[Text] What You Can Control In Life
* Your Honesty.
* Your Emotions.
* Your Thoughts.
* Self Confidence.
* Your Perspective.
* Who Your Friends Are.
* Which Books You Read.
* How Kind You Are To Others.
* How You Spend/Invest Your Money.
* How Much You Appreciate What You Have.
* Your Screen Time.
Anything to add?
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discussion what is the best life lesson you’ve learned so far?
Mine is: you never really lose until you stop trying.
What are yours?
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Discussion What is something someone said that made you believe in yourself?
It could be something said to you. It could also be something you heard or read.
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Discussion I (33F) was bullied out of a job I loved and want to prove those bosses wrong. Can you help?
Edit: I am working with a lawyer at the moment and am reaching a settlement, but don't know what to do after this career-wise. Where do I go from here?
I was bullied at my last job and resigned. HR quickly asked me to leave and handed me an NDA. Now I don't know what to do next. The industry I was in I thought I loved, now I can't even look at applications. I'm so angry and want to prove the jerks at management wrong, that just because I am a woman doesn't mean I don't have a voice. I have been in marketing for over 8 years and now have a few months to recover fully and focus on what I want to do next. What would you do career-wise after this?
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Discussion Going to be 33 next month. Jobless but living on my own. How do i fix this?
I've tried applying to 50+ jobs the past 2-3 weeks. I've made separate resumes, cover letters for different jobs and spoke with a job agency. I'm gassed. Is there any hope moving forward?
Should I just learn a trade and become a welder or something? I felt like I'd prefer to have the opportunity to move up in a business sector but there just isn't any work for that it seems like. I do have a two year college diploma in business and have some experience in warehousing/customer service as well other odd jobs..
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Looking for names of people who inspire others
I run recovery houses (that will remain nameless in this post to be compliant to sub rules) and I'm looking to rename all of my current and future houses with names of people who inspire and motivate. In making this list, I'm frequently having to send correspondence to the person or their family or foundation to get permission. Our plan is to have a 8x10 picture of the person in question in the living room along with a small bio telling of their inspirational story. We may also make a house flag with the house name on it. We like keeping it simple yet inspirational for the people who we are trying to help.
All I'm looking for is name ideas of who to ask or to use. For example of some people we see as inspiring are:
Sally Ride - the first American woman to space.
Ray Lewis - former football player and inspirational speaker. That man could motivate anyone to do better
Martin Luther King
Drew Barrymore
Harriet Tubman
Malala Yousafzia
Sarah Fuller - The first woman to play division 1 football. Played for Vanderbilt as their kicker.
Sully Erna. Runs the Scars foundation
Emily Hartridge - advocated for mental health issues
Arthur Ashe
If you could think of anyone who would be a inspirational, that would be great. It doesn't have to be a famous person either. Many people inspire. Thank you in advance.
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received confirmation from a retail company that I was accepted for an apprenticeship in their IT department. I was overjoyed, I think I actually shed tears of happiness. Certainly, my mother did lol, it's been a while since last time they felt so proud of me.
Finally, I knew: it was all up to me now. I had been given a chance, no longer dependent on other people or luck, but solely on myself, my skills, and my readiness to learn. I couldn't afford to screw it up this time.
Three years flew by quickly. Fortunately, I had a great team and colleagues around me. My mentor was truly exceptional human being, and to this day, I believe his endorsement played a pivotal role in my selection. After our interview, we clicked immediately together and we were making jokes—like I could step in as janitor if they need one. I learned a tremendous amount of IT knowledge from him and owe a lot to that man.
Unfortunately, he hasn't been with our company for about a year now due to a disagreement with management. I'm unsure of the specifics, but I've lost touch with him and I'm so gutted for not being able to express my respect and gratitude for everything he did for me. He had no reason to give me that position, considering German is not my native language, I was already 25 yo at the time, and I had no concrete IT experience. Yet, he saw something in me that no one else did.
Three years later, I'm working in IT, specializing as a system and network administrator. I'm satisfied with my salary and the job itself, though there are inevitably stressful moments, as with any job. However, I don't intend to stop here. My goal is to learn something new every day at work and continuously expand my knowledge. There's always room for improvements. But now, on the verge of turning 30, I can finally say - I f*****g did it.
