I’m an addict discussion
I need help - I’m an addict
I need help - I’m an addict
Hi everyone. Iv always struggled with addiction - typically I get off one thing by using another and the cycle just continues
Recently, Iv been in a really really really dark place - and unfortunately I have been using Opiates as a way to escape. Pressed M30’s to be exact.
I have been using on avg 2-4 pills a day (smoked) for about 2 months maybe 2.5 idk anymore….
Luckily it hasn’t caused any issues at work, I still get my shit done, I more or less can get through the day, but once I’m alone at home I use.
I’m utterly disgusted with my self - I want to be normal. But I’m terrified of withdrawl. Like truly terrified - the stories I read keep me from making the jump, but I know it’s somthing I need to do.
But the problem I’m facing is I can’t not work for 2-3 months trying to get clean. I can take off a week, hell maybe even two but a long period of time and I’ll likely lose my career and I’m on track to become VP which would change my life dramatically.
So tell me everyone, how screwed am I? Did I screw my life up to the point of no return? I’m battling with my mind and almost at a point of saying fuck it, I’ll just use for life or until I die to avoid losing everything Iv worked for.
I need advise. I have no family - everyone is dead.
I need help :(
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Discussion What is the one thing you learned from your father you are the most proud of?
In my early childhood, my father told me, "We talk to each other eye to eye. Don't do anything that will make you shy away from talking eye to eye." It's the most important thing I learned from my father, and it makes me the most proud of.
What's your?
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story It’s Not Over…
From 14, I thought my life was over. I was extremely depressed, anxious, sick, injured and fucked up for many years. I spent more days in bed and in hospitals than I can remember. There was even times when I nearly lost it all. I failed many years of school and was asked to leave once I turned 17. I was just another typical case of someone who had the odds stacked high up against them, with no clue how the fuck to escape.
At 21, I can proudly say that I’m doing good. I’m happy with where I am and how everything has turned out.
We only get 1 life. I almost gave up on mine. It does get better. Don’t give up. Push forward.
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Discussion overwhelmed and demoralized by uni studies and being a SAHD
I'm currently doing a double degree of secondary education and physics. I'm a mature age student in my 40s and had a career in the US that I'm now getting a pension for and moved to Australia to be closer to the wife's family. All of my classes seem to be really sequential in prerequisites and I failed an exam that I got to take for the first time during the supplementary exam period. I can retake it in September, but this sets me back by a year. All of my peer students just seem to get it and I'm really struggling. I'm kind of shitting my pants over my next math class because of how bad I've struggled in the previous ones and also why I'm doing so bad in physics. I honestly don't know how to keep up with my studies, maintain the household & not let my kids down. My wife recently got mad because of this setback and I found out she's been projecting out when I'll be able to actually start working based on the classes I have left (I can start being a substitute/casual after 75% of my degree is done). We live in the outskirts of Sydney, so with my pension and her income, we still can't afford to buy a house yet until I start working & living on my in-laws place is... taxing. I'm super overwhelmed and while I know what resources there are, I'm just too paralyzed to do anything about it and don't know how to get out of the situation.
I really want to teach high school physics. I had my first practice of teaching and it was wonderful. It kills me that I need to get a degree and learn things that are orders of magnitude more than what I would teach to these guys and because I'm too thick to understand it, it looks like I won't be able to do it.
How do I get out of this funk and get self motivated?
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Remember, you are only a manDiscussion
Congratulations, you just became the head of department of Quality Management” — celebrated our team members with their new H.O.D, little did they know, the person who they loved the most would turn their lives to hell.
Everyone loves a story where an ordinary person turns into a successful business tycoon, it's an eye candy for writers. I was lucky enough to see this with my own eyes, my friend and former college was promoted to being a head of Quality Management Department and it was an occasion to celebrate.
His values and ethics were good enough, not great or anything out of the ordinary, it was the sudden demand in our department due to former HOD quitting the job that a sudden need of a leader was felt. Him being the most experienced person led him to being naturally elected for leading our department.
We were all happy and congratulated him for his appraisal, we thought he is a person who has been promoted from ground up, slogging his days of working from a lower post to a head of department, so he would know the pain points of his people, he would empathize with them, understand them and Actually manage them.
