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Tidak ada yang bisa diubah jika kamu terus-terusan kembali ke masa lalu. Disana hanya ada luka lama yang seharusnya tidak kamu korek-korek lagi.
Читать полностью…Do yourself a favor and learn how to walk away. When a connection starts to fade, Learn how to let it go. When a person starts to mistreat you, learn how to move on..to something and someone better. Don’t waste your energy trying to force something that isn’t meant to be.. Because the truth is.. for every one person who doesn’t value you - there are tons more waiting to love you better. Do better.
Читать полностью…Too many people are trying to find the right person instead of being the right person.
Читать полностью…Apapun kita semua akan menjadi masa lalu seseorang.
Maka jadilah masa lalunya yang paling indah untuk dia kenang nanti. Bukan masa lalunya yang dia berusaha untuk melupai.
It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yeses aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
Читать полностью…How to Build Emotional Resilience
1. Talk to someone:
Sharing how we feel helps to reduce the inner tension (but make sure it is someone who cares about your feelings).
2. Work on improving your self-esteem:
Self-esteem is the way you see and feel about yourself … and there are lots of lots of things that undermine our self esteem. For example, experiencing a break up, putting on unwanted weight, doing badly on a test or being excluded by our friends. It’s important that we keep on working on our self-esteem by treating ourselves well and noticing when we succeed (instead of noticing the negatives).
3. Manage your stress levels:
If we’re always feelings stressed then it’s hard to cope with life. We tend to over react and have a negative mind set … which drains us of our energy and saps our will to fight. So take a look at your lifestyle and see what you can drop. You may be doing too much, and don’t have time to relax.
4. Make the time and effort to enjoy yourself:
Doing things that we enjoy helps to improve the way we feel. So build in little things like having coffee with a friend, or going to a game, or taking time to watch some sports.
5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.
6. Develop good relationships: Do your friends make you happy? Do you enjoy their company? Are they kind of people with your best interests at heart? Do they treat you with respect and help to boost your self-esteem? If not, then work on finding new relationships!
Eid Mubarak to all my fellow Muslims. May Allah accept our deeds, efforts and dûua.
This year, please remember the Palestinian people in your prayers.
While many of us will be celebrating, our brothers and sisters in Palestine are still facing oppression, eviction and murder.
The people of Gaza will not be celebrating Eid, they will be busy surviving and mourning their loved ones. The Palestinians living in Sheikh Jarrah are still getting thrown out of their homes. Palestinians are getting lynched on live television. Our Palestinians brothers and sisters are getting killed on the street, inside Al-Aqsa mosque, in their homes, in hospitals even.
There will be no celebration for them.
Please speak up about this, do not ignore this issue.
May Allah protect them and help them.
Sometimes people exist just for you to have a good time with and then move on from. And once you can accept that, it makes everything a lot easier, because a lot of happiness stems from managing expectations.
The reason we get hurt so much is because we have a good time with someone and then we obsess- waiting for them to text us, wanting to see them again, stalking them, picturing our life with them- and then when we find out they don’t want exactly what we do, we’re crushed.
But really, they don’t owe us a future or anything at all, they don’t even owe us a text the next day. And I’ve come to accept that sometimes a good time can just be a good time, without the promise of a future, and that’s fine.
It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you, and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story you free yourself, and you give other people permission to acknowledge their story as well.
Читать полностью…it's okay if your art isn't impressive to your friends, it's okay if you're not very good at any of your hobbies, it's okay if you don't share your life on social media. you don't have to be good and you don't have to prove anything. your life isn't a performance.
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Be nice to yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someone is being mean to you all the time.
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There comes a point when it all becomes too much. When we get too tired to fight anymore. So we give up. That’s when the real work begins. To find hope where there seems to be absolutely none at all.
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Gantungkan cita-cita mu setinggi langit!
Bermimpilah setinggi langit. Jika engkau jatuh,
engkau akan jatuh di antara bintang-bintang.
Bung Karno
Sometimes two people need to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together
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We are all a people in need. We are not perfect. We are not machines. We make mistakes. We need grace. We need compassion. We need help at times. We need other people. And that’s okay.
Читать полностью…"Bila lelah lebih baik mengalah. Bila ragu lebih baik menunggu. Sebab hati yang lapang hanya bisa dipahami oleh pemiliknya sendiri."
--ibnufir
Life is about balance. Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. Trust, but don’t be deceived. Be content, but never stop improving yourself.
Читать полностью…I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances, be more active, show up more often.
Читать полностью…A big part of relationships is learning to have those uncomfortable conversations you always run away from.
Читать полностью…What to do When you Feel Negative
1. Be honest with yourself, and accept how you feel. You can’t work with your feelings if you deny that they are real.
2. At the same time, don’t keep going over the negative events, or they’ll start to dominate you, or spiral, and get worse.
3. Don’t react right away – take a breath and count to 10. Make sure you keep control and don’t do something you’ll regret.
4. Try to notice what are triggers and provoke negative feelings – and when you’re calm, try to think through how to cope and deal with these.
5. Think of things that you can do to try and help improve your mood … such as going for a jog, or talking with a caring friend.
6. Remind yourself that you are valuable, and have a lot to offer … and think of all your strengths, and all the good things you have done.
7. Choose just to let go of the past, and try to focus on the present. Don’t let it stop you living, and having a great life.
Rules for a Happy Life
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1. Focus on the positive, not the negative.
2. Live your life one day at a time.
3. Don’t be afraid to say “I love you”.
4. Be someone who gives to, and who nurtures, others.
5. Look for the good in everything and everyone.
6. Prioritise your time, and do what matters first.
7. Don’t sweat the small stuff, or let stupid things upset you.
8. Set healthy boundaries in relationships.
9. Keep on dreaming, and invest in your dreams.
10. Let go of worry and anxiety.
The truth is that we don't mature with years, mature with damage.
Читать полностью…Sometimes it's not the person who change, it's the mask that falls off.
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All relationships have one law: never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you’re there.
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We will all sail through different weather in this life. That's a certainty. But the one who has Allah will never ever drown.
• Yasmin Mogahed
Sometimes, we pretend to be happy not to show that we're strong but rather, for us to find someone who can see through our fake smiles and tell us that they know that we are not okay
Читать полностью…Do you ever do this, you think back on all the times you’ve had with someone and you just replay it in your head over and over again and you look for those first signs of trouble?
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