The entire journey hasn't been easy; there were plenty of low moments. However, I truly believe that each challenge strengthened me, and I wouldn't be who I am today without having gone through it all. Despite occasional stress, I don't complain much and enjoy my job, knowing full well the range of tasks and environments in which people work. I now appreciate these aspects more.
I've also learned to value every genuine person, regardless of their occupation or social status. Some of the best people I know are janitors and cleaners, and I empathize with them. I strive to show them maximum respect, and I don't consider it beneath me to help our janitor carry things if he needs assistance. Similarly, I don't leave a mess behind in the office or restroom—it just takes a moment of care to make someone else's job easier.
Far from being a mega success story, IT ain't that special. I mean it's not like I'm an entrepreneur or anything to brag that much about it. But for me, it represents a small victory in life that I'm incredibly proud of. Looking back, I used to feel ashamed of the jobs I used to do, but now, I deeply appreciate them. Without those experiences, none of this would likely be possible for me now.
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TOOL 3 Steps to (re)gain confidence in life.
When browsing in this subreddit as well as meeting people in person, it very often seems that they lack confidence or feel like they are "not good enough" in life. Since these detrimental thoughts are very common and not helpful at all I wanted to share some tips for (re)gaining confidence in life and get things done so whoever sees this and needs it can live his/her life to its fullest potential. I hope you can make use of what follows.
1. Positive affirmations
Most people that struggle with self-doubt and gaining confidence in life very often tell themselves "I am a loser; I can't do anything right; nothing that I do works out;" and similar negative intrusions that make them feel like they are worthless.
That being said, believe me when I tell you that your mind is a master at tricking you. As long as you tell yourself these negative things, you will believe them. To conquer this, you just have to turn it around. If you start to tell yourself positive things, you will feel more positive! Every time you catch yourself with intrusive, negative thoughts, stop them conciously and tell yourself "I am a confident person; I set my goals and reach them; I have a positive mindset;". At first you might feel silly, however, if you give it a few weeks and pull this through, you will feel better. I know that from first-hand experience.
2. Self-care
Something that very often seems to slide as well when dealing with negative intrusions of thought is self-care. It seems logical: if you stop caring for your appearance, don't go to the gym anymore, sometimes even neglect hygiene, it is not uncommon that your mind starts to deteriorate. Every person's mind works that way. If you feel "dirty" and "sluggish" you will not be confident in life.
That being said, if you want to (re)gain confidence, you might have to (re)start your self-care processes. Take your time for self-care. It can be as simple as shaving and feeling "fresh" afterwards as well as having a long hot bath with candle lights and fine-smelling salts. Self-care is an investment of time in yourself as a person that is directly connected with the image in your mind!
3. Achievable goals
If you start to feel better after a few weeks of doing the above, it is time to (re)organise yourself. Many people are often striving for seemingly impossible end results. To them, maybe even to you, the things you want in life seem so far away that you don't even consider going that way. That is because your base standard of what you want to achieve needs to be set in place. To make it more clear: I will not be able to become Mr or Mrs Olympia if for the last 10 years I haven't been touching a single weight.
That being said, trust me when I say that you can achieve the things you strive for - it might just be a problem of missing the steps in-between. That is where achievable goals come in. Identify the goals you want to reach and start breaking them down in achievable chunks. The most common and easy example to make that clear is running a marathon. It requires a lot of training and you will not be able to achieve it from zero to hero, especially if you haven't been running in the last few years. However, you can start going for walks, as they are getting longer you can start running very slowly for a few minutes, and so on, and so forth. It is a matter of pushing your limits inside of your personal limit zone and not trying to copy people that have a different angle to start from.
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I hope getting this out there helps the people that need it. If you already knew all of this, maybe it gave you another perspective on the things mentioned.
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Discussion I am screwed..Or so it feels like. How to snap out of it?
I am fu#kd so to say...and I need to change.
Let me take you back about 10 years or so - when I started my first real job.