But nothing was far from the truth
The moment he became the lead, the started ordering people around, stated strict deadlines, which were very shortsighted, instilling fear in the team for not meeting them. He thought he was leading people, when infact he was burdening them with unnecessary work timelines and deadlines
He thought him being the leader all of a sudden meant power and money, treating people like he wanted to was a part of the job, it’s like he had an invisible being on this shoulder, whispering to him that he was invincible, unmovable from his current post.
Naturally, this led to people underperforming and quitting the squads, the overall morale was down, and people were in fear of their own job, so they started poking holes in other people to look good in the eyes of the leader, as they say, like the leader, like the team
In response there was an internal audit, where an anonymous survey was taken, after reading the response, the upper management decided to fire him and replace him with someone else, someone better
This gave me some important lessons for life, whenever life gives you something special, don’t ruin it by giving your ego the control of your life. Whenever you commit a mistake, show some humility, humility is being honest about your weakness, not bowing your head down for the show
Someone once said “People have two reasons for doing anything — a good reason and the real reason”
Make sure your real reason aligns with your good reason, the more these two are close, the more chances of success you have.
Once you get these basic things right, you are set in your path to success, because once the sun’s rays are focused on a dot it’s then the paper burns.
Treat people with respect, humility and honor. People would die to work for you, you need to understand people are still like kids from inside, a little appreciation, a little attention like remembering someone’s name or their vacation, a little genuine connection like asking about their health, a little bit respect like including them in conversations will payout a huge dividend at the end, trust me, I have tried these things and have done better than the MBA’s from big universities who only care about KPI’s.
KPI’s will be met, once we care about our people.
Remember, we are all humans, lets treat each other like one.
I’m an international student and would love your support, small or big, matters the same to me, you can buy me a coffee if you like my content and subscribe to my newsletter if you want weekly mail about discipline, motivation and mental system to follow for success
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Meta Fascinating how this subreddit manages to make me even less motivated than I already am.
I don't actively look for this subreddit per se, sometimes a post gets suggested and I check it out. But woah boy, most people have zero idea what "getting motivated" means. Most replies I see can be boiled down to "just do it", and reading that I'm reminded "Oh yea, there are people who can just do it, they just magically forgot to or idk".
Guys. Having a lack of motivation literally means that you can't "just do it". It's a mental obstacle that screams at you whenever you try to do something unpleasant that would benefit your life. I seriously doubt that most of the people who comment here giving out "motivational advice" ever truly struggled with finding motivation. If you succeeded, it largely points out that you did, in fact, have ample motivation to do it. Now, you can either describe how you managed to garner that motivation, or most probably you always had the necessary willpower, you just didn't put it to work.
If your start your advice with "Do <activity>", I'm talking to you. You missed the first, very crucial step, which is succeeding in forcing yourself to do it, despite the fact that you really, really don't want to. If you can do that easily, I'm happy for you. You're also on the wrong subreddit.
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Discussion How to fix yourself I you're a middle aged loser?
Is there really any hope for a loser? How do you solve your career problems? Mental problems? Emotional problems ? Relational problems? Middle aged and completely lost
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My life’s kinda boring, I don’t have a purpose DISCUSSION
I’m currently 15 and I think I’ve only just realised why my life is so boring. It’s not that it’s uneventful in the sense that I don’t have a social life or enjoy my time doing some things. But in school I just draw in my book instead of doing work because I can just listen while drawing then do the test last minute for a C. I have tried before actually doing book work and listening then taking my test seriously which lands me an A but I don’t wanna put in that extra effort for no reason other that some better credit and praise. I feel like my reason for taking nothing seriously is that I have no purpose. Nothing to work towards to or strive for I have no idea what I want to do with my future and no idea what job I want to pursue. And it’s my biggest fear to get out of highschool then get some random job so that I can pay for bills since I’m an “adult” then end up doing that same shitty filler job I hate until I’m old enough to retire. How do I find my purpose? How do I figure the career I want to work towards? I need an ambition to get my life back on track.
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Discussion How do I put in 100% when I feel taken advantage of?
Let's keep it short and to the facts instead of talking about my feelings.
In 2020, I switched careers in tech to an adjacent role due to burnout from travel. I took a 10% pay cut. I only lasted in the first role for just 1 year.
2021, I find a new role, but not as prestigious of a company. Same base pay as the previous company. I give it 100%, however the company has much bigger problems that I, as an individual contributor can solve. I stay 18 months.
Next I end up at a startup. $40k pay increase, which is great. I love everything about the job and I'm trying. However, the company can't raise funding and I get laid off.
