family would look at me/think of me if I failed. I was so scared those 6 months when I found out I might actually fail. I didn’t though, but it was nerve wracking. I tore at myself in my journal every time I avoided doing work. And after initially burning myself out, I spent a whole month watching TikTok (this is still at uni), before burning myself out at the end with some sincere discipline, anxiety and desperation. I even had to take sleeping pills for a time. It was that bad.
And also, about building habits- I’ve tried. It seems that when I start one, I always seem to forget to continue until it’s past the time to do it. Other times I am either just too tired to do so or just don’t care about anything.😢
And about not caring about anything, it’s true, I just don’t really care. Unless it directly affects me, and even then, I only care sometimes. I don’t know whether it’s just burnout, depression, anxiety, possible ADHD, or what. I’ll try to post in other subreddits I feel might be useful.
I developed myself so much in that final uni year. But now I watch self development/mental health videos for the most part, which I would sometimes act on but never follow up on because of not caring about anything.
This thing of not caring has been there since I was a child. I was a kind kid, but I postponed homework till the last minute and I was never proactive.
I remember going back to my old childhood home and I remember finding books where my sisters planned things and analyzed things. I never did anything like that - until I was about to be kicked out of uni. It’s like my brain was somehow OFF for 20 YEARS. Even now I’m still feeling like a kid in an adult’s body and grieving the years I could’ve done a part time job, grown my CV, made real, true friends. When I was in that childhood home, the true reality of who I was came back. I was a nobody. A weak-willed, dodgy, passive, destructive nobody. A nobody, a simp who thought he was somebody - who somehow thought he could get into Oxford/Havard/Ivy League/Russell Group on potential alone or get girls to like him even though he wouldn’t even hang out with himself if he saw a clone of himself. The only thing I’ve really even made any kind of headway with fixing is the dodginess and destructiveness. Granted, I’ve been working on some of the other things I’ve mentioned in this paragraph as well.
I just don’t know what’s wrong with me. Am I a retard? Is
The true art of motivation is... [Image]
https://redd.it/1djyq8g
@r_getmotivated
discussion I just had a convulsion for using cocaine and I want to stop.
That's it, it's the second time I had in a month, I want to stop but don't know how much what I can do, I'm on my 30s, I don't feel comfortable to talk with anyone about this, so any tip is welcome.
https://redd.it/1dkqu91
@r_getmotivated
Tool learning to be myself again
Hello y’all
I’m Luna and I just ended my 4y relationship, where do I go from here?
Been feeling really depressed these past few months and I’m thinking of going to the gym and do a 360 change but I’m totally lost on that so please send help!!!
If it helps, I’m 1,67cm and 80ishkg
My mind has been all over the place and I need some help to get me motivated because I also don’t have a job and yeah yeah I’m a loser I know but I’m going to get it together
https://redd.it/1dnwo7g
@r_getmotivated
discussion Is Fear the main obstacle towards reaching Confidence?
I think for me it's fear that seems to be holding me back from living life and just being myself honestly. Things like insecurities doubts overthinking all this seems to be invading my life and I seem to have no control. I don't have the displined & positive mindset. I'm too busy living in my own thoughts and barely feel any sort of awareness in reality of world. Like I'm mentally feeling drained because my thoughts are just so loud in my mind constantly rambling.
So my question is just how can I remove the fear. Like what can I do or should start doing now to take actions and take my life back. If you driving the car, it's you who is in control of the car but in life how comes it the mind that seems to be the main person taking over the control.
https://redd.it/1dn5msb
@r_getmotivated
the value in your life; and vice versa.**
.
**5. Improve By 1%**.
Every day, work on something for 1 - 5 minutes, and your only goal is to get 1% better. That’s it. You feel far more relief when you know you're making progress; even if it's only a little bit.
.
**6.** **Do Something New or Something Old In a New Way.**
If you feel like time is speeding up and passing you by, it’s because when there's no new information, and thus stimulation, your mind can generalize and doesn't differentiate experiences, and so every day just blends together and life feels like a meaningless blur. So you can either start new hobbies, or do old habits in a new way (e.g. brushing or drawing with your non-dominant hand). This causes you to pay more attention and gives mini-challenges you can overcome, and you feel satisfaction as a result. Also, at the end of each day, write 5 - 10 experiences where you had fun and are proud of yourself for doing.
.
**7. Self-Reflection Questions:**
* *"Why am I judging feeling stuck and lost in life as a bad thing?”*
* *“What are the advantages of feeling stuck? Feeling stuck is a good thing because ...”*
* *“Why do I judge myself? Why am I so hard on myself?"*
* *“What am I afraid would happen if I accepted and appreciated myself and where I am in life?”*
* *“What am I afraid would happen if I was living the life I want?”*
.