I was a student when a family member told me that the company he is working at is looking for someone to do a tech support role (of some sort). He got me an interview and they took me. I worked as a student (so not full time, I was studying and working in between) for the first year or so. I was still working as a student in my second year, but was working full time pretty much and had the same tasks and requirements as the ones that were employed there. Then they offered me a contract on my third year and I took it.
It was awesome at first - I had my own PC, phone number, mail and was working with customers already..all this at the time when most of my mates were working in warehouses, productions and so on for their first jobs (nothing wrong with it..I just felt I am doing better I guess). Company was also expanding and growing (or so it seemed) with people coming and all that.
Then, when they offered me my first contract, things changed. Some people got laid off..company was relocating closer to the main company..Things changed a lot..didn't seem that great anymore... But I guess that's for another topic.
What truly fu#ked me is the fact that I was truly trying my best there. I was learning stuff at home... Working over hours often - I would work over hours at home and not even tell anyone about it.. I was working weekends and all that...Was always available to anyone anytime... Whatever they needed/wanted I was okay with and trying to make it happen... Looking back at it - I was stupid. I gifted them a lot of money doing that..anyways.
I did that because I thought that I will go further in that company by doing that. I thought that they would see it, value it and give me higher positions... Increase my pay and so on...Sky was the limit in my eyes.
In reality, it came to the point where I had so many tasks and so much work to do that I just couldn't handle everything. I started making mistakes because of it and all that...But still I tried, until I learned (by accident) that I am the worst paid person on our team. I had one co-worker that was working there for a similar amount of time and she was mostly there for 8h, doing what she could before she went home. No overtimes, no weekend work...just doing the "bare minimum"... and she had a higher salary than me...
(And yea I know that some of you will say that I didn't try to get a higher salary - which isn't true. I tried many times with many different ways and was always denied..)
I got completely turned off when I learned about that. She has been getting more money than me for years for doing less work that is much easier and less stressful. I was sick of it and just started doing less. I started not caring about it much...still doing the work but not being as focused on it..I would watch yt in between, read forums and all that stuff. I resigned in my mind and was just waiting to find another job. I was doing that for maybe a year or two as I was searching for other opportunities.
My pay had increased to the level of my co-worker at that time, but it was too little too late. All of my friends got ahead of me in between as well so I was definitely doing the worst now...
Anyway, after a while I managed to find another job (where I am now). I resigned from my previous work and started this new position. Pay is better, company is big, everything is new...and I just can't snap out of my old ways.
Granted I don't have much work yet as I am still the new guy here...but yea..I will still find myself scrolling on my phone in between...watching yt..spotify..random shit online. It was good for the first month or so..but now..I am unmotivated here as well..as if I fell into a routine of not doing much and can't snap out. It sucks!. I am also not completely sure how interested I am in my work area...but honestly I don't see anything that would interest me more...so that's
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Text Motivational Quote 3
“No Alarm Clock Needed. My Passion Wakes Me.”
— Eric Thomas
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Discussion At what point does determination become delusion?
Hello everyone,
As a young person who has been encouraged to dream big and to not take no for an answer, I have always wondered where the line stops. How many times can you be shot down before you stop trying? When does staying "on top of mind" turn into becoming annoying? When do we stop?
I bring this to you all because this subreddit is about motivation, and I would love to stay motivated, and would also like to know when motivation goes too far, if it does. As someone who has constantly been told no, has had constant failure, and has had things not go my way for most of my life, I want to know if there is ever a stopping point. I mean, doesn't it become exhausting and dejecting? How do you deal with it?
Thank you.
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Discussion What's your go-to alibi when someone invites you to attend something, but you want to politely turn them down without making them feel bad?
Trying to find the best way to turn down people without hurting their feelings and making them feel bad.
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TEXT Update: Cutting my screen time from 8 hours 55 minutes to 1 hour in 30 days (week 3 progress)
TL;DR: This past week my screen time reached 4 hours and 3 minutes on average.
Last week, I tried the product my girlfriend bought from Amazon based on the article's recommendation. It's a locker with a timer, and it cost us around $23. It worked really well and helped me cut down on late-night screen time. Besides reducing my screen time, it also helped me get better sleep this past week. I'm still using it and plan to continue until I completely get rid of this late-night phone addiction.
