Discussion Will I make it?
Will I make it? What kind of question is that? What do you mean, will I make it? I don’t have a crystal ball to see the future—it’s impossible to know.
But is that really true?
If I wanted to get to Birmingham, I’m pretty sure I’d know I could make it. Buy a ticket, go to the airport, don’t miss the flight. Simple enough, right? So if I’m confident I can make it to Birmingham, why do I think it’s impossible to achieve something else?
Well... that’s because you already know how to get to Birmingham.
Wait, what are you getting at?
It seems like whether I make it or not has less to do with some unpredictable future and more to do with what I already know. If I know how to do something, chances are I’ll be able to make it happen, right?
Yeah, I suppose so. If you know what you need and how to get it, chances are you’ll make it.
That sounds better than I won’t make it, doesn’t it?
PS: These thoughts belong to anyone who wants them. Give your mind thoughts that push you forward. Try to transform those powerless thoughts like I’ll never make it!
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Text You're not lazy, unmotivated, or undisciplined. You procrastinate because...
If I could only share one lesson with the world, it would be this.
Procrastination is an emotional problem.
You don’t put things off because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or lack discipline.
We put things off because it’s the easiest way to cope with the negative feelings caused by a daunting task. And one of the most common obstacles we face is fear. So, here’s why fear could be holding you back - and some actionable steps you can take to overcome it.
1. Name your fear
There could be many reasons why fear is limiting your productivity. Perhaps you’re scared of getting something wrong in front of your new boss, so you just ignore the task completely. Maybe you’re confused about where to begin.
You could even be scared of success - what if my new business takes off and my life changes completely? Whatever your situation, first you need to work out exactly what it is that’s holding you back.
2) Reduce your fear
Easier said than done, right? When we’re scared, we tend to jump to the worst possible conclusions. This is called catastrophising - what if I make a mistake and lose my job? What if I fail this exam and my life is ruined?
Instead of letting your mind come up with all sorts of disasters, you need to try to refocus your thoughts in reality.
I like to ask myself this: Will it matter in ten minutes? In ten weeks? In ten years?
If you really fail an exam, you might feel pretty rubbish for a while. But in ten weeks time you’ll have studied more and worked with your teachers and you’ll be feeling a lot more confident, ready for a resit. And in ten years time you’ll barely remember that you failed at all.
3) Overcome your fear
One of the best ways to overcome your fears is to increase your confidence. One of my favorite methods for doing this is called The Batman Effect.
Basically, you need to imagine yourself as someone else - someone you admire, who’s brave, confident, and capable.
Perhaps you picture yourself to be a famous writer, or your favorite singer, or a billionaire CEO.
How would they feel about the job at hand? They’d tackle it head on, and feel good too. When you sit down to a daunting task, you’re not doing it, it’s your superpowered alter ego.
Don’t let fear hold you back from doing the things that matter the most to you.
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Discussion Me vs. My Tongue
I'm a 30-year-old guy, and right now I have a lot of financial problems. Even though I'm broke, when I think about Friday night, I imagine myself eating fried rice while watching a movie. I keep asking myself, why can't I just stop? Like the guys in movies—they just stop all their bad habits and achieve greatness. I want to be like them. How can I be like them?
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Learn to EMBRACE your enemies discussion
Who hasn’t felt it?
That bittersweet pain of watching your enemies win in your field. Whether it’s relationships, work, or hobbies - seeing them succeed where you want to shine can seriously knock the wind out of your sails.
I still remember this one ex who left me for someone else. I knew the guy, and I knew he had something I couldn’t give her… yet.
It wasn’t about looks or cash - nope, it was something way deeper.
I was crushed for three whole weeks, until someone gave me a reality check that completely changed how I looked at failure:
"Kevin, even tho it hurts, you’ve gotta embrace your enemies. They’re showing you your blind spots - the stuff you’re missing."
At first, I was like, What am I supposed to do with that? But she kept going.