Now I'm working for another startup. Expectations are sky high, hire/fire mentality, overall pretty brutal work culture. However, my base pay is the same as it was in 2020 in real terms, nevermind the purchasing power of it being significantly less due to inflation. They are taking advantage of the economic situation.
A lot of days I feel really unmotivated, especially reading some of the topics in chubbyFIRE and fatFIRE as those are my aspirations. I read about people having household incomes of $500k-$1MM a year, and it's like duh, on that income it's really easy to save up a nest egg of a few million.
I'd like to advance in my career and work for a good company. How can I do that when I feel taken advantage of at work, yet I need experience and a promotion at a successful company before I can really get ahead? I'm really struggling with this, so any advice is appreciated.
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discussion what does the conversation with yourself sound like, when you're looking for motivation to work out?
A bit of context. I'm 37(f), and after decades of working through trauma, insecurity, weightloss resistance, and a horrible relationship with my body, I've finally made some headway. In the past year, I got weightloss surgery, I'm eating right, making great choices for a healthy work/life balance, etc. My daughter and husband are both motivators, as well as the feeling that I owe it to my former self to show her she was worth the effort all along. I want to be more healthy and energetic so that I can feel more alive. At my age, I feel my focus is not on weightloss anymore, it's more about being healthy. I don't have a goal-weight. And I think it's a good mindset.
But when it comes to exercise, I really struggle. It's absolutely something that I want to do regularly, but even when I merely entertain the thought of exercise, my body responds by freezing on the spot, like it's screaming "don't do it!!"
After much deliberation, I joined a (expensive) fitness programme two weeks ago and I've been going to the gym three times a week before work. It's in a busy area, it takes half an hour to find parking (I need my car because I have to go to work afterwards, pick up my daughter from school, and run a ton of errands). I got ticketed on my first day, and last week a truck scraped by my car while i was at the gym and i returned to find the entire passenger side damaged with the mirror missing. I was in tears, it was a hit and run and nobody witnessed it so I have to get it fixed myself. It happened minutes after I paid for a 6 month gym membership and money's been tight as it is. It's been really discouraging. But I'm trying not to let it get in the way, because once I'm at the gym the people are really nice and it gets me back on track.
Exercise at home is even more difficult. I can't bring myself to do it. I have a treadmill and dumbbells, but I don't use them. I want to start doing at least some cardio every morning.
So my question is, what have you said to yourself to successfully get your ass out of bed, off your phone, and onto a fitness routine, back when you were still at the beginning of your journey?
Thanks for reading all this
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tool pep talks for literally anything
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Pep talks for literally anything. No more generic YouTube videos!
I just made some big updates to my ai pep talk app. You can now choose from different pep talk styles depending on how you are feeling, the ui looks even nicer, and now there are inspirational reminder notifications :) lots more updates in the works… feel free to give me any feedback or leave a review if you like it!
We are currently working on integrating Apple health and google calender among other data sources to see if you can automate pep talk creation for when you need it most (when your tired before a presentation etc.!)
If anyone wants a personalized pep talk without downloading the app comment what you need it for and I’ll send it your way :)
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Discussion Things have completely fallen apart
My whole life has pretty much fallen apart. Early 30s... Now what.. How does it change. No jobs available... no friends... Old parents... I fucked everything up
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discussion What do you think about this?
# This world drowns in chaos, tasks, and responsibilities. It's the ultimate trap for overwhelm, anxiety, and addiction.
# My mission is to equip young professionals with tools to outplay procrastination. I believe everyone should be able to chase their dreams.
Do you see harmony in these words? What would you write differently?
I appreciate your feedback!
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[Image] When balance is on point ,work and life are the same ,so why not call your job just your favourite hobby ?
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Mindfulness, creativity and habits – How to excel at everything you doDiscussion
Believe it or not you are an artist, even you don’t paint, sing, compose or dance, the way you live your life is a form of art itself
Society has told us to cram so much information daily, to make sense of everything we are observing and to make connections within them that sometimes we forget about the raw beauty of daily processes and events.
We generally receive some information from the Source- it can anything, a conversation a sunset or a reading a newspaper or even observing traffic, and then we proceed to link it with the information that is already there in our mind, this process forms an opinion about the world we perceive, we take some information inside or leave it outside depending on our filter that we set.