I also continued everything from the previous weeks. However, this past weekend, my screen time exceeded a bit on weekend because I was feeling a little depressed and going through a hard time, which led to me watching anime on my phone for hours. Despite that, I'm happy with my overall progress.
If you want to follow the same guide that I'm using for my addiction, you can check it out below:
https://bamboo.beehiiv.com/p/a-practical-guide-to-overcoming-phone-addiction
Here is weekly report screenshots:
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[tool] Get a wakeup call from David Goggins*
Hi! I struggle to get up in the mornings and was reading some story where someone hired david goggins to live with him for a few months and hold him accountable, etc. - so I thought it would be fun to build a little tool where "David Goggins" (actually just a voice that sounds like him) calls you in the morning to wake up.
It's free to use and super simple: [www.summit.im/tools/wakeup](http://www.summit.im/tools/wakeup)
1. choose what time you want to get up
2. get a phone call then
3. you can actually talk when you get the call as well
Again it's a silly little tool, but it is actually pretty motivating to get a call like that in the morning! Let me know if you have any questions on how I built it.
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discussion if you could recommend one book 📕 which would it be?
Mine is: The Power Of Now
What is yours?
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How do I unfuck myself? An update.Discussion
Hello, Folks.
I received lot of support on my last post, hence I am making another post to give update on my situation - hopefully I'll be able to help someone get motivated by this.
For more context pls read my previous post.
In the last 4 months, all this has changed:
1. I have lost 44lbs(20kgs) in weight.
2. My mental health has improved a lottttttttttttttt.
3. I have got admitted to a university for Bachelor's in Mathematics and Statistics.
What has not changed:
1. My parents are pretty much the same, but I am learning to not get affected by it.
2. I have barely any savings rn; as I focused on studying and getting into university and didn't have a job in the meantime.
What did I do to make this changes?
1. Walk, Walk, Walk, Walk - I started walking in nature everyday; everyday I walk for about 2.5-3hours. This helped me in losing weight and improving my mental health.
What's next?
1.I'll start university and focus on studies; I still have a lot to catch up as I have been out of education for a while.
2. I'll focus on making my health betterboth mental and physical
3. I am dealing with procrastination rn, which I'll definitely improve.
4. I'll make friends in universitySuper excited for this
Advice to you:
Although I'm not in a great position to give people advice, I'll say this:
Focus on the present, learn from the past, make a plan for the future, take steps to achieve your plan and enjoy the journey.
As Lao Tzu said: 'Walk of a thousand miles begins with a single step'
All the best to all of you guys, maybe I'll make another update post later.
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Discussion (40M) I'm living in my dream location with the possibility of a dream apartment. The only problem... I can't secure employment and only have a month to do so. I've done everything conventional. Any Hail Mary options?
I am trying this for the second time in my life. The first was in my mid 20s.
I'm living in my dream location, but I need solid work to be able to secure a place to live in a month. I have enough savings to get me by until then, but I fear having to go back into a toxic situation. I have also seen my old apartment is opening up next month. It is a high cost but in a perfect spot. As someone who believes in the law of attraction, I'd love to complete that full circle moment.
I've done all the obvious stuff : applying on job boards, reaching out to hiring managers, asking the network of people around me, going to local city hall, etc. Nothing seems to work. I've had 7 interviews so far with no offers. Despite having work experience, I'm even getting rejected for positions at fast food places.
The only limitation I have is I don't drive. So, while I am in a major city, it is important for work to be closer to me.
I'm not down and out on myself. I know I can manifest this dream life. I just want to make sure I leave no stone overturned in me attempt to stay here and maybe secure that apartment unit.
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Discussion I (Male age 49) wasted my life, at an all time low, scared, very depressed
I haven’t had a job for 13 years. I’m in England and claiming government benefits/ welfare, to live. I cannot believe I’ve let this go on so long. I’m signed off and get a low level of sickness benefit for depression so I’m not required to look for work.
There have been times I’ve felt better but just didn’t look for work. I take responsibility for my life being as it is.