"If you’re always marginalize your enemies character and efforts, you’ll miss key opportunities to level up. Look at any successful company - they all study their competitors. They learn from them, then outplay them. So, when a new 'enemy' arises in your life, be smart. Don’t write them off - study them. Figure out what they’re doing right, and learn from it."
"In the long run, you won’t be gaining enemies - you’ll be collecting teachers."
What do you think about this way of thinking?
K
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Text Procrastination isn't a lack of discipline
If you struggle with procrastination, you need to understand what's causing it and how to overcome it. Procrastination isn't a lack of discipline. You are 100% disciplined to your current behavior. Procrastination is a freeze response, caused by a fear signal.
Fear signal is released when the stress response system in your brain is activated. The stress response system is activated when one or both things happen:
1. When the subconscious mind recognizes a potential pain or danger that can happen as a result of performing the task.
2. When the subconscious mind sees the task as a waste of energy (outside of the comfort zone, not a habitual pattern).
Procrastination is a protection mechanism, and also an energy conservation mechanism. You shouldn't try to change the effect (procrastination), you should change what's causing it. The root of the problem. There are multiple causes to it, and therefore multiple solutions.
Motivation isn't the cause of the problem, it is an effect. This is how the brain tricks you into not wanting to perform the task. When the stress response system is activated, the motivation circuits in your brain significantly decrease.
This is one of the brain's way to stop you from performing the task. You cannot always have motivation, it's not something you can control directly like a button. You can affect it indirectly and learn how to be motivated more frequently and even act without it.
So:
You are not lazy.
Watching motivational videos will not fix the problem.
Trying to change your behavior with will power isn't effective, since your subconscious controls about 95% of your behavior.
Rewiring your subconscious mind is the answer.
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Text Urgent Advice Needed - Lack of fire, ambition, given up but entitlement feeling
This is the first time I am trying to pen down what has happened to me. I am 31 F, a lawyer practising in a top-tier place in a capital of my country. Until 2022 -2023 I was very motivated to prove myself, do something, get better, make parents proud, earn money etc.
I was in my home country till 2021 beginning and went for my masters abroad. I have been working since 2016. I was excellent with my work and used to put long hours (12 hours minimum every day for 7 days of the week). No one complained about my work - bosses loved me, as did clients. Health wasn’t great - but who cared - I am great at what I do - this was my thought process. All I wanted was to prove myself- that I am good enough. Like health, Relationships took a back seat - always.
Then when I went for my masters I realised i am older and more experienced than most and took it easy the first semester but after getting low marks got back on the ground and worked really hard to improve my GPA and get a job and succeeded in both. Getting a job there was extremely challenging but I still did it.
At the end of 2021 I met the love of my life and somewhere during this time - i became very lackadaisical. Gave up on health, career etc. He became my everything. I was okay to have a less strenuous job to spend more time with him. He became my goal. First time I was in love, and vulnerable to a lover.
He unexpectedly broke up with in 2022 (end) and thus began my downwards spiral. I was nearly suicidal and couldn’t do work: as I was either having panic attacks or having death thoughts.
It was unsustainable for me to stay abroad far from home and I came back to my home country in 2023 May. Since I have come back I realised it was a mistake to come back as I no longer liked the way of working here. Hate the culture, the long hours, etc. i did get a job in a top-tier firm but was underperforming. I was also unmotivated and didn’t care that I was underperforming.
I left the job to focus on passing the bar in my Master’s country to go back there. I just didn’t have that level of concentration anymore, though I tried hard and spent so much money! Needless to say, I failed the bar.
I joined back the job I had before leaving for masters (which is also tier 1) and my old colleagues and boss keep on telling me - I have become unreliable, very bad at what I do, don’t come on time, do bad jobs, and my demeanour doesn’t exude confidence anymore- to the extent: i have been kept at that job as pity (and my salary has been reduced to that of a new joinee), and the new people are always looking at me with hate, pity and in a patronizing manner.