Artists don’t have this filter, they don’t think that if a bird is flying then it must be searching for food or it must be running away from a predator or a million other things, they remain in an abstract state of mind, they observe processes without any judgement, without any filter – this is what sparks their creativity
To improve our habit of viewing with such a perspective we should include such practices in our daily schedule, what I personally do is stated below
1) When I wake up, I take three deep breaths, observe my state of mind, Am I tired? Am I full of energy? Is my body feeling good? This is generally for around 2-3 mins just out of bed
2) I try to eat my food by observing it, slowly chewing each bite, fully relishing each bite that I’m taking
3) Sometimes when I’m sitting in a park, I just observe the grass, feel the sun or watch the birds
The motive is to build a muscle in our psyche to tune into and out whenever we want, on any task on any case
If you do this everyday, my friend, you’re basically meditating, observing your thoughts and the world without interfering with them, this is mindfulness in a nutshell
If you want a detailed schedule for my mindfulness practice do let me know, I have a free 7 week program in my bio
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Discussion I'm not the person that I've wanted myself to be. So where do I go next?
For years I've wanted to be a creative/artist. I've tried different artforms and outlets of creativity, and I have a particular interest in the art of filmmaking. But I've found that I simply don't have a creative enough mind to be an artist. For years I thought this could be my path, but now I reconsider. I don't really know what other people do to satisfy themselves other than by trying to express creativity. So what do I do next? What else can I explore to bring some kind of satisfaction to my life?
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[Discussion] 33M Started habit building few months ago, Need some guidance
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Discussion 24M, wasted the last 6 years of my life isolating myself in my room, in need of advice.
I’m 24M, living in a third world country, never felt like I belonged, might be due to autism(undiagnosed), I was a victim of vicious harassment from age 12-14, which left me with deep insecurities up until my late teens. Was always a loner, though I do not enjoy it, after high school I was assigned to study biology at university because of my poor results on the baccalaureate exam(Essentially a death sentence, no jobs available), refused to go through with it out of spite, now I’m as isolated as can be, went to multiple therapists without any success, I am not a lazy person although I have incredible difficulty focusing, I would say I am moderately intelligent but I’m always unable to sit down and stay in place to do any work. Is it too late for me to turn my life around ? If anyone found themselves in a similar situation and came out the other end, I’d love to know how I can accomplish the same thing, thanks in advance.
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Discussion 28 and in need of some guidance
I don’t one where to go from here
I am 28, I have 2.5 years of experience in corporate and 2.5 years I worked as a freelancer in tech by starting my own company, most places are not considering that as an experience.
I just want to settle down man, I want to earn good money and I come from a settled family and so can spend some money on my education too, I am ready to work hard but everything seems doomed in tech and the starting salaries seem so low in other fields that I don’t know how I’ll sustain I can’t keep asking money from my parents if they don’t work out.
Do you guys think an MBA is a good answer, I’m so confused and I feel so tired, is there a career counsellor you guys know that I can speak to.
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[video] Jackie Quinones discusses the importance of talking about mental health and mental illness and how it's crucial to reduce the stigma surrounding these issues
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Discussion I was feeling like weeks were slipping away
It’s wild how we start the day pumped to tackle everything, but then it’s 10 PM and you’re like, “What the heck did I even do today?” Been there more times than I’d like to admit.
I used to blame myself—thought I was just lazy or maybe I sucked at time management. But I realized it wasn’t about pushing harder; it was about understanding where my time actually went. Started really looking into what eats up my day and found some surprising habits (like that “quick” TikTok dive that lasts 2 hours).
Changed a few things around:
1) Scheduled tasks in my calendar, with actual deadlines.
2) Scheduled ‘me’ time to just think or meditate.
3) Cut down screen time drastically—disabled notifications and finally deleted apps
It’s not a magic fix, but setting tasks for fixed times helped me see where my hours go and gives hard accountability to get back on track. Does anyone else track their day this way (without being required to)? What methods or tools have you found effective? Would love to hear your strategies or struggles!
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discussionWhy am I feeling less confident in my ability to dress attractively?
I'm a 40 yo male and single. Over the years, my appearance has gone down the drain. I used to be confident in wearing slim-fit shirts to reveal my physique. But today I feel more shielded when I wear comfortable tops such as relaxed/oversized shirts something I was against wearing before. As much as I try to get back on feet in dressing attractive to look more mature, deep down inside rejects it, and if I force myself to out there a mechanism defense triggers and my confidence tumbles down. If there’s something wrong with me?
I don't even have any friends who are into fashion/stylish that I could lean towards for motivation though
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Discussion How not to feel intense regret and left behind ?