6 months ago i had a breakdown caused by things coming to a head after getting a bad flu. I started ruminating on things from my past and also struggle with ocd. I’ve had chronic insomnia since December. In February my mood got so bad I voluntarily went in a psychiatric unit for 3 weeks as I felt genuinely sui cidal. It didn’t help in there and my sleep was even worse
Most of my adult life has felt a struggle although I’ve had short periods where I got on my feet. I was married a short time and have an 18 year old son from that union who visits occasionally
Deep inside I’m a creative and enthusiastic person but that’s gone now and I’m a shell of a person. I’d be considered decent looking yet havent had a relationship for 10 years. No holiday for the same
I see a friend a couple times a week and my brother sometimes. I’ve adjusted to this crazy way of life but now it’s hitting me how out of control this is.
I honestly don’t know how to bounce back and feel I ’ve left it too late. My confidence is shot at regarding working or even volunteering
Life is very painful, I’m a complicated person with many issues around ocd/ intrusive thoughts, depression and insomnia and feeling bad over the past and constantly feeling guilt and shame . Childhood was dysfunctional too
I’ve tried different therapies,a short time on Ssris but they scare me with side effects. Maybe I should try them again ?
I did eat incredibly healthy a couple years ago and excersise most of the year, felt a bit better but stil didn’t look for work or volunteer. It’s summer and it usually lifts me but not this year. I’m dreading winter. Appetite is not good, missing meals
My mind is in pieces now, after my hospital experience and all it entailed plus the realisation of all these wasted years. I’m severely depressed, don’t sleep well and fear each day and feel I’m losing my mind . Hard to concentrate too.
I honestly can’t imagine anyone can bounce back from this. I hate myself and feel like I’m
a terrible person. The person I can be is gone. I honestly want to not exist now, I’m so tired of the struggle. I’m scared I will end up trying to exit this place. I’m out of options and I dread going in to that hospital again as I’ve felt like trying to get myself admitted but I know also it didn’t help last time, you get no help in there and are left to it, shocking really, staff come and go and you are just a number.
Not sure what the purpose of this post is or what anyone can do or say. Thanks for reading it all if you did.
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Text Anti-procrastination techniques I wish I knew at 21...
1. Set concrete goals: Instead of vague goal like "work on this report next week", set a concrete goal, such as "next week, starting Monday, work on this report everyday from 9 am to 11 am."
2. Break your work into small and manageable steps: If you need to write a paper, you can break it down into tasks such as choosing a topic, drafting an outline, and finding relevant sources.
3. Commit to starting with just a tiny first step: Decide to only work on your projects for 2 minutes at first.
4. Visualize your future self: Imagine yourself having to deal with negative consequences if you keep procrastinating.
5. Improve your work environment: By removing distractions e.g., by putting your phone in a different room or by switching to a better environment e.g., by studying in the library.
6. Reward yourself for making progress: Treat yourself to something nice if you manage to avoid procrastinating for a week.
7. Set intermediate milestones and deadlines for yourself: If a large project involves just one major deadline at the end, setting intermediate deadlines can help you plan ahead and be more accountable.
8. Schedule your work according to your productivity cycles: If you find it easy to concentrate on creative tasks in the morning, then you should schedule such tasks for that time period as much as possible.
Does anyone else have additional tips? Would love to hear what worked for you. Please add them to the comments so that the Reddit community can learn from it. Thanks!
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Text Motivational Quote 4
Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.
-Marie Curie
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Story My Thorny Journey into the IT Industry
TL;DR: Dropped out of college, moved to a new country, struggled with language and did odd jobs such as janitorial or cleaning work. Eventually landed an IT apprenticeship, thrived with mentorship, and now works as a system administrator. Despite challenges, values every step of the journey and strives for continuous learning and respect for all professions.
My path to IT was actually very unusual and somewhat unexpected. I studied foreign languages and philosophy, but in the end, I did not graduate due to some personal reasons. Something went wrong, and I increasingly questioned whether I even wanted to pursue that field and if I got any prospect with that profession. In the end, I quit.