This has been pointed out to me many times but even if I try to improve— i am unable to do so. I lack the motivation.
I have started treatment for depression since 2023 and have been on Venlafaxine. Also took therapy which didn’t help. I was also diagnosed with diabetes, high BP, and morbid obesity. For the last 2 months I have been going to the gym, got a trainer and feel good about it- like i am doing something.
But now at work I feel under confident, hateful, and full of self pity and rage. I want to get my old streak back, I want to do a good job again— but I am lacking motivation. Even the low salary instead of lighting fire has made me more unproductive and I have a I don’t give a rat’s a$$ attitude as I feel the worst that can happen is I will die - big deal.
I have regretted coming back to my home country and have been trying to go back for a year now. That is where all my motivation is. I am back with my ex, he is also in that country and all I want is go back there, work there and be with him.
But till it happens I need to do a good job here where I am now and prove that i am better than this. How do I get my old streak back? What should I do to let my uncaring unmotivated person die? How do I give a purpose to my life in home country when my purpose is elsewhere?
PLEASE
Text Can you help yourself?
Have you ever asked yourself: "How am I insufficient?" and "Can I rectify that?"
Are you the problem, or are you the one who can confront and solve the problem? Either perspective can help develop constructive thoughts.
The way to transcend problems is by facing them. It doesn't matter whether you perceive the problems within or outside of yourself.
Aiming upward is the only way to improve, and it is also the most direct way to help yourself.
You can make yourself better, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Humans grow and become increasingly capable. You can learn to do better. You can learn to help yourself.
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Text Examples of self-discipline
1. Meeting your own deadlines.
2. Eating not in front of a screen.
3. Doing that final rep at the gym.
4. Turning off Netflix on a set time.
5. Not touching your phone on a date.
6. Putting your phone in a different room.
7. Making healthy fresh dinners every night.
8. Going out for a run even when it's raining.
9. Going for your workout even though you are tired.
10. Keeping the same phone model for 3 years straight.
11. Eating the same food 4 times a week to lose weight.
12. Passing up a huge sale with extra money in the bank.
13. Reading a business book even when you don't feel like it.
What would you add to the list? Or which one do you think is most important?
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discussion It's scary because it's new, not because you're incapable.
For those of you who are afraid to take that next step.
The fear you feel isn’t a sign of weakness or inability; it’s just the natural reaction to stepping into something unfamiliar. When you face something new, your mind tries to protect you by making you second-guess yourself, but that doesn’t mean you’re not capable. In fact, the very things that challenge you are the ones that help you grow the most. Think about how a seed pushes through the soil – it’s in the dark, it’s tough, but that’s what makes it strong. You have that same strength. The fear is just a reminder that you're on the edge of growth. Trust that you have what it takes to push through and come out stronger on the other side.
Favorite Discipline resources:
Mindsnack Newsletter
ChrisWillx/videos">Chris Williamson
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negative systems in my life?
Give it a shot. Write down the systems that are impacting your life. A good question to ask yourself is: What is going on in my life that is causing me stress? Then, write down the system that is causing this stress. Finally, ask yourself: What routine or habit can I build to fix this? You might find that the reason you can’t lose weight has nothing to do with the type of exercises you’re doing.
When you start thinking in systems, it becomes significantly easier to achieve your goals. This isn’t for the faint of heart. It requires personal agency and an honest accounting of where you are in your life. But don’t lose faith or fall into despair. The good news is that nearly all of the thoughts and beliefs we have were put there by a system. And that means we can change them whenever we want. If you have a belief that isn’t serving you, get rid of it. Then, you can start questioning the system that put that belief in your brain in the first place. You might need to get rid of that system, too.
Should you add ice baths to your morning routine? Yes, if it’s going to help you become the person you want to be and live the life you’ve always envisioned for yourself. If not, ignore it.
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Article Enough is enough - kick the boundaries to the curb.