Feeling constant regret and gloom.
I'm currently working at a top tech company at a lower-mid level in Europe, while many of my peers who graduated with me have advanced to much higher positions at top tech firms or other companies earning almost twice as me. Despite having 10 years of work experience, I haven't found a clear career path, resulting in five different job roles at 4 different companies and no vertical growth.
The challenge I face is lacking the skills for the jobs I aspire to do ( where my graduation peers are already are ) and then not excelling in my current role, which demands strong communication skills. Coming from a non-native background, I struggle with the local language and communication skills compared to my local European colleagues.
I've made some poor career decisions, such as hastily accepting roles at this top tech Company that I now find almost impossible to leave, which seems to have permanently negatively impacted my career progression. I also regret not moving to North America, which might have leveled the playing field by removing the local language barrier.
Now, I'm one of the oldest team members and the only one without a promotion in the last five years, while others typically get promoted within two years. This lack of progression is partly due to my not researching the role thoroughly before accepting it.
I'm tired of feeling constant regret and like I'm falling behind. Life feels so gloomy. I constantly feel like being lost and dumb.
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Discussion lost in life with no goal
I'm 24 and I'm lost. I don't know what i want in life, what career i want, what job I'd like to do.
I've tried: 3D modeling, animation, video editing , streaming,drawing, photography, music, game development and programming.
In all of those I'd quickly get frustrated, feel dumb and like I'll never understand it and give up. None felt like something i really want to commit to and push towards, set it as my goal. I even tried a year in a software development course and feel like I've learned nothing and like I'm too dumb for it. I wanted to do it for the money but as I've read more it seems like, just like the creative jobs, you need to be the "best of the best".
That lead me to feeling extremely lost. Everything I've tried i struggled with. I struggle with basic things like returning change, basic maths, communication and giving directions, explaining things, grammar etc. I even struggle communicating in my native language now. I struggle with my own identity too. I'm unemployed but worried if I just "find whatever job" that I'll get comfortable with that, because it happened before. I'd just do my job and then play games when i get home to distract myself from how miserable i felt.
I need something, i know, I've read posts, a goal to work towards but i literally haven't got a clue. I don't want to pick something and regret it later, that already happened with my high school, a trade school for a "media technician" a trade that doesn't exist and we were taught nothing.
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[Discussion] Can I achieve this kind of body if I’m currently obese?
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[Image] If he can do it with 40% lungs capacity, then what about us?
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discussion will working on your goals no matter how hard it is just make you instantly confident??
I'm lacking so much confidence and feels like I'm just allowing negative thoughts and doubts get to me. I'm starting to realize I've gotten very slow and mentally exhausted. I'm feeling physically lethargic. I don't know why this keeps happening. I think I'm somewhat scared and confused to start so I'm avoiding working on my goals. I also feel scared and overwhelmed. But I'm just wondering how do people come out of this phase. Do they just say f it and start.
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Text Story time from an accident I witnessed yesterday
I don't know if this belongs in r/GetMotivated or if it's even motivating, but I need to get this off my chest. I'm still a bit shaken even though the incident was yesterday, so here goes...
I was taking a walk around the neighborhood where my husband and I are housesitting and I heard a scream. A few feet in front of me, a woman (who I found out is 57) fell off her scooter. (We have pretty much the same Ninebot scooter, and I had a similar accident last year where I flipped over on a train track.)
She had a helmet on and there were no cars behind her (thank God), but she was bleeding down her arm and she couldn't move her legs. I was the third person to get there to check up on her. She was a bit disoriented, but at least she was conscious.
We asked someone nearby to call 911 as we comforted her and told her everything was going to be okay.
I held onto her glasses and watch that went flying during her fall and we called a family member to come get her scooter as we waited for the ambulance to come and take her to the hospital. (The police in Toronto are too freaking slow at picking up and responding, so the ambulance took a while.)
When the police and medics finally arrived, I stayed beside her scooter (because mine was stolen last year and these Ninebots are getting stolen left, right, and center). A member of her church came to get her scooter, and she was escorted to the ambulance.
Just standing there watching this incident unfold before my eyes made me realize even more than I already do that life can escape us at any moment. You could do all the right things in life, but then get hit by a car walking out the front door (knock on wood).
Don't take life for granted. As cliché as it sounds, you only live once, so be safe and go make the most of this short existence that we have. Tomorrow's not guaranteed to anybody.
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