I moved to a new country, german-speaking one. I wasn't fluent in German, but I did have some basic knowledge which proved to be very useful. But cultural and social shock hindered my integration into society. Moreover, lacking a specific occupation, experience or degree beyond high school made it nearly impossible for me to secure a good job. In all honesty, I couldn't claim proficiency in any particular skill. My education was primarily theoretical in high school and focused on languages / philosophy later in college. This period was my lowest point in life where I felt completely useless and started doubting myself.
The first job I had was cleaning buildings. I woke up every morning at 4:30 am, worked for about 3-4 hours, earning minimal money, but since I didn't have to pay for accommodation (I was living with my parents), it was enough for me at the time. In the afternoons, I attended a German language course. Having health insurance was important to me and finally getting out of a standstill was crucial. However, I constantly felt worthless, especially after so many years of schooling seemingly for nothing.
All my friends graduated from good colleges and have stable jobs, but what's going on with me? I moved to another country only to clean toilets. I didn't like to talk about it, and I actually avoided going to my homeland altogether because I felt embarrassed to talk with my friends and relatives about my new life here. I've been on dates where girls seemed to like me, up to the moment I say what I do for living. They would say things like, "Well, you've got to start somewhere; that's understandable." However, I could sense their enthusiasm and interest slowly fading. It used to discourage me at times, but nonetheless, I had a goal—to improve my German proficiency, earn some money, and somehow start a new career here.
A new opportunity arose unexpectedly after 5-6 months when the university where I was cleaning needed an additional janitor urgently to assist two older ones. Because I was rapidly improving my German language skills, the supervisor asked me to step in. Initially meant to be temporary during renovations, but I quickly adapted, befriended colleagues, and was performing well. This led to a full-time janitorial contract. Despite the job's challenges, including COVID-19-related downtime and busy days managing tasks like maintenance, repairs, and a lot of physically demanding jobs, I found satisfaction. It boosted my confidence and significantly improved my German, both formal and colloquial. I was satisfied, but I knew I wanted more than that.
After my contract expired, I decided to pursue further education here, confident in my German proficiency. I applied for apprenticeships in the IT and mechatronics industries. Initially aiming for mechatronics, I attended several job interviews but didn't secure a position. I waited patiently for responses while briefly working in a warehouse on forklifts and goods. It turned out to be a terrible experience. I often felt mistreated, but I feel it was quite common thing in such enviroments, especially if you're just a pawn there. You're just going to get treated like trash. I couldn't endure it for more than a month.
And then finally, after a long wait and starting to worry that I might never get a real opportunity, I
that.
I am trying to snap out of it, doing my best to seem motivated...I am trying to learn and stuff..And they all seem happy about me. No one said anything to me...But I am not happy with myself! I know I am capable of more.
By the time all of that was going on with my previous company, I also started listening to podcasts of people that "made it". They are all saying that you shouldn't work for someone else..that you should aim to have your own business and make yourself rich rather than making someone else rich..blah blah..but I got sucked in somehow.
Now I am like...well yea I should be working for myself..right?! I should work when I want to as much as I want to..The more time that I put in the more I should get out...This is making it even harder for me as it is another mental battle!
And no..I can't open my own business at all. I don't have enough knowledge in anything..It would go down in flames in a few weeks, I am sure.
I never had expectations of what this life should look like..what I would like to achieve and so on.. But I feel like there is more for me to earn. I don't know..
Does anyone have any advice on how to snap out of all that and get back to working hard and trying to make it that way? Any advice on how to learn to accept what you are doing, love it and try your best to improve on it? I feel kinda lost..
Thanks.
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Article Want high motivation levels? Manage your energy
It took me a long time to understand this. My motivation levels are highly correlated to my energy levels. But I never paid attention to my energy levels. Instead I thought that I was just lacking motivation. But once I had the realization, I started trying to manage my energy better.
Here are some energy management tips that I discovered:
Tune in to your energy levels (Most important)
- Most of us are not in tune with our energy levels until we are exhausted.
- Be aware of your energy throughout the day.