Ever notice, when you're passionate about something, it’s easy to throw yourself in with 100% involvement . It feels natural, even effortless. But here's the real game changer,
What if you took on the things you don't enjoy with 200%
Involvement?
Think about it. By doubling down on the tasks you dread, you're not just overcoming a hurdle. You’re transforming that challenge into an opportunity for growth.I Came across this quote "If you do what you like with 100% involvement, what you don't like you must do with 200% involvement. That's breaking limitations." from Sadhguru. This approach allows us to not just push through the task, but to excel at it.
When you tackle a difficult task with this mindset, you’re essentially turning it into a training ground. You’re building resilience, gaining new skills, and often discovering strengths you didn’t even know you had. And here’s the secret, the satisfaction of conquering something you initially resisted brings a deeper sense of accomplishment.
So, the next time you face a task that seems like a mountain, don’t just aim to get through it ,aim to master it. Bring that 200% intensity and watch how not only the task, but your mindset and abilities, are transformed.
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[Text] You are phenomenal
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Discussion What words do you say to yourself when you feel down and out in life?
For me it's two words:
1. Tough time never last but tough people do
2. This too shall pass
What's your?
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discussion do you feel unmotivated to do something because something feels wrong or missing?
I'm honestly not even sure what is this feeling that I'm feeling as if something is wrong or is missing. I feel so unmotivated and discipline has disappeared. I mean like I'm putting off my tasks and majority of the time, I'm just mainly worried about sorting my life. I don't have a job, no goals, not finished college and no future goals. Have no idea what I'm doing now and I'm expecting things will get better. It basically feels I'm lying to myself. Trying to comfort but it's only causes more discomfort.
For months I've been telling myself let's work on improving resume so I could find a job but I realized that wow my resume first of all sucks because at my age, I rarely have any work experience. I have no qualifications besides high school diploma and being in college at 27. I have no job for the past 2 years. Not been going college for a out a year now. I'm not regrouping and facing my fears. For years I've been reglecting driving. As I feel like I'm slow learner and driver. I'd probably get in accident. Something something. It feels like one min I want to help myself then second min Im against it. 😓
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[Text] Kindness. That is all.
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Discussion Cecil B. DeMille said: "The person who makes a success of living is the one who sees his goal steadily and aims for it unswervingly. That is dedication." How do you place your goal steadily and aim to achieve it?
Here's how I do it:
Reflecting on today's goal, I imagine my goal as a lighthouse on a distant shore. The seas of life may be rough, but that steady beam guides me—the words of DeMille fuel my inner fire. When obstacles arise—and they will—I picture myself as that determined filmmaker, crafting my masterpiece one scene at a time.
My action steps:
Revisit my top goal for the year I've written on my notepad.
Break my goal into three actionable steps I can start today.
Set aside 30 minutes of distraction-free time to work on one of these steps.
Share my goal with my partner, who can offer support and accountability.
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Text Anti procrastination techniques I wish I knew at 21...
1. Set concrete goals: Instead of vague goal like "work on this report next week", set a concrete goal, such as "next week, starting Monday, work on this report everyday from 9 am to 11 am."
2. Break your work into small and manageable steps: If you need to write a paper, you can break it down into tasks such as choosing a topic, drafting an outline, and finding relevant sources.
3. Commit to starting with just a tiny first step: Decide to only work on your projects for 2 minutes at first.
4. Visualize your future self: Imagine yourself having to deal with negative consequences if you keep procrastinating.
5. Improve your work environment: By removing distractions e.g., by putting your phone in a different room or by switching to a better environment e.g., by studying in the library.
6. Reward yourself for making progress: Treat yourself to something nice if you manage to avoid procrastinating for a week.
7. Set intermediate milestones and deadlines for yourself: If a large project involves just one major deadline at the end, setting intermediate deadlines can help you plan ahead and be more accountable.