**8. Focus on How You Want to Feel.**
>**"I don’t know how to figure out what I want, what my purpose is, or how to achieve my goals."**
When you believe the physical world creates your emotional world, then you wait for change on the outside, so you can feel change on the inside. Which is passive. But you want to **take emotional initiative** (i.e. don’t wait to see how others feel or something plays out first, before deciding how you want to feel).
**When you’re indecisive of what to do, it’s because you’re not decisive of how you want to feel.**
When you put action ahead of emotion, then you end up stuck (i.e. putting the cart before the horse). You may not know what you want or what path to take specifically, but you always know what you want in general. So, **what do you want to feel?**
* *"I want to feel supported. I want to feel connected. I want to feel worthy and good enough. I want to feel strong and healthy. I want to feel valued. I want to feel accepted and appreciated. I like feeling appreciated. I want to feel freedom to be myself. I want to feel eager and excited. I want to have fun. I like having fun. I want to feel creative. I want to feel clarity. I want to feel inspired. I want to feel fresh ideas flowing through me. I want to feel forward movement. I want to feel adventurous. I want to feel passionate. I want to feel satisfied.”*
As you **allow those general better-feelings to be enough** (and don't demand specific answers from yourself or the universe right now), that allows guidance and new opportunities to support you in moving forward.
\~ BFree
.
**Share your thoughts:** What’s one step you’re going to take today to shift to a satisfying positive cycle and start feeling forward movement?
.
https://redd.it/1dmses5
@r_getmotivated
so you feel worse.
**You can be stuck without feeling stuck.** And vice versa; you can feel stuck without being stuck. So even if you can’t figure out how to change things yet, you do have the freedom and opportunity to change how you feel about it.
.
# Accepting Doesn’t Mean Settling
>**“I’m afraid that if I accept where I am, things won’t change.”**
**Most people hold their emotions hostage — waiting for the outside world to change first, before letting themselves feel better.** But then you get a double hit of self-sabotage by depriving yourself of both the emotions and life you want.
If you believe your emotions come from outside of you, then you will try to change people and circumstances in order to change your emotions. And even if it works temporarily, in the long-term, you’ll notice that your life doesn’t actually change.
People try to reject where they are and move away from what they don’t want, to get what they do want. But **running away can sometimes be running towards. People think they’re running in a straight line away from what they don’t want, when they're actually just running in a circle towards more of the same.** So it seems like forward movement, but when done enough times, you come to realize, you’re stuck just going around in circles.
You’re not moving away from dissatisfaction, you’re moving towards more satisfaction. Those are two different things. Whether that means stay where you are or go in a new direction, regardless, you’re open to more opportunities for feeling better.
Dissatisfaction with where you are in life can lead to motivation for temporary change; but satisfaction leads to inspiration for sustainable change. **Dissatisfaction creates the desire for change, but satisfaction is what allows it.**
**You’re not resigning to your fate that nothing will change. You’re simply recognizing that your emotions come from you.** And when you stop making your circumstances and other people responsible for how you feel, then you naturally judge less, and accept more. And that’s what allows change.
.
# Embrace the Paradox
People can be afraid to accept where they are because they believe they’re settling, and things won’t change. But the opposite is true. Embrace the paradox: **A negative cycle continues if you judge the cycle.** But **when you accept the stuckness and appreciate where you are, then you allow things to improve and shift to a positive cycle.**
Pushing against where you are doesn’t change things because, metaphorically, both of your hands have to be on what you don't want to push against it; so you’re not open to receiving something new.
**When you accept that things won’t change, then you allow them to.** Because the only reason there isn’t change is because you’re judging where you are. But by focusing more on accepting and appreciating, then you change yourself and your emotions. And when you change, then your life naturally begins to reflect that.
When you judge your circumstances and negative emotions, you think you’re slamming on the brakes to stop them; but you’re actually stepping on the gas. Accepting and appreciating is actually what drains the unwanted cycle of its power and fuels the much awaited wanted cycle. **Judging the present keeps you stuck. Appreciating the present propels you to the future you want.**
.
# Tips on Moving Forward
**Feeling stuck is ironically the very thing that can help set you free.** Because you’ve tried every action-oriented approach you could think of to change your life… and they all failed. That’s when you finally let go and are more open to trying a different way, because… what have you got to lose? And the very fact that you’re reading this right now means you’re more open to new ideas. **Feeling stuck created the willingness and open-mindedness required for a new path of freedom, satisfaction, and forward movement.**
.