Identify your Rhythm
- Work at your unique rhythm
- This includes pace of work and scheduling
Don't be in a Rush
- We waste a lot of energy trying to get to the finish line
- It’s like sitting in a car during a traffic jam and willing it to move forward
- It's inefficient and pointless
Plug Energy Leaks
- Watch for behaviors and people that sap your energy
- Example: emotions like anger, jealousy, over-excitement etc.
Work doesn't sap our energy. It is our poor energy management habits.
Learn to manage your energy better today and thrive!
I wrote more about this in my blog: https://paripurna.me/how-to-work-without-getting-exhausted/
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Discussion Self-Help Books: Self-Help or Self-Sabotage?
In the quest for personal growth, the allure of self-help books is undeniable. But are they truly effective, or is there a better path to self-improvement?
To start unpacking this, let’s start by outlining a broad process by which genuine – sustainable – personal growth occurs:
· Feeling a degree of discontentment
· Choosing to take action on pursuing change
· Exposure to new content (e.g. self-help book)
· New content needs to be accepted
· New content needs to be congruent with existing belief & value system
· New content must avoid triggering pre-existing limiting beliefs
· Any issues arising thus far are resolved
· New content translates through to new skills / beliefs driving new behaviours
· New behaviours are accepted in person’s environment
· New behaviours achieve positive outcomes without triggering unintended / undesirable outcomes.
· New behaviours become normalised
So, where the advice acknowledges this growth process and guides you through each step there is a reasonable chance of enjoying some beneficial changes.
Not all self-help books are created equal. Beware of titles promising quick & easy fixes and one-size-fits-all solutions. So many self-help books fall in to low value categories:
· You can do or acquire anything you want – just go for it
· Just follow this magic formula and you are sure to become super-human
· This is how I did it – just copy me: if I can do it, anyone can
· Just believe enough and it will happen
· I met a mystic one day and here’s the secret wisdom they told me - and only me! – for reasons never really explained
Remember that the industry behind this so called ‘self-help’ shares a commonality with the fad diet industry: they sell hope but need to make sure the products themselves deliver only – at best – limited results. Otherwise, there would be no need for the next fad which will fuel next years’ profits.
Caveat Emptor.
OK – so what is the way forward here?
There is an additional ‘self-help’ genre that I find are more credible: their general approach is to outline frameworks for you to consider and then work on applying these to your own context.
Examples would include considerations of the PERMA model - Alan Carr from Dublin University has published the best I have found so far. Another is the Covey foundation’s Seven Habits: albeit in a way that I, personally, find very 1980’s Corporate American - I hear the ‘Dallas’ theme-tune whenever I think about it!
So, how do we get to some form of conclusion?
Reflect on the sustainable change process outlined above – tweak it until it makes sense for you in your present situation.
Consider the self-help books you have read – which genres do they fit in to? Have you found others?
Which have resonated with you – and why?
Which have left you cold – and why?
Notice your responses to the content you’re reading: That sounds good, but (what is the ‘but’?) or that’s ok for other, but (what differentiates between you and those ‘others’?) or if only it was as easy as that ect?
What are your responses telling you?
What limiting beliefs are they pointing to? More often than not, limiting beliefs can be derived back to ‘I’m not good enough’ and / or ‘I’m not worthy enough.’
Or is there a block somewhere? in your environment, your behaviour, your capabilities, your beliefs, your values, your sense of self.
Helping their clients work through such issues is every-day work for solution focused therapists. Supporting clients in developing their sense of agency sits at the heart of what we do. Investing in a few sessions can give you access to years of experience, a whole new toolbox, and a personalised approach to you building your own platform on which you can manage and build your own wellbeing for the rest of your life.
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Question for True Crime fans: Have you ever given up watching True Crime TV/Videos to help you become more motivated in life? Discussion
I’ve been wrestling with a lot of depression recently, and I feel a lot of factors are involved - but one one of those is also my consumption of True Crime videos online.
While I’m fascinated by the mystery and motivations of crazies, I’m also begining to believe it’s paying a toll on my overall lifestyle. One of those “You surround yourself with failure, you will fail” kinda things. Like - I’m finding myself very pessimistic and cynical and very anxiety-filled recently, and part of me is believing my consumption of True Crime content is doing that.