8. Schedule your work according to your productivity cycles: If you find it easy to concentrate on creative tasks in the morning, then you should schedule such tasks for that time period as much as possible.
Does anyone else have additional tips? Would love to hear what worked for you. Please add them to the comments so that the Reddit community can learn from it. Thanks!
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Discussion Swami Sivananda said: "Put your heart, mind, intellect, and soul even to your smallest acts. This is the secret of success." Can you take a moment to reflect on how dedicating yourself to an action has made you feel and what you’ve accomplished?
When I reflect on this quote and pour my heart, mind, intellect, and soul into even the most minor tasks, I unlock the true essence of success.
Swami Sivananda's words remind us that success is not only about significant achievements but also our dedication to our everyday actions.
By focusing on the details with passion and commitment, it pushes me to build a strong foundation for achieving my goals.
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Tool Forget random routines. Try this instead if you want to achieve your goals.
We are taught in school to be linear thinkers: cause and effect. If X occurs, then Y will happen. And don’t get me wrong, there is an absolute need for that type of thinking. If a bush in your yard is on fire, use the water hose to put it out. But the more we separate ourselves from immediate, fire-fighting (literally and figuratively) situations, the more linear thinking becomes a liability. Here are a few examples:
Lifting weights builds muscles and a great physique. It’s a little more complicated than that.
Buy a home, pay off the mortgage, and you’ll be a millionaire. It’s a little more complicated than that.
Do what you love, and you’ll be happy. It’s a little more complicated than that.
The unfortunate reality is that life is significantly more complex than simple cause and effect. When we start thinking about systems and how external systems affect us, we begin to see the answers to the existential questions we have.
# Definitions You Need to Understand:
System: A set of interconnected parts whose interactions work together to achieve a specific purpose or function.
Systems Thinker:
A systems thinker is someone who:
Recognizes interconnectedness: They understand that individual parts of a system are connected and that their interactions work together to achieve a specific purpose or function.
Sees the whole: Instead of focusing on isolated elements, a systems thinker looks at the entire system, considering inputs, processes, and outputs as part of a larger dynamic.
Considers feedback loops: They focus on how changes in one part of the system can create reinforcing or balancing feedback loops that affect other parts of the system, unlike linear thinking, which views cause and effect in a simple, one-way chain. Systems thinkers see how actions often have cyclical, interconnected effects rather than direct, isolated outcomes.
Evaluates control and influence: A systems thinker assesses which parts of the system are within their control and which are external, focusing efforts on areas where they can create meaningful change.
Seeks sustainable solutions: By looking at the system as a whole, they aim to create solutions that address root causes rather than symptoms, ensuring that changes lead to long-term, effective outcomes.
The BOTTOM LINE: Systems thinkers consider context when something happens. And context matters.
My point is that the people yelling about building routines often fail to explain where in your life you should focus your energy to build routines. Do you want to improve your health? You might be told to implement an ice bath routine. But before you go buy some ice, try the below thought experiment instead.
We are surrounded by systems. Whatever is preventing you from achieving your goals is a system. No, I’m not talking about the spooky, conspiracy theory "THE SYSTEM" keeping you down. I’m talking about the fact that your job is a system. Your family is a system. The culture you identify with? Yep, it’s a system too. Some of the cultures that impact me every day include: American, Black, Military, Florida, Raised by a Single Mother, Small Business Owner, Upper Middle Class… and they are all systems. I read a stat the other day that said in the 1970s, the average American was exposed to nearly 500 marketing messages a day. The number now is somewhere between 6,000 to 10,000 marketing messages a day. Sales and marketing? Systems. Our beliefs are all part of the systems we have been interacting with over the course of our lives.
Once you recognize this reality, you can start asking yourself the really important questions:
1. Which systems are the most impactful on my life?
2. Are they a net positive or negative in helping me achieve my goals? (This assumes you have some goals.)
3. Where should I focus my attention, discipline, effort, energy, and routines to change my interaction with—or remove altogether—the big net