**1. Do What Feels Better.**
Look at your options available to you of what you’re capable of acting on right now, and do what feels better. For ex:
* You could read a book or watch a video — what
Tool Why You Feel Stuck and Lost in Life — How to Start Moving Forward
TL;DR: You feel stuck because you judge yourself, and your life. Here’s why you feel stuck in a rut, loop or cycle:
Unwanted/ Negative Cycle: You experience what you don’t want → Judge it and feel worse → You experience more of what you don’t want.
Wanted/ Positive Cycle: You experience what you don’t want → Use that as clarity to focus on what you want, accept and appreciate it, and feel better → You experience more of what you want.
A negative cycle continues if you judge the cycle. But when you accept the stuckness and appreciate where you are, then you allow things to improve and shift to a positive cycle.
When you feel stuck you believe, “This moment should be different.”
When you move forward you believe, “This moment doesn’t need to be different for me to feel better.”
When you’re indecisive of what to do, it’s because you’re not decisive of how you want to feel.
When you feel lost and confused, you may not know what you want or what path to take specifically, but you know what you want in general. As you focus on feeling better (and don't demand specific answers from yourself right now), that allows guidance and new opportunities to support you in moving forward.
_____________
You feel stuck because you judge yourself, and your life. Feeling stuck is like being on a treadmill: you're always moving, but never going anywhere. And it's understandable why you judge your job, home, relationships status, etc., but it doesn't help you free yourself. The only reason anyone wants anything is because they believe they will feel better when they have it (i.e. you want physical change, so you can have emotional change). But, emotions are guidance that come from your thoughts; they don't come from your circumstances or other people.
When you focus on what you want = You feel better.
When you focus on (and invalidate or judge) what you don't want = You feel worse.
You can neutrally recognize you don’t prefer something. But if you feel confused and frustrated, that’s helpful guidance to let go of judging yourself and others. Because whenever you judge anything, not only do you feel worse, but you're blocking clarity and good ideas that can help.
.
# The Cycles of Feeling Stuck
Here’s the two cycles of feeling stuck:
Unwanted/ Negative Cycle: You experience what you don’t want → Judge it and feel worse → You experience more of what you don’t want.
Wanted/ Positive Cycle: You experience what you don’t want → Use that as clarity to focus on what you want, accept and appreciate it, and feel better → You experience more of what you want.
Notice: Both cycles have you experiencing something you don’t want, because that’s what creates preferences. But you don’t have to experience it in a negative way. So the difference is: How do you respond: Judging? Or accepting and appreciating? How you respond to this situation determines how the next one will unfold.
Ironically, being upset with the negative cycle, keeps you stuck in the cycle.
And, how you view the cycle is a reflection of how you view yourself (i.e. “This cycle isn’t good enough for me.” = “I’m not good enough for me.”). When you begin accepting and appreciating the negative cycle, then you allow it to shift into a positive cycle. And you allow that shift when you start seeing negative emotions as positive guidance and supportive friends.
All emotions are equal and worthy. But if you believe negative emotions are bad, then you don’t give yourself the freedom and grace to be human, and that keeps you stuck. Feeling stagnant is helpful guidance that you can feel movement and clarity within a couple of minutes, if you want to.
.
# Feeling Stuck vs Being Stuck
Feeling and being stuck are two different things:
Being stuck: Your circumstances haven’t changed.
Feeling stuck: You judge your unwanted circumstances as bad, and believe your needs won’t be met, and
[Tool] Been working on creating an awesome Workout playlist for my workouts, and am super happy to share it here! Hope you enjoy it and would love your suggestions :)
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6kiSeoZeOutKKv1MZ2d8PE?si=0295cc08cf6844ac
https://redd.it/1dmi65d
@r_getmotivated
Discussion Had motivation AND discipline, now even habit doesn't work...
Struggling with a lot of things ATM.
Something I am noticing is that gym/exercise is a real struggle.
I've done all the discipline/do it anyway shit, and it's not working any more.
One driver was the progress. Lifting weights, every time you up the weight, that's actual, quantitative progress/improvement. But...
I've got to the point where the improvements are getting really, really small. I bench 170% of bw, squat 250+%, etc and adding a tiny weight doesn't give me a good feeling that overcomes the aches and pains and the constant niggling little injuries. I've never had an exercise high in my life, either.
Summary: neither motivation nor discipline seem to be working. Suggestions invited!
https://redd.it/1dm645x
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I’m a porn addict and I wish to stop... Is there any hope for me?
I’ve never necessarily talked about this, but I’ve been a porn addict since I was very young. Nobody knows because I have ways to hide it, but I’m looking to quit, and I need something to motivate me. It’s just ruining me and I can’t take it anymore.
Any advice on how to stop my porn addiction?
https://redd.it/1dm6knp
@r_getmotivated
Article Reclaim Time For Your Passions: Make Time Work For You
Are you tired of feeling like there's never enough time for what truly matters? Imagine a life where you have the time to pursue your passions and achieve your dreams. In today's fast-paced world, time is our most precious resource – and we never really know how much of it we actually have.
However, with the right strategies, you can carve out the time you need to pursue your passions and live a more fulfilling life.
Practical steps to Create Time for Your Passions:
Identify Your Priorities
To find motivation, start by pinpointing what you want to make time for. What activities bring you joy and fulfilment: because they are creating the life, and the legacy, you have chosen for yourself. Create a list of compelling reasons that resonate with your emotions and your sense of purpose.
Maximise Your Mornings
Mornings are often underutilised. Instead of hitting the snooze button, try going to bed earlier and waking up earlier. Mornings are ideal for tackling meaningful activities with fresh energy and focus. Doing something towards your chosen future early in the day puts it in the bank – minimising the impact of those thousand and one things that can arise throughout the day.
Recognise Time Wasters
We all have habits that drain our time. Spend a day tracking how you spend your time and identify patterns of inefficiency. Once you're aware of these habits, you can take steps to eliminate them.
Create a Structured Schedule
A well-planned schedule is key to effective time management – remember to balance routine with spontaneity and contingency. It keeps you on track and ensures you're dedicating time to your priorities. Incorporate time for leisure and passions into your routine. Understand both the importance and urgency of what is on your plate: prioritise importance over urgency. Schedule the important stuff only.
Delegate Tasks
Free up your time by delegating tasks at work and home. Colleagues, family members, and friends can often take on responsibilities, giving you more time to focus on what you love. Think win / win: what do you presently do that others would get benefit out of doing?
Prioritise and Simplify
Sometimes, less is more. Evaluate your commitments and identify non-essential activities. Streamline your schedule by cutting out tasks that don't add significant value to your life.
You can make time if you have a compelling reason. Determine what you want to create time for and make it happen by delegating, scheduling, and eliminating time-wasting habits. Immerse yourself in the present moment and focus on what truly matters to you. We all have the same 168 hours a week – how are you choosing to spend yours? What are you willing to give up to pursue your passions?
https://redd.it/1dlucfd
@r_getmotivated
Text Motivational Quotes
"If you want to win, then give your strength. If you want strength, then give your time."
Book Source:- The Art of Staying Best.
https://redd.it/1dldxpt
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I feel that there's nothing ever good enough for me.
Every decision I make, I end up loathing it. Feels like I always end up making a mistake. Even with reddit posts. I'm frequently posting and deleting (maybe not lately, though). Even supposedly 'good' things that happen, especially 'bad' things, though. People have told me that I'm like that. I'll make a decision and just hate myself for it. Sometimes I just want a change of scenery. I might take out a loan to travel, but I know I'm just going to end up hating myself for it. Last time I traveled, I beat myself up and went back home about as impromptly as I left to do that. I could go on all day talking about it, so..
https://redd.it/1dlboar
@r_getmotivated
this just some mental illness. Do I just not have a heart. Do I have apathy? Does someone know what I can do?
https://redd.it/1dkai4t
@r_getmotivated
Discussion I feel like I failed... I'm missing out
I have this guy friend and he likes this super beautiful girl. So here comes the problem... after he showed me his crush I became insecure again... I still don't have a girlfriend and everyone in my grade dates and I feel so ugly and unattractive and that there is no hope for me... I dunno what to do…
When will the time come? When I'll be old? Many people my age already had girlfriends or suitors who want them I have basicaly nothing, while they look perfect, are toned, have pretty faces and beautiful personalities also has everything they want while I'm sitting here with nothing and don't have any sh!t got together and seeing couples out in collidors I feel so lonely…
I know but I just feel like I failed somehow…
https://redd.it/1dkggx8
@r_getmotivated
Live in love rather than jealousy text
Love is the best source of motivation
https://redd.it/1dk9fid
@r_getmotivated
TEXT In one year you'll be older. The time will pass regardless of your actions so make those actions count.
Every time youre worried about how long something will take, you do yourself a dissservice by not just doing the work. You cant slow ti,e down from crawling forward so it's better to keep chipping away at it.
Don't lament the time spent. Work towards the future you want to have.
https://redd.it/1djswz5
@r_getmotivated