So, my question to any of you out there - have you been here and/or kicked the habit of watching True Crime? Also, if you have - have you noticed any effects for the better
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Discussion Has anyone lost everything and then built a new life? How did you overcome your losses to get back up?
I’m in the process of losing everything due to a combination of bad decisions (financial, housing), difficult circumstances (health, employment), and the regrettable actions of others (family). I’m also experiencing loneliness.
I have a heart to fight for what I can and build anew what I cannot. But the road immediately ahead is very bleak and am looking for inspiration from others who may have lost it all, or felt like they were going to lose it all.
All replies welcome. Maybe in particular to the following questions:
What’s your story? How did you overcome? Do you have any advice for someone in the darkest part of their struggle?
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[Discussion] but, how to stay motivated, how do you maintain motivation when it seems nothing is going your way? Send stories of perseverance.
# How did you remain motivated even when it felt like you had no movement?
The downward spiral is strong. I'm getting back on the horse. This feels like a long detour. I'm on welbutrin. I do yoga everyday. The reserves of reward I get from these routines are shot, striving towards new career goals, meeting new people, and trying new things isn't enough sometimes. I do love myself but sometimes i revert to quick avoidance, procrastination, and adhd swings/tendencies. Its hard to see a finish line. Like my efforts aren't amounting. I'm starving for connection so i relapse into recreation alone, or old ways to connect that aren't reliable (so it feels like a failure), I go chronically online, and spend time on social media. I try not to be mad at myself cuz I think it comes from starving socially and as a human. I try to entertain myself cuz i feel no motion, for things not panning out. I'm sure there is some self-sabotage at play. I try to date and meet men, by going outside and doing stuff, but it hasn't panned out. I haven't gone on a date since April. I fall into the scroll circuitry for some quick fix escape or connection. Someimtes if one part of my life picks up it makes the other pieces easier to put together. Sometimes it feels like no one cares and the culture around me disturbs me. Mostly scared cuz the more I look for work and fulfillment, i feels like i am just getting started.
How do you fall back in love with your morning routine? Yourself? Did you persevere?
I tried to break-down what I could change and work on. And things I could try to fix.
Things I'll try:
waking up earlier, sleeping earlier. sleep procrastination is real, as a creative person who seems to let all of their issues and clarity come after a day to resolve
creating a visual aid, i almost forget who I am or what track i'm on when i'm escaping, when the same same but different hits.
planning, if i'm not meeting men and friends by wondering and being in the city, i need to go to networking events, club meetings, what have you.
triggers:
* workout routine not hitting
* new interest in learning food and wine, no structure
* taking the same commutes
* the heat, jump starts my energy but now it feels a bit like winter but with heat
* no metrics for progress
-self awareness
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Discussion I don't want to use any drugs (illegal nor legal), but I want to experience at least some of the effects of amphetamine or cocaine. How can I achieve this?
Special breathing methods? Heavy exercise? Some sexual practices? Different sleep cycles or methods?
I know that the human body has the ability to generate these feelings on its own. Falling in love does not differ from cocaine for example. There is this thing called Runner's High.
But what else could I do to get those effects?
I want to feel this mania, happiness and the drive to do anything and be motivated. I want to feel like the king of kings and to rule my life.
But instead, I feel tired and sleepy all the time, not motivated to do anything.
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Discussion I have no motivation to do the things on which my life literally depends.
I've came to live in a foreign country like 3 months ago, in a remote place where my grandfather used to live and now he passed away.
I live alone, I have no social life and only leave the house for grocery purchases. I dont have a car so its very hard to move around. Buses comes by every 1 hour and there isnt even bus stop schedules to make things worse .
I dont feel happy living here as I'm a city guy.
I want to develop an online freelancing career, something which I consider my life depends on but I just cant get myself to do the necessary work to move forward.
It feels TOO overwhelming to even get started let alone do at least a few small things to move forward. And the fact that I have to achieve a certain milestone during a set period of time is making my anxiety much worse.
From the moment I wake up I feel this gnawing feeling of hopelessness,, anxiety and loneliness.
Deep down I'm desperate for help. But I'm struggling to ask for it.
How could I motivate myself to at least get a few things done to move foward?